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Controlling the big debate
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have been speaking to a fab friend of mine about most recent escapades and ended up on a topic which we had a real dispute about wonder if you’d be able to help out fellow fabbers.
So I guess I’ll ask this for both Men and women. Men can you control yourself while having sex to stop yourself having an orgasm?
Women do you think you can make a man cum even when he’s trying not to? |
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"I have been speaking to a fab friend of mine about most recent escapades and ended up on a topic which we had a real dispute about wonder if you’d be able to help out fellow fabbers.
So I guess I’ll ask this for both Men and women. Men can you control yourself while having sex to stop yourself having an orgasm?
Women do you think you can make a man cum even when he’s trying not to?"
I have done in the past, got told I have "skills" lol. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have been speaking to a fab friend of mine about most recent escapades and ended up on a topic which we had a real dispute about wonder if you’d be able to help out fellow fabbers.
So I guess I’ll ask this for both Men and women. Men can you control yourself while having sex to stop yourself having an orgasm?
Women do you think you can make a man cum even when he’s trying not to?
I have done in the past, got told I have "skills" lol. "
That’s the sort of confidence that is certainly attractive. Starting to hear more women saying they can make a man cum than men saying they can withhold. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think I could the Mr I know his body, not sure about anyone else though.
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I support it makes sense with a life partner but as you’re not meeting men it’s hard to tell otherwise.
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For years trained my self to last longer and cum when I wanted then
Later on went through period when I didn't cum at all then few years later went back to coming again there lots of things you can do to increase well you cum or not and level of sperm you produce.
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I have found that if I can get past the initial urge to cum then I can control it for the rest of the night. If I can’t, then I can’t 
If I find myself starting to want to cum and I want to control it then I just need to slow a little and take a very slight pause - when the urge has gone then I am good to go. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I mean yes and no. There is always the point of no return so i guess you mean when you are really in the moment can you drag yourself back - sometimes yes but if you are truly locked in then no."
Interesting I’ve not reached that place of no return but I usually put myself in a position where I have the power |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have found that if I can get past the initial urge to cum then I can control it for the rest of the night. If I can’t, then I can’t
If I find myself starting to want to cum and I want to control it then I just need to slow a little and take a very slight pause - when the urge has gone then I am good to go."
That’s what I feel as well |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"He brought a new toy home and I almost jumped off the couch and was left in a puddle after two orgasms I wasn't planning on having lol"
One question, and one question only… what’s the toy? |
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"Hubby loves edging and drives me nuts with his ability to control exactly when wants to cum or not, so yes it is possible  "
Should have said it comes from the fact he has never stopped masturbating even into his 60s now, and I think this is what has given him the self control.
I do enjoy the challenge of trying to overcome that self control though, and my best shot is usually when I have him tied up in the body bag wanking him mercilessly whilst I get naughty with a willing stud he he  |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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On the whole excitement and mindset play a into it I'd say. I am sure it is the same with women. If you're horny you're horny. In the past I've played with several buddies for many years, sessions could last all night, a few hours, 30mins or an unexpected few minutes.
Sometimes you just enjoy sex and mood doesn't come into, on the other hand, when you want hours of fun, you're off like a shot, it's not down to the woman per se or you wanting a quick meet.
With new meets it's different from woman to woman, which is half the excitement of meeting - sometimes you can have it under control sometimes you attempt to. It's probably all down to horn. |
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"He brought a new toy home and I almost jumped off the couch and was left in a puddle after two orgasms I wasn't planning on having lol
One question, and one question only… what’s the toy?"
My Little Pony in a big jar |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hubby loves edging and drives me nuts with his ability to control exactly when wants to cum or not, so yes it is possible
Should have said it comes from the fact he has never stopped masturbating even into his 60s now, and I think this is what has given him the self control.
I do enjoy the challenge of trying to overcome that self control though, and my best shot is usually when I have him tied up in the body bag wanking him mercilessly whilst I get naughty with a willing stud he he "
This is very interesting and I would love to understand your success rate. I imagine most men on here must wank on a regular basis, probably why some are on here! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"On the whole excitement and mindset play a into it I'd say. I am sure it is the same with women. If you're horny you're horny. In the past I've played with several buddies for many years, sessions could last all night, a few hours, 30mins or an unexpected few minutes.
Sometimes you just enjoy sex and mood doesn't come into, on the other hand, when you want hours of fun, you're off like a shot, it's not down to the woman per se or you wanting a quick meet.
With new meets it's different from woman to woman, which is half the excitement of meeting - sometimes you can have it under control sometimes you attempt to. It's probably all down to horn. "
Certainly something in the mind and not necessarily that physical |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If there’s one guaranteed way to make a man cum it’s by saying “don’t stop, I’m coming”
I’m gone.. the best I can hope for is that we’re coming at the same time..
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That’s certainly a point where I find it most likely to make me cum. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Women do you think you can make a man cum even when he’s trying not to?"
Oh yes, many many times!
The most memorable one was when he kept saying, "don't make me cum! Don't make me cum" then "arrraughhhh", I turned around and his cock was out and was spurting hands free...
"Too late", he confessed and we both fell about laughing... |
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