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First, the ratio of horny men to women on this site is around 30-40, so you HAVE to stand out; in terms of attractiveness, being well-endowed and/or muscular.
Second, pictures are a must, potentially face pictures.
Having been verified by other women/couples certainly helps. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Just wondered whats happened to this place just after decent passionate sex how hard is that to find now"
Hi op
Have you made it hard and not thought about how to make this easier as it's seems many are doing very well |
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You had prior experience, and it differed?
Who would know how you are more compatible with them, than others? People do get FBs here - I have, in 15 years of being here.
Single men have to put in the graft, for any meet. Effort, socials and swinging club visits all get you acquainted with others. View the daily posts from men who can't reportedly get meets as well as the advice given to them, for guidance.  |
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"Just wondered whats happened to this place just after decent passionate sex how hard is that to find now"
OP, how do you imagine to get that "decent passionate sex" when we don't even know what you look like? Are you expecting women on Fab to be attracted to a silhouette? |
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"First, the ratio of horny men to women on this site is around 30-40, so you HAVE to stand out; in terms of attractiveness, being well-endowed and/or muscular.
Second, pictures are a must, potentially face pictures.
Having been verified by other women/couples certainly helps."
So you have to be muscular to have any chance on here then ? |
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Your bio is great, nicely detailed and shows a level of effort many lack. I will say though, you've no pictures, so it'd be hard for women/couples to see whether there is any form of attraction straight off. Though perhaps you've got a slight inconsistencies with looking for kink but not adding in what kink you like? Could be a great conversation starter though.
Myself, I just delete all messages from silhouette profiles, don't even open them. And have message filters to stop anyone with no public images from inboxing us.
I understand completely you may not want to add any face pictures but I think you'd benefit from adding some carefully chosen ones up.
Good luck OP!
Also remember the green arrow shows all your posts and comments, try to be positive too, don't get pulled into the trap of only posting negative things are it can be off putting |
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"First, the ratio of horny men to women on this site is around 30-40, so you HAVE to stand out; in terms of attractiveness, being well-endowed and/or muscular.
Second, pictures are a must, potentially face pictures.
Having been verified by other women/couples certainly helps.
So you have to be muscular to have any chance on here then ?"
Nope you don't need to be muscular or well-endowed. People just put that out there as an excuse. It may help with some but harm chances with others. |
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"First, the ratio of horny men to women on this site is around 30-40, so you HAVE to stand out; in terms of attractiveness, being well-endowed and/or muscular.
Second, pictures are a must, potentially face pictures.
Having been verified by other women/couples certainly helps.
So you have to be muscular to have any chance on here then ?"
No, you don’t. So many people put this but it’s just not true. |
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"Just wondered whats happened to this place just after decent passionate sex how hard is that to find now"
I have read your blurb..but only because of the forum post.
If you messaged it would get a delete without even opening...
Put photos on the profile and as your main pic.... why should anyone waste their time on a faceless box |
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"Just wondered whats happened to this place just after decent passionate sex how hard is that to find now"
Having read your profile... I suspect that the lack of photos and fact that you seemingly don't use condoms, will put off the majority.
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Plus lie say your bi , just watch out for the time wasters , you follow the rules you polite respectful, even have a lot in common even arrange a social and they leave you hanging ,probably drive pass and take the piss
Yes twice now |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
"First, the ratio of horny men to women on this site is around 30-40, so you HAVE to stand out; in terms of attractiveness, being well-endowed and/or muscular.
Second, pictures are a must, potentially face pictures.
Having been verified by other women/couples certainly helps.
So you have to be muscular to have any chance on here then ?"
Definitely not. There’s someone for everyone on Fab. We don’t all like chiselled bodies. |
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"First, the ratio of horny men to women on this site is around 30-40, so you HAVE to stand out; in terms of attractiveness, being well-endowed and/or muscular.
Second, pictures are a must, potentially face pictures.
Having been verified by other women/couples certainly helps.
So you have to be muscular to have any chance on here then ?
Definitely not. There’s someone for everyone on Fab. We don’t all like chiselled bodies. "
find that hard to believe |
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"First, the ratio of horny men to women on this site is around 30-40, so you HAVE to stand out; in terms of attractiveness, being well-endowed and/or muscular.
Second, pictures are a must, potentially face pictures.
Having been verified by other women/couples certainly helps.
So you have to be muscular to have any chance on here then ?
Definitely not. There’s someone for everyone on Fab. We don’t all like chiselled bodies.
find that hard to believe "
That's because you, like an awful lot of men clearly do not understand women at all.
I don't find the body builder physique at all attractive. Nor to I like the alpha male persona or negativity. I am attracted to things like personality, a sense of humour, intelligence and twinky eyes.
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As a solo guy who has the same thing to offer as about a thousand other guys who are trying to find a meet yeah it's hard the females on fab have the ability to be abit picky with who they chose some will get picked many times others only a few and most won't ever get a meet before they end up quitting plain facts brah patience perseverance and just one lucky chance is all you need |
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"First, the ratio of horny men to women on this site is around 30-40, so you HAVE to stand out; in terms of attractiveness, being well-endowed and/or muscular.
Second, pictures are a must, potentially face pictures.
Having been verified by other women/couples certainly helps.
So you have to be muscular to have any chance on here then ?
Definitely not. There’s someone for everyone on Fab. We don’t all like chiselled bodies.
find that hard to believe "
Me too mate . |
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"First, the ratio of horny men to women on this site is around 30-40, so you HAVE to stand out; in terms of attractiveness, being well-endowed and/or muscular.
Second, pictures are a must, potentially face pictures.
Having been verified by other women/couples certainly helps.
So you have to be muscular to have any chance on here then ?
Definitely not. There’s someone for everyone on Fab. We don’t all like chiselled bodies.
find that hard to believe "
Believe what you want to believe. Chiselled bodies might be great to look at but not so great to cuddle up to. Also, in most cases, once they open their mouths you realize there isn't much there. For me, my brain has to be stimulated first, and that can only be achieved by personality, sense of humour (particularly quite dry sense of humour) and that "sparkle" that is so hard to define. The only problem is, those qualities are almost impossible to show online. |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
"First, the ratio of horny men to women on this site is around 30-40, so you HAVE to stand out; in terms of attractiveness, being well-endowed and/or muscular.
Second, pictures are a must, potentially face pictures.
Having been verified by other women/couples certainly helps.
So you have to be muscular to have any chance on here then ?
Definitely not. There’s someone for everyone on Fab. We don’t all like chiselled bodies.
find that hard to believe
Believe what you want to believe. Chiselled bodies might be great to look at but not so great to cuddle up to. Also, in most cases, once they open their mouths you realize there isn't much there. For me, my brain has to be stimulated first, and that can only be achieved by personality, sense of humour (particularly quite dry sense of humour) and that "sparkle" that is so hard to define. The only problem is, those qualities are almost impossible to show online. "
THIS.
I met both my partners at clubs and for both of them, the thing that turned them from good fucks to the sexiest men on the planet was the way his face changed when he was talking about something he felt passionate about. Passion is sexy. Personality is sexy. Chiselled abs are sexy but so is a soft dad bod and a big teddy bear and rugby players. |
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"First, the ratio of horny men to women on this site is around 30-40, so you HAVE to stand out; in terms of attractiveness, being well-endowed and/or muscular.
Second, pictures are a must, potentially face pictures.
Having been verified by other women/couples certainly helps.
So you have to be muscular to have any chance on here then ?
Definitely not. There’s someone for everyone on Fab. We don’t all like chiselled bodies.
find that hard to believe
Me too mate ."
You understand women better than they do. |
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"Just wondered whats happened to this place just after decent passionate sex how hard is that to find now
OP, how do you imagine to get that "decent passionate sex" when we don't even know what you look like? Are you expecting women on Fab to be attracted to a silhouette?"
Agreed.
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So you have to be muscular to have any chance on here then ?
Definitely not. There’s someone for everyone on Fab. We don’t all like chiselled bodies. "
Definitely agree.
If I see a guy with Mr Universe type muscles I see a red flag.
I like guys to be tall, slim and fit - but, in my experience, the body builder types are often narcissistic and more interested in themselves than me.
They may also be taking steroids and thus can be prone to anger issues.
So no, if you're really chiselled then I'll pass you by.
x Miniskirt
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"Just wondered whats happened to this place just after decent passionate sex how hard is that to find now
OP, how do you imagine to get that "decent passionate sex" when we don't even know what you look like? Are you expecting women on Fab to be attracted to a silhouette?"
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"Just wondered whats happened to this place just after decent passionate sex how hard is that to find now"
There's twobmany single men on the site. The only solution is for loads of you to leave.
If you're after insta-shag, I guess you'll need to hire a local. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Just wondered whats happened to this place just after decent passionate sex how hard is that to find now
There's twobmany single men on the site. The only solution is for loads of you to leave.
If you're after insta-shag, I guess you'll need to hire a local."
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Like all great advice on here. You definitely need some public pictures. They don't have to be putting all the goods on display in the shop window; a time and a place for that. Some tasteful teasing ones to draw the enquirer in for hopefully more.
You have a decent enough bio...just need some public ( not pubic!) Photographs! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"First, the ratio of horny men to women on this site is around 30-40, so you HAVE to stand out; in terms of attractiveness, being well-endowed and/or muscular.
Second, pictures are a must, potentially face pictures.
Having been verified by other women/couples certainly helps.
So you have to be muscular to have any chance on here then ?
Definitely not. There’s someone for everyone on Fab. We don’t all like chiselled bodies.
find that hard to believe "
Believe it baby |
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"Just wondered whats happened to this place just after decent passionate sex how hard is that to find now
They're mostly taken from an already limited pool"
You have two meet verifications in nine weeks on here .Some of us havnt many any in over a year . I wouldn't complain . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just a time thing, some are lucky enough to find what they are looking for quickly, others not so much.
My FB for example wasn't on here very long before he came across me, we've been doing the deed for about a year now but doughnut has had his account for months (and had a different one for over a year before that) and had very little success, unfortunately you are just another male who needs to stand out (sorry husband who will be reading this, it's nothing personal). It takes one good message to turn things around.
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Its the same old same old discussion
The problem is people use just this site to find what there looking for and yes it can happen.
But to get anywhere in this lifestyle to get those connections and find the best of friends you need to use this site in conjunction with getting out there in the real world
Go to social
Go to clubs
That way you will increase your chances of finding what your looking for |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
"First, the ratio of horny men to women on this site is around 30-40, so you HAVE to stand out; in terms of attractiveness, being well-endowed and/or muscular.
Second, pictures are a must, potentially face pictures.
Having been verified by other women/couples certainly helps.
So you have to be muscular to have any chance on here then ?
Definitely not. There’s someone for everyone on Fab. We don’t all like chiselled bodies.
find that hard to believe "
I can honestly say that if you looked at the guys I meet very few if any have a chiselled body (sorry guys). Doesn’t mean they are unfit. I’m attracted to people that I have a connection with and have lots of fun with them.
Stop believing that women want an Adonis. I’d rather have someone who is attentive and makes me happy than working out at the gym. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
"Its the same old same old discussion
The problem is people use just this site to find what there looking for and yes it can happen.
But to get anywhere in this lifestyle to get those connections and find the best of friends you need to use this site in conjunction with getting out there in the real world
Go to social
Go to clubs
That way you will increase your chances of finding what your looking for "
Definitely agree. I’ve started seeing someone that I met at a Fab coffee social. Totally unexpected and hadn’t even seen his profile. Two months later we’re still seeing each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its the same old same old discussion
The problem is people use just this site to find what there looking for and yes it can happen.
But to get anywhere in this lifestyle to get those connections and find the best of friends you need to use this site in conjunction with getting out there in the real world
Go to social
Go to clubs
That way you will increase your chances of finding what your looking for
Definitely agree. I’ve started seeing someone that I met at a Fab coffee social. Totally unexpected and hadn’t even seen his profile. Two months later we’re still seeing each other."
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"Its the same old same old discussion
The problem is people use just this site to find what there looking for and yes it can happen.
But to get anywhere in this lifestyle to get those connections and find the best of friends you need to use this site in conjunction with getting out there in the real world
Go to social
Go to clubs
That way you will increase your chances of finding what your looking for
Definitely agree. I’ve started seeing someone that I met at a Fab coffee social. Totally unexpected and hadn’t even seen his profile. Two months later we’re still seeing each other."
I'm the same I've been with my partner now for nearly two years
We even have a couples profile... |
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"Its the same old same old discussion
The problem is people use just this site to find what there looking for and yes it can happen.
But to get anywhere in this lifestyle to get those connections and find the best of friends you need to use this site in conjunction with getting out there in the real world
Go to social
Go to clubs
That way you will increase your chances of finding what your looking for "
The clubs and socials line gets trotted put every single time a single bloke as for advice.
Not everyone is interested in large socials or clubs.
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"Its the same old same old discussion
The problem is people use just this site to find what there looking for and yes it can happen.
But to get anywhere in this lifestyle to get those connections and find the best of friends you need to use this site in conjunction with getting out there in the real world
Go to social
Go to clubs
That way you will increase your chances of finding what your looking for
The clubs and socials line gets trotted put every single time a single bloke as for advice.
Not everyone is interested in large socials or clubs.
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How did you find meets when you were swinging before? X |
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"Its the same old same old discussion
The problem is people use just this site to find what there looking for and yes it can happen.
But to get anywhere in this lifestyle to get those connections and find the best of friends you need to use this site in conjunction with getting out there in the real world
Go to social
Go to clubs
That way you will increase your chances of finding what your looking for
The clubs and socials line gets trotted put every single time a single bloke as for advice.
Not everyone is interested in large socials or clubs.
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Unfortunately those guys not into club and socials will struggle to get decent connections
There is no magic formula it's just down to effort
And you get out what you simply put in. |
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By *y the cCouple
over a year ago
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We have been only been on here a little while, and we live in a rather small place- so that does make it hard to find and trust genuine people. Regardless of our profile and what it says about us and who we are happy to meet- we do always get guys (mainly) who just haven’t taken the time to read it! I’d say any one whom you’re interested in, read the bio and work out if it fits your agenda and  needs! Xxx |
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"We have been only been on here a little while, and we live in a rather small place- so that does make it hard to find and trust genuine people. Regardless of our profile and what it says about us and who we are happy to meet- we do always get guys (mainly) who just haven’t taken the time to read it! I’d say any one whom you’re interested in, read the bio and work out if it fits your agenda and needs! Xxx"
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