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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
We started Swinging and also going to Clubs in 2013, so this year will be our 10th anniversary (apart from having the last 4 years off!)
In that time we have visited 18 Clubs and been 38 times. Some Clubs just the once, several a lot more times.
We have never been to a Club and felt unsafe, nor were the Clubs anything other than welcoming.
14 of the Clubs we would return to (although 5 of them are now shut, sadly).
Only 4 Clubs were not our thing, so over all we have had a hugely positive experience of going to Clubs, with almost a 90% wish to return from 38 visits. Most businesses would give their eye teeth for that customer response!
Even the 4 we won’t return to we had an ok time and could see that others might enjoy the location.
So over 6 active years we probably went 6 times a year, often staying over allowing us to have nice sexy weekends away.
We are hoping to restart this journey this autumn - maybe we should go back to where we started at OP4f!?
How has it been for you, and what would you like to see improve?
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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago
northampton |
Good experiences at Clubs for us too. Been to about 15 Clubs over the years and enjoyed ourselves, sometimes more than others but overall always good. Sad when some Clubs closed down, especially Tease. Would recommend club scene for newbies and experienced swingers. |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"Good experiences at Clubs for us too. Been to about 15 Clubs over the years and enjoyed ourselves, sometimes more than others but overall always good. Sad when some Clubs closed down, especially Tease. Would recommend club scene for newbies and experienced swingers."
It is such a shame when Clubs you have got really comfortable with close. Over the last 5 years we have lost 4 Clubs we used to go to a lot. We are starting to decide where to go next now! An exciting voyage of discovery 
We so agree with you on people trying Clubs, so much nicer than attempting to meet in Pubs and vanilla Clubs  |
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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago
northampton |
"Good experiences at Clubs for us too. Been to about 15 Clubs over the years and enjoyed ourselves, sometimes more than others but overall always good. Sad when some Clubs closed down, especially Tease. Would recommend club scene for newbies and experienced swingers.
It is such a shame when Clubs you have got really comfortable with close. Over the last 5 years we have lost 4 Clubs we used to go to a lot. We are starting to decide where to go next now! An exciting voyage of discovery
We so agree with you on people trying Clubs, so much nicer than attempting to meet in Pubs and vanilla Clubs "
Hopefully we'll bump into each other at a club sometime! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've only been to 3 clubs so far since we started swinging. Atlantis, Liberty Elite and Alchemy. We've been back to Atlantis a few times but only went to the other two once. We'll likely try Chams at some point. |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"We've only been to 3 clubs so far since we started swinging. Atlantis, Liberty Elite and Alchemy. We've been back to Atlantis a few times but only went to the other two once. We'll likely try Chams at some point."
3 we haven’t tried yet, but sounds like we should consider them  |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"Good experiences at Clubs for us too. Been to about 15 Clubs over the years and enjoyed ourselves, sometimes more than others but overall always good. Sad when some Clubs closed down, especially Tease. Would recommend club scene for newbies and experienced swingers.
It is such a shame when Clubs you have got really comfortable with close. Over the last 5 years we have lost 4 Clubs we used to go to a lot. We are starting to decide where to go next now! An exciting voyage of discovery
We so agree with you on people trying Clubs, so much nicer than attempting to meet in Pubs and vanilla Clubs
Hopefully we'll bump into each other at a club sometime!"
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
Overall good experiences. Met some lovely people, seen and done some amazing things. A+, would absolutely do again.
The only thing that has been a bit of a blot has been men who have touched or groped without asking. I don’t mean single men either, there’s been a couple of men who have grabbed my tit with their wife right next to them acting like it’s all ok. |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"Overall good experiences. Met some lovely people, seen and done some amazing things. A+, would absolutely do again.
The only thing that has been a bit of a blot has been men who have touched or groped without asking. I don’t mean single men either, there’s been a couple of men who have grabbed my tit with their wife right next to them acting like it’s all ok. "
Some people deserve a knee! We haven’t experienced this, except in a dark room, which is pretty much to be expected - not ourthing though  |
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Our pre covid experience of clubs was much better than post !. The same could be said of this site too. During a recent club visit one of the staff members (old man) kept pestering Cherry and even tried to watch her undress for the jacuzzi  . In another club we met a couple who gave the impression they were ideal for us yet when meeting at their home a week later it was soon clear the rules had been turned completely upside down ! (they lied about everything). Think we'll try a new club next time lol |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"We started Swinging and also going to Clubs in 2013, so this year will be our 10th anniversary (apart from having the last 4 years off!)
In that time we have visited 18 Clubs and been 38 times. Some Clubs just the once, several a lot more times.
We have never been to a Club and felt unsafe, nor were the Clubs anything other than welcoming.
14 of the Clubs we would return to (although 5 of them are now shut, sadly).
Only 4 Clubs were not our thing, so over all we have had a hugely positive experience of going to Clubs, with almost a 90% wish to return from 38 visits. Most businesses would give their eye teeth for that customer response!
Even the 4 we won’t return to we had an ok time and could see that others might enjoy the location.
So over 6 active years we probably went 6 times a year, often staying over allowing us to have nice sexy weekends away.
We are hoping to restart this journey this autumn - maybe we should go back to where we started at OP4f!?
How has it been for you, and what would you like to see improve?
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OP4F where I started my club experience. And I was taken a back. I stayed about 2015 ish. And your thoughts really echo my own. As a single man. I would never go to a nightclub on my own but to a sex club I would. There's no pretence, no palpable sence of aggression in the air. No if I misread this sightly wrong . . .
And I have enjoyed it (sex club) every time. |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
One of the things we liked most about any Club is the ability to get turned on knowing we were going to do something ‘naughty’, to get aroused by going, to think about what to wear and how to ‘display’. Clubs give you the chance to heighten the eroticism and to enjoy the build up.
We typically prefer dressed Clubs as we enjoy the preparation and also mentally undressing people before we see them naked.
Our ideal Club would not be empty or rammed with people. We have found busy Clubs less enjoyable as you don’t have time to look around or use the facilities. We like to look, but we want to go to play and not just wander around all night like peacocks.
We found this balance at The Lodge (Gloucester), Angels (Melksham), VA and the old AbFabs. Sadly 3 of these are now closed!
Any suggestions to try next are always welcome |
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over a year ago
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"One of the things we liked most about any Club is the ability to get turned on knowing we were going to do something ‘naughty’, to get aroused by going, to think about what to wear and how to ‘display’. Clubs give you the chance to heighten the eroticism and to enjoy the build up.
We typically prefer dressed Clubs as we enjoy the preparation and also mentally undressing people before we see them naked.
Our ideal Club would not be empty or rammed with people. We have found busy Clubs less enjoyable as you don’t have time to look around or use the facilities. We like to look, but we want to go to play and not just wander around all night like peacocks.
We found this balance at The Lodge (Gloucester), Angels (Melksham), VA and the old AbFabs. Sadly 3 of these are now closed!
Any suggestions to try next are always welcome "
I’d suggest you try Wicked at Swindon Swingers. Top place, can be busy but the only time it’s been a bit too rammed was Halloween. |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"One of the things we liked most about any Club is the ability to get turned on knowing we were going to do something ‘naughty’, to get aroused by going, to think about what to wear and how to ‘display’. Clubs give you the chance to heighten the eroticism and to enjoy the build up.
We typically prefer dressed Clubs as we enjoy the preparation and also mentally undressing people before we see them naked.
Our ideal Club would not be empty or rammed with people. We have found busy Clubs less enjoyable as you don’t have time to look around or use the facilities. We like to look, but we want to go to play and not just wander around all night like peacocks.
We found this balance at The Lodge (Gloucester), Angels (Melksham), VA and the old AbFabs. Sadly 3 of these are now closed!
Any suggestions to try next are always welcome
I’d suggest you try Wicked at Swindon Swingers. Top place, can be busy but the only time it’s been a bit too rammed was Halloween. "
Thanks, it is on our to do list Also pretty much our closest option. Must win that EuroMillions lottery and build one closer  |
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By *FF69Couple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
They work perfectly for us! We always approach them in the same way, simply as a night out with no expectations. As we love watching and being watched having sex in open play areas, it means there’s zero pressure if we don’t meet people where the attraction is mutual. You get an instant vibe about people, can see straight away if you gel on a social level, and there are no catfish pictures or a missing one half of the couple from photos lol. We especially love dress down clubs as we find they’re a great leveller and people seem to relax straight away. As a couple we’ve been to chameleons, xtasia, liberty elite, cupids, townhouse, penthouse playrooms, and we’ve stayed at Venus star resort in Gran Canaria twice. B has been to more prior to us getting together too. Definitely have many more nights out planned for the future!xx |
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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago
Kingston upon Thames |
A mix: some great nights and afternoons, some OK, a few challenging ... it is all about being yourself, setting the right pace, saying yes with an arousing or enticing smile and saying no thanks with courtesy and respect ... also letting yourself be in the "moment" ... I would not have planned a 18 man / `16 cim blowbang in the cinema at Kestrels but it happened and I am happy and proud that I achieved that in 70 minutes of hard core sexual abandon .. x Anne |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"They work perfectly for us! We always approach them in the same way, simply as a night out with no expectations. As we love watching and being watched having sex in open play areas, it means there’s zero pressure if we don’t meet people where the attraction is mutual. You get an instant vibe about people, can see straight away if you gel on a social level, and there are no catfish pictures or a missing one half of the couple from photos lol. We especially love dress down clubs as we find they’re a great leveller and people seem to relax straight away. As a couple we’ve been to chameleons, xtasia, liberty elite, cupids, townhouse, penthouse playrooms, and we’ve stayed at Venus star resort in Gran Canaria twice. B has been to more prior to us getting together too. Definitely have many more nights out planned for the future!xx "
I think you make a pertinent point. A lot of people have expectations of paying that they forget to have a good time, socialise and make freinds. And get upset when nothing happens and possibly not had a good time.
Interms of clubs I have been to OP4F, Galores, Radlets, Quest, Pandoras and monkey Business.
I would love to go to a club abroad like one of the famous Techno themed sex clubs like you get in Berlin and Frankfurt. Or one of the posh London clubs. |
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Very much a mixed bag for me, after 18 visits spread across 8 clubs.
I’ve never gone with any expectations, just the mindset of having an ‘alternative’ night out, being able to sit/wander around in just my boxers, and whatever happens, just go with the flow….!
Going in as a single guy, you tend to only ever receive a “Thanks for your money, it’s through there” on reception, although in one very well known club in the NW, when I checked in, the host for the evening asked me “Have you been here before?” I said yes, and showed him my membership card. “Well just remember; there’s always someone watching, so behave yourself”…..
Overall, I’ve had two amazing experiences (I’m currently 3 plays for 18 visits), and have seen some things I wouldn’t have if I’d just gone down my local.
They’re different, but they’re not the incredible ‘fun factories’ they get sold as in here. Obviously based on my experiences as a single guy, when it’s very easy to get the ‘gatecrasher’ feeling, but I would never recommend the club scene to a mate  |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"Very much a mixed bag for me, after 18 visits spread across 8 clubs.
I’ve never gone with any expectations, just the mindset of having an ‘alternative’ night out, being able to sit/wander around in just my boxers, and whatever happens, just go with the flow….!
Going in as a single guy, you tend to only ever receive a “Thanks for your money, it’s through there” on reception, although in one very well known club in the NW, when I checked in, the host for the evening asked me “Have you been here before?” I said yes, and showed him my membership card. “Well just remember; there’s always someone watching, so behave yourself”…..
Overall, I’ve had two amazing experiences (I’m currently 3 plays for 18 visits), and have seen some things I wouldn’t have if I’d just gone down my local.
They’re different, but they’re not the incredible ‘fun factories’ they get sold as in here. Obviously based on my experiences as a single guy, when it’s very easy to get the ‘gatecrasher’ feeling, but I would never recommend the club scene to a mate "
It is clearly a bit easier as a couple, absolutely accept this. M has been to 5 Clubs on his own, reconnaissance for 3 of them and just as he fancied a night out in 2. He enjoys the vibe (perhaps as he wasn’t playing it was easier, but he got approached each time which did his ego a lot of good!)
At some point I might go on my own as well to experience the different dynamic… |
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I've only visited 2 clubs so far...the first one seemed cheap ,tacky ,but the 2nd one totally lifted my expectations ...clean ,classy and the ambience of the people were very relaxed...straight away my partner said ,we'll come back here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One of the things we liked most about any Club is the ability to get turned on knowing we were going to do something ‘naughty’, to get aroused by going, to think about what to wear and how to ‘display’. Clubs give you the chance to heighten the eroticism and to enjoy the build up.
We typically prefer dressed Clubs as we enjoy the preparation and also mentally undressing people before we see them naked.
Our ideal Club would not be empty or rammed with people. We have found busy Clubs less enjoyable as you don’t have time to look around or use the facilities. We like to look, but we want to go to play and not just wander around all night like peacocks.
We found this balance at The Lodge (Gloucester), Angels (Melksham), VA and the old AbFabs. Sadly 3 of these are now closed!
Any suggestions to try next are always welcome
I’d suggest you try Wicked at Swindon Swingers. Top place, can be busy but the only time it’s been a bit too rammed was Halloween.
Thanks, it is on our to do list Also pretty much our closest option. Must win that EuroMillions lottery and build one closer "
Look forward to seeing you there later in the year. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've only been to OP4F on a couple of occasions and we enjoyed it but find we are nervous about open play for some reason.
Both times we ended up going into the lockable dark room and playing at the glory holes. |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"We've only been to OP4F on a couple of occasions and we enjoyed it but find we are nervous about open play for some reason.
Both times we ended up going into the lockable dark room and playing at the glory holes."
Have the white lines gone? We got quite turned on playing with people watching us, knowing they couldn’t join unless we asked them to - thought it was a great approach |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've only been to OP4F on a couple of occasions and we enjoyed it but find we are nervous about open play for some reason.
Both times we ended up going into the lockable dark room and playing at the glory holes.
Have the white lines gone? We got quite turned on playing with people watching us, knowing they couldn’t join unless we asked them to - thought it was a great approach "
Hi, we haven't been for a few years but cannot say.
We hope to go again when we are in the UK next month. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not been to a bad club yet. Then again we can only say we have been to 4.
The joy with it is if you have the odd dickhead they are usually gone once you inform the staff. We have had a couple of unwanted touching but it's not put us off. |
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We've been going to clubs since covid ended and had mostly brilliant nights.
We've been to 8 different clubs and enjoyed all , the attic wasn't really our cup of tea but might have been the night we went on . Absolutely love Libs and Chams but we've had nights at those that haven't been outstanding. It all depends on the vibe and the crowd really.
Overall though we love going and enjoy meeting lovely people for social and naughty fun times  |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"We've been going to clubs since covid ended and had mostly brilliant nights.
We've been to 8 different clubs and enjoyed all , the attic wasn't really our cup of tea but might have been the night we went on . Absolutely love Libs and Chams but we've had nights at those that haven't been outstanding. It all depends on the vibe and the crowd really.
Overall though we love going and enjoy meeting lovely people for social and naughty fun times "
What a great attitude - hope to bump into you one day (to say hi if nothing else!) |
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During the just last year we have been to 5 clubs and a 6th coming up next month when we visit Manchester for Cupids.
Probably 30-ish visits during that time.
Only had a couple of issues, mainly people attempting to touch without permission, but nothing a swift growl and staff bouncing them out the door can't fix.
Incidentally, meets at hotels or private houses don't have security, a major plus for clubs. |
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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago
northampton |
"During the just last year we have been to 5 clubs and a 6th coming up next month when we visit Manchester for Cupids.
Probably 30-ish visits during that time.
Only had a couple of issues, mainly people attempting to touch without permission, but nothing a swift growl and staff bouncing them out the door can't fix.
Incidentally, meets at hotels or private houses don't have security, a major plus for clubs."
All really good points, clubs have worked out so well for us for several years. Just sad when a club you are very comfortable with closes down. |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"Would you say placing hand on arm as request to join in is still the ettiquette "
Again this is a tough area. From a cold start, then it should be verbal and make eye contact. If I am in the middle of having fun and you get M’s permission then that is also ok. So long as one of us consents, with the proviso that the one being touched can always say no (vigorously if I feel like it!) then I’m ok.
I do not want my cunt, my tits or my arse (not being kissed if I don’t want this) being played with if consent has not been given. This will not be unreasonably withheld from polite people |
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By *FF69Couple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Would you say placing hand on arm as request to join in is still the ettiquette "
Absolutely not, and I’ve never heard of this being considered etiquette. Eye contact, invitation to join in. |
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We love clubs and visit as much as possible... the only issues we've had as far as club rules were concerned is 1 guy that was super d*unk and another person with a phone.. both were flagged and both were dealt with super quickly by the clubs.
I've been going for a couple of years, hound for longer, and there is sadly a fair bit of touching without asking... since we are more regulars on the scene its made it easier as people are aware that we take very unkindly to that lol.
We are very clear that it's not acceptable, it's happened a fair bit, but certainly doesn't put us off x |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Some people are OK with non-sexual touching as a request. Some people are strongly not OK with any kind of touching without permission. (This might be a generational difference, with #metoo playing a part in driving the change).
I find it's safest to wait for a suitable moment and ask, and I'm a lot more likely to get a 'yes' if it's someone I've spoken with socially before. |
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When we are in the couples room and are playing we would find it more appropriate for someone to cautiously touch our arm. If after a few moments we have not moved away then that can be seen as an indication that we are happy for people to join in.
We were at a club once when a guy who was part of a couple said and I quote “please may I” and so forth. It kind of ruined the moment. It reminded me of a child putting their hand up in a classroom to get the attention of a teacher.
Surely the way to go is to make eye contact, take a step closer to the couple in question and gauge their reaction. If they turn their backs or or something then it’s safe to say it’s a no.
The times we have been in the playroom willing for others to join us and nothing happens.
It doesn’t seem that appropriate to start talking in a play room. If it was in the bar then you of course would communicate but with that comes pressure because we don’t always want to commit to one couple and find a private room.
We can be spontaneous and like to play on the main bed. If we didn’t want to be touched we wouldn’t be there.
The most off putting is when two guys are stood there talking loudly about cars and the like.
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We are very much club swingers. We generally don't bother with the Internet to arrange new things so we tend to meet new people to play with only in clubs or randomly out and about.
We love that we don't have to align our dates with other people, just go at our leisure when we are free to. Club don't stand you up. You go with no specific commitment to one person/couple for the whole night. You're free to move around and meet lots of new people if you wish. Plus unlike some social scenarios if you like the people you've discovered you have the space to take it to a more physical level then and there.
Not going to mention any names but we're in double figure for different clubs we've tried. All different styles and formats. Some great, some ok, some we'd never go back to. We have our favourites and that does make it hard to try new clubs when you know your favourite will always be good. However we have challenged ourselves to get a few more new ones under our belts before next Summer. Partly to see new clubs but also experience a new mix of people. Sometimes in a club it gets to be the same people (who maybe wonderful) but it's nice to have variety and new faces.
Also sometimes you have to try a club more than once. Our favourite Club we didn't like first visit. We went for a specific party hosted by someone else. But a couple of months later tried it on a normal weeknight and had an amazing time. Its now our favourite Club, so we would have been missing out for all these years if we hadn't had given it a 2nd chance. |
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For me it's all about the clubs, I love the club scene! Been going about 8 years now.
Started off at one club which I won't mention because they don't deserve it.
Anyway! Then I went to chams, took me a few visits to get used to it but I ended up loving it, you would find me there every weekend pre pandemic.
Went to GC with a load of people from chams one year, that was good fun! We enjoyed the clubs over there.
Also did Cupids a fair few years ago now,thought it was similar to chams, enjoyed it there too.
Don't think I'd bother with fab nowadays if it wasn't for the clubs. |
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"We are very much club swingers. We generally don't bother with the Internet to arrange new things so we tend to meet new people to play with only in clubs or randomly out and about.
We love that we don't have to align our dates with other people, just go at our leisure when we are free to. Club don't stand you up. You go with no specific commitment to one person/couple for the whole night. You're free to move around and meet lots of new people if you wish. Plus unlike some social scenarios if you like the people you've discovered you have the space to take it to a more physical level then and there.
Not going to mention any names but we're in double figure for different clubs we've tried. All different styles and formats. Some great, some ok, some we'd never go back to. We have our favourites and that does make it hard to try new clubs when you know your favourite will always be good. However we have challenged ourselves to get a few more new ones under our belts before next Summer. Partly to see new clubs but also experience a new mix of people. Sometimes in a club it gets to be the same people (who maybe wonderful) but it's nice to have variety and new faces.
Also sometimes you have to try a club more than once. Our favourite Club we didn't like first visit. We went for a specific party hosted by someone else. But a couple of months later tried it on a normal weeknight and had an amazing time. Its now our favourite Club, so we would have been missing out for all these years if we hadn't had given it a 2nd chance."
Are you sure you aren’t us!? Spot on, we don’t mind letting people know we are going to a Club but we have no expectations of playing unless we really click when we are there. The anonymity of Clubs is part of the fun - we can be as wild as we want (or not if it doesn’t suit) |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"Would you say placing hand on arm as request to join in is still the ettiquette
Absolutely not, and I’ve never heard of this being considered etiquette. Eye contact, invitation to join in. "
I have never heard of CV this either.
I have seen one guy ask a girl while she was getting pounded of he could join, they stopped the girl looked over her left shoulder sans was on her back and stated . "Maybe next time".
This is probably the most open I have seen. But surely if you have been talking and indications have been made to play. Then you know when you know? |
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We have over 500 club nights under our belt so to speak
90% of them great nights and a small percentage a bit ‘meh’
We love the sexy atmosphere , love seeing everyone (no matter what shape, size or age) dressed up, love the social side and if we are feeling it the naughtier side too
Made some fantastic friends doing the way and always love making new connections
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"Would you say placing hand on arm as request to join in is still the ettiquette
Absolutely not, and I’ve never heard of this being considered etiquette. Eye contact, invitation to join in.
I have never heard of CV this either.
I have seen one guy ask a girl while she was getting pounded of he could join, they stopped the girl looked over her left shoulder sans was on her back and stated . "Maybe next time".
This is probably the most open I have seen. But surely if you have been talking and indications have been made to play. Then you know when you know?"
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"We are very much club swingers. We generally don't bother with the Internet to arrange new things so we tend to meet new people to play with only in clubs or randomly out and about.
We love that we don't have to align our dates with other people, just go at our leisure when we are free to. Club don't stand you up. You go with no specific commitment to one person/couple for the whole night. You're free to move around and meet lots of new people if you wish. Plus unlike some social scenarios if you like the people you've discovered you have the space to take it to a more physical level then and there.
Not going to mention any names but we're in double figure for different clubs we've tried. All different styles and formats. Some great, some ok, some we'd never go back to. We have our favourites and that does make it hard to try new clubs when you know your favourite will always be good. However we have challenged ourselves to get a few more new ones under our belts before next Summer. Partly to see new clubs but also experience a new mix of people. Sometimes in a club it gets to be the same people (who maybe wonderful) but it's nice to have variety and new faces.
Also sometimes you have to try a club more than once. Our favourite Club we didn't like first visit. We went for a specific party hosted by someone else. But a couple of months later tried it on a normal weeknight and had an amazing time. Its now our favourite Club, so we would have been missing out for all these years if we hadn't had given it a 2nd chance."
Pretty much exactly how we approach clubs... been to so many over the years including Europe and USA.. love them.. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Would you say placing hand on arm as request to join in is still the ettiquette
Absolutely not, and I’ve never heard of this being considered etiquette. Eye contact, invitation to join in.
I have never heard of CV this either.
I have seen one guy ask a girl while she was getting pounded of he could join, they stopped the girl looked over her left shoulder sans was on her back and stated . "Maybe next time".
This is probably the most open I have seen. But surely if you have been talking and indications have been made to play. Then you know when you know?
We take the view that it is no unless you have clear and positive invitation to play. The first rule of Clubs is no means no. Even when assent has been given, it can be rescinded at any time, clearly on both sides "
This!! Everything is no until told otherwise…
If you are adult enough to be in a club, and adult enough to be in that situation, then surely shouldn’t you be adult enough to just ask?
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Mixed.
PROS - we don't like pubs and clubs so the clubs generally feel safe (from alcohol fuelled fights etc.) and we can go there just to get out for a bit and be in “that” kind of atmosphere. We have had some great nights in clubs, even if we didn’t play or meet anyone.
CONS - clubs can be a bit hit and miss and you’ll never know what’s in store. It all depends on the clientele that night. This isn’t going to go down well, but sometimes (note, not always!) we have found clubs can be a bit cliquey or other times a bit smelly and seedy with single men following you and nobody we would even be remotely attracted to. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all and we aren’t supermodels, but still…
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We've done 2 clubs in blackpool 1 was and still is our fave the other we didn't like.
However the only issue we see is single men wondering around following you. I love tits especially my wife's so obv in the club I was playing with them in the flesh and a guy sat down next to us and assumed he too could play. We just got up and went back down. Then went back up later. We've played together in rooms but not left the door unlocked yet lol. Still a bit shy don't mind being naked especially in the wet area but full on playing mmm well see. We have played in the past but overall opinion is its great especially the naked bit. |
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We have attended quite a number of clubs both here and abroad over the past few years and my wife in particularly and find Chams to be very much her preferred venue.
She does favour their dressdown on arrival policy thay have there and has the opportunity of wearing her sexiest outfits on arriving so she feels comfortable without being surrounded by other fully dressed women.
We feel the dressdowns policy provides an immediate sexually charged atmosphere an makes it easier to feel relaxed.
We wish other clubs had the same rule though we know it is not for everyone.
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By *ethnmelv OP Couple
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"We have attended quite a number of clubs both here and abroad over the past few years and my wife in particularly and find Chams to be very much her preferred venue.
She does favour their dressdown on arrival policy thay have there and has the opportunity of wearing her sexiest outfits on arriving so she feels comfortable without being surrounded by other fully dressed women.
We feel the dressdowns policy provides an immediate sexually charged atmosphere an makes it easier to feel relaxed.
We wish other clubs had the same rule though we know it is not for everyone.
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We absolutely get your point here. We don’t want Clubs to be cocktail parties with only chatting, so we err towards Clubs who encourage riskier dress. We prefer to be able to flaunt a bit and tease, but aren’t yet into full dress down.
Totally agree it can be a bit off putting if people are just normally dressed, but most ladies seem to be happy to go for revealing and tantalising outfits.
The old AbFabs was great for this, as the car park was private and you could go from the car in any way you fancied - never went naked, but was tempted!
We find that once we have got to a certain point, it is great to wear very little as it does make opportunities happen! |
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We haven't been on the club scene for swing long (far more experienced in the kink scene), think it was April/May this year. So far, we've had a wonderful experience.
We were anxious about going, then swing etiquette is generally a little different to kink etiquette and that had put us off but at this point, I wish we'd of taken the plunge quicker! Regardless of swing nights being entirely vanilla, we've always had an amazing night and now strive to get out once or twice a month (this month will have been 4 visits by the end of the weekend though).
We've met some amazing people. And always look forward to catch ups aswell as meeting new people.
It's also changed our dynamic, we're now rarely meeting away from clubs as it's just a good, safe space |
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"Would you say placing hand on arm as request to join in is still the ettiquette "
Absolutely no.
Use words.
Ask if it's OK to watch, ask if it's OK to touch.
If we like you, we may ask you to join us. |
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"Would you say placing hand on arm as request to join in is still the ettiquette
Absolutely no.
Use words.
Ask if it's OK to watch, ask if it's OK to touch.
If we like you, we may ask you to join us."
Thanks, I was told that at a club |
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"Would you say placing hand on arm as request to join in is still the ettiquette
Absolutely not, and I’ve never heard of this being considered etiquette. Eye contact, invitation to join in.
I have never heard of CV this either.
I have seen one guy ask a girl while she was getting pounded of he could join, they stopped the girl looked over her left shoulder sans was on her back and stated . "Maybe next time".
This is probably the most open I have seen. But surely if you have been talking and indications have been made to play. Then you know when you know?
We take the view that it is no unless you have clear and positive invitation to play. The first rule of Clubs is no means no. Even when assent has been given, it can be rescinded at any time, clearly on both sides
This!! Everything is no until told otherwise…
If you are adult enough to be in a club, and adult enough to be in that situation, then surely shouldn’t you be adult enough to just ask?
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Some people believe that, just because they paid their entry, they are entitled to sex  . However, it is NEVER acceptable to just touch a person, particularly if they are in the middle of a play. Use your voice!
Sadly, people that need to be reminded of that hardly ever read forums, they may not even be on Fab.  |
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"We started Swinging and also going to Clubs in 2013, so this year will be our 10th anniversary (apart from having the last 4 years off!)
In that time we have visited 18 Clubs and been 38 times. Some Clubs just the once, several a lot more times.
We have never been to a Club and felt unsafe, nor were the Clubs anything other than welcoming.
14 of the Clubs we would return to (although 5 of them are now shut, sadly).
Only 4 Clubs were not our thing, so over all we have had a hugely positive experience of going to Clubs, with almost a 90% wish to return from 38 visits. Most businesses would give their eye teeth for that customer response!
Even the 4 we won’t return to we had an ok time and could see that others might enjoy the location.
So over 6 active years we probably went 6 times a year, often staying over allowing us to have nice sexy weekends away.
We are hoping to restart this journey this autumn - maybe we should go back to where we started at OP4f!?
How has it been for you, and what would you like to see improve?
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Found clubs to be a bit cold and very cliquey. We rarely go now as we did not feel very welcome.
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"We started Swinging and also going to Clubs in 2013, so this year will be our 10th anniversary (apart from having the last 4 years off!)
In that time we have visited 18 Clubs and been 38 times. Some Clubs just the once, several a lot more times.
We have never been to a Club and felt unsafe, nor were the Clubs anything other than welcoming.
14 of the Clubs we would return to (although 5 of them are now shut, sadly).
Only 4 Clubs were not our thing, so over all we have had a hugely positive experience of going to Clubs, with almost a 90% wish to return from 38 visits. Most businesses would give their eye teeth for that customer response!
Even the 4 we won’t return to we had an ok time and could see that others might enjoy the location.
So over 6 active years we probably went 6 times a year, often staying over allowing us to have nice sexy weekends away.
We are hoping to restart this journey this autumn - maybe we should go back to where we started at OP4f!?
How has it been for you, and what would you like to see improve?
Found clubs to be a bit cold and very cliquey. We rarely go now as we did not feel very welcome.
Mrs"
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Suppose my experience is different to most posters.
Being TV means there are fewer clubs that cater for you. By that i mean that whilst most clubs are welcoming to Tgirls, the clientele is generally straight so not much action.
Our fave club is Club Play, but with it being over an hour away its a special occasion.
Ive had the wandering hands thing too, but ive never felt unsafe in a club.
For people like me, clubs are the safest option by far. |
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