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Average single guys put your hands up

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok, so how many of you single guys here would consider yourself to be average in terms of appearance? I'm talking about the 'dad bod' or average height/build?

And how many of you have had meets? How many of you actually have a response when you reach out to women/couples here? And how many of you are successful? How many of you think that expectations are too high? With many women/couples only wanting to meet men who are (I quote) tall, in shape,gym fit,hung,bbc, verified.

I am curious to know because I would class myself as an average single guy and I am massively failing on Fab. I contact women/couples daily. I am always polite, friendly and respectful. And yet, every single sent message is either unread, read and ignored, read and instantly deleted or read and instantly blocked. I can't even get a response or conversation going, let alone a meet!

I've also reconstructed my profile several times and added better photos. Still made no difference.

I can only assume that my lack of success here is down to the fact that I'm an average single guy and no one here wants average...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As an older man, I also find it hard work to find a fun partner, I am the average older, grandad bod type. I just keep plodding away, one day I will come up trumps.

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By *cnugatugMan over a year ago

Chatham

How are you defining successful because I consider getting a reply a success

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By *enfold1972Man over a year ago

dover

I say I'm average.

Zero replys to messages on here so far.

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By *alleyDaveMan over a year ago

Sheffield

I am 51 with a dad Bod, man boobs ,flabby bits here and there and a belly.

I have never been within 500 yards of a gym ,and never will do ,and the only six pack I have is in the fridge with all the chocolate .

I am nearly bald ,and still have my own teeth ,and have my own comfortable home and can accommodate.

I have also had zero success on here in a year and a half being a member.Zero meets ,not even for a one on one social for a coffee or bite to eat in a public place .

You aren't on your own brother .

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By *ovetolick78Man over a year ago

The Shire

I'm an average man, not really a dad bod but not gym fit, not overly handsome and definitely not vwe.... I live in an area where women and couples are hugely out numbered by single men. It does make getting responses and meet extremely hard but I've have some very good meets in my time on here, but fab isn't just about the sex side, I've also chatted to and made friends with folk some local and some in other countries. If people don't want to meet or chat to me that's fine as I don't want to talk to or me everyone that messages me but the ones where we do get together are definitely worth it.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Ok, so how many of you single guys here would consider yourself to be average in terms of appearance? I'm talking about the 'dad bod' or average height/build?

I've also reconstructed my profile several times and added better photos. Still made no difference.

I can only assume that my lack of success here is down to the fact that I'm an average single guy and no one here wants average..."

Yep definitely average here. Some might say below average

It's not a barrier here and so many people are positively avoiding the good looking muscly hunks. Met lots and lots of people over many years but it's not easy. Certain things go a long way - confidence, positivity, humour, being a good human being, just the right amount of flirting, showing yourself in the best light and of course if you can getting out there in the real world to socials/clubs (although not required).

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By *omethingDifferent4FunWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh-ish

"Certain things go a long way - confidence, positivity, humour, being a good human being, just the right amount of flirting, showing yourself in the best light and of course if you can getting out there in the real world to socials/clubs (although not required). "

Top advice!

The sheer discrepancy between M and F profiles on here means you stand a far better chance of positive interactions in real life - organised socials, clubs etc. Be sociable (to all, not just the ones you fancy!) and build a network and you stand a far better chance of finding folk with shared attraction and interests.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ok, so how many of you single guys here would consider yourself to be average in terms of appearance? I'm talking about the 'dad bod' or average height/build?

I've also reconstructed my profile several times and added better photos. Still made no difference.

I can only assume that my lack of success here is down to the fact that I'm an average single guy and no one here wants average...

Yep definitely average here. Some might say below average

That's me all over. I am always polite and friendly. On and off of Fab. And I do try to show confidence and humour. But it's never worked, not even one slight conversation or interest, always just ignored. I'm actually thinking of just giving up here to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Top advice!

It's only possible to build a network if other Fab user's actually reply and talk to me... And that's my issue, I'm constantly hitting a dead end each and every time

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By *omethingDifferent4FunWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh-ish

"It's only possible to build a network if other Fab user's actually reply and talk to me... And that's my issue, I'm constantly hitting a dead end each and every time "

Have you been to an organised social/club night? Since that was my suggestion and comment related to?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

The two people I spend the most time with from here are both shorter than me, definitely not gym fit, no bigger than average, and one is only verified by me.

If you're messaging people every day, are you resending messages to people who have already declined, or just slowly running through every available orifice you notice?

In terms of just finding people who match my preferences and that I match theirs in terms of age, gender, location etc the pickings are slim, and with single males being included on my list I likely have a bigger pool than you despite the rural area. Add in the mutual physical attraction, having fab goals that align, and actually believing there's any compatibility to even begin a conversation, and I'm lucky if there's one person a month that I find to connect with.

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By *haunhennaMan over a year ago

nearby

Got a dad bod i need to try get rid of but happy with everything else

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By *otfun999Man over a year ago

Hands up here.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man over a year ago

South West London

Not the ugliest guys here but probably one of the top 100 ugliest guys on here

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Ok, so how many of you single guys here would consider yourself to be average in terms of appearance? I'm talking about the 'dad bod' or average height/build?

I've also reconstructed my profile several times and added better photos. Still made no difference.

I can only assume that my lack of success here is down to the fact that I'm an average single guy and no one here wants average...

Yep definitely average here. Some might say below average

You say this is you but yet here you are with a negative thread talking about leaving…

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By *alleyDaveMan over a year ago

Sheffield

Top advice!

It's only possible to build a network if other Fab user's actually reply and talk to me... And that's my issue, I'm constantly hitting a dead end each and every time "

Totally agree mate ,I know where you are coming from.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

"I am 51 with a dad Bod, man boobs ,flabby bits here and there and a belly.

I have never been within 500 yards of a gym ,and never will do ,and the only six pack I have is in the fridge with all the chocolate .

I am nearly bald ,and still have my own teeth ,and have my own comfortable home and can accommodate.

I have also had zero success on here in a year and a half being a member.Zero meets ,not even for a one on one social for a coffee or bite to eat in a public place .

You aren't on your own brother ."

Every time you say "bite to eat" it makes me think of the scene in The Terminal where Tom Hanks says it over and over

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Average, older, Dadbod. Fab outsider.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman over a year ago

I'm not sure I'm really digging Beyonce's new song

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The two people I spend the most time with from here are both shorter than me, definitely not gym fit, no bigger than average, and one is only verified by me.

If you're messaging people every day, are you resending messages to people who have already declined, or just slowly running through every available orifice you notice?

This

So many people think women are swimming in penis on here when in reality there is probably less than a handful that are respectful, that you get on with and that you actually find attractive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The fact is that there are way more men on here than women, unless the women decide to sympathy shag every man who messages them it's impossible for every man on here to be "successful"

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

"The fact is that there are way more men on here than women, unless the women decide to sympathy shag every man who messages them it's impossible for every man on here to be "successful" "

But they're such nice guys

where's the violin emoji when you need it???

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By *urvyBi-84Man over a year ago

Lancs

I’ve had people tell me I am distinctly average. Hell, I’ve had people tell me I am a lot worse than that. I’ve got several friends from here that I speak to regularly and have quite a few meet veris too.

How? I go out to clubs and organised events and meet people there, and we use Fab to stay in touch. I’ve had some responses on here and a couple of meets from here, but much more success from clubs and socials.

No doubt some people will come along and say “but I don’t want to do that!” Well that’s fine, but it’s easily the best way to meet people so if you don’t want to do that then you have to accept it will be significantly harder for you because of the ratio of men to women on here and the sheer volume of messages women get.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The fact is that there are way more men on here than women, unless the women decide to sympathy shag every man who messages them it's impossible for every man on here to be "successful"

But they're such nice guys

where's the violin emoji when you need it???"

I honestly don't get why it's so difficult to understand

It's literally impossible for every straight man/men who only want to meet women to be successful.

The numbers of women are just not enough to make it happen

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

Average to a degree (mindset) (out spoken) confident more than average pleasurable a legend

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By *cottish guy 555Man over a year ago

London

Below average here. Response to the few messages I have sent have been OK, not everyone responds which is fair enough. Have made lots of friends and connections by going to clubs and socials.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The fact is that there are way more men on here than women, unless the women decide to sympathy shag every man who messages them it's impossible for every man on here to be "successful"

But they're such nice guys

where's the violin emoji when you need it???"

Looool

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"The fact is that there are way more men on here than women, unless the women decide to sympathy shag every man who messages them it's impossible for every man on here to be "successful"

But they're such nice guys

where's the violin emoji when you need it???"

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By *hunkyMan over a year ago

bradford

Attitude check chaps, present yourself positively and you’ll be more likely to attract what you want.

Put that energy into yourself and don’t take the knock backs personally. Get out and socialise at events and clubs and see the other side of the lifestyle. It’s more than this site!

Expect nothing and you won’t be disappointed.

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By *P0876Man over a year ago

Cwmbran

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Unless you have the body of a Greek God a bank balance to make Trump look poor and a duck the size of a donky I would say more blokes won't have a lot of success on here.

Very few women are into this lifestyle most have a very specific wish list.

So just would say don't expect too much and don't be too harsh on yourselves. Have fun enjoynthe small victories.

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By *ikesEmBigMan over a year ago

Herts

I'll probably do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think it's the same for the average woman as well

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By *uicybbwWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

"Unless you have the body of a Greek God a bank balance to make Trump look poor and a duck the size of a donky I would say more blokes won't have a lot of success on here.

Very few women are into this lifestyle most have a very specific wish list.

So just would say don't expect too much and don't be too harsh on yourselves. Have fun enjoynthe small victories."

That’s really putting women down as very shallow

I personally find dad bods more attractive than muscle men which I find repulsive to be honest. Wouldn’t need a man with money as have my own but one who pays his way would be good

Big cock? Well

It’s always nice but rather a clean nice kind one

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By *uicybbwWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

"Think it's the same for the average woman as well"

I’m a big girl I’d say only average looks and old

I also have on my profile I’m not meeting

I still get loads of messages per day

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

"The fact is that there are way more men on here than women, unless the women decide to sympathy shag every man who messages them it's impossible for every man on here to be "successful"

But they're such nice guys

where's the violin emoji when you need it???

Yay!!!

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

"Unless you have the body of a Greek God a bank balance to make Trump look poor and a duck the size of a donky I would say more blokes won't have a lot of success on here.

Very few women are into this lifestyle most have a very specific wish list.

So just would say don't expect too much and don't be too harsh on yourselves. Have fun enjoynthe small victories."

Just wow

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Unless you have the body of a Greek God a bank balance to make Trump look poor and a duck the size of a donky I would say more blokes won't have a lot of success on here.

Very few women are into this lifestyle most have a very specific wish list.

So just would say don't expect too much and don't be too harsh on yourselves. Have fun enjoynthe small victories.

Just wow "

If people want to blame other people for not finding them attractive it's probably best to just let them be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not exactly an Adonis

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By *ottodot123Couple over a year ago

Gillingham

"Attitude check chaps, present yourself positively and you’ll be more likely to attract what you want.

Put that energy into yourself and don’t take the knock backs personally. Get out and socialise at events and clubs and see the other side of the lifestyle. It’s more than this site!

Expect nothing and you won’t be disappointed.

This is the best advice on this thread

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By *ottodot123Couple over a year ago

Gillingham

"Unless you have the body of a Greek God a bank balance to make Trump look poor and a duck the size of a donky I would say more blokes won't have a lot of success on here.

It's just not true. Many of the men with lots of verifications are distinctly average (and I'm not saying that as a slur) in looks .

Presumably they stand out in personality and likeability. They make a point of putting themselves out there.

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By *ottodot123Couple over a year ago

Gillingham

OP. Compare your profile with the likes of Lovetolick, gentle lover and curvy bi.

You have one photo. Get that camera clicking !!! Enjoy yourself with it and post some more piccies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Think it's the same for the average woman as well

I’m a big girl I’d say only average looks and old

I also have on my profile I’m not meeting

I still get loads of messages per day

That's because of the average men

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"I’ve had people tell me I am distinctly average. Hell, I’ve had people tell me I am a lot worse than that. I’ve got several friends from here that I speak to regularly and have quite a few meet veris too.

I cannot agree with you about the clubs being “the best way to meet people”, not if you’re a solo, straight, white guy anyway. Without a doubt, I have enjoyed far more success meeting people through Fab, than I ever did as a solo guy in clubs. I don’t know if I chose the ‘wrong’ clubs, or the ‘wrong’ time to visit, but I would never recommend the club scene to a mate, as a way to meet women…

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By *urvyBi-84Man over a year ago

Lancs

Fair enough. My experience differs greatly from yours and I’ve met plenty of people through going to clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say I'm considered above average in appearance, but not tall which seems to be a requirement of a lot of women. I'd say average endowed , however I'm sometimes funny and have the stamina of a mail pony

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By *lex.and.SexCouple over a year ago

Bedale

"I say I'm average.

Zero replys to messages on here so far.

I would imagine your thumbnail picture really isn't helping

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By *eartsmanMan over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

I find being honest, humour helps and don't be to pervy.

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By *AB74Man over a year ago

Midlands

I'm average , doesn't bother me. Some fancy you others don't and vice versa. I've been on and off for a few years and had a few meets so it's not too bad being Mr average

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm just your average chap, I think I do just fine, I'm happy with the way I look and comfortable in my own skin I don't really bother messaging anybody on here other then to contact with people that I've already met at a club, I find I get just as much first messages from people then I did replies when I did used to waste my time messaging people on here, its never going to be easy to sell yourself with a profile regardless of how good your bio is or how good your photography skills are it's never going to beat getting yourself out there and meeting people in person at social events and clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am below average

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just an average guy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im very average indeed ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm the definition of average been on and off fab for about 8 years, had lot's of meets from here over the years, all I can say is be confident and persevere

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"OP. Compare your profile with the likes of Lovetolick, gentle lover and curvy bi.

You have one photo. Get that camera clicking !!! Enjoy yourself with it and post some more piccies.

Aww thank you. I do try and generally over the years it has led to lots of fun….and without going to clubs for a long time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" all I can say is be confident and persevere "
As if confidence can be conjured out of thin air. Might as well tell someone depressed to “cheer up”.

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By *hmygodMan over a year ago

Telford Shropshire

Welcome to fab !! I’m told it was better 10 years ago before some started given the ladies loads of crap … happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d consider myself an average guy on here but I have had a little success. I think being polite does help a lot, but also my “fake it till you make it” approach to confidence which has taken me to places and situations I never thought I’d be in.

P.S If any single ladies are reading this ignore that last bit I am the most confident person you’ll ever meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm the definition of average been on and off fab for about 8 years, had lot's of meets from here over the years, all I can say is be confident and persevere "

Exactly ..confidence in anyone is so much more sexy than how someone looks.

Being a moan and whining about it is not sexy at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Even if the numbers were more even, there would still be plenty of people who never get laid, because they wouldn't find anyone who wants to shag them. If all the men who I find attractive left tomorrow, I wouldn't suddenly start considering the ones I don't find attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, so how many of you single guys here would consider yourself to be average in terms of appearance? I'm talking about the 'dad bod' or average height/build?

I've also reconstructed my profile several times and added better photos. Still made no difference.

I can only assume that my lack of success here is down to the fact that I'm an average single guy and no one here wants average..."

I'm in exactly the same boat. Single, average, send polite messages, get nothing back etc.

I've given up tbh, just very occasionally come back on. Doesn't seem the place for single guys unfortunately. Tinder released a stat saying on average there's 1 girl to 4 guys. I think that stat is at least doubled on here lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm the definition of average been on and off fab for about 8 years, had lot's of meets from here over the years, all I can say is be confident and persevere

Exactly ..confidence in anyone is so much more sexy than how someone looks.

Being a moan and whining about it is not sexy at all "

OP here. Totally get this. However, we are all only human and I imagine I speak for everyone when I say our confidence is knocked when we are faced with 100% rejection on a daily/weekly basis. Also, no one here is moaning or whining! These forums are for the purpose of helping others and general chat/advice, right? So that's all I am doing here

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP. Compare your profile with the likes of Lovetolick, gentle lover and curvy bi.

You have one photo. Get that camera clicking !!! Enjoy yourself with it and post some more piccies.

Thank you

but I do have several recently new photos that I choose to keep private and send in messages if ever asked. Based on the nature of the site, I don't want my photos left open for anyone and everyone & I know many users feel the same. Plus I really don't believe having a while photo album helps to be honest. I come across many females/couples profiles with absolutely no photos shown

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Average/dad bod here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm in exactly the same boat. Single, average, send polite messages, get nothing back etc.

The OKC and Tinder research on dating was summed up as, "the dating economy for women is akin to a society with a few poor, some middle class, and a handful of millionaires, the dating economy for men is closer to a society with a handful of multi-billionaires and masses without anything."

In other words, "The world is pretty dark place if you are a man in the bottom 80%." Sound familiar?

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"I'm in exactly the same boat. Single, average, send polite messages, get nothing back etc.

In other words, "The world is pretty dark place if you are a man in the bottom 80%." Sound familiar?

Yup. The realities of the dating marketplace.

If, you’re not in that top 20% as a man you’ll find things very hard on and off here.

You have to be the best version of yourself. It starts with going to the gym as a man. It gives you the best return on your investment. You’ll feel better about yourself and people will respect you more when you walk into a room.

You have to do the work. Pick up heavy shit and put it down again. Women will also notice you more.

You do not have to ripped and huge. Many women don’t go for that.

Women prefer a leaner, athletic, swimmer type physique generally.

Thereafter, update your wardrobe and get clothes that fit you properly. Most men are clueless when it comes to dressing themselves.

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By *omtom7Man over a year ago

Tralee

Average guy here. I do OK, it takes a bit of patience and luck. You can't expect women and couples to just fall in your lap, we're the over supply here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP here. Totally get this. However, we are all only human and I imagine I speak for everyone when I say our confidence is knocked when we are faced with 100% rejection on a daily/weekly basis. Also, no one here is moaning or whining! These forums are for the purpose of helping others and general chat/advice, right? So that's all I am doing here

Just as some people are never going to get the job they want, some people are never going to get the life partner and family they want, some people are never going to get the house they want... Some people are never going to get laid through Fab, because there isn't anyone who wants to fuck them. The stark reality might be that you are one of these people, it's not anyone's fault, and there is no advice that would change it. You don't seem willing to take any advice that's given anyway, you seem to think people should accept you and your averageness for what they are. It's totally fine to not want to change yourself, but no one is compelled to accept you.

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By *lways horny wirralMan over a year ago

Birkenhead

Am genuine and reliable and single but no look

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple over a year ago

Weymouth

Women prefer a leaner, athletic, swimmer type physique generally.

Hmm some might but I think that's a massive generalisation.

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

As someone that considers himself to be average at best I don’t have any luck when I send polite messages so much so that I don’t really bother too much now a days.However after been on Fabs for 6 years now on this profile I try to make it work for me by joining in the forums and been respectful of other’s points of views , attending London socials where possible and going to club and spa. I tend to leave verifications and display mine with regards to others reading them and perhaps consider me for any future meets.I also leave a honest club review a day after I attend as I feel that helps get you noticed and hopefully lead to other things.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Brutal but true. 90% of the men could leave this site and most of the remaining 10% would still struggle. Most don’t want to do anything to improve or sell themselves or give themselves a better chance of standing out from the crowd. And I don’t mean plastic surgery as pure physical facial looks are a very small part of things when it comes to swinging and sex.

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By *ikesEmBigMan over a year ago

Herts

I do alright. You just have to put the graft in

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's only possible to build a network if other Fab user's actually reply and talk to me... And that's my issue, I'm constantly hitting a dead end each and every time

Have you been to an organised social/club night? Since that was my suggestion and comment related to?"

This is the way forward for OP, online fab isn't the place to be all the time, get out there and be the person you say you are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, so how many of you single guys here would consider yourself to be average in terms of appearance? I'm talking about the 'dad bod' or average height/build?

I've also reconstructed my profile several times and added better photos. Still made no difference.

I can only assume that my lack of success here is down to the fact that I'm an average single guy and no one here wants average..."

Mate after looking at the green arrow your past posts have been the same as this, people have tried to help you and you haven't taken the advice.

If you think swinging is easy, it's not especially online.

Pull your big boy pants up and make the change that's been suggested or you'll just be beating yourself up for a very long time.

Sorry but that's the reality of it

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

Chunky monkey, just turned 50.

I've get lots of attention, mostly from men and TVs, occasionally from women and couples.

I had a social meet with a lovely lady last night and hope to play later this week.

It's a buyer's market for blokes like us. Plenty of supply, not much demand.

But it can and does happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep. That’s me! Men outnumber women and couples by a large margin so difficult to stand out. Had one or two replies but didn’t lead anywhere. Often women and couples will receive hundreds of messages so understandable they can’t respond to everyone.

Club meetings are probably the way to go although I have attracted a couple of compliments from other men so perhaps I’m doing something right!

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By *hrobinhoodMan over a year ago

arnold, Nottingham

I’ve been here years on and off and get zero luck - too many men, few females and the odd few of those are men pretending to be woman lol

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By *unthum62Man over a year ago

Benidorm

Well I think I am pretty average, I am just me.

I have had a couple of meets off here and other contacts,I have two or three potential future meets pending, I do enjoy a few reponses and conversations and I have some "fab friends".

I don't respond to profiles who are not looking for my type of people, unless my age is a year or so over their range, and then, maybe.

I try to be polite and respectful in my approach, but above all, honest. I always write a message based on their profile, never cut and paste.

I am not overwhelmed by responses by any means but I feel I am getting something out of being on here, especially as a more mature person.

If as is more often the case, there is no response or a polite no thank you, accept it with good grace and move on.

A lot of people advise clubs as a better way to make contacts, however that is not for everyone.

I would honestly struggle to bring myself to attend a club as a newbie. I am sure many others share that reservation too.

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By *ifestyle1Man over a year ago

me171

Mostly people on here are just for their own regular partners

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By *ifestyle1Man over a year ago

me171

Soon you reach your 50s its not your type in fab world.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Soon you reach your 50s its not your type in fab world. "

Rubbish. So many people in 50's and 60's having a great time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The fact is that there are way more men on here than women, unless the women decide to sympathy shag every man who messages them it's impossible for every man on here to be "successful" "

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By *unxicanMan over a year ago

Norwich

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By *unxicanMan over a year ago

Norwich

Here you need to have/be:

- Black or white (Tanned isn't good)

- At least 5'10''

- 7'' or 8'' inch counts as average length

- No body hair (Not even chest)

- No short hair (Under 0.5 inch)

- Possibly no beard

- Dad bod means you're not ripped

- None smoker, but can be an alcoholic or junkie

- Possibly straight

- If you are bi, then you must be top

None of the above applies if:

- You are tall

- Most women consider you handsome

- You are 8 inch plus

I'm not being negative. These are the expectations from most women/couples. Not just the ones out of your league. Even the average women/couples.

Funny fact, that every woman here is either slim, average or curvy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here you need to have/be:

- Black or white (Tanned isn't good)

- At least 5'10''

- 7'' or 8'' inch counts as average length

- No body hair (Not even chest)

- No short hair (Under 0.5 inch)

- Possibly no beard

- Dad bod means you're not ripped

- None smoker, but can be an alcoholic or junkie

- Possibly straight

- If you are bi, then you must be top

None of the above applies if:

- You are tall

- Most women consider you handsome

- You are 8 inch plus

I'm not being negative. These are the expectations from most women/couples. Not just the ones out of your league. Even the average women/couples.

Funny fact, that every woman here is either slim, average or curvy. "

I must be slim! Yes! all these attributes are exactly what most women want. Fucking our way around all the hot tall 8 inchers. It's hard work but good fun.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Here you need to have/be:

- Black or white (Tanned isn't good)

- At least 5'10''

- 7'' or 8'' inch counts as average length

- No body hair (Not even chest)

- No short hair (Under 0.5 inch)

- Possibly no beard

- Dad bod means you're not ripped

- None smoker, but can be an alcoholic or junkie

- Possibly straight

- If you are bi, then you must be top

None of the above applies if:

- You are tall

- Most women consider you handsome

- You are 8 inch plus

I'm not being negative. These are the expectations from most women/couples. Not just the ones out of your league. Even the average women/couples.

Funny fact, that every woman here is either slim, average or curvy. "

That is among the biggest lot of bollocks I've seen on this subject. If people believe that then they are just making excuses for themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The fact is that there are way more men on here than women, unless the women decide to sympathy shag every man who messages them it's impossible for every man on here to be "successful"

But they're such nice guys

where's the violin emoji when you need it???

I honestly don't get why it's so difficult to understand

It's literally impossible for every straight man/men who only want to meet women to be successful.

The numbers of women are just not enough to make it happen "

Agree - it’s not about looks, there is quite a lot of chance involved too!

You can get 100+ messages a day as a female. When I played single I would maybe read a random 5-10 and give up, delete the rest. It was usually a few at the top of my inbox (so change which I opened)

I either met guys who I genuinely clicked with when chatting over several weeks, or a last minute spur of the moment meet with someone I fancied but just happened to also be online at the same time.

What I would say is coming across as fun, chatting, interesting, decent are all more important than looks!

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By *ester.jamesMan over a year ago

birmingham

Definitely one of the average guys here!!!

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By *b69100Man over a year ago

koh phangan

Average isn't really something I've ever really aspired too, I don't believe anyone should.

I'm retired .. ok I know thats fairly mundane and ordinary for us mature ones.

But it was into a house I built myself on a tropical Island so I'm guessing that's a little out of the norm.

I still exercise daily after many decades of competitive sports. This keeps the dad bod at bay and maintains me in pretty good trim , with all sundry equipment still functioning and regularly tested. Not bad for a guy who has survived at various times being

Shot, stabbed, thrown from a moving vehicle had a malfunctioning parachute landing

. oh...and a bit of chemotherapy going on so as Captain Scarlett types go....I suppose I'm just average lol

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By *enSiskoMan over a year ago

Cestus 3

Average.... I am a babe.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here you need to have/be:

- Black or white (Tanned isn't good)

- At least 5'10''

- 7'' or 8'' inch counts as average length

- No body hair (Not even chest)

- No short hair (Under 0.5 inch)

- Possibly no beard

- Dad bod means you're not ripped

- None smoker, but can be an alcoholic or junkie

- Possibly straight

- If you are bi, then you must be top

None of the above applies if:

- You are tall

- Most women consider you handsome

- You are 8 inch plus

I'm not being negative. These are the expectations from most women/couples. Not just the ones out of your league. Even the average women/couples.

Funny fact, that every woman here is either slim, average or curvy. "

This isn't true

But even if it was so what?

People are allowed to have preferences and are allowed to decide who they have sex with

Would you consider having sex with people who you don't find attractive?

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By *alleyDaveMan over a year ago

Sheffield

"Average isn't really something I've ever really aspired too, I don't believe anyone should.

I'm retired .. ok I know thats fairly mundane and ordinary for us mature ones.

But it was into a house I built myself on a tropical Island so I'm guessing that's a little out of the norm.

Shot, stabbed, thrown from a moving vehicle had a malfunctioning parachute landing

. oh...and a bit of chemotherapy going on so as Captain Scarlett types go....I suppose I'm just average lol

What is wrong with a dad bod ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Average isn't really something I've ever really aspired too, I don't believe anyone should.

I'm retired .. ok I know thats fairly mundane and ordinary for us mature ones.

But it was into a house I built myself on a tropical Island so I'm guessing that's a little out of the norm.

Shot, stabbed, thrown from a moving vehicle had a malfunctioning parachute landing

. oh...and a bit of chemotherapy going on so as Captain Scarlett types go....I suppose I'm just average lol

What is wrong with a dad bod ? "

He never said there was anything wrong with a dad bod

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"I'm just your average chap, I think I do just fine, I'm happy with the way I look and comfortable in my own skin I don't really bother messaging anybody on here other then to contact with people that I've already met at a club, I find I get just as much first messages from people then I did replies when I did used to waste my time messaging people on here, its never going to be easy to sell yourself with a profile regardless of how good your bio is or how good your photography skills are it's never going to beat getting yourself out there and meeting people in person at social events and clubs."

These threads are interesting to read, to hear other people’s experiences.

I’ve done very well through Fab over the years, and I don’t consider myself to be any other than average either. I’m only 5’9 tall, in my 50’s, do keep myself in good shape (for my years), and my hair is receded. I have no pretences about myself, don’t try to be anything other than myself, and I’m always respectful, and respectable in person. My approach has always been confident, but non-pushy, and has worked well for me over the years.

A lot of people will push the club scene through here, and while it does seem to work well for some people, it didn’t really for me. I visited 8 clubs as a solo guy, to a total of 18 times, and rarely found them to be the warm, friendly, welcoming, fun places they’re made out to be. I think if you’re ‘fortunate’ to have a club on your doorstep, so that you can visit regularly, it would be easier to build a rapport with the regulars, and build friendships over time. For me; I’ll stick with what works for me, and that is messaging people through Fab

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By *unxicanMan over a year ago

Norwich

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Norwich

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Remember guys, if ever you want to get laid and can't, it's nothing to do with you, it's all those pesky people having preferences

The average person gets laid.

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By *unxicanMan over a year ago

Norwich

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By *arparkquickyMan over a year ago

Harpenden

I would be so bold as to say I am slightly above average, but still nothing for me.

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By *arparkquickyMan over a year ago

Harpenden

Apart from the male half of a partnership showing up. Not sure if fakers or not, but usually just go with having a bit of fun

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By *nasuitMan over a year ago

Ruislip

Distinctly average here, with a mediocre amount of success and experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can relate to this enormously. Average, polite, respectful guy here but getting a reply is impossible. I received a few winks then i check out their profile and it is hidden suddenly. Frustrating!

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By *enSiskoMan over a year ago

Cestus 3

"Can relate to this enormously. Average, polite, respectful guy here but getting a reply is impossible. I received a few winks then i check out their profile and it is hidden suddenly. Frustrating!

Sound like a knock your door and when you answer no one is there.

Wined up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can relate to this enormously. Average, polite, respectful guy here but getting a reply is impossible. I received a few winks then i check out their profile and it is hidden suddenly. Frustrating!

Sound like a knock your door and when you answer no one is there.

Wined up."

Ha, exactly that mate

why bother to reach out and then hide???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most men wint have success on here simply because there are far more men than women. That's the long and short of it

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"Most men won't have success on here simply because there are far more men than women. That's the long and short of it "

True story; a friend of mine launched her solo female profile, and within the first 20 minutes, she had 78 messages from guys. This gives an indication of the ratio of single men to single women in here.....

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By *anted by NightMan over a year ago

Shangri-La

Male to female ratio is so screwed. I’m still waiting for purely fab meet. No success and have given up.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Most men won't have success on here simply because there are far more men than women. That's the long and short of it

I remember starting to set up my single account and getting distracted and forgetting about it for a day.

No profile text, no photos. 300 unread messages.

But, I do my part. I bone several men from here

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"Most men won't have success on here simply because there are far more men than women. That's the long and short of it

I remember starting to set up my single account and getting distracted and forgetting about it for a day.

No profile text, no photos. 300 unread messages.

But, I do my part. I bone several men from here

What a trooper

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"What a trooper

I'm hearing that a lot lately

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By *ester.jamesMan over a year ago

birmingham

"What a trooper

I'm hearing that a lot lately

The hero we ask for and need!

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Most men wint have success on here simply because there are far more men than women. That's the long and short of it "

Partly but as I said above 90% of the men could leave and most of the remaining 10% would still struggle. If they don't know how to sell themselves, how to chat, flirt, make things happen etc. then having less men around won't help much. For example some of the ultra negative profiles posting regularly would still not going to be able to meet anybody unless they change.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most men wint have success on here simply because there are far more men than women. That's the long and short of it

100%

The same goes for women, lots of women I know, myself included struggle because out of all the men on here we only find a small amount attractive and out of those who we find attractive we only find a small amount of them respectful

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"100%

Oh. So this

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"What a trooper

I'm hearing that a lot lately

Like that one, solitary egg, rolling down the fallopian tube, as 60 million sperms rush towards you.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"100%

Oh. So this

I wish men would understand it isn't easy on here for women either.

The amount of crass and disrespectful messages women get on here is astounding.

Out of 50 I would say on average probably 4/5 aren't "free now" "Nice tits" or "fancy a fuck" type messages

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"I wish men would understand it isn't easy on here for women either.

The amount of crass and disrespectful messages women get on here is astounding.

Out of 50 I would say on average probably 4/5 aren't "free now" "Nice tits" or "fancy a fuck" type messages "

And if you gather together 50 of those ones you'll find maybe 2 that aren't blatant copy pastes that they send out to any viable orifice without bothering to read a profile.

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By *arris100Man over a year ago

Durham

I knew it would be hard on here with the amount off men on here to female’s couples but sometimes you hit lucky I’m always polite and respectful when I speak to someone new

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By *ovetolick78Man over a year ago

The Shire

"100%

Oh. So this

I wish men would understand it isn't easy on here for women either.

The amount of crass and disrespectful messages women get on here is astounding.

Out of 50 I would say on average probably 4/5 aren't "free now" "Nice tits" or "fancy a fuck" type messages "

A food friend of mine used to be on here and she used to let me read the messages she got sent....opened my eyes thats for sure, some of them were disgusting and the rest weren't much better. I'm not talking about 1 or 2 messages either , it could be in the 100s.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman over a year ago

Sheffield

"100%

Oh. So this

I wish men would understand it isn't easy on here for women either.

The amount of crass and disrespectful messages women get on here is astounding.

Out of 50 I would say on average probably 4/5 aren't "free now" "Nice tits" or "fancy a fuck" type messages "

Absolutely this

you wouldn’t speak to someone in a bar or face to face like it, so don’t do it on fab.

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By *ants_Nerdy_CoupleCouple over a year ago

Havant

This is going to sound harsh but this isn't tinder or fetlife and the hordes of single men who treat it like it is make the site worse for everyone

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By *rlandoMan over a year ago

Lincolnshire

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"This is going to sound harsh but this isn't tinder or fetlife and the hordes of single men who treat it like it is make the site worse for everyone"

I've never used tinder, and although I have a profile in FL, I can honestly say I've had next to zero interaction with anyone in there, as it's just a platform to advertise OF accounts for women in Antarctica......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All you pervy single men need to stop messaging me and get your stupid cocks out and show me playing with yourself over me

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By *heAlphaMan over a year ago

Leeds/Huddersfield

Hey I’m definitely average and proud of it lol

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By *rant50Man over a year ago

Bath

Ok I'm single after a cpl of meets on my old profile I attended a club and made some great connections with similar minded peeps, if your sound n genuine you'll be taken for who you are not if your a gym bunny with a massive weapon, I've been to several clubs over the past few years and made some great friends , that my friend is the way forward as a singleton..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP - I would guess that no face pic and can’t accommodate means you’re married (or partnered up at least)

Puts a lot off.

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By *igharryMan over a year ago

Manchester

Fab is like social media. If you make an instagram page and post random content (vid of a tree one day, then a car, then a screenshot of a poem) no one on instagram will be too interested in you and your follower count will never grow.

However if you focus your content, so all of your content is of trees, then people who love trees will see your content and decide to follow.

A lot of guys on here with no success arent just average in looks. Theyre average in content. Up your game lads.

If you have a fetish/kink eg if you wish to be a bull dom then all of your content needs to be centred around that. Write a really nice bio talking about that fetish, Post pictures of yourself as a dom (pics with ex partners where their identity is well hidden, camera angle looking up at you nude etc etc), create forum posts about being a dom, update your status regularly.

If you do this then the chances of you finding a couple that are looking for a dom bull will go sooo much higher and all the other average guys with bland profiles and content will be left behind and posting forums like this lol

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By *igharryMan over a year ago

Manchester

Oh i also have a couples account and can confirm the majority of profiles on here are the guys who usually screen people before passing them on for review with their partners.

Youre being rejected by the male half most of the time if it makes it any better lol

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By *r-8-BBCMan over a year ago

LONDON

I am bald, with a dad bod, average height and I'm fucking like a rabbit ! What's my secret you may ask ? Well, I do not take fab that serious and I be myself. I have constructed my profile as entertainment for all to enjoy

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By *weetest thingWoman over a year ago

East Midlands

Not all us ladies are looking for bbc or gym fit personally speaking I’m someone that needs a connection so I’m more interested in what’s between your ears than your legs lol I see you’re a smoker so that would be an instant delete if you messaged me as my profile clearly states I don’t meet smokers I guess you have to remember this isn’t a dating site it’s a place for people to live out their fantasies, I’m sure you already know us ladies are massively outnumbered so you have to make that first message really stand out, I get a lot of messages and any one liners or ‘let’s f*k’ instant delete I guess take the time to read the profile of the person you’re gonna message if you’ve messaged before no reply don’t message again as it’ll likely get you blocked make sure you fit their criteria, and then make contact , be prepared to put the effort in I think a lotta guys on here are under the misconception that it’s an easy lay but it really isn’t

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By *abrielle43Woman over a year ago

Kildare

"Ok, so how many of you single guys here would consider yourself to be average in terms of appearance? I'm talking about the 'dad bod' or average height/build?

I've also reconstructed my profile several times and added better photos. Still made no difference.

I can only assume that my lack of success here is down to the fact that I'm an average single guy and no one here wants average..."

I have just read your profile, your status update would put me off replying to a message.

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By *weetest thingWoman over a year ago

East Midlands

Yes I agree some status are a real turn off

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

Depends on your definition of average.

I'm well above most people's age filters, I'm not hung and haven't set foot in a gym in years and I'm not going to win any beauty contests.

I refuse to meet without a social and insist on chatting for weeks and sometimes months before meeting.

I don't blow smoke up anyone's backside and only offer my own opinion on the forums.

Almost every day I go against the grain in forum discussions.

I don't see others having outrageous expectations. I just see people who's expectations don't match mine and many will look at my profile and say exactly the same.

I may tick a lot of boxes in some peoples definition of average but I decided years ago never to refer to myself as average ever again so I won't be raising my hand.

That's not out of cockiness or arrogance but more about how I changed as a person since turning 50 and accepting that I wasn't as invisible as I had always thought.

Despite all of the above, my age, my lack of a gym body, my lack of a huge penis or my refusal to bend the knee I have somehow managed to have lots of meets and experiences through this site.

Most barriers on fab are self built.

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By *apnDomMan over a year ago

London | Belfast

Eh, women are always being overly picky. It's an ego thing. They tend to be dating up instead of equal or down. Comes with the territory.

I think I am fairly average looking, but I am doing quite well. I met maybe 6 girls this year from fabs, and I met like 4 or so without fabs. Got my own crazy stalker, whom I blocked and she keeps getting new numbers to message me and tell me that me being pissed off is being sexy and stuff lmao.

I get ignored a lot when I message, at ths point I don't even bother any more with trying to message for meets, I just reply to status updates and profiles and have my own fun. But usually fun gets ignored, if you're not their type. So don't get too annoyed about it. Just block the girls who ignore you and move on, don't need to chase after the rude ones.

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By *elkieWoman over a year ago

Durham

"Fab is like social media. If you make an instagram page and post random content (vid of a tree one day, then a car, then a screenshot of a poem) no one on instagram will be too interested in you and your follower count will never grow.

However if you focus your content, so all of your content is of trees, then people who love trees will see your content and decide to follow.

A lot of guys on here with no success arent just average in looks. Theyre average in content. Up your game lads.

Flip side of this is that a lot of single women won’t touch a man who has pictures of another woman on his single bloke profile because we have no way of knowing if they are there with consent or not.

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By *unxicanMan over a year ago

Norwich

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By *unxicanMan over a year ago

Norwich

"Here you need to have/be:

- Black or white (Tanned isn't good)

- At least 5'10''

- 7'' or 8'' inch counts as average length

- No body hair (Not even chest)

- No short hair (Under 0.5 inch)

- Possibly no beard

- Dad bod means you're not ripped

- None smoker, but can be an alcoholic or junkie

- Possibly straight

- If you are bi, then you must be top

None of the above applies if:

- You are tall

- Most women consider you handsome

- You are 8 inch plus

I'm not being negative. These are the expectations from most women/couples. Not just the ones out of your league. Even the average women/couples.

Funny fact, that every woman here is either slim, average or curvy.

I must be slim! Yes! all these attributes are exactly what most women want. Fucking our way around all the hot tall 8 inchers. It's hard work but good fun.

Literally every female/couple profile states in the bio either/all:

-White English only/or other version

-BBC/8'' plus

-Tall/At least 5'10''

...etc.

I meant no women puts BBW/Large in their profile. It's like I'd would put tall,hung or gym fit in my profile.

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By *unxicanMan over a year ago

Norwich

"Here you need to have/be:

- Black or white (Tanned isn't good)

- At least 5'10''

- 7'' or 8'' inch counts as average length

- No body hair (Not even chest)

- No short hair (Under 0.5 inch)

- Possibly no beard

- Dad bod means you're not ripped

- None smoker, but can be an alcoholic or junkie

- Possibly straight

- If you are bi, then you must be top

None of the above applies if:

- You are tall

- Most women consider you handsome

- You are 8 inch plus

I'm not being negative. These are the expectations from most women/couples. Not just the ones out of your league. Even the average women/couples.

Funny fact, that every woman here is either slim, average or curvy.

That is among the biggest lot of bollocks I've seen on this subject. If people believe that then they are just making excuses for themselves. "

Says the guy with the big girthy cock.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Eh, women are always being overly picky. It's an ego thing. They tend to be dating up instead of equal or down. Comes with the territory.

Are they picky or do they prefer to have sex with they find attractive?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here you need to have/be:

- Black or white (Tanned isn't good)

- At least 5'10''

- 7'' or 8'' inch counts as average length

- No body hair (Not even chest)

- No short hair (Under 0.5 inch)

- Possibly no beard

- Dad bod means you're not ripped

- None smoker, but can be an alcoholic or junkie

- Possibly straight

- If you are bi, then you must be top

None of the above applies if:

- You are tall

- Most women consider you handsome

- You are 8 inch plus

I'm not being negative. These are the expectations from most women/couples. Not just the ones out of your league. Even the average women/couples.

Funny fact, that every woman here is either slim, average or curvy.

I must be slim! Yes! all these attributes are exactly what most women want. Fucking our way around all the hot tall 8 inchers. It's hard work but good fun.

Literally every female/couple profile states in the bio either/all:

-White English only/or other version

-BBC/8'' plus

-Tall/At least 5'10''

...etc.

I meant no women puts BBW/Large in their profile. It's like I'd would put tall,hung or gym fit in my profile."

This is so incorrect

What orifice do you lot pull this information from?

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By *apnDomMan over a year ago

London | Belfast

"Eh, women are always being overly picky. It's an ego thing. They tend to be dating up instead of equal or down. Comes with the territory.

Are they picky or do they prefer to have sex with they find attractive?

They are being picky. It's not just about being attractive, the guy has to be more attractive than she think she is. Average is attractive technically, because it's average right, but not to a woman, who only wants 7+

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Eh, women are always being overly picky. It's an ego thing. They tend to be dating up instead of equal or down. Comes with the territory.

Are they picky or do they prefer to have sex with they find attractive?

It's not being picky if someone wants to have sex with a person they find attractive, regardless if you think she's is not attractive enough to have preferences or not

Who is the decider or who is attractive or is average?

You?

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By *apnDomMan over a year ago

London | Belfast

"Eh, women are always being overly picky. It's an ego thing. They tend to be dating up instead of equal or down. Comes with the territory.

Are they picky or do they prefer to have sex with they find attractive?

It's not being picky if someone wants to have sex with a person they find attractive, regardless if you think she's is not attractive enough to have preferences or not

Who is the decider or who is attractive or is average?

You?"

Oh god the entitlement again

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By *igharryMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Flip side of this is that a lot of single women won’t touch a man who has pictures of another woman on his single bloke profile because we have no way of knowing if they are there with consent or not. "

Good point. However i meant themed images as in if a dom bull wannabe persues getting experience in dominating a woman (maybe not from fab) then using pics from then could be useful. Proves its not just all talk. And hopefully in this scenario the woman will be aware of the mans kinks and this website.

But yeah posting pics without consent is horrible. Iv had a few people admit to it on our couples profile and it was a huge turn off for the both of us. All of the guys were instantly blocked and reported

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By *unxicanMan over a year ago

Norwich

"Here you need to have/be:

- Black or white (Tanned isn't good)

- At least 5'10''

- 7'' or 8'' inch counts as average length

- No body hair (Not even chest)

- No short hair (Under 0.5 inch)

- Possibly no beard

- Dad bod means you're not ripped

- None smoker, but can be an alcoholic or junkie

- Possibly straight

- If you are bi, then you must be top

None of the above applies if:

- You are tall

- Most women consider you handsome

- You are 8 inch plus

I'm not being negative. These are the expectations from most women/couples. Not just the ones out of your league. Even the average women/couples.

Funny fact, that every woman here is either slim, average or curvy.

This isn't true

But even if it was so what?

People are allowed to have preferences and are allowed to decide who they have sex with

Would you consider having sex with people who you don't find attractive? "

The topic isn't about who has right to what. It's about average guys have slim to no chance. Yes, I would if some things I find attractive/turn on. I don't look for perfection. Have you ever seen a male profile states anything like this?

-Cup C minimum

-Only extra tight vagina

-No stretch mark on MILFs

-Not taller than 5'6''

-Size 8 max...etc.

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By *unxicanMan over a year ago

Norwich

"Here you need to have/be:

- Black or white (Tanned isn't good)

- At least 5'10''

- 7'' or 8'' inch counts as average length

- No body hair (Not even chest)

- No short hair (Under 0.5 inch)

- Possibly no beard

- Dad bod means you're not ripped

- None smoker, but can be an alcoholic or junkie

- Possibly straight

- If you are bi, then you must be top

None of the above applies if:

- You are tall

- Most women consider you handsome

- You are 8 inch plus

I'm not being negative. These are the expectations from most women/couples. Not just the ones out of your league. Even the average women/couples.

Funny fact, that every woman here is either slim, average or curvy.

I must be slim! Yes! all these attributes are exactly what most women want. Fucking our way around all the hot tall 8 inchers. It's hard work but good fun.

Literally every female/couple profile states in the bio either/all:

-White English only/or other version

-BBC/8'' plus

-Tall/At least 5'10''

...etc.

I meant no women puts BBW/Large in their profile. It's like I'd would put tall,hung or gym fit in my profile.

This is so incorrect

What orifice do you lot pull this information from?"

20 mile radius of Norwich

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Eh, women are always being overly picky. It's an ego thing. They tend to be dating up instead of equal or down. Comes with the territory.

Are they picky or do they prefer to have sex with they find attractive?

It's not being picky if someone wants to have sex with a person they find attractive, regardless if you think she's is not attractive enough to have preferences or not

Who is the decider or who is attractive or is average?

You?

Oh god the entitlement again

Who's being entitled?

A - the person who has said that people are allowed preferences

B - the person who is salty because 'average' people only want to have sex with people they find attractive

People are allowed whatever preferences their hearts/gentials desires, it doesn't affect anyone else except them and the people they're potentially going to meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here you need to have/be:

- Black or white (Tanned isn't good)

- At least 5'10''

- 7'' or 8'' inch counts as average length

- No body hair (Not even chest)

- No short hair (Under 0.5 inch)

- Possibly no beard

- Dad bod means you're not ripped

- None smoker, but can be an alcoholic or junkie

- Possibly straight

- If you are bi, then you must be top

None of the above applies if:

- You are tall

- Most women consider you handsome

- You are 8 inch plus

I'm not being negative. These are the expectations from most women/couples. Not just the ones out of your league. Even the average women/couples.

Funny fact, that every woman here is either slim, average or curvy.

This isn't true

But even if it was so what?

People are allowed to have preferences and are allowed to decide who they have sex with

Would you consider having sex with people who you don't find attractive?

-Cup C minimum

-Only extra tight vagina

-No stretch mark on MILFs

-Not taller than 5'6''

-Size 8 max...etc.

So because men don't have preferences women shouldn't and should just have sex with all the 'average' men who want to have sex with them?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see lots of profiles that say they're not into POC, smokers, fat women, etc

I don't cry about it, nor do I message them and call them picky, I respect their preferences and move along

It's really not difficult

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depends on your definition of average.