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Expected to send money without meeting

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Is it right that I was expected to send money to someone for a taxi/fuel money for a meet after only a few messages? Not sure if it is or not, please advise.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No!"

As above .. Hell No

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No!"

Thank you, they are saying I have trust issues because I wouldn’t

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No!

As above .. Hell No "

Cheers, didn’t think so

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"Is it right that I was expected to send money to someone for a taxi/fuel money for a meet after only a few messages? Not sure if it is or not, please advise. "

Absolutely not. Report them to admin, then block and move on

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By *imply DeeWoman over a year ago

Wherever

Of course it’s not OP.

Couldn’t you suggest to meet somewhere in the middle in a public place? If they are genuinely interested they will agree and if they don’t, you’ll know.

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By *imply DeeWoman over a year ago

Wherever

"No!

Thank you, they are saying I have trust issues because I wouldn’t "

Oh hell no.

I’d report them.

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By *avexxMan over a year ago

cheshire

abs no way..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Of course it’s not OP.

Couldn’t you suggest to meet somewhere in the middle in a public place? If they are genuinely interested they will agree and if they don’t, you’ll know."

I did and I drove to meet them and they didn’t show, changed their mind apparently because I wouldn’t send money

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By *imply DeeWoman over a year ago

Wherever

"Of course it’s not OP.

Couldn’t you suggest to meet somewhere in the middle in a public place? If they are genuinely interested they will agree and if they don’t, you’ll know.

I did and I drove to meet them and they didn’t show, changed their mind apparently because I wouldn’t send money "

Oh so sorry OP.

It tells you everything you need to know about them. Happens to everyone so don’t take it personally and the best advice is to move on and know no money should be mentioned while arranging a meeting, ever.

And of course block and report the profile.

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By *hoebeWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Absolutely not!!

And dont be guilt tripped into paying. I'd be reporting and blocking that profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Of course it’s not OP.

Couldn’t you suggest to meet somewhere in the middle in a public place? If they are genuinely interested they will agree and if they don’t, you’ll know.

I did and I drove to meet them and they didn’t show, changed their mind apparently because I wouldn’t send money "

The second someone requests money, block them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Of course it’s not OP.

Couldn’t you suggest to meet somewhere in the middle in a public place? If they are genuinely interested they will agree and if they don’t, you’ll know.

I did and I drove to meet them and they didn’t show, changed their mind apparently because I wouldn’t send money

The second someone requests money, block them."

Even couples who hire a hotel room at a very posh travel tavern and want a contribution to the costs?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"Is it right that I was expected to send money to someone for a taxi/fuel money for a meet after only a few messages? Not sure if it is or not, please advise. "

Nope

Please report anyone asking for this

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Even couples who hire a hotel room at a very posh travel tavern and want a contribution to the costs?"

If people are willing to share hotel room costs that is a different thing altogether, however it still isn't a good idea to hand over any money until you get there

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By *melie LALWoman over a year ago

Peterborough

"No!

Thank you, they are saying I have trust issues because I wouldn’t "

Just agree

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By *enSiskoMan over a year ago

Cestus 3

I have gone half on a room, but was discussed before hand and things turned out ok, plus didn't pay till we were at the desk.

it is the only time money had been mentioned but it seemed a fair request.

As for your situation, your right to ask for advise and always follow your nose.

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By *unchalMan over a year ago

Dartford

"Is it right that I was expected to send money to someone for a taxi/fuel money for a meet after only a few messages? Not sure if it is or not, please advise. "

No. You can't be serious? But, if you really must, then send some this way. Happy to take Paypal.

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By *melie LALWoman over a year ago

Peterborough

I had an fwb. We'd meet fairly regularly. On one occasion I had to travel further. He offered to reimburse me but it felt wrong taking money. So he bought me some lovely lingerie instead - we both benefitted

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By *unchalMan over a year ago

Dartford

"No!

Thank you, they are saying I have trust issues because I wouldn’t "

Trust issues? Don't blame you. They are not trustworthy. Dodgy.

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By *imisugarWoman over a year ago

Rugby

"Is it right that I was expected to send money to someone for a taxi/fuel money for a meet after only a few messages? Not sure if it is or not, please advise. "

Definitely not. Classic scam. Your money and dignity will be long gone. Account suspended or removed. Free to start another one.

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By *9alMan over a year ago

Bridgend

"Of course it’s not OP.

Couldn’t you suggest to meet somewhere in the middle in a public place? If they are genuinely interested they will agree and if they don’t, you’ll know.

I did and I drove to meet them and they didn’t show, changed their mind apparently because I wouldn’t send money "
I suspect if you sent money they would not show up anyway, some people are very clever at this sort of manipulation, it makes you less trusting of everyone

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By *r PantyMan over a year ago

Morpeth

No way !

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Never send money or gifts or things from wish lists.

Report the profile and admin will issue a warning or suspend them. It's against site rules

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