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How did you react when you seen your partner take their first steps with you into swinging ?
For example the first time you see your partner kiss someone. Then move into oral etc.
What was your reaction and how did you deal with it?
I can imagine it must be a really odd feeling when your first see that happen....
Any advice is also extremely welcome x |
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It was a little odd to start, not in a bad way just an are we really doing this way, then it was hot.
I've only ever seen him with another woman and same for him he's never seen me with another man so I don't know from that perspective.
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
I’m with a new partner and although I’ve previously had couple profiles with FBs I’ve not had the same emotional attachment that I do now. Playing previously was just about the fun but now it’s a whole new learning curve for both of us.
First party is on Friday so we’ll see how it goes. We do know most of the people going so it’s not strangers. We have spoken about it as well.
It does help to have a safe word or phrase so if either of you feels uncomfortable you can deal with it. Don’t feel obliged to play with anyone you don’t want to. Agree before it if you want same room or separate room play and any boundaries you both have. Communication is vital for swinging to work. |
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"It was a little odd to start, not in a bad way just an are we really doing this way, then it was hot.
I've only ever seen him with another woman and same for him he's never seen me with another man so I don't know from that perspective.
Mrs "
Yes I bet it's a bit weird for the first time. Maybe need some alcohol to calm the nerves |
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Really, really exciting for both of us
He says: seeing her suck someone else’s coco was possibly the most beautiful and exciting thing I’ve ever seen
She says: watching him come over someone else’s tits was hot |
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Mr here - I've seen Mrs with a few woman and it was very surreal at first watching her snog someone but it very quickly turned highly arousing. Not seen her in action with another male yet but I imagine it would be similar but more intense as it's a bit more taboo! |
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For me with past partners its always been so hot! I cant speak for everyone but for me there was no jelousy or odd feeling just made me super horny seeing my girl with someone elses cock in her mouth!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Exactly what I’ve been looking for as me and my wife have discussed her sleeping with someone else for a while now but recently we had a handy man come out and since then they have been chatting. But I don’t know how I feel now lol nervous but horny lol any advice will be appreciated xx |
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"Exactly what I’ve been looking for as me and my wife have discussed her sleeping with someone else for a while now but recently we had a handy man come out and since then they have been chatting. But I don’t know how I feel now lol nervous but horny lol any advice will be appreciated xx"
It's weird. I don't get turned on, or feel horny, I stay soft, and I don't even actually enjoy watching, however, I leak loads and loads of pre-cum so something is going on.
It's a very fucked up experience, but one we repeat so clearly I enjoy it on some level. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was worried about this. But seeing him being given a bj was like ok when we get home we are going to have great reclaim sex, as im so horny and we did lol Gem
Yet to see him have full on sex, so jury is out on that one xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Exhilarating, empowering, totally off the scale of erotic, for us both. And dear lord for weeks afterwards the tingles we're still there with an electric atmosphere between us xxx |
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By *r_LickCouple
over a year ago
aberdeen |
All types of emotions going on with me at the time my stomach was churning, heart beating so hard I thought they could hear it.
But my cock was so hard you could have stricken a match on it lol
Then afterwards we talked and snuggled in and fell asleep, funny enough we woke up still in that same position..... |
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It had the same effect on me. We did it so that the men were side by side with the girls on top. Watching her fucking and coming on top of another man was amazing. We still talk about how that first time turned me on! |
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Was nerve racking. We were in a bar. Had agreed if she wanted to proceed that when I came back from the toilet she would be kissing the guy. So came back and found them with tongues down each others throats lol. Very passionate.
Then the first time he pushed his cock into her later. Her face was a picture. |
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"How did you react when you seen your partner take their first steps with you into swinging ?
For example the first time you see your partner kiss someone. Then move into oral etc.
What was your reaction and how did you deal with it?
I can imagine it must be a really odd feeling when your first see that happen....
Any advice is also extremely welcome x"
Excitement, proud, turned and abd extremely horny  |
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"It was incredible. Hard to describe the feeling but its addictive. Seeing my wife kissing another man in public, the way they looked at each other, that sexual tension 
Do you not get jealous ? "
If you feel jealousy swinging is not for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was incredible. Hard to describe the feeling but its addictive. Seeing my wife kissing another man in public, the way they looked at each other, that sexual tension "
Sums it up perfect. Seeing them both getting want each other so much |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was incredible. Hard to describe the feeling but its addictive. Seeing my wife kissing another man in public, the way they looked at each other, that sexual tension
Do you not get jealous ? "
The first time I did swinging with an ex (who I adored) I was very excited but worried a lot about being jealous.
I read quite a bit about it in books / articles about ENM. In short they argue jealousy isn’t a ‘feeling’ in and of it self such as happiness or sadness - it’s a reaction to another feeling ie you are jealous because you actually feel insecure, inadequate, FOMO. That really was an eye opener for me. If you can understand WHY you might feel jealous and deal with that it helps.
On the night it was absolutely incredible- so hot, so much fun, so erotic. Afterwards he kept saying the best but for him was just seeing me enjoy myself.
It really is a mind blowing experience and increases intimacy, but worth reading a bit if you are worried about jealousy
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"How did you react when you seen your partner take their first steps with you into swinging ?
For example the first time you see your partner kiss someone. Then move into oral etc.
What was your reaction and how did you deal with it?
I can imagine it must be a really odd feeling when your first see that happen....
Any advice is also extremely welcome x"
Separated now, sadly…
BUT it was hot AF. We had loads of boundaries, and broke most of them that first time. And each time just got hotter and hotter |
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
It’s incredibly hot to see your partner with someone else. It can bring out a lot of feelings but as long as they are discussed afterwards.
In a couple situation it can also be distracting at times if you’re watching your partner when you should be concentrating on the person you’re playing with. That’s why we have met single guys . You can properly watch your partner having fun which is a different dynamic.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's strange, you see the joy on your partners face and all those little movements that you miss when you are playing with each other. Seeing her inner slut come out is amazing and seeing another guy make her cum is very powerful, you really understand that others can give her the same as you in the bedroom and it's a little humbling but amazingly sexy. |
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"In a couple situation it can also be distracting at times if you’re watching your partner when you should be concentrating on the person you’re playing with.
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This is so accurate. You’re making sure your partner is having a great time, so lose focus. And that can cause *ahem* issues elsewhere…
But getting over that comes with time |
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Our first night we met (7years ago) we spent having a 3some. Was so steamy and sexy.. yet a little nerve wracking at first. We still get a little nervous meeting people now, not knowing what the outcome will be, if they will like us etc but we’ve never been jealous of each other.. we love watching each other while the other is being pleasured having a glance over while we’re each being f***ed..it’s awesome  |
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It was very odd. Maybe because our first times swapping was extremely spontaneous out the blue and also mixed in with the lust I'd had for shagging the other girl mixed with jealousy the other guy had a very good body and was much much bigger than me downstairs. Horny to a degree. I wonder if I'd have felt different without having another woman to fuck/focus on and therefore my reaction slightly tainted to a degree?... |
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It's not for me to see my partner like this I would be ever so jealous.Ive tried to deal with this but it's always the same a no no for me.And I couldn't do it to her either.But it excites me to watch this |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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When we first went Atlantis and wife asked another clue if we could join them by the time I'd moved across the room she already had the blokes dick in her mouth. Hadn't even introduced us, though all 4 of us were all at it soon enough.
It was a good night and our first time at a club after failing to find a meet on Fab. This site really is utter shit for finding folk. |
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We have only had one soft swap encounter so far it was really hot watching Miri make another man shake with pleasure gave me a strange sense of pride. Miri was surprised at how hot she found watching me pleasure the other lady.
We are both looking forward to what might happen in the future. |
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"Extreme jealousy
Glad others speak the truth. I think all these saying horny are seeing it though their feelings today, not then"
But if it was jealousy for couples then it would not work in this lifestyle? After all you have to be in the right frame of mind and trust to do this.. if not then it’s not for you.. |
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First time for me was with my ex GF.
She brought a guy back to ours after a night out (we’d discussed the idea first) I knew she’d already had some fun with him in the club toilets (turns out they’d fucked) but wasn’t sure how far they’d gone. She came into the flat and dragged him inside and they went to the lounge and she was straight to her knees getting his cock out to suck him. Initially I was a bit jealous but then it changed to uncontrollably horny very quickly. |
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By *andb69Couple 18 weeks ago
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It was a journey we took entirely together, and relatively slowly. There was never any jealousy, we just enjoyed each others enjoyment. Each step we took, from watching and being watched, then to soft swaps, then to full swap, and finally moresomes seemed natural and one we were comfortable with. |
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"Extreme jealousy
Glad others speak the truth. I think all these saying horny are seeing it though their feelings today, not then
But if it was jealousy for couples then it would not work in this lifestyle? After all you have to be in the right frame of mind and trust to do this.. if not then it’s not for you.."
I think it's fair to have a desire to be in the lifestyle while still having lots of fears and reservations.
I find a few people saying things in other threads like 'this is not for you' or 'you shouldn't be doing this'.
It is what people make it for themselves. I find it refreshing to see people acknowledging it was a challenge. And then how they overcame the challenge is the most educational posts for me.
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"Extreme jealousy
Glad others speak the truth. I think all these saying horny are seeing it though their feelings today, not then
But if it was jealousy for couples then it would not work in this lifestyle? After all you have to be in the right frame of mind and trust to do this.. if not then it’s not for you.."
Maybe it's just me (the Mr) but I don't see jealousy as a purely negative emotion. I *did* feel a bit of jealousy the first time but it was one of many emotions and it was an overall extremely positive experience. That pang of jealousy isn't a negative feeling for me.
As for the trust; agreed, I trust her completely. |
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"How did you react when you seen your partner take their first steps with you into swinging ?
For example the first time you see your partner kiss someone. Then move into oral etc.
What was your reaction and how did you deal with it?
I can imagine it must be a really odd feeling when your first see that happen....
Any advice is also extremely welcome x"
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Don’t over think it.
It’s literally just sex |
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It's one of those things I don't think you really know how it feels till it happens. And when you really love someone it feels a bit of a scary step into the unknown.
Personally I'm not someone who has a particular fetish towards My Girl being with others, so not driven by that aspect. But I just want us to be free and enjoy all what we desire.
It was OK the first time. I was an unusual feeling but I didn't feel jealousy or unhappy. It was really nice to watch her in her element enjoying something new. To be on the outside looking in on how hot and beautiful she is. To see how she was melting the other guy. She made me feel proud of her. I started just get use to it and enjoy it when the guy's other half kicked off. Unfortunately his other half wasn't feeling the same as me watching them and she dragged him out of the room. Which of course is perfectly fine, sometimes (from experience) it doesn't work for everyone everytime.
Going forwards I still don't fetishsise My Girl going off with men, not my bag. But I love her to be free and it makes me happy to know she's having a great time with other guys. And it's still hot seeing her do her thing be it in the moment sharing her or just taking a step back and watching (as I to do on occasion). She makes me so proud. |
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"It was and is always wonderful. To see her enjoy herself and know she’s loving the experience and loving being watched. We love it "
He says that's what he likes but I'm struggling with the other way around |
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By (user no longer on site) 16 weeks ago
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"It was and is always wonderful. To see her enjoy herself and know she’s loving the experience and loving being watched. We love it
He says that's what he likes but I'm struggling with the other way around"
Seeing other women with my husbands cock is so erotic
I find it such a turn on and often find myself thinking about it after |
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By (user no longer on site) 16 weeks ago
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Would love to experience this with my wife. She isn’t quite on board yet. Even to watch another man passionately kiss her and have his hands on her body. It sounds like it could be a psychological mindfuck. |
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"Extreme jealousy
Glad others speak the truth. I think all these saying horny are seeing it though their feelings today, not then
But if it was jealousy for couples then it would not work in this lifestyle? After all you have to be in the right frame of mind and trust to do this.. if not then it’s not for you..
I think it's fair to have a desire to be in the lifestyle while still having lots of fears and reservations.
I find a few people saying things in other threads like 'this is not for you' or 'you shouldn't be doing this'.
It is what people make it for themselves. I find it refreshing to see people acknowledging it was a challenge. And then how they overcame the challenge is the most educational posts for me.
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There is having fears and reservations yes I agree.. I think we all have them at some point, but when you see couples come to a club say and the woman won’t let the man play as the trust isn’t there, yet she’s allowed to do what she wants… it should be a mutual thing. |
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There is having fears and reservations yes I agree.. I think we all have them at some point, but when you see couples come to a club say and the woman won’t let the man play as the trust isn’t there, yet she’s allowed to do what she wants… it should be a mutual thing."
I think it's up to the couple what works for them. There's no should this or should that. We are all navigating our own way. |
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Surreal but very horny. I think if you have any concerns it will probably be too much but if you're confident in the relationship it's great. First time watching her witn another man was just a very sexy experience |
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The first was an organised swingers Social. They were an experienced swinger couple and it was our first live swinger interaction. We were getting on great and there was mutral attraction. We started kissing each others partners. It's scary uncharted teritory. However as it was happening it just seemed so natural, like not a thing at all. Just hot and right.
Later this lead to club below where the event was being held. We got them in a private room and shit was getting real and clothing starting to come off. But again just feeling natural and right. All was going well until the green eyed monster got the better of the other woman and they started to argue. Which sadly was an anticlimax and left us scratching our heads as to what we'd done wrong stuck in the middle of the prevailing domestic. So hit and miss for the first time and a crash lesson in understanding swinging doesn't always go smoothly. |
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