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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi guys we've been hunting for a unicorn for little while now after talking for a little while it sort of fizzles out and when we try to reconnect again its tough due to how popular the ladies are and it's a little difficult does anyone have any good tips for us |
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"Hi guys we've been hunting for a unicorn for little while now after talking for a little while it sort of fizzles out and when we try to reconnect again its tough due to how popular the ladies are and it's a little difficult does anyone have any good tips for us "
Sorry but this made me laugh
You will have no chance on here, remember unicorns don’t exist. Best advice go to a club and even then it’s not a given |
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The issue you may have is ‘what’s in it for the said mythical beast’
I know a lady who’s played unicorn a couple of times and come away totally deflated by the experience as it was all about the couple.
I’m not saying that’s you, however it’s worth considering. |
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I guess first point is you’ve only been around for 9 weeks so that’s not long in Fab terms.
It’s harder as you’ve got to find someone who is comfortable enough with two people to meet on their own.
It also comes across like you’re just looking for FF play which isn’t always what someone wants so you may limit your options.
Good luck. |
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We have met more than our fair share of unicorns
It help that mrs j is bi , and that doesnt mean fab bi
She previously had a girlfriend and has lived in a relationship with a girl
Lots see the unicorn thing as putting on a show for the boys , or ticking something of a list
For us everyone has got to be involved and no one left disappointed
We think a lady in a couple looking to try her bi side , isnt going to get very far |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have met more than our fair share of unicorns
It help that mrs j is bi , and that doesnt mean fab bi
She previously had a girlfriend and has lived in a relationship with a girl
Lots see the unicorn thing as putting on a show for the boys , or ticking something of a list
For us everyone has got to be involved and no one left disappointed
We think a lady in a couple looking to try her bi side , isnt going to get very far "
Well that’s great for you and I think you’re in the minority. I am certainly not fab bi and have had sex with fems onlly……It ain’t that easy |
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"Hi guys we've been hunting for a unicorn for little while now after talking for a little while it sort of fizzles out and when we try to reconnect again its tough due to how popular the ladies are and it's a little difficult does anyone have any good tips for us "
Which of you talks to the woman?
Do the 2 women meet for a coffee chat? |
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You have had a good number of meets in what is a very short time. So, hopefully that puts your mind at ease that there are not aspects putting people off.
For FF play, you may wish to change the language from submissive to a bottom. In Venn diagram terms Unicorns are hard to find, if you’re looking for experienced Dommes the Venn gets even smaller. I suspect that you don’t really want a D/s dynamic anyway, given that you have one and it gets complicated given that you are looking for exploration meets. Consider looking for a fem top, and consider separate meets (with you in the house if you prefer), rather than a couple meet, as others have said it can smack of “putting a show on for the boys” or consider a Pro.
Best of luck!!
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Im not sure why people are saying it’s impossible. We have quite a few meets lined up and we are super picky. Our criteria is very niche. We also live in a tiny city in the north of Scotland so some people are driving 6+ hours to meet us.
My advice is stand out from the crowd. Offer something more than a cock and a vag. Attractive unicorns are getting offers to meet left, right and centre. Remember that your biggest sexual organ is your brain. What can you offer that others can’t? |
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A few thoughts;
-9 weeks isn't long at all to be looking and not finding.
- Some women are out off by the fem being bi curious. I know when I (Mrs) was a single female I wouldn't plan meets bi curious women as I'm here to enjoy myself not be a teacher. But also the curious side increases risk of them freaking out mid sex and I'm not about the drama.
- what's in it for the single fem from your meet? Seems to be it's about Alice and her curious side- what about the SFs needs and desires?
- Some single fems don't like the term unicorn either
I would still suggest a club, maybe a couple and SF event
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From the POV of a single female....
Far too many couples treat single ladies 'unicorns' as a commodity and not actual people. Lines like, we want to experiment, wife wants to explore bi side, we want an ffm. Most couples fail to address what they can offer a situation and are only interested in what they can take from a situation. Its like they're only interested in satisfying their own agenda with little regard for the solo lady.
This is the main reason why I don't usually bother replying to couples looking for a 'unicorn'. I am a person who has feeling, desires and things I'd like to take from situations. I'm not solely here for the entertainment of couples.
I know not every single couple will come across like that, but in my experience, a hell of a lot do. |
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By *aretobareCouple
over a year ago
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"A few thoughts;
-9 weeks isn't long at all to be looking and not finding.
- Some women are out off by the fem being bi curious. I know when I (Mrs) was a single female I wouldn't plan meets bi curious women as I'm here to enjoy myself not be a teacher. But also the curious side increases risk of them freaking out mid sex and I'm not about the drama.
- what's in it for the single fem from your meet? Seems to be it's about Alice and her curious side- what about the SFs needs and desires?
Very good point - We also think it is the way that most people approach it, being vaguely normal, friendly and making someone at ease where their needs will be your priority but also most importantly trust. It does help if you are already verified by a single woman as well
- Some single fems don't like the term unicorn either
I would still suggest a club, maybe a couple and SF event
K
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By *aretobareCouple
over a year ago
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"A few thoughts;
-9 weeks isn't long at all to be looking and not finding.
- Some women are out off by the fem being bi curious. I know when I (Mrs) was a single female I wouldn't plan meets bi curious women as I'm here to enjoy myself not be a teacher. But also the curious side increases risk of them freaking out mid sex and I'm not about the drama.
- what's in it for the single fem from your meet? Seems to be it's about Alice and her curious side- what about the SFs needs and desires?
Very good point - We also think it is the way that most people approach it, being vaguely normal, friendly and making someone at ease where their needs will be your priority but also most importantly trust. It does help if you are already verified by a single woman as well
- Some single fems don't like the term unicorn either
I would still suggest a club, maybe a couple and SF event
K
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By *aretobareCouple
over a year ago
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We also think it is the way that most people approach it, being vaguely normal, friendly and making someone at ease where their needs will be your priority but also most importantly trust. It does help if you are already verified by a single woman as well
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi guys we've been hunting for a unicorn for little while now after talking for a little while it sort of fizzles out and when we try to reconnect again its tough due to how popular the ladies are and it's a little difficult does anyone have any good tips for us "
Women playing with couples need to feel part of the dynamic rather than a sex toy for the other couple, if that makes sense? It's really important for us that everyone enjoys the shared experience and pleasure, perhaps think about your communication style and the words you're using - it's difficult to know how to pitch your messages right when you're just starting out, it was certainly a huge learning curve for us. Good luck to you on your Fab journey!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From the POV of a single female....
Far too many couples treat single ladies 'unicorns' as a commodity and not actual people. Lines like, we want to experiment, wife wants to explore bi side, we want an ffm. Most couples fail to address what they can offer a situation and are only interested in what they can take from a situation. Its like they're only interested in satisfying their own agenda with little regard for the solo lady.
This is the main reason why I don't usually bother replying to couples looking for a 'unicorn'. I am a person who has feeling, desires and things I'd like to take from situations. I'm not solely here for the entertainment of couples.
I know not every single couple will come across like that, but in my experience, a hell of a lot do."
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"Maybe think about your language “hunting for a unicorn”.
We are not here to be hunted for your benefit. It should be a mutual all round fun thing to do.
I’m not your prey "
You're making me rethink my username.
But yes, all of this. Along with the I don't find any joy in being part of a show for someone else or an experiment for someone who doesn't know what they're doing, personally.
As a single bi woman on here I am forever inundated with offers, and 99.97% of them are the same old boring drivel that gets lost in the sea of mediocrity. What do you offer that's different? How do you stand out from the ocean of bland noise? |
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Are you opposed to meeting ladies in a relationship who play alone? Or potentially even progressing enough in comfort and chemistry with a MF couple to the point where this might happen? I guess I'm wondering why it has to be a single woman specifically x |
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"I guess first point is you’ve only been around for 9 weeks so that’s not long in Fab terms.
It’s harder as you’ve got to find someone who is comfortable enough with two people to meet on their own.
It also comes across like you’re just looking for FF play which isn’t always what someone wants so you may limit your options.
Good luck. "
Adding to this you are looking for a Domme female...
Your pool of options become smaller with each requirement
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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago
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Don't know how guys have the energy to deal with two ladies, we have a female friend staying with us at the moment and between her and the missus they drain me dry.
Have spent the last week inviting male friends to help out and as my missus is quite demanding anyway, the more the merrier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We spent about 2 years or so looking for a woman to join us before it happened.
We chatted on here. On the other site which can’t be named. All the usual hookup and dating apps and clubs.
What took so long was finding the right fit. We didn’t want a ONS. We wanted a connection and ongoing meets. A friendship as well as kink.
It took a while and was absolutely worth it ! |
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We haven't had issues meeting women, but we don't look to meet generally.
"Hunting & Unicorn" can be off-putting to a lot of people it is kind of objectifying.
Generally women we've met we've generally just chatted and became friends if the sex happens great if it doesn't also great, a lot of women do feel (from previous threads) they can be seen as a performing monkey and their to fulfill someone else's fantasy, what's in it for them?
We have women join us so we can all enjoy the experience connection is hugely important we want everyone to have a great time.
As others have suggested clubs maybe a way forward although we've not done the clubs we do find the arranged socials much easier, it's better for me meeting at face value.
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"From the POV of a single female....
Far too many couples treat single ladies 'unicorns' as a commodity and not actual people. Lines like, we want to experiment, wife wants to explore bi side, we want an ffm. Most couples fail to address what they can offer a situation and are only interested in what they can take from a situation. Its like they're only interested in satisfying their own agenda with little regard for the solo lady.
This is the main reason why I don't usually bother replying to couples looking for a 'unicorn'. I am a person who has feeling, desires and things I'd like to take from situations. I'm not solely here for the entertainment of couples.
I know not every single couple will come across like that, but in my experience, a hell of a lot do."
Nail on head
Sorry to be harsh but I would have zero interest in holding someone’s hand and walking them through an experience (that they might suddenly decide is not for them), basically to please their partner / boost their sex life. It’s objectifying and boring. No thanks. |
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I guess its been said, but its worth repeating...
There is no such thing as a "Unicorn", by which I mean ladies who like to play with couples are not rare.
Go to any swinging club, or organised social, and the majority of the ladies will be bi, or at least curious.
The problem starts when you treat them like some sort of "trophy" to be hunted, rather than as a person with their own wants and needs.
We've never played with a unicorn, however we have played with quite a few of our friends who, it just so happens, are single, female and bi.
And if you still dont get it, notice we used the "F" word...try it, and I guarantee you will have a lot more of the fun you seek.  |
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"Maybe think about your language “hunting for a unicorn”.
We are not here to be hunted for your benefit. It should be a mutual all round fun thing to do.
I’m not your prey "
Oh, but you are. They take your head for the taxidermist afterwards.  |
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I’ve been a unicorn and I agree with a lot of the advice above.
If I were thinking about meeting you, I’d be wondering whether I’d end up “doing sex” to a very passive, inexperienced woman.
If I were in a club, I’d be much more likely to do it - I could spend half an hour doing lovely things to a newbie, then move on and get it on with other people.
Giving up on a club after just a couple of visits is a bit premature.
All the best. X |
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"" Unicorn " ??? classy ?"
Sorry ? What do you mean by that ?
‘Unicorn’ in the swinging scene is not a derogative term at all it means a girl / woman that wants to be sexually involved in both the female and male half of a couple
Are you inferring using the term Unicorn isn’t classy or being a Unicorn isn’t classy?
Whichever shows your lack of knowledge about the scene …….
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"" Unicorn " ??? classy ?
Sorry ? What do you mean by that ?
‘Unicorn’ in the swinging scene is not a derogative term at all it means a girl / woman that wants to be sexually involved in both the female and male half of a couple
Are you inferring using the term Unicorn isn’t classy or being a Unicorn isn’t classy?
Whichever shows your lack of knowledge about the scene …….
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It’s the ‘hunting’ part (and the requirement to double top someone’s first bi experience if you delve further into the profile) I take more issue with. |
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"" Unicorn " ??? classy ?
Sorry ? What do you mean by that ?
‘Unicorn’ in the swinging scene is not a derogative term at all it means a girl / woman that wants to be sexually involved in both the female and male half of a couple
Are you inferring using the term Unicorn isn’t classy or being a Unicorn isn’t classy?
Whichever shows your lack of knowledge about the scene …….
It’s the ‘hunting’ part (and the requirement to double top someone’s first bi experience if you delve further into the profile) I take more issue with. "
They are quite new , fab etiquette is learned
My issue wasn’t with them , more the gent who seems to think Unicorn term isn’t classy ? |
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"" Unicorn " ??? classy ?
Sorry ? What do you mean by that ?
‘Unicorn’ in the swinging scene is not a derogative term at all it means a girl / woman that wants to be sexually involved in both the female and male half of a couple
Are you inferring using the term Unicorn isn’t classy or being a Unicorn isn’t classy?
Whichever shows your lack of knowledge about the scene …….
It’s the ‘hunting’ part (and the requirement to double top someone’s first bi experience if you delve further into the profile) I take more issue with.
They are quite new , fab etiquette is learned
My issue wasn’t with them , more the gent who seems to think Unicorn term isn’t classy ? "
Ah, got you. Apologies. |
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"" Unicorn " ??? classy ?
Sorry ? What do you mean by that ?
‘Unicorn’ in the swinging scene is not a derogative term at all it means a girl / woman that wants to be sexually involved in both the female and male half of a couple
Are you inferring using the term Unicorn isn’t classy or being a Unicorn isn’t classy?
Whichever shows your lack of knowledge about the scene …….
It’s the ‘hunting’ part (and the requirement to double top someone’s first bi experience if you delve further into the profile) I take more issue with.
They are quite new , fab etiquette is learned
My issue wasn’t with them , more the gent who seems to think Unicorn term isn’t classy ?
Ah, got you. Apologies."
No worries hun |
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"There's people who will find offence in anything.
My best advice is to stop hunting, you'll find them naturally when the stars align.
Love this ! And love your pics  "
Thank you, I'll make sure the boss knows being they're mostly her  |
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Definitely about the clubs.
I don’t meet couples on here, but play with them in clubs.
Sounds like you need to attend a better event/ club if you found it clicky! Keep trying, every event and host is different x |
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"There's people who will find offence in anything.
My best advice is to stop hunting, you'll find them naturally when the stars align.
Love this ! And love your pics
Thank you, I'll make sure the boss knows being they're mostly her "
Well from one girl to another - stunning |
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"There's people who will find offence in anything.
My best advice is to stop hunting, you'll find them naturally when the stars align.
Love this ! And love your pics
Thank you, I'll make sure the boss knows being they're mostly her
Well from one girl to another - stunning "
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"Hi guys we've been hunting for a unicorn for little while now after talking for a little while it sort of fizzles out and when we try to reconnect again its tough due to how popular the ladies are and it's a little difficult does anyone have any good tips for us "
Quite fussy profile, that will limit you. |
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"Hi guys we've been hunting for a unicorn for little while now after talking for a little while it sort of fizzles out and when we try to reconnect again its tough due to how popular the ladies are and it's a little difficult does anyone have any good tips for us
Quite fussy profile, that will limit you. "
Im jumping on the OP’s defence here - how is their profile fussy ?
Their age preferences are greater than most , they aren’t just looking for single fems but couples too
In their profile text they are very clear and open about likes and how they like to play ?
Only thing that you as a man could find to make them fussy is that the girl doesn’t want a guy to go down on here which is their choice and as they aren’t looking for single guys does that make them fussy too ?
I don’t get what you mean ? |
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Depends what you think of as a unicorn.
We have met single ladies and ladies who are part of a couple.
We meet a couple and then I join them both as a single lady and in return the lady of that couple meets alone with Paul and I.
Done this a few times.
I've also met single guys with this lady.
All initial meetings have been from clubs, swingers weekend hotel meets, parties and from swingers holiday meets in Cap D'Agde and PDI.
Just chat to folks you meet, tell them what floats your boat.
They can only say no...plenty do, but keep trying.
Have fun with your search. |
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We have realised it won’t happen, not enough ladies on here, and a lot of couple after those few, so we are focusing more on cam fun, and thinking of some same room fun with a couple where the ladies get to play, but not there yet.
We have had some success in xtasia but wanted to find a lady for something a bit more sensual and intimate, but as I said cam fun and our imagination is where we are whilst gain confidence to then explore further. |
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In club's is where we've met and had fun with single Ladies. But not the nights where it's only couples and singles Ladies, rather the mixed nights where you'll find more single Ladies and many will join couples. |
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"In club's is where we've met and had fun with single Ladies. But not the nights where it's only couples and singles Ladies, rather the mixed nights where you'll find more single Ladies and many will join couples."
Same as us. Clubs are the best place to meet people. Plenty of lovely single women in clubs and many we class as really good friends. |
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"Sorry for my ignorance, what is meant by a unicorn?
A unicorn is a single female - that plays with couples "
So this is exactly what I was wondering. Would it matter if the other female joined you from being in a couple?! I know Eowyn would be interested in trying this but it sounds like 'Unicorn' applies to single ladies only for many.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry for my ignorance, what is meant by a unicorn?
A unicorn is a single female - that plays with couples
So this is exactly what I was wondering. Would it matter if the other female joined you from being in a couple?! I know Eowyn would be interested in trying this but it sounds like 'Unicorn' applies to single ladies only for many.
Hopper"
Good point. Could that be because if the lady is from a couple, then the possibility of her wanting her partner there then maybe an issue? Or maybe people think they have more ‘liberty’ with a single lady - can develop more of a long term regular situation? |
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"Sorry for my ignorance, what is meant by a unicorn?
A unicorn is a single female - that plays with couples
So this is exactly what I was wondering. Would it matter if the other female joined you from being in a couple?! I know Eowyn would be interested in trying this but it sounds like 'Unicorn' applies to single ladies only for many.
Hopper"
I think a woman from a couple meeting alone would be the same, wouldn't bother us at all.
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"Sorry for my ignorance, what is meant by a unicorn?
A unicorn is a single female - that plays with couples
So this is exactly what I was wondering. Would it matter if the other female joined you from being in a couple?! I know Eowyn would be interested in trying this but it sounds like 'Unicorn' applies to single ladies only for many.
Hopper"
Wouldn't bother us any if a female had a partner, so long as he was aware and ok with it.
Thats a personal preference though
MrsAbz |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Our FFMs have come from having threesomes with the female from couples. This has worked well for us and is a reciprocal arrangement. Sometimes we go out with the wife from a couple as a threesome and have fun and then Mrs does the same in return. |
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"Hi guys we've been hunting for a unicorn for little while now after talking for a little while it sort of fizzles out and when we try to reconnect again its tough due to how popular the ladies are and it's a little difficult does anyone have any good tips for us "
I general I don't think women like to be "hunted". It makes it sound like you are looking for your own benefit and not for theirs. It's not going to make women feel safe.
I think we are a very (maybe even below) average couple and pretty vanilla. We have never had any shortage of ladies interested in us, ranging from occasional text chats on here to full-on bedroom action. I think that's because we prioritise making friends over getting laid. We only get to know people because we like them. If we or they don't want anything sexual to happen, that doesn't stop us from being friends. We have no agenda beyond that.
Women often feel comfortable around us because it's not about trying to get into their pants. What has ended up happening is that this community being this community, those circumstances lead to doors opening.
We've literally never tried to find a unicorn, but it's happened and we've had more offers than we would really consider actually following through with. |
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My experience of being a unicorn the entire last decade in both clubs and hotel/ private meets.
Only one couple made it about me, the guy didn’t play at all and it was the best sex I’ve ever had.
Every other couple I played with and there where about 20/30 of them it was me showing them the ropes, me making sure the woman of the couple was comfortable, it was me being mindful that I am entering into their sexual relationships, it was always about them. I became a dominant woman (a top) but all I wanted was a woman to treat me like an equal and for her to show me a few tricks herself. It never happened other than the one couple that I mentioned first.
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We also look to meet people on a social level without pressure or hidden agendas. When we've been with a single lady, we definitely make it about her (I make it about both ladies being totally comfortable) rather than just what we can get out of it as we appreciate that she is joining us but also we are joining her!
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"My experience of being a unicorn the entire last decade in both clubs and hotel/ private meets.
Only one couple made it about me, the guy didn’t play at all and it was the best sex I’ve ever had.
Every other couple I played with and there where about 20/30 of them it was me showing them the ropes, me making sure the woman of the couple was comfortable, it was me being mindful that I am entering into their sexual relationships, it was always about them. I became a dominant woman (a top) but all I wanted was a woman to treat me like an equal and for her to show me a few tricks herself. It never happened other than the one couple that I mentioned first.
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Do you think it makes a difference if the female of the couple has been a unicorn before? Hence she is aware of how it feels?
I'm always intrigued as I see such negative comments regarding ffm/couples and it is depressing.
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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago
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"My experience of being a unicorn the entire last decade in both clubs and hotel/ private meets.
Only one couple made it about me, the guy didn’t play at all and it was the best sex I’ve ever had.
Every other couple I played with and there where about 20/30 of them it was me showing them the ropes, me making sure the woman of the couple was comfortable, it was me being mindful that I am entering into their sexual relationships, it was always about them. I became a dominant woman (a top) but all I wanted was a woman to treat me like an equal and for her to show me a few tricks herself. It never happened other than the one couple that I mentioned first.
Do you think it makes a difference if the female of the couple has been a unicorn before? Hence she is aware of how it feels?
I'm always intrigued as I see such negative comments regarding ffm/couples and it is depressing.
MrsAbz "
There are a lot of negative comments about ffm/couples. My own experiences have never really been good with them. Assuming a lot of others are the same. Sadly i could list many examples.
Said in other posts on the, messages, posts, chat. Lines like "hunting for a unicorn" "looking for a female to share" etc etc. "Looking for female for my wife/partner to explore her bi side" can't she look for herself? Is always my thought.
Seems that so many couples, its the guy driving the looking not the woman. Understand why we feel reluctant to engage and giving reasons why is seen as being very negative. Just my thoughts |
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"My experience of being a unicorn the entire last decade in both clubs and hotel/ private meets.
Only one couple made it about me, the guy didn’t play at all and it was the best sex I’ve ever had.
Every other couple I played with and there where about 20/30 of them it was me showing them the ropes, me making sure the woman of the couple was comfortable, it was me being mindful that I am entering into their sexual relationships, it was always about them. I became a dominant woman (a top) but all I wanted was a woman to treat me like an equal and for her to show me a few tricks herself. It never happened other than the one couple that I mentioned first.
Do you think it makes a difference if the female of the couple has been a unicorn before? Hence she is aware of how it feels?
I'm always intrigued as I see such negative comments regarding ffm/couples and it is depressing.
MrsAbz
There are a lot of negative comments about ffm/couples. My own experiences have never really been good with them. Assuming a lot of others are the same. Sadly i could list many examples.
Said in other posts on the, messages, posts, chat. Lines like "hunting for a unicorn" "looking for a female to share" etc etc. "Looking for female for my wife/partner to explore her bi side" can't she look for herself? Is always my thought.
Seems that so many couples, its the guy driving the looking not the woman. Understand why we feel reluctant to engage and giving reasons why is seen as being very negative. Just my thoughts"
Oh I don't disagree with your experience and I understand it is frustrating and disappointing.
It is good to get different perspectives though, so thanks for the repsonse I guess my experience as both unicorn and as a couple, have just fortunately been positive and thus it is disappointing to see so many negative experiences posted.
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Ive been a unicorn from 2010-13 and now for about a year. Its completely different times. The first time, i was meeting most of the time was easy to get a meet as people turned up when they said and were genuine swingers.
This time around it feels like quite a few people are people trying to cheat of their wives or people who just stand you up.
Ive been stood up more times than meets ive had and its fusterating to the point ive almost come off the site altogether. I know there is geuine people on still as ive met a few but its just harder to find this time around. |
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"Ive been a unicorn from 2010-13 and now for about a year. Its completely different times. The first time, i was meeting most of the time was easy to get a meet as people turned up when they said and were genuine swingers.
This time around it feels like quite a few people are people trying to cheat of their wives or people who just stand you up.
Ive been stood up more times than meets ive had and its fusterating to the point ive almost come off the site altogether. I know there is geuine people on still as ive met a few but its just harder to find this time around."
Maybe that is what the difference is? Its been a long time since I wasn't part of the couple and times have changed a lot.
I do agree on the men trying to cheat or sometimes the women being less into it etc (always put the brakes on that scenario too).
Good luck in finding what suits you and turns up!
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"Maybe think about your language “hunting for a unicorn”.
We are not here to be hunted for your benefit. It should be a mutual all round fun thing to do.
I’m not your prey "
Couldn't have put it any better x
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
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Honestly OP, your bio read's to me as said 'unicorn' would be responsible for your pleasure and guide you through the experience, but with little mentioned that is to their benefit/pleasure, a touch 'pillow princess' as experienced before and left me a little disappointed.
Mostly feel I get more from the women and frankly dived (ahem!) straight into the experience giving as I received.
Just my thoughts. Mrs x |
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"My experience of being a unicorn the entire last decade in both clubs and hotel/ private meets.
Only one couple made it about me, the guy didn’t play at all and it was the best sex I’ve ever had.
Every other couple I played with and there where about 20/30 of them it was me showing them the ropes, me making sure the woman of the couple was comfortable, it was me being mindful that I am entering into their sexual relationships, it was always about them. I became a dominant woman (a top) but all I wanted was a woman to treat me like an equal and for her to show me a few tricks herself. It never happened other than the one couple that I mentioned first.
Do you think it makes a difference if the female of the couple has been a unicorn before? Hence she is aware of how it feels?
I'm always intrigued as I see such negative comments regarding ffm/couples and it is depressing.
MrsAbz "
I think it makes a world of difference if she’s done it herself.
I don’t mind guiding the odd Newbie but this time around I’d like an equal experiences with women where we both get lost in each other for however long the meets last.
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"My experience of being a unicorn the entire last decade in both clubs and hotel/ private meets.
Only one couple made it about me, the guy didn’t play at all and it was the best sex I’ve ever had.
Every other couple I played with and there where about 20/30 of them it was me showing them the ropes, me making sure the woman of the couple was comfortable, it was me being mindful that I am entering into their sexual relationships, it was always about them. I became a dominant woman (a top) but all I wanted was a woman to treat me like an equal and for her to show me a few tricks herself. It never happened other than the one couple that I mentioned first.
Do you think it makes a difference if the female of the couple has been a unicorn before? Hence she is aware of how it feels?
I'm always intrigued as I see such negative comments regarding ffm/couples and it is depressing.
MrsAbz
I think it makes a world of difference if she’s done it herself.
I don’t mind guiding the odd Newbie but this time around I’d like an equal experiences with women where we both get lost in each other for however long the meets last.
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Absolutely understandable of you to feel that way. I'd feel the same way if I had the same experiences.
Wish you all the luck in finding the right womam to get lost in and thanks for the insight and reasoned debate
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Lots of discussion and opinions above.
We’ve been lucky and met our fair share of single bi ladies. (Not unicorns, no offence)
We’ve just found that making friends first and ensuring that they’re included and feel safe is the best thing.
We’ve made some great friends that have come to play and stay multiple times.
Treating any person as a prize or trophy is never going to end well. But letting people be themselves and feel equally involved in any situation will always reward all.. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"I dislike the word unicorn "
We do too, and wouldn’t use it ourselves…but there are plenty of women on here who like the term and use it to define how they present themselves on Fab, so it’s each to there own. |
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We have helped a few couples experience MFF with K joining them as the unicorn and I've just watched or only played with K at the end.
This is often a good route to go down.
If this interests any north east couples looking for a unicorn then get in touch x
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"Hi guys we've been hunting for a unicorn for little while now after talking for a little while it sort of fizzles out and when we try to reconnect again its tough due to how popular the ladies are and it's a little difficult does anyone have any good tips for us
Sorry but this made me laugh
You will have no chance on here, remember unicorns don’t exist. Best advice go to a club and even then it’s not a given "
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"We have realised it won’t happen, not enough ladies on here, and a lot of couple after those few, so we are focusing more on cam fun, and thinking of some same room fun with a couple where the ladies get to play, but not there yet.
We have had some success in xtasia but wanted to find a lady for something a bit more sensual and intimate, but as I said cam fun and our imagination is where we are whilst gain confidence to then explore further."
Not enough ladies?
Try the organised socials, the majority of single and attached ladies at events like these are bi, or at least curious. |
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"Lots of discussion and opinions above.
We’ve been lucky and met our fair share of single bi ladies. (Not unicorns, no offence)
We’ve just found that making friends first and ensuring that they’re included and feel safe is the best thing.
We’ve made some great friends that have come to play and stay multiple times.
Treating any person as a prize or trophy is never going to end well. But letting people be themselves and feel equally involved in any situation will always reward all.. "
Absolutely this. I will always be more inclined to play with a couple if they make an effort to chat first. Whatsapp group messages are great for this x |
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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago
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"Hi guys we've been hunting for a unicorn for little while now after talking for a little while it sort of fizzles out and when we try to reconnect again its tough due to how popular the ladies are and it's a little difficult does anyone have any good tips for us "
"Unicorn" everyone's heard of it , but no ones seen one ?? |
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"Hi guys we've been hunting for a unicorn for little while now after talking for a little while it sort of fizzles out and when we try to reconnect again its tough due to how popular the ladies are and it's a little difficult does anyone have any good tips for us
"Unicorn" everyone's heard of it , but no ones seen one ??"
"Single Ladies", we've seen and played with a few! |
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"My experience of being a unicorn the entire last decade in both clubs and hotel/ private meets.
Only one couple made it about me, the guy didn’t play at all and it was the best sex I’ve ever had.
Every other couple I played with and there where about 20/30 of them it was me showing them the ropes, me making sure the woman of the couple was comfortable, it was me being mindful that I am entering into their sexual relationships, it was always about them. I became a dominant woman (a top) but all I wanted was a woman to treat me like an equal and for her to show me a few tricks herself. It never happened other than the one couple that I mentioned first.
Do you think it makes a difference if the female of the couple has been a unicorn before? Hence she is aware of how it feels?
I'm always intrigued as I see such negative comments regarding ffm/couples and it is depressing.
MrsAbz
I think it makes a world of difference if she’s done it herself.
I don’t mind guiding the odd Newbie but this time around I’d like an equal experiences with women where we both get lost in each other for however long the meets last.
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Karen doesn't mind guiding a couple to experience thier first MFF. she's enjoys taking the lead a is amazing and loves licking pussy and sucking cock to help the couple relax.
Even before we met in her younger days long before swinging when she was single at University she often help couples she met by having a MFF threesomes with them as she's always enjoy joining a couple for sex with them both x
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Clubs can seem cliquey as you say but we have found the more you go, the more people recognise you and before you know it, you've gone from sitting in a corner to being able to walk around, saying hello, maybe playing etc. It's like anywhere new, especially if you (not saying you are) a little shy.
We've been on fab for 8 years, we have met a couple of single females/unicorns (whatever term you like to use) but overall it's a bit like being a single male when trying to find a single female, like many have said above, there are two in the couple and one of them.
Personally for us, we would prefer to meet a female for a social, become friends and then move on to the next step if she so wishes, so it flows between the three of us and we certainly wouldn't want her to feel like she was just there to "tick a box" her pleasure etc is, I would say more paramount than ours, I would hate to think a lady has joined us and felt like we had used her for our own enjoyment.
That said, as we are a larger couple and not for everyone, it's slightly harder for us.
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