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Why would a woman not want to meet a bi man?
Please note I am NOT commenting on whether this is acceptable, everyone has their preferences and that's fine. I'm just curious as to the reasoning. If your male partner isn't into men that makes sense, that's not what they're looking for. But other than that ladies why would someone not want to meet bi guys? | |||
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"This is a genuine, if potentially naive question, so please be polite but honest with replies
Why would a woman not want to meet a bi man?
Please note I am NOT commenting on whether this is acceptable, everyone has their preferences and that's fine. I'm just curious as to the reasoning. If your male partner isn't into men that makes sense, that's not what they're looking for. But other than that ladies why would someone not want to meet bi guys?"Why does it make sense that they aren’t interested in bi men if the male partner isn’t into men? Are you saying that a bi man won’t be able to control himself enough not to try to do something with the male partner? If a couple meet a man but the male doesn’t want to do anything with the man why does it matter if the man is straight or bi? A bi man is equally as capable of only playing with the female as a straight man is. | |||
"This is a genuine, if potentially naive question, so please be polite but honest with replies
Why would a woman not want to meet a bi man?
Please note I am NOT commenting on whether this is acceptable, everyone has their preferences and that's fine. I'm just curious as to the reasoning. If your male partner isn't into men that makes sense, that's not what they're looking for. But other than that ladies why would someone not want to meet bi guys?
Why does it make sense that they aren’t interested in bi men if the male partner isn’t into men? Are you saying that a bi man won’t be able to control himself enough not to try to do something with the male partner? If a couple meet a man but the male doesn’t want to do anything with the man why does it matter if the man is straight or bi? A bi man is equally as capable of only playing with the female as a straight man is."I assume OP was mentioning this because a lot of couples with a straight man aren't comfortable with bi guys FOR that reason - I don't think OP was suggesting they can't control themselves. | |||
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"It's a good question and a shame that when it's asked people tend to respond with "choice" or "preference", as if preferences don't have any reasons or motivation behind them. There is a fair amount of bi phobia still in society. People often think that a bi man is just in denial about being gay, etc." I'm bi (Mr R) bi phobia exists across the whole spectrum of sexuality. I'm happily married but will happily go on dates/meets with another guy alone, I have nothing to hide or fear | |||
"This is a genuine, if potentially naive question, so please be polite but honest with replies
Why would a woman not want to meet a bi man?
Please note I am NOT commenting on whether this is acceptable, everyone has their preferences and that's fine. I'm just curious as to the reasoning. If your male partner isn't into men that makes sense, that's not what they're looking for. But other than that ladies why would someone not want to meet bi guys?
Why does it make sense that they aren’t interested in bi men if the male partner isn’t into men? Are you saying that a bi man won’t be able to control himself enough not to try to do something with the male partner? If a couple meet a man but the male doesn’t want to do anything with the man why does it matter if the man is straight or bi? A bi man is equally as capable of only playing with the female as a straight man is."I think this is an often believed myth, that people don't want to meet bi guys because of boundaries being a broken. As you'll see from our profile, we like to meet bi guys. We get a lot of messages from straight people who say they "don't mind" having their cock sucked by a guy as long as a woman is there too. We don't meet or play with these guys. A massive (significant) part of our pleasure comes from the other person being satisfied and content. Eg the Mrs won't meet guys who want to give her oral, even if they then go onto say they are "happy to respect boundaries". Knowing someone probably wants more than you're offering is actually a massive turn off. | |||
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" Knowing someone probably wants more than you're offering is actually a massive turn off. " This absolutely. If we see certain things in a profile that are clearly important to the person/couple but we absolutely are not into, but they then say they are actually happy not to have those things we don’t play with them. | |||
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"Very interested in seeing the reasons why some women choose not to meet bi men. Yes it is absolutely their choice, there is no disputing that, but hopefully some will have the courage to explain their reasons. " The thing is, they don't need a reason, or more accurately, they don't need a valid reason. | |||
"Very interested in seeing the reasons why some women choose not to meet bi men. Yes it is absolutely their choice, there is no disputing that, but hopefully some will have the courage to explain their reasons. " Makes me chuckle that I've never heard a man refuse a woman cause she's bi. | |||
"Very interested in seeing the reasons why some women choose not to meet bi men. Yes it is absolutely their choice, there is no disputing that, but hopefully some will have the courage to explain their reasons. The thing is, they don't need a reason, or more accurately, they don't need a valid reason. " No they don’t, as I said, but I’m interested in hearing what reasons there are. No one is forcing anyone to say what their reasons are but it would be interesting to see if anyone is prepared to give theirs. | |||
"This is a genuine, if potentially naive question, so please be polite but honest with replies
Why would a woman not want to meet a bi man?
Please note I am NOT commenting on whether this is acceptable, everyone has their preferences and that's fine. I'm just curious as to the reasoning. If your male partner isn't into men that makes sense, that's not what they're looking for. But other than that ladies why would someone not want to meet bi guys?"It's not just women who won't meet a bi guy. You'll be suprised at the amount of couples we come across who won't meet a couple where the male is bi. Some of them do actually state this on their profile. Completely understand that it is their choice. We respect boundaries and can control ourselves. We wouldn't try to get get someone to do something they did not want to do. Unfortunately, we don't think that a lot of people on here are as open-minded as they would like to think they are. | |||
"This is a genuine, if potentially naive question, so please be polite but honest with replies
Why would a woman not want to meet a bi man?
Please note I am NOT commenting on whether this is acceptable, everyone has their preferences and that's fine. I'm just curious as to the reasoning. If your male partner isn't into men that makes sense, that's not what they're looking for. But other than that ladies why would someone not want to meet bi guys?
It's not just women who won't meet a bi guy. You'll be suprised at the amount of couples we come across who won't meet a couple where the male is bi. Some of them do actually state this on their profile.
Completely understand that it is their choice. We respect boundaries and can control ourselves. We wouldn't try to get get someone to do something they did not want to do.
Unfortunately, we don't think that a lot of people on here are as open-minded as they would like to think they are."There's nothing worse that when you're involved in a 3some or more some when a gent involved is clearly uncomfortable about the though of even accidentally touching another man's cock, it's always more relaxing and fun when everone is comfortable, but there doesn't have to be any bi play at all it can still be all about the lady. | |||
"This is a genuine, if potentially naive question, so please be polite but honest with replies
Why would a woman not want to meet a bi man?
Please note I am NOT commenting on whether this is acceptable, everyone has their preferences and that's fine. I'm just curious as to the reasoning. If your male partner isn't into men that makes sense, that's not what they're looking for. But other than that ladies why would someone not want to meet bi guys?
It's not just women who won't meet a bi guy. You'll be suprised at the amount of couples we come across who won't meet a couple where the male is bi. Some of them do actually state this on their profile.
Completely understand that it is their choice. We respect boundaries and can control ourselves. We wouldn't try to get get someone to do something they did not want to do.
Unfortunately, we don't think that a lot of people on here are as open-minded as they would like to think they are.
There's nothing worse that when you're involved in a 3some or more some when a gent involved is clearly uncomfortable about the though of even accidentally touching another man's cock, it's always more relaxing and fun when everone is comfortable, but there doesn't have to be any bi play at all it can still be all about the lady. "Most definitely!! | |||
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"i have been binned when a bi guy i was due to meet then went to meet another guy instead,while i sat waited for him to pick me up. Left me very wary as its happened more than once." That’s really not very nice for you at all 
The problem with that guy wasn’t that he was bi. He wasn’t just a dick | |||
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"I sometimes think that some people overestimate their attractiveness to others. Bi men are often very discriminating in their choice of the men who they find attractive, probably more so than straight men who are situationally up for same sex activity but don't find my men attractive. " Definitely. My husband is curious but we’ve yet to find a man he actually wants to interact with. The thought of him being unable to contain himself during a straight mmf is laughable | |||
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"This is a genuine, if potentially naive question, so please be polite but honest with replies
Why would a woman not want to meet a bi man?
Please note I am NOT commenting on whether this is acceptable, everyone has their preferences and that's fine. I'm just curious as to the reasoning. If your male partner isn't into men that makes sense, that's not what they're looking for. But other than that ladies why would someone not want to meet bi guys?
It's not just women who won't meet a bi guy. You'll be suprised at the amount of couples we come across who won't meet a couple where the male is bi. Some of them do actually state this on their profile.
Completely understand that it is their choice. We respect boundaries and can control ourselves. We wouldn't try to get get someone to do something they did not want to do.
Unfortunately, we don't think that a lot of people on here are as open-minded as they would like to think they are.
There's nothing worse that when you're involved in a 3some or more some when a gent involved is clearly uncomfortable about the though of even accidentally touching another man's cock, it's always more relaxing and fun when everone is comfortable, but there doesn't have to be any bi play at all it can still be all about the lady. "Yep ,I've seen threads where bi women have tried it on with straight ladies on meets.Nobody writes no bi women on their profiles though. It's not the gender ,it's the person that obviously can't respect someone's boundaries. Miss | |||
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"This is a genuine, if potentially naive question, so please be polite but honest with replies
Why would a woman not want to meet a bi man?
Please note I am NOT commenting on whether this is acceptable, everyone has their preferences and that's fine. I'm just curious as to the reasoning. If your male partner isn't into men that makes sense, that's not what they're looking for. But other than that ladies why would someone not want to meet bi guys?
It's not just women who won't meet a bi guy. You'll be suprised at the amount of couples we come across who won't meet a couple where the male is bi. Some of them do actually state this on their profile.
Completely understand that it is their choice. We respect boundaries and can control ourselves. We wouldn't try to get get someone to do something they did not want to do.
Unfortunately, we don't think that a lot of people on here are as open-minded as they would like to think they are.
There's nothing worse that when you're involved in a 3some or more some when a gent involved is clearly uncomfortable about the though of even accidentally touching another man's cock, it's always more relaxing and fun when everone is comfortable, but there doesn't have to be any bi play at all it can still be all about the lady.
Yep ,I've seen threads where bi women have tried it on with straight ladies on meets.Nobody writes no bi women on their profiles though.
It's not the gender ,it's the person that obviously can't respect someone's boundaries.
Miss
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"I think it's pretty easy to understand - many women appreciate a traditional notion of masculinity, and a man that has sex with men does not fit it." Speak for yourself I sleep with men and I'm as masculine (if not more)than the next man Your words are narrow minded and bigoted | |||
"I think it's pretty easy to understand - many women appreciate a traditional notion of masculinity, and a man that has sex with men does not fit it." But then most are happy to play with other women. | |||
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"I think it's pretty easy to understand - many women appreciate a traditional notion of masculinity, and a man that has sex with men does not fit it." I disagree my hubby is extremely masculine. Nothing hotter than 2 strong men getting it on in my opinion anyway x | |||
"I think it's pretty easy to understand - many women appreciate a traditional notion of masculinity, and a man that has sex with men does not fit it." Wow…you couldn’t be more wrong | |||
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"Very interested in seeing the reasons why some women choose not to meet bi men. Yes it is absolutely their choice, there is no disputing that, but hopefully some will have the courage to explain their reasons. " If they do they will likely get abuse. Some women find the thought of 2 men having sex 'disgusting'. Therefore they can't remove that thought enough to have sex with that man. | |||
"Very interested in seeing the reasons why some women choose not to meet bi men. Yes it is absolutely their choice, there is no disputing that, but hopefully some will have the courage to explain their reasons. If they do they will likely get abuse. Some women find the thought of 2 men having sex 'disgusting'. Therefore they can't remove that thought enough to have sex with that man. " It’s a valid, for them, reason though. It does raise questions about where that view comes from however. Homophobia/biphobia is still massively prevalent in society, especially among the older members, so it’s understandable, even if distasteful. In a community, that by definition shits upon the religious view of the sanctity of marriage, I am fascinated by where moral lines are drawn. | |||
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"I think it's pretty easy to understand - many women appreciate a traditional notion of masculinity, and a man that has sex with men does not fit it. Wow…you couldn’t be more wrong " Exactly what I said Mr R | |||
"I think it's pretty easy to understand - many women appreciate a traditional notion of masculinity, and a man that has sex with men does not fit it. Wow…you couldn’t be more wrong " Exactly, look at cultures like the Spartans, homosexual relationships were common, and encouraged between their soldiers. These same soldiers are often held up as the epitome of masculinity. | |||
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"It’s a good question. We were once shocked to hear some women in a club saying how disgusting it is that 2 men had gone into a room together. They said ‘they have their own day for that kind of thing’. How ridiculous to be in the lifestyle and be so judgemental of someone else’s sexuality. " We once went to a bi night at a club and it was full of straight guys, one even seemed mildly offended when asked if he was bi. A guy fucked Mrs and came on her back and she suggested (aka told) me to lick it off her back. The look of absolute disgust from some of the people around (it was an open play room) was hilarious. | |||
"Everyone has their reasons and they don't need to be explained. If they don't, respect their wishes and try to be friends. That said bi men are just confused gay men, who are afraid of what they really are. They must all be predators as they hide behind a hetrosexual facade to prey on the innocent and unsuspecting. They spread disease caught cottaging to the straight women, bumming strangers in toilets at every opportunity. What red blooded woman wants a man who isn't a real man anyway. Confused, dirty predators that I don't want anywhere near my hubby, giving him ideas that he doesn't "need me" to satisfy his carnal inclinations. Maybe they think some of these things in variously mitigated ways. At the end of the day, that is perfectly fine. It is their choice. Focus on the ones who do and rock their body instead. Het exible forever! "I mean, I do quite like a dark room in a seedy bar or club and to suck some anonymous cock, so maybe they aren't a million miles wrong  | |||
"I think it's pretty easy to understand - many women appreciate a traditional notion of masculinity, and a man that has sex with men does not fit it. I disagree my hubby is extremely masculine. Nothing hotter than 2 strong men getting it on in my opinion anyway x" Go back to the Greeks and Roman times when soldiers and gladiators were hailed as hero's, when it came to sexual encounters it was a total free for all and they were never classed as unmasculine. | |||
"This is a genuine, if potentially naive question, so please be polite but honest with replies
Why would a woman not want to meet a bi man?
Please note I am NOT commenting on whether this is acceptable, everyone has their preferences and that's fine. I'm just curious as to the reasoning. If your male partner isn't into men that makes sense, that's not what they're looking for. But other than that ladies why would someone not want to meet bi guys?
Why does it make sense that they aren’t interested in bi men if the male partner isn’t into men? Are you saying that a bi man won’t be able to control himself enough not to try to do something with the male partner? If a couple meet a man but the male doesn’t want to do anything with the man why does it matter if the man is straight or bi? A bi man is equally as capable of only playing with the female as a straight man is."I'm not disputing that. I guess I assumed a couple are playing together so they want someone they can both play with, and if the bloke sint into men they wouldn't want any men at all. | |||
"Very interested in seeing the reasons why some women choose not to meet bi men. Yes it is absolutely their choice, there is no disputing that, but hopefully some will have the courage to explain their reasons. The thing is, they don't need a reason, or more accurately, they don't need a valid reason. " As I said originally, bottom line is that it's their preference and that's thar. But this thread was intended to discuss the reasons if people are happy to share, since I have seen a lot of comments which didn't make sense to me regarding this. | |||
"i have been binned when a bi guy i was due to meet then went to meet another guy instead,while i sat waited for him to pick me up. Left me very wary as its happened more than once." But is that because he's bi or because he's a dick? | |||
"Straight women only wanting to meet straight men I can understand. In that instance I genuinely think it's only preference However I do get confused when bi women have plastered all over their profiles that they don't like/want bi men It doesn't bother me in the slightest, although I don't find 2 men together sexy, nor would I particularly like to see it happening in front of me. " That's what makes no sense to me. Eg I'm attracted to men, it wouldn't bother me if the man I was shagging also shagged other men or exclusively women. | |||
"I think it's pretty easy to understand - many women appreciate a traditional notion of masculinity, and a man that has sex with men does not fit it." That's an extremely outdated view of men tbh. | |||
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"It’s a good question. We were once shocked to hear some women in a club saying how disgusting it is that 2 men had gone into a room together. They said ‘they have their own day for that kind of thing’. How ridiculous to be in the lifestyle and be so judgemental of someone else’s sexuality. We once went to a bi night at a club and it was full of straight guys, one even seemed mildly offended when asked if he was bi. A guy fucked Mrs and came on her back and she suggested (aka told) me to lick it off her back. The look of absolute disgust from some of the people around (it was an open play room) was hilarious. " We get pissed off with going to bi nights and there are mainly straight single"shuffling wanker" guys Where are the gen bi guys on nights like this?? | |||
"Everyone has their reasons and they don't need to be explained. If they don't, respect their wishes and try to be friends. That said bi men are just confused gay men, who are afraid of what they really are. They must all be predators as they hide behind a hetrosexual facade to prey on the innocent and unsuspecting. They spread disease caught cottaging to the straight women, bumming strangers in toilets at every opportunity. What red blooded woman wants a man who isn't a real man anyway. Confused, dirty predators that I don't want anywhere near my hubby, giving him ideas that he doesn't "need me" to satisfy his carnal inclinations. Maybe they think some of these things in variously mitigated ways. At the end of the day, that is perfectly fine. It is their choice. Focus on the ones who do and rock their body instead. Het exible forever! "I suppose you can't stop people thinking as they do, but it's wild to me that people still hold such bigoted opinions! | |||
"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. " Do you ever wonder why you think that way? | |||
"It's a good question and a shame that when it's asked people tend to respond with "choice" or "preference", as if preferences don't have any reasons or motivation behind them. There is a fair amount of bi phobia still in society. People often think that a bi man is just in denial about being gay, etc." Not really biphobia. More good old fashioned homophobia with a little twist to disguise it all under notions of preference or choice (which of course is legitimate, but not the whole story, I imagine) | |||
" Not really biphobia. More good old fashioned homophobia with a little twist to disguise it all under notions of preference or choice (which of course is legitimate, but not the whole story, I imagine)" I've definitely encountered biphobia as a bisexual woman. But I agree in this instance it may be also homophobia. | |||
"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. " Thank you for sharing, and I hope no one has a go as a result. I must admit I don't quite get it, I can understand not wanting to watch 2 guys, but if I'm attracted to a man and he's attracted to me, him being bi wouldn't put me off. But each to their own, as you say it's personal preference and no one should try to force you into a situation you're not happy with. | |||
"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. " A very eloquent response, obe looked at your profile and you show no interest at all with playing with females so no double standards, my only issue is you describe your ideal man as a"huge viking type" trouble is homosexuality was accepted in vicking culture so your dream man goes against what you've said. | |||
"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. Thank you for sharing, and I hope no one has a go as a result. I must admit I don't quite get it, I can understand not wanting to watch 2 guys, but if I'm attracted to a man and he's attracted to me, him being bi wouldn't put me off. But each to their own, as you say it's personal preference and no one should try to force you into a situation you're not happy with." Isn't it just the same as not being attracted to a man who has a history of drug usage even if he's not high when you meet. | |||
" Isn't it just the same as not being attracted to a man who has a history of drug usage even if he's not high when you meet. " I’m not sure equating sexuality with drug use is helpful. After all sexuality isn’t a choice. | |||
" Isn't it just the same as not being attracted to a man who has a history of drug usage even if he's not high when you meet. I’m not sure equating sexuality with drug use is helpful. After all sexuality isn’t a choice." So if its not a choice, then you're not allowed a preference? I don't understand why being turned off a guy who fucks other men is any more of a problem than being turned off a guy who does drugs. For what it's worth, loads of guys (myself included) like cock because of the taboo factor. It can be a kink not a sexuality thing, so it is a choice. | |||
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" Isn't it just the same as not being attracted to a man who has a history of drug usage even if he's not high when you meet. I’m not sure equating sexuality with drug use is helpful. After all sexuality isn’t a choice. So if its not a choice, then you're not allowed a preference? I don't understand why being turned off a guy who fucks other men is any more of a problem than being turned off a guy who does drugs. For what it's worth, loads of guys (myself included) like cock because of the taboo factor. It can be a kink not a sexuality thing, so it is a choice. " I didn’t say that, I said that it’s not helpful equating someone’s sexuality with drug use. As for the ‘taboo factor’ there are lots of taboos that don’t involve cock, yet some men are attracted to the taboos that do, why might that might be? We return once again to the old joke, “I’m not gay, I just fuck men who are.” | |||
"I haven’t been to a bi club night as a single bi guy (yet). I’ve seen on various threads, including this one, that MM bi play at these events is still a bit “taboo”, even though it’s a bi night. For those bi club goers - what do you think? Does it depend on the club? " In the clubs I have been it’s not taboo. MM plays happens. However, majority of the guys there (50%) are totally straight. On one occasion on a bi night was casually chatting with a nice couple when they saw two guys kissing and expressed their disgust about that aloud. I excused myself of their company for the rest of the night | |||
"I haven’t been to a bi club night as a single bi guy (yet). I’ve seen on various threads, including this one, that MM bi play at these events is still a bit “taboo”, even though it’s a bi night. For those bi club goers - what do you think? Does it depend on the club? In the clubs I have been it’s not taboo. MM plays happens. However, majority of the guys there (50%) are totally straight. On one occasion on a bi night was casually chatting with a nice couple when they saw two guys kissing and expressed their disgust about that aloud. I excused myself of their company for the rest of the night " Oh we've been to plenty of bi nights where its fine. Just one particular club we experienced this! | |||
"Very interested in seeing the reasons why some women choose not to meet bi men. Yes it is absolutely their choice, there is no disputing that, but hopefully some will have the courage to explain their reasons. If they do they will likely get abuse. Some women find the thought of 2 men having sex 'disgusting'. Therefore they can't remove that thought enough to have sex with that man. It’s a valid, for them, reason though. It does raise questions about where that view comes from however. Homophobia/biphobia is still massively prevalent in society, especially among the older members, so it’s understandable, even if distasteful. In a community, that by definition shits upon the religious view of the sanctity of marriage, I am fascinated by where moral lines are drawn." 100%… | |||
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"It is riskier sex. That's just a fact. I would possibly need more a trust relationship But in general it doesn't bother me and a few of my lovers have been bi. I am always grateful for the honesty. " Totally agree. | |||
"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. Do you ever wonder why you think that way?" I can’t say I’ve gave it too much thought, to be honest. I just know it’s something that turns me off when thinking about two men or if I’ve came across it in porn etc. Like I’ve said, I don’t have issue with men being together, what other people choose to do is up to them, it’s just not something that floats my boat. | |||
"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. A very eloquent response, obe looked at your profile and you show no interest at all with playing with females so no double standards, my only issue is you describe your ideal man as a"huge viking type" trouble is homosexuality was accepted in vicking culture so your dream man goes against what you've said. " No, not interested in playing with women. You are correct, my ideal man probably would be a huge Viking type but ‘type’ being the operative word. Doesn’t have to be completely factually correct i.e. they wouldn’t also have to wear animal skins and wield an axe, I just like a big, strong, beaded bloke lol | |||
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"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. Thank you for sharing, and I hope no one has a go as a result. I must admit I don't quite get it, I can understand not wanting to watch 2 guys, but if I'm attracted to a man and he's attracted to me, him being bi wouldn't put me off. But each to their own, as you say it's personal preference and no one should try to force you into a situation you're not happy with." I suppose it’s just one element of the person that makes up who they are. There’s lots of factors I would consider when meeting someone and their sexuality is just one of them, rightly or wrongly. But I’m sure there’s plenty of people, like yourself, who would be completely unphased | |||
"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. Do you ever wonder why you think that way? I can’t say I’ve gave it too much thought, to be honest. I just know it’s something that turns me off when thinking about two men or if I’ve came across it in porn etc. Like I’ve said, I don’t have issue with men being together, what other people choose to do is up to them, it’s just not something that floats my boat. " Thank you for taking the time to reply. I get the act of watching two men together turning you off, I suppose I’m just struggling a little with the idea of a man having been with another man as such a huge turn off for someone. | |||
"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. Do you ever wonder why you think that way? I can’t say I’ve gave it too much thought, to be honest. I just know it’s something that turns me off when thinking about two men or if I’ve came across it in porn etc. Like I’ve said, I don’t have issue with men being together, what other people choose to do is up to them, it’s just not something that floats my boat. " Brilliant reply   | |||
"It is riskier sex. That's just a fact. I would possibly need more a trust relationship." Eh. I mean, historically, this is undeniably true, but in a world with PREP the big risk is gone. Although I wouldn't blame anyone for not staying massively on top on the latest news of anti HIV meds if it's not part of their day to day life of course. And once you remove HIV from the equation, I imagine being a swinger itself puts you right up the risk list. Let's be honest here. The real reason these threads never get many straight answers (pun only partially intended) is because the reason is people are homophobic and that causes them to find bi guys a turnoff. That's whatever, I like to think I'd dodge those people even if I was straight. I find gays who assume I'm some sort of closet case instead of just liking more frustrating. Like, boobs are fucking awesome, dicks are awesome, this isn't rocket science. | |||
"This is a genuine, if potentially naive question, so please be polite but honest with replies
Why would a woman not want to meet a bi man?
Please note I am NOT commenting on whether this is acceptable, everyone has their preferences and that's fine. I'm just curious as to the reasoning. If your male partner isn't into men that makes sense, that's not what they're looking for. But other than that ladies why would someone not want to meet bi guys?"Interesting question... | |||
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"It is riskier sex. That's just a fact. I would possibly need more a trust relationship. Eh. I mean, historically, this is undeniably true, but in a world with PREP the big risk is gone. Although I wouldn't blame anyone for not staying massively on top on the latest news of anti HIV meds if it's not part of their day to day life of course. And once you remove HIV from the equation, I imagine being a swinger itself puts you right up the risk list. Let's be honest here. The real reason these threads never get many straight answers (pun only partially intended) is because the reason is people are homophobic and that causes them to find bi guys a turnoff. That's whatever, I like to think I'd dodge those people even if I was straight. I find gays who assume I'm some sort of closet case instead of just liking more frustrating. Like, boobs are fucking awesome, dicks are awesome, this isn't rocket science. " Hiv is not the only thing. Prep is an amazing progression however many aren't on it. To suggest that the only reason people dislike having intimacy with non-straight people is because they are homophobic is utterly ridiculous. Having a sexual preference doesn't make you phobic. | |||
"I haven’t been to a bi club night as a single bi guy (yet). I’ve seen on various threads, including this one, that MM bi play at these events is still a bit “taboo”, even though it’s a bi night. For those bi club goers - what do you think? Does it depend on the club? " Yeah we've been to bi nights where man on man play was behind closed doors! Thought bi night was for men. Because women can fuck and lick each other on every other night at clubs.  | |||
"It is riskier sex. That's just a fact. I would possibly need more a trust relationship. Eh. I mean, historically, this is undeniably true, but in a world with PREP the big risk is gone. Although I wouldn't blame anyone for not staying massively on top on the latest news of anti HIV meds if it's not part of their day to day life of course. And once you remove HIV from the equation, I imagine being a swinger itself puts you right up the risk list. Let's be honest here. The real reason these threads never get many straight answers (pun only partially intended) is because the reason is people are homophobic and that causes them to find bi guys a turnoff. That's whatever, I like to think I'd dodge those people even if I was straight. I find gays who assume I'm some sort of closet case instead of just liking more frustrating. Like, boobs are fucking awesome, dicks are awesome, this isn't rocket science. Hiv is not the only thing. Prep is an amazing progression however many aren't on it. To suggest that the only reason people dislike having intimacy with non-straight people is because they are homophobic is utterly ridiculous. Having a sexual preference doesn't make you phobic. " | |||
"It’s a good question. We were once shocked to hear some women in a club saying how disgusting it is that 2 men had gone into a room together. They said ‘they have their own day for that kind of thing’. Totally agree 100 % How ridiculous to be in the lifestyle and be so judgemental of someone else’s sexuality. " | |||
"It is riskier sex. That's just a fact. I would possibly need more a trust relationship. Eh. I mean, historically, this is undeniably true, but in a world with PREP the big risk is gone. Although I wouldn't blame anyone for not staying massively on top on the latest news of anti HIV meds if it's not part of their day to day life of course. And once you remove HIV from the equation, I imagine being a swinger itself puts you right up the risk list. Let's be honest here. The real reason these threads never get many straight answers (pun only partially intended) is because the reason is people are homophobic and that causes them to find bi guys a turnoff. That's whatever, I like to think I'd dodge those people even if I was straight. I find gays who assume I'm some sort of closet case instead of just liking more frustrating. Like, boobs are fucking awesome, dicks are awesome, this isn't rocket science. Hiv is not the only thing. Prep is an amazing progression however many aren't on it. To suggest that the only reason people dislike having intimacy with non-straight people is because they are homophobic is utterly ridiculous. Having a sexual preference doesn't make you phobic. " Absolutely! | |||
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" To suggest that the only reason people dislike having intimacy with non-straight people is because they are homophobic is utterly ridiculous. " I don't think anyone is suggesting it's the only reason. But it is a reason that commonly exists. | |||
"If you look on fab guys, bi guys can be much more promiscuous, much less worried about condoms, and many playing away so wife doesn't know, and many are bi just because any hole is a goal. Not all. But some. Fab guys is scary at the lack of hygiene. So I can understand why some want to avoid I'm bi, married, but play in a couple, fussy, always safe and we both get regular checks, advice, vaccines, pills, and a good checkup. Always clear but do it for us and others. If only everyone did! But fortunately the people we meet tend to have females who love mm play so all is good in the world " I think if a lot of these people calling people phobic etc were on fab guys they'd understand why it's perfectly reasonable to have a preference for not playing with bi guys. There is a flip side, testing seems to be more prevalent in the bi/gay community. Regardless, as a guy who is on fab guys and likes a cock, I have no ill thoughts towards anyone who said they didn't want to play with me because of my sexual preferences. | |||
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"It’s blatant homophobia, you can’t even call it a preference if you don’t find specific races attractive that’s based on physical appearance, but other than that hen I have a cock in my mouth you would have no idea I’m bi" “Homophobia”  | |||
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"If you look on fab guys, bi guys can be much more promiscuous, much less worried about condoms, and many playing away so wife doesn't know, and many are bi just because any hole is a goal. Not all. But some. Fab guys is scary at the lack of hygiene. So I can understand why some want to avoid I'm bi, married, but play in a couple, fussy, always safe and we both get regular checks, advice, vaccines, pills, and a good checkup. Always clear but do it for us and others. If only everyone did! But fortunately the people we meet tend to have females who love mm play so all is good in the world I think if a lot of these people calling people phobic etc were on fab guys they'd understand why it's perfectly reasonable to have a preference for not playing with bi guys. There is a flip side, testing seems to be more prevalent in the bi/gay community. Regardless, as a guy who is on fab guys and likes a cock, I have no ill thoughts towards anyone who said they didn't want to play with me because of my sexual preferences. " Yep agree. Lots of bi and gay people test but a lot of married bi guys with any hole will do mentality barely have time for a shower let alone time for a test! Sadly these guys wives seldom know. Yes, all have preferences and reasons for rejection. We avoid married guys for the above reason lol | |||
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"If Our inbox is anything to go by then a lot of women who wouldn’t sleep/meet with bi men probably have .." Yes but when you try to tell them… “There are none so blind as those who will not see” Of the hundreds of men who have contacted us on here only a handful at most have said they wouldn’t be prepared to play with both of us. | |||
"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. A very eloquent response, obe looked at your profile and you show no interest at all with playing with females so no double standards, my only issue is you describe your ideal man as a"huge viking type" trouble is homosexuality was accepted in vicking culture so your dream man goes against what you've said. No, not interested in playing with women. You are correct, my ideal man probably would be a huge Viking type but ‘type’ being the operative word. Doesn’t have to be completely factually correct i.e. they wouldn’t also have to wear animal skins and wield an axe, I just like a big, strong, beaded bloke lol "Interesting, so if this Viking type also a bit partial to giving / receiving oral from other men, it’s just that he hadn’t told you, his masculinity is intact and ‘ideal’. If Viking man was actually Bisexual and enjoyed risky unprotected anal sex with complete strangers in gay saunas yet his profile said straight… .. the point I’m making is that a Fab profile and masculine appearance will not provide definitive evidence of sexual proclivities. Also.. a straight guy on Fab that doesn’t reveal he pays for frequent unprotected sex with dodgy street sex workers versus an openly Bi guy on Fab who always uses condoms, regularly tests and doesn’t do anal… who’s the risk? | |||
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"My preference is absolutely a bi man I find it a huge turn on. In fact I ended up marrying one "My kind of people! | |||
"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. A very eloquent response, obe looked at your profile and you show no interest at all with playing with females so no double standards, my only issue is you describe your ideal man as a"huge viking type" trouble is homosexuality was accepted in vicking culture so your dream man goes against what you've said. No, not interested in playing with women. You are correct, my ideal man probably would be a huge Viking type but ‘type’ being the operative word. Doesn’t have to be completely factually correct i.e. they wouldn’t also have to wear animal skins and wield an axe, I just like a big, strong, beaded bloke lol
Interesting, so if this Viking type also a bit partial to giving / receiving oral from other men, it’s just that he hadn’t told you, his masculinity is intact and ‘ideal’. If Viking man was actually Bisexual and enjoyed risky unprotected anal sex with complete strangers in gay saunas yet his profile said straight…
.. the point I’m making is that a Fab profile and masculine appearance will not provide definitive evidence of sexual proclivities.
Also.. a straight guy on Fab that doesn’t reveal he pays for frequent unprotected sex with dodgy street sex workers versus an openly Bi guy on Fab who always uses condoms, regularly tests and doesn’t do anal… who’s the risk?"I agree with you. I’ve no doubt that there are many gorgeous, rugged, masculine bi or gay men. I never said that a man being bi or gay makes them less masculine. What I have said is that (regardless of someone’s appearance or the content of their Fab bio), if I knew a guy liked playing with men, that would be a turn off for me and I wouldn’t be interested. I also said that it would be just one factor that would influence my decision to meet with someone; their sexual health / history is another. So to acknowledge your second point, I wouldn’t knowingly have sex with someone who had frequent unprotected sex or with someone who visited sex workers (either currently or previously). Again…. No judgment or shade on anyone that does… they are free to do what they like. It is just my preference. | |||
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"'I just don't want to touch the dirty bummers with all their diseases because they're not real viking men (???) and I know they play BB because I've been on fab guys (!?!?) and saw some profiles that list BB on there.' People ITT not being homophobic, and you can tell they're not being homophobic, because they say they're not homophobic and if you say that nothing else you post can possibly be homophobic. I'm being sarcy but I'm not actually trying to gotcha anyone, I genuinely believe most people don't genuinely want to hate anyone and god knows it's easy enough to subconsciously absorb any number of prejudices from the culture around you. Fuck, I've had plenty of opinions I recognised as homophobic at points in my life, and I suck dick like a Dyson. But if people are simultaneously 'I'm not homophobic' and 'I don't want to touch the bi's they're a turn off' it's like....ok, maybe something deeper is causing that second bit, and whatever that is, it's working against the first bit? The culture we're in is often shitty, we are social animals, and we all absorb things from others we wish we hadn't. I'm not saying hop into bed with the next bi guy you see (but, uh, hi! ) but maybe at least take it as a sign there's something to think about and work on? "Nah. If someone calls me homophobic for not wanting to fuck bi guys I definitely would not then decide to fuck bi guys! | |||
"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. A very eloquent response, obe looked at your profile and you show no interest at all with playing with females so no double standards, my only issue is you describe your ideal man as a"huge viking type" trouble is homosexuality was accepted in vicking culture so your dream man goes against what you've said. No, not interested in playing with women. You are correct, my ideal man probably would be a huge Viking type but ‘type’ being the operative word. Doesn’t have to be completely factually correct i.e. they wouldn’t also have to wear animal skins and wield an axe, I just like a big, strong, beaded bloke lol
Interesting, so if this Viking type also a bit partial to giving / receiving oral from other men, it’s just that he hadn’t told you, his masculinity is intact and ‘ideal’. If Viking man was actually Bisexual and enjoyed risky unprotected anal sex with complete strangers in gay saunas yet his profile said straight…
.. the point I’m making is that a Fab profile and masculine appearance will not provide definitive evidence of sexual proclivities.
Also.. a straight guy on Fab that doesn’t reveal he pays for frequent unprotected sex with dodgy street sex workers versus an openly Bi guy on Fab who always uses condoms, regularly tests and doesn’t do anal… who’s the risk?
I agree with you. I’ve no doubt that there are many gorgeous, rugged, masculine bi or gay men. I never said that a man being bi or gay makes them less masculine. What I have said is that (regardless of someone’s appearance or the content of their Fab bio), if I knew a guy liked playing with men, that would be a turn off for me and I wouldn’t be interested.
I also said that it would be just one factor that would influence my decision to meet with someone; their sexual health / history is another. So to acknowledge your second point, I wouldn’t knowingly have sex with someone who had frequent unprotected sex or with someone who visited sex workers (either currently or previously).
Again…. No judgment or shade on anyone that does… they are free to do what they like. It is just my preference."I hear you but what I’m trying to get across is that you may not know the true sexuality (or sexual health) of someone you meet. You meet that gorgeous Viking hunk of masculinity and he doesn’t tell you he likes his dick being sucked by another man occasionally. You meet someone in a club or socially and you take them at face value, appearance, character, charisma, charm, manners. You meet Jason Mamoa, he’s interested, he wants you… he’s got a hardon and he’s got lust in his eyes…. you’re not going to ask if he sucks dick.. | |||
"I think it's pretty easy to understand - many women appreciate a traditional notion of masculinity, and a man that has sex with men does not fit it." Yes. I am attracted to traditionally masculine straight men. My husband is straight. We are just not interested in MM sex. Our preference, our sex life, our rules. Each to their own. There are a lot of comments bashing couples - judgemental. | |||
"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. A very eloquent response, obe looked at your profile and you show no interest at all with playing with females so no double standards, my only issue is you describe your ideal man as a"huge viking type" trouble is homosexuality was accepted in vicking culture so your dream man goes against what you've said. No, not interested in playing with women. You are correct, my ideal man probably would be a huge Viking type but ‘type’ being the operative word. Doesn’t have to be completely factually correct i.e. they wouldn’t also have to wear animal skins and wield an axe, I just like a big, strong, beaded bloke lol
Interesting, so if this Viking type also a bit partial to giving / receiving oral from other men, it’s just that he hadn’t told you, his masculinity is intact and ‘ideal’. If Viking man was actually Bisexual and enjoyed risky unprotected anal sex with complete strangers in gay saunas yet his profile said straight…
.. the point I’m making is that a Fab profile and masculine appearance will not provide definitive evidence of sexual proclivities.
Also.. a straight guy on Fab that doesn’t reveal he pays for frequent unprotected sex with dodgy street sex workers versus an openly Bi guy on Fab who always uses condoms, regularly tests and doesn’t do anal… who’s the risk?
I agree with you. I’ve no doubt that there are many gorgeous, rugged, masculine bi or gay men. I never said that a man being bi or gay makes them less masculine. What I have said is that (regardless of someone’s appearance or the content of their Fab bio), if I knew a guy liked playing with men, that would be a turn off for me and I wouldn’t be interested.
I also said that it would be just one factor that would influence my decision to meet with someone; their sexual health / history is another. So to acknowledge your second point, I wouldn’t knowingly have sex with someone who had frequent unprotected sex or with someone who visited sex workers (either currently or previously).
Again…. No judgment or shade on anyone that does… they are free to do what they like. It is just my preference."This! | |||
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"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. A very eloquent response, obe looked at your profile and you show no interest at all with playing with females so no double standards, my only issue is you describe your ideal man as a"huge viking type" trouble is homosexuality was accepted in vicking culture so your dream man goes against what you've said. No, not interested in playing with women. You are correct, my ideal man probably would be a huge Viking type but ‘type’ being the operative word. Doesn’t have to be completely factually correct i.e. they wouldn’t also have to wear animal skins and wield an axe, I just like a big, strong, beaded bloke lol
Interesting, so if this Viking type also a bit partial to giving / receiving oral from other men, it’s just that he hadn’t told you, his masculinity is intact and ‘ideal’. If Viking man was actually Bisexual and enjoyed risky unprotected anal sex with complete strangers in gay saunas yet his profile said straight…
.. the point I’m making is that a Fab profile and masculine appearance will not provide definitive evidence of sexual proclivities.
Also.. a straight guy on Fab that doesn’t reveal he pays for frequent unprotected sex with dodgy street sex workers versus an openly Bi guy on Fab who always uses condoms, regularly tests and doesn’t do anal… who’s the risk?
I agree with you. I’ve no doubt that there are many gorgeous, rugged, masculine bi or gay men. I never said that a man being bi or gay makes them less masculine. What I have said is that (regardless of someone’s appearance or the content of their Fab bio), if I knew a guy liked playing with men, that would be a turn off for me and I wouldn’t be interested.
I also said that it would be just one factor that would influence my decision to meet with someone; their sexual health / history is another. So to acknowledge your second point, I wouldn’t knowingly have sex with someone who had frequent unprotected sex or with someone who visited sex workers (either currently or previously).
Again…. No judgment or shade on anyone that does… they are free to do what they like. It is just my preference.
I hear you but what I’m trying to get across is that you may not know the true sexuality (or sexual health) of someone you meet. You meet that gorgeous Viking hunk of masculinity and he doesn’t tell you he likes his dick being sucked by another man occasionally. You meet someone in a club or socially and you take them at face value, appearance, character, charisma, charm, manners. You meet Jason Mamoa, he’s interested, he wants you… he’s got a hardon and he’s got lust in his eyes…. you’re not going to ask if he sucks dick.."Haha I reckon I’d make an exception for Jason Mamoa But yeah, I totally know what you’re saying and I do agree. All we can go on is the information that people are honest enough to share. That could be said about any person we meet or any aspect of them, their personality, sexuality, health and lifestyle choices etc. And it also falls ultimately to conditional consent… would we have sex with someone if they were open and honest about themselves in the first place? | |||
"Hey - personally I just hate the thought of being fucked by a man who has had his cock up another man’s ass - also because I think bi men are more likely to be more promiscuous Mrs, and I’m bi !!" But if he’s just been fucking a woman’s arse you see it as different? | |||
"Hey - personally I just hate the thought of being fucked by a man who has had his cock up another man’s ass - also because I think bi men are more likely to be more promiscuous Mrs, and I’m bi !! But if he’s just been fucking a woman’s arse you see it as different? "LoL… but, but, but… it’s a woman’s arse. Anal sex with a woman is completely different!
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"I’ll be honest and hopefully won’t face a tongue lashing for it… I choose not to meet bi men because I personally find the thought of men playing together a turn off. To know that he’s been with a man previously or is attracted to men / dicks would be very off putting to me. I find it more attractive to know that the man I am with is turned on solely by the female body. No issue with gay or bi men - everyone should be free to have the consensual sex they choose, I just wouldn’t want to play with a bi man. A very eloquent response, obe looked at your profile and you show no interest at all with playing with females so no double standards, my only issue is you describe your ideal man as a"huge viking type" trouble is homosexuality was accepted in vicking culture so your dream man goes against what you've said. No, not interested in playing with women. You are correct, my ideal man probably would be a huge Viking type but ‘type’ being the operative word. Doesn’t have to be completely factually correct i.e. they wouldn’t also have to wear animal skins and wield an axe, I just like a big, strong, beaded bloke lol
Interesting, so if this Viking type also a bit partial to giving / receiving oral from other men, it’s just that he hadn’t told you, his masculinity is intact and ‘ideal’. If Viking man was actually Bisexual and enjoyed risky unprotected anal sex with complete strangers in gay saunas yet his profile said straight…
.. the point I’m making is that a Fab profile and masculine appearance will not provide definitive evidence of sexual proclivities.
Also.. a straight guy on Fab that doesn’t reveal he pays for frequent unprotected sex with dodgy street sex workers versus an openly Bi guy on Fab who always uses condoms, regularly tests and doesn’t do anal… who’s the risk?
I agree with you. I’ve no doubt that there are many gorgeous, rugged, masculine bi or gay men. I never said that a man being bi or gay makes them less masculine. What I have said is that (regardless of someone’s appearance or the content of their Fab bio), if I knew a guy liked playing with men, that would be a turn off for me and I wouldn’t be interested.
I also said that it would be just one factor that would influence my decision to meet with someone; their sexual health / history is another. So to acknowledge your second point, I wouldn’t knowingly have sex with someone who had frequent unprotected sex or with someone who visited sex workers (either currently or previously).
Again…. No judgment or shade on anyone that does… they are free to do what they like. It is just my preference.
I hear you but what I’m trying to get across is that you may not know the true sexuality (or sexual health) of someone you meet. You meet that gorgeous Viking hunk of masculinity and he doesn’t tell you he likes his dick being sucked by another man occasionally. You meet someone in a club or socially and you take them at face value, appearance, character, charisma, charm, manners. You meet Jason Mamoa, he’s interested, he wants you… he’s got a hardon and he’s got lust in his eyes…. you’re not going to ask if he sucks dick..
Haha I reckon I’d make an exception for Jason Mamoa But yeah, I totally know what you’re saying and I do agree. All we can go on is the information that people are honest enough to share. That could be said about any person we meet or any aspect of them, their personality, sexuality, health and lifestyle choices etc. And it also falls ultimately to conditional consent… would we have sex with someone if they were open and honest about themselves in the first place? "So we agree that some very masculine men are also Bi. If you meet someone it’s almost impossible to tell if they’re Bi unless they tell you or you see them actually doing Bi ‘things’ The fact that they are Bi wouldn’t put you off as long as you didn’t know about it. And that you probably wouldn’t kick Jason Mamoa out of bed if he said he occasionally likes his dick sucked by other blokes… So let’s hear it for: 2-dick minimum hete exible sex
Multi-male devotion to female pleasure
Celebrated confident masculinity
Shame-free sexual expression
Leading edge uninhibited sexuality
“Real men are the determinants of their own sexual fate irrespective of the shame-filled opinions of the sexually lost and don’t cowardly give away their power to less valiant men and women who don’t know themselves. Does it matter what they believe, or what *you* do?” | |||
"Hey - personally I just hate the thought of being fucked by a man who has had his cock up another man’s ass - also because I think bi men are more likely to be more promiscuous Mrs, and I’m bi !! But if he’s just been fucking a woman’s arse you see it as different? "Women shit raindrops and petals. It's hardly the same... | |||
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"I wonder if those individuals against this are not confident in their own sexuality. My husband is comfortable with his therefore will happily play with bi/bi-curious individuals. As a woman Id find it extremely sexy to watch/participate in. " As I said before…each to their own preference without trying to shame others if theirs differs. Most of the comments are intolerant of people’s personal opinions. | |||
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"I wonder if those individuals against this are not confident in their own sexuality. My husband is comfortable with his therefore will happily play with bi/bi-curious individuals. As a woman Id find it extremely sexy to watch/participate in. " It's nothing to do with confidence its purely preference. If straight people don't want to play with bi people they're more than within their rights to say no, as long as they're respectful about it it shouldn't be an issue | |||
"My first long term relationship was was a bi girl. About 2 months before we got together she made a speech to the rest of the common room that "men can't be bi, they are just greedy" It's just hate in the end I think " Hate from bi women towards bi men is just one thing I don't understand | |||
"I wonder if those individuals against this are not confident in their own sexuality. My husband is comfortable with his therefore will happily play with bi/bi-curious individuals. As a woman Id find it extremely sexy to watch/participate in. So we can’t question your comments but most of the people in this thread are shaming people for being bi? The most masculine society that has existed, when it came to marriage time ladies had to shave their heads so the men could get used to fucking them ad it was all boy boy life in the agoge As I said before…each to their own preference without trying to shame others if theirs differs. Most of the comments are intolerant of people’s personal opinions. " | |||
"I wonder if those individuals against this are not confident in their own sexuality. My husband is comfortable with his therefore will happily play with bi/bi-curious individuals. As a woman Id find it extremely sexy to watch/participate in. So we can’t question your comments but most of the people in this thread are shaming people for being bi? The most masculine society that has existed, when it came to marriage time ladies had to shave their heads so the men could get used to fucking them ad it was all boy boy life in the agoge As I said before…each to their own preference without trying to shame others if theirs differs. Most of the comments are intolerant of people’s personal opinions. " What? | |||
"I sometimes think that some people overestimate their attractiveness to others. Bi men are often very discriminating in their choice of the men who they find attractive, probably more so than straight men who are situationally up for same sex activity but don't find my men attractive. " Absolutely this! My hubby is so picky with guys, and to be honest, people in general. He has no idea if he will fancy someone until they have actually interacted IRL. Attraction for him is very much about how the chat flows and the feeling he gets from a person. He wouldn't even "look" at another guy unless they started flirting with him, and even if they do, the man is fussy! It's rather amusing to me that 9 times out of 10 it's a guy who he wouldn't be remotely interested in that gets all paranoid too. I just want to laugh and tell them he's knocked back guys way fitter than you in the Village mate, you wouldn't stand a chance | |||
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"I wonder how many ‘absolute no to bi-guy couples’ have ever been involved with or even seen a 4sum or moresum where everyone has been invited to the party …so to speak I kind of get the feeling it’s like offering a child a new food group or ice cream flavour and their instant answer is ‘no’. Yet the world beyond vanilla would soon become part of their palette…" can’t it just be some men don’t want to go with other men and are actually straight | |||
"I wonder how many ‘absolute no to bi-guy couples’ have ever been involved with or even seen a 4sum or moresum where everyone has been invited to the party …so to speak I kind of get the feeling it’s like offering a child a new food group or ice cream flavour and their instant answer is ‘no’. Yet the world beyond vanilla would soon become part of their palette… can’t it just be some men don’t want to go with other men and are actually straight " Weird isn’t it. Only bonkers religious conservatives used to believe it is fine to question people’s sexuality based on their own belief there is a straight person trapped in every gay person’s body, yet some here believe everyone is really bisexual and just haven’t met the right same sex person. | |||
"Lets not forget how many straight guys here have BB preferences on fab guys! Or just tell us they are bi but don't advertise that fact. Guys lie to get laid. They're the ones to avoid. Genuine well behaved honest bi guys tested a lot will be our preference." Agreed. We have started to meet more men from Fab Guys together. It's also a lot easier and more reliable! | |||
"I think there is a stereotype that Bi men are more promiscuous than straight men and thus there may be a greater risk of sti. I don’t know if this is a true assumption or not as it clearly depends on the individual and straight men can be equally promiscuous as can women. But that’s probably the reason. " I think it's true. Any bi guy can go on fab guys and get sucked, fucked and God knows what else, every day of the week without any real effort. A lot of guys are on Prep so the HIV risk is almost zero, but that doesn't cover other stuff. As a bi guy, I totally agree with the stereotype that we're more promiscuous. | |||
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"I am attracted to men, straight and bi, and am currently seeing a bi guy. But many times I have been advised by sexual health clinics to avoid having sex with bi men " To be fair evidence and the statistics show that married men playing Bi without partner’s knowledge are a high risk category for STIs - they appear to take risks that single or openly Bi and Gay men don’t (Protection, PREp, regular known partners, regular testing etc.) I don’t believe it equates / applies in the same way to openly Bi male partners in the Lifestyle though. | |||
"I am attracted to men, straight and bi, and am currently seeing a bi guy. But many times I have been advised by sexual health clinics to avoid having sex with bi men To be fair evidence and the statistics show that married men playing Bi without partner’s knowledge are a high risk category for STIs - they appear to take risks that single or openly Bi and Gay men don’t (Protection, PREp, regular known partners, regular testing etc.) I don’t believe it equates / applies in the same way to openly Bi male partners in the Lifestyle though." I'd agree. I believe it's only very few openly bi men don't get regularly tested. | |||
" As a bi guy, I totally agree with the stereotype that we're more promiscuous. " As bi guy I also agree that on general we are more promiscuous than straight guys. Just because we have more option
That said, there are a lot of fab straight or married bi guys who don’t do check ups and don’t do visits to sexual health clinics because they are afraid of possible disclosure. These I am steering clear of due to higher risk.
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"I am attracted to men, straight and bi, and am currently seeing a bi guy. But many times I have been advised by sexual health clinics to avoid having sex with bi men " Wow, that’s some interesting advice they gave you... | |||
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"Straight men are terrified that a bi man will touch them without asking in the same way they touch woman without consent, basically they tar us with the same brush they know they behave like" Those pesky r@pey straight blokes running about being wrong uns eh? Get em all in jail the horrible sods. | |||
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"We only play with bi males. I know many bi men put straight on their profiles, this puts us off as we prefer honesty. In an ideal world everyone should be able to own their sexual identity "It isn't an ideal world. If they were Outed it could cause them issues. | |||
"Straight men are terrified that a bi man will touch them without asking in the same way they touch woman without consent, basically they tar us with the same brush they know they behave like" Wow, that really is a hetrophobic remark! I'm a straight guy, and you can touch me all you like, but it will do nothing for me. But as long as it makes you happy, and I get to play with your other half... I'm guessing that that isn't so attractive to you. For exactly the same reasons that a straight couple might not want to play with a bi-guy. Some people who won't play with bi guys are homophobes. But not all of them, and no-one enjoys being stereotyped. | |||
