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By *igeress66 OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxford

I’m a regular club goer and enjoy lots of fun there.

I have found recently that many guys don’t have condoms and some don’t want to use them. Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

It just seems really one sided and rather than having mutual fun it’s just one sided and I feel used.

In future I’m not going to play with any guy who doesn’t have or is not willing to use a condom and indulge in joint pleasure.

Btw I do have a bag of condoms with me.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?

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By *oulou22Woman  over a year ago

Sutton

I'm going to go with too cheap, embarrassed to buy them and too immature to be having sex

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By *rDJ40Man  over a year ago

Nuneaton

I always carry them, what do they think might happen at a swingers club?! Plus if I have my own I know they’ll be comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yep, always have them. Very handy for a posh wank

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By *apa_smurfMan  over a year ago

Swindon

when I go to a club I always carry latex-free ones, would never dream of going to the club without bringing anything I see it as being irresponsible

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple  over a year ago

Stockport

We turn up with lots , and we mean 20 or 30

And sometimes we run out

When your going from partner to play mate , condom off for a bj , you go through plenty

Once there were 7 of us in a room at purple mamba

We exhausted our supply and we all had plenty

Used everything that was in a bowl on the side

And then single guys who were at the door watching, were supplying them to us

They obviously didn't want the show to stop

And as for not using them ?

From a guys point of view , and im not saying forget sti,s , but if someone one said your welcome to enjoy my partener , here's a condom

I wouldn't be walking away lol

We sometimes think that guys use the , i dont like using a condom , as a get out of jail free card for can we say , any performance issues that they might have

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By *ny1localMan  over a year ago

READING

Clubs should have a role of industrial strength cling film on the walls for emergency use if no condoms available

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?"

If "safety comes first" why are you giving BJs without a condom?!

Sucking cock bareback is *not* safe sex.

Eating pussy bareback is *not* safe sex.

Getting a facial is *not* safe sex.

Suggestion is to use a femidom, you don't need to ask if they have a condom, you don't need to ensure they keep it on, if you suck cock bareback then there is no condom to take off/swap, if there is more than one pussy involved you don't need to ensure condoms are changed between pussies. Use dams for anyone eating your pussy and change them between different mouths or if the mouth changes to another pussy and back to yours.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple  over a year ago

Weymouth


"Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?

If "safety comes first" why are you giving BJs without a condom?!

Sucking cock bareback is *not* safe sex.

Eating pussy bareback is *not* safe sex.

Getting a facial is *not* safe sex.

Suggestion is to use a femidom, you don't need to ask if they have a condom, you don't need to ensure they keep it on, if you suck cock bareback then there is no condom to take off/swap, if there is more than one pussy involved you don't need to ensure condoms are changed between pussies. Use dams for anyone eating your pussy and change them between different mouths or if the mouth changes to another pussy and back to yours."

Am I missing something when it comes to "safe sex" profiles that give BJs without a condom? Always confuses me

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Safe sex always for us! There’s no excuse for buying a pack of condoms. I know it doesn’t feel as good as bare but health comes first

Mr

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By *urvyBi-84Man  over a year ago

Lancs


"I’m a regular club goer and enjoy lots of fun there.

I have found recently that many guys don’t have condoms and some don’t want to use them. Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

It just seems really one sided and rather than having mutual fun it’s just one sided and I feel used.

In future I’m not going to play with any guy who doesn’t have or is not willing to use a condom and indulge in joint pleasure.

Btw I do have a bag of condoms with me.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?"

I’ve noticed this when meeting guys at bi events. A lot of them either don’t have any or may have one tucked into the wristband of their locker key. I’ve also become extremely cautious of private meets with some men for the same reason.

For me safe sex is non-negotiable, so I aways have a little bag with some condoms and lube with me.

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By *irenHotandColdCouple  over a year ago

Cirencester

It's a joint responsibility

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By *imply DeeWoman  over a year ago

Wherever

Bareback chancers, if you ask me.

Total turn off by the way.

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By *omtom7Man  over a year ago

Tralee

Because a lot of men are morons

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By *odkajemWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool

"but they are happy to ask for a bj.

It just seems really one sided and rather than having mutual fun it’s just one sided and I feel used."

Of course they are!! They're selfish, don't care about anything other than themselves and you're giving them what they want anyway!!

It doesn't seem, it IS one sided.

You ARE being used. Not only that, you're rewarding shitty, selfish men who obviously have bareback with others so your sti risk is massively higher, definitely stop it for all these reasons and watch your mental health improve!

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By *ewey613Man  over a year ago

ottawa

I have learned much over the years.

As a teen and in my 20’s I had the view that not having one might lead to bareback, and if she ends up insisting, I can always find one somewhere.

Now I always have one so that on the rare chance i meet someone and get to the point we need one, she might feel more comfortable and respected if she didn’t have to tell me to put one on.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It’s basically my job to sort out condoms and lube. It’s an important part of it all, and an important responsibility - I don’t want Sophie to get something or be hurt in any way (other than what she wants!).

We normally get ours form Amazon - Skyn Intense Feel do the trick as do Pasante Kings Size for the big boys

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By *itty9899Man  over a year ago

Craggy Island

I always take some with me.

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By *erry bull1Man  over a year ago

doncaster

I always carry condoms and lube

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By *lexV16Man  over a year ago

Welling

#notallguys

You must be very “lucky” OP to bump into these who has no condoms with them. All my mates single or partnered, not even at a club has a condom to hand as you never know what life holds for you round the corner

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By *anDare70Man  over a year ago

kirkby


"Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?

If "safety comes first" why are you giving BJs without a condom?!

Sucking cock bareback is *not* safe sex.

Eating pussy bareback is *not* safe sex.

Getting a facial is *not* safe sex.

Suggestion is to use a femidom, you don't need to ask if they have a condom, you don't need to ensure they keep it on, if you suck cock bareback then there is no condom to take off/swap, if there is more than one pussy involved you don't need to ensure condoms are changed between pussies. Use dams for anyone eating your pussy and change them between different mouths or if the mouth changes to another pussy and back to yours.

Am I missing something when it comes to "safe sex" profiles that give BJs without a condom? Always confuses me "

You make a fair point.

I guess the thinking is the penetrative sex causes more abrasions to thin membranes which allow bacteria and viruses to penetrate more easily.

The mouth is rather more used to mechanical movement.

I guess we don’t taste with other openings

But you do have a point and a condom can be turned into a dental dam

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By *atandasmileMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh

I remember being caught on the hop once going to a club in Wales. The two clubs I've frequented in Scotland (CJ's and after eight / after dark) both provided condoms (easily accessible in bowls in the rooms). I'd come to think of it as standard practice.

Luckily the club sold them at the desk and I bought a few before heading in to have a great evening.

The experience taught me that attitudes to condoms seem to be locally dependent and from then on I've always checked in advance.

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By *onnoisseur100Man  over a year ago

Woking-ish

This guy always has some..... and no you cant borrow one.

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By *r-8-BBCMan  over a year ago

LONDON

So you'd suck a guy off without a condom but safety comes first

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By *estinysswingersCouple  over a year ago

Worsley

We’ve been asked loads for condoms over the years. We always have plenty with us.

If we’re feeling generous we’ll oblige and give one.

If we’re feeling cruel then you’re walking back to the bar / your locker.

90% of the time it’s the latter.

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By *omtom7Man  over a year ago

Tralee


"We’ve been asked loads for condoms over the years. We always have plenty with us.

If we’re feeling generous we’ll oblige and give one.

If we’re feeling cruel then you’re walking back to the bar / your locker.

90% of the time it’s the latter. "

Oh that's just mean,

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By *d4fun73Man  over a year ago

Shipley

I always take some!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m a regular club goer and enjoy lots of fun there.

I have found recently that many guys don’t have condoms and some don’t want to use them. Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

It just seems really one sided and rather than having mutual fun it’s just one sided and I feel used.

In future I’m not going to play with any guy who doesn’t have or is not willing to use a condom and indulge in joint pleasure.

Btw I do have a bag of condoms with me.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?"

Thats just bazaar if someone isn't going to care about there own sexual health then how can you trust they are going to care about others, yes of course without a condom feels better but would never risk it with a stranger that I've only just met in a club, I always carry 2 with me and have plenty in my locker when at a club, would never expect the lady to have to have them nore have I ever come across a lady with them but good on you for having some with you

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS  over a year ago

Bristol.


"So you'd suck a guy off without a condom but safety comes first "

You have to admit, the risk is minimal..I mean who uses a condom for a blow job or dental dam for oral?( most people wouldn't know what the latter is lol).

Ever since I can remember this accusation has been thrown at men, and yes some of us are irresponsible, but is this not a shared responsibility?

I find the easiest way, when I want to use protection is to provide it, I do realise not everyone thinks this way..

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m a regular club goer and enjoy lots of fun there.

I have found recently that many guys don’t have condoms and some don’t want to use them. Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

It just seems really one sided and rather than having mutual fun it’s just one sided and I feel used.

In future I’m not going to play with any guy who doesn’t have or is not willing to use a condom and indulge in joint pleasure.

Btw I do have a bag of condoms with me.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?"

I thought most clubs provided. Gay bars used to until funding cuts

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS  over a year ago

Bristol.


"I’m a regular club goer and enjoy lots of fun there.

I have found recently that many guys don’t have condoms and some don’t want to use them. Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

It just seems really one sided and rather than having mutual fun it’s just one sided and I feel used.

In future I’m not going to play with any guy who doesn’t have or is not willing to use a condom and indulge in joint pleasure.

Btw I do have a bag of condoms with me.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?

I thought most clubs provided. Gay bars used to until funding cuts "

With the cost of admission etc, surely clubs provide such basic essentials..even if it's a donation to the local clinic etc.

We are all in this together..

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By *olymalelincsMan  over a year ago

southend

Not a clue why other guys are not carrying condoms but I personally wouldn't consider going to a club or meet without them, as other have said in comments above it's just plain irresponsible.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple  over a year ago

Weymouth


"So you'd suck a guy off without a condom but safety comes first "

Nobody can give me a hard and fast explanation for this, but plenty are quick to slag off those who play bare with selective people but get checked

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS  over a year ago

Bristol.


"Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?

If "safety comes first" why are you giving BJs without a condom?!

Sucking cock bareback is *not* safe sex.

Eating pussy bareback is *not* safe sex.

Getting a facial is *not* safe sex.

Suggestion is to use a femidom, you don't need to ask if they have a condom, you don't need to ensure they keep it on, if you suck cock bareback then there is no condom to take off/swap, if there is more than one pussy involved you don't need to ensure condoms are changed between pussies. Use dams for anyone eating your pussy and change them between different mouths or if the mouth changes to another pussy and back to yours.

Am I missing something when it comes to "safe sex" profiles that give BJs without a condom? Always confuses me "

I believe the term is safer sex..

My own experience suggests it's extremely rare to find anyone that uses a condom for a blow job and many people refuse too.

The risk is relatively low hence safer.

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman  over a year ago

Hertfordshire

If they're not carrying condoms and are refusing to use the ones offered, I will tell them to jog on. Wouldn't be getting anything from me.

As the old saying goes; No glove, no love. x

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By *ovis and GreeneyesCouple  over a year ago

Swansea


"I’m a regular club goer and enjoy lots of fun there.

I have found recently that many guys don’t have condoms and some don’t want to use them. Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

It just seems really one sided and rather than having mutual fun it’s just one sided and I feel used.

In future I’m not going to play with any guy who doesn’t have or is not willing to use a condom and indulge in joint pleasure.

Btw I do have a bag of condoms with me.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?"

No glove no love, always been our policy

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?

If "safety comes first" why are you giving BJs without a condom?!

Sucking cock bareback is *not* safe sex.

Eating pussy bareback is *not* safe sex.

Getting a facial is *not* safe sex.

Suggestion is to use a femidom, you don't need to ask if they have a condom, you don't need to ensure they keep it on, if you suck cock bareback then there is no condom to take off/swap, if there is more than one pussy involved you don't need to ensure condoms are changed between pussies. Use dams for anyone eating your pussy and change them between different mouths or if the mouth changes to another pussy and back to yours.

Am I missing something when it comes to "safe sex" profiles that give BJs without a condom? Always confuses me

You make a fair point.

I guess the thinking is the penetrative sex causes more abrasions to thin membranes which allow bacteria and viruses to penetrate more easily.

The mouth is rather more used to mechanical movement.

I guess we don’t taste with other openings

But you do have a point and a condom can be turned into a dental dam"

Teeth in contact with a pussy or cock, or fingernails in a pussy create orders of magnitude more abrasions than a cock in a pussy.

Anyone who is serious about "safe sex" will insist on using a condom for sucking cock and a dam for licking pussy. If all they do is insist on a condom on on a cock if it is inside a pussy/ass they are only paying lip service and playing dress-up.

We see women and couples in clubs that are perfectly happy for the condom covered cock to pull out, take off the condom and then give a facial or cum all over the woman's ass/pussy. But they are *safe* because while the cock was inside it was in a condom.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?

If "safety comes first" why are you giving BJs without a condom?!

Sucking cock bareback is *not* safe sex.

Eating pussy bareback is *not* safe sex.

Getting a facial is *not* safe sex.

Suggestion is to use a femidom, you don't need to ask if they have a condom, you don't need to ensure they keep it on, if you suck cock bareback then there is no condom to take off/swap, if there is more than one pussy involved you don't need to ensure condoms are changed between pussies. Use dams for anyone eating your pussy and change them between different mouths or if the mouth changes to another pussy and back to yours.

Am I missing something when it comes to "safe sex" profiles that give BJs without a condom? Always confuses me

You make a fair point.

I guess the thinking is the penetrative sex causes more abrasions to thin membranes which allow bacteria and viruses to penetrate more easily.

The mouth is rather more used to mechanical movement.

I guess we don’t taste with other openings

But you do have a point and a condom can be turned into a dental dam"

As a doctor I would like to say that putting your dick in someone's mouth can give them an STI, same as licking pussy.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?

If "safety comes first" why are you giving BJs without a condom?!

Sucking cock bareback is *not* safe sex.

Eating pussy bareback is *not* safe sex.

Getting a facial is *not* safe sex.

Suggestion is to use a femidom, you don't need to ask if they have a condom, you don't need to ensure they keep it on, if you suck cock bareback then there is no condom to take off/swap, if there is more than one pussy involved you don't need to ensure condoms are changed between pussies. Use dams for anyone eating your pussy and change them between different mouths or if the mouth changes to another pussy and back to yours.

Am I missing something when it comes to "safe sex" profiles that give BJs without a condom? Always confuses me

You make a fair point.

I guess the thinking is the penetrative sex causes more abrasions to thin membranes which allow bacteria and viruses to penetrate more easily.

The mouth is rather more used to mechanical movement.

I guess we don’t taste with other openings

But you do have a point and a condom can be turned into a dental dam

Teeth in contact with a pussy or cock, or fingernails in a pussy create orders of magnitude more abrasions than a cock in a pussy.

Anyone who is serious about "safe sex" will insist on using a condom for sucking cock and a dam for licking pussy. If all they do is insist on a condom on on a cock if it is inside a pussy/ass they are only paying lip service and playing dress-up.

We see women and couples in clubs that are perfectly happy for the condom covered cock to pull out, take off the condom and then give a facial or cum all over the woman's ass/pussy. But they are *safe* because while the cock was inside it was in a condom."

I got messaged by a woman off here a few days ago calling me a moron for advocating for safe sex.

I work in blood sciences and so many people think dick in pussy is the only way to get am sti. If that was the case how do gay women pass on STIs to other Gay women.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I always carry lots, but if a guy has none at all, he doesn't get any fun with me at all. I understand a guy running out mid play and then I'll happily supply.

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS  over a year ago

stockport

Sucking cocks with a condom is like sucking a sweet with the wrapper on.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Sucking cocks with a condom is like sucking a sweet with the wrapper on.

"

I agree. But I'd rather that than catch something

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By *lex.and.SexCouple  over a year ago

Bedale

*Sigh*

So once again we descend down the same circlejerk.

Is there a non-zero risk of an STI if you give a BJ/Eat pussy without protection - Yes.

Is there a non-zero risk of an STI if you DO use a rubber for oral - Yes.

People can have their own boundaries and rules, you do you, but the amount of fart sniffing that goes on here about a delta of risk that probably amounts to 0.0005% or so per shag is hilarious.

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By *rlandoMan  over a year ago

Lincolnshire

they want to put a bun in your oven ?

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS  over a year ago

stockport

No sex is without risk so if you want to enjoy it get checked out regularly.

I really don't see how you can enjoy sucking cocks with a condom.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No sex is without risk so if you want to enjoy it get checked out regularly.

I really don't see how you can enjoy sucking cocks with a condom."

If they check you out and it says you have HIV or AIDs then your kinda fucked though right.

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By *lex.and.SexCouple  over a year ago

Bedale


"No sex is without risk so if you want to enjoy it get checked out regularly.

I really don't see how you can enjoy sucking cocks with a condom.

If they check you out and it says you have HIV or AIDs then your kinda fucked though right. "

Yes, largely.

But the level of risk increase due to oral without is so insanely low as to be insignificant.

The only safe way is abstinence. And if you really value safety then you won't be having sex other than for procreation. Because even with your own partner they might have cheated!

Or you could always, you know, take a pragmatic assessment of your level of comfort with the risks... And maybe not shame others because your threshold of acceptability is a reaction of a percent more pious than theirs?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

For people who don't like condoms try the one vanish hyper-thin Condoms!

they are as close as you can get , just make sure to use a little lube in the inside.

No need to thank me haha

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By *archelCouple  over a year ago

A field somewhere


"I’m a regular club goer and enjoy lots of fun there.

I have found recently that many guys don’t have condoms and some don’t want to use them. Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

It just seems really one sided and rather than having mutual fun it’s just one sided and I feel used.

In future I’m not going to play with any guy who doesn’t have or is not willing to use a condom and indulge in joint pleasure.

Btw I do have a bag of condoms with me.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?"

I always carry condoms (mr)

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By *thfloorCouple  over a year ago

Hove


"No sex is without risk so if you want to enjoy it get checked out regularly.

I really don't see how you can enjoy sucking cocks with a condom.

If they check you out and it says you have HIV or AIDs then your kinda fucked though right. "

A doctor working in blood sciences suggesting the STI check will show you have AIDS - really? Your previous posts also technically correct but slightly misleading. Eg. Yes "dick in pussy" is not the only way to get an sti, but the gay women example you gave as proof is kinda off... cos while sure some do, it's the demographic with the lowest infection rates by faaaar, what can that mean I wonder.

For everyone balking at the condomless BJs - potentiality of infection is not as high with oral sex as it is being on the receiving end of penetration anally or vaginally. Hence some (most??) people feel barrierless oral is a level of risk they are comfortable with. Of course if you suck say twenty dicks a night rather than one every other month you're on a different risk tier, in that case I'd be asking for a throat swab when going through my regular checks.

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By *ottom charlieMan  over a year ago

washington


"I’m a regular club goer and enjoy lots of fun there.

I have found recently that many guys don’t have condoms and some don’t want to use them. Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

It just seems really one sided and rather than having mutual fun it’s just one sided and I feel used.

In future I’m not going to play with any guy who doesn’t have or is not willing to use a condom and indulge in joint pleasure.

Btw I do have a bag of condoms with me.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?"

its a good sign the guy is either married or has a g/f and does not want to be found out by the other half,,,

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By *quirtyfun69Couple  over a year ago

Burnley

We always have them and lube in our bag just incase

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

As far as i know there has never been any conclusive evidence of anyone getting hiv from oral sex! I would suggest the risk is very minimal for most stds! Some can be caught orally but its not the usual way of transmission

Are you really a doctor?! Thats not being offensive a genuine question

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"As far as i know there has never been any conclusive evidence of anyone getting hiv from oral sex! I would suggest the risk is very minimal for most stds! Some can be caught orally but its not the usual way of transmission

Are you really a doctor?! Thats not being offensive a genuine question"

Yeah Currently on shift. You need bodily fluids passed from one person to another, if a guy or gal with HIV gives a BJ the guy won't get HIV, if the guy getting the bj has HIV and ejaculates into the mouth of the person giving the BJ, then they can pass it on.

Oral sex has a very low risk of HIV transmission. The virus can very rarely be passed on this way and only if the person with HIV has a detectable viral load. However, I would rather a 0% chance than a 5% chance or more.

For example, if you have a mouth ulcer, then that is an open wound which infected semen or female fluids would be able to infect.

Luckily when it comes to HIV there is a saving grace that HIV cannot survive long outside the body.

Just for educational purposes we list on the NHS website these are Oral sex transmissible infections

STIs commonly caught through oral sex are:

gonorrhoea

genital herpes

syphilis

human papillomavirus (HPV)

Infections less frequently passed on through oral sex include:

chlamydia

HIV

hepatitis A, hepatitis B and hepatitis C

genital warts

pubic lice

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No sex is without risk so if you want to enjoy it get checked out regularly.

I really don't see how you can enjoy sucking cocks with a condom.

If they check you out and it says you have HIV or AIDs then your kinda fucked though right.

A doctor working in blood sciences suggesting the STI check will show you have AIDS - really? Your previous posts also technically correct but slightly misleading. Eg. Yes "dick in pussy" is not the only way to get an sti, but the gay women example you gave as proof is kinda off... cos while sure some do, it's the demographic with the lowest infection rates by faaaar, what can that mean I wonder.

For everyone balking at the condomless BJs - potentiality of infection is not as high with oral sex as it is being on the receiving end of penetration anally or vaginally. Hence some (most??) people feel barrierless oral is a level of risk they are comfortable with. Of course if you suck say twenty dicks a night rather than one every other month you're on a different risk tier, in that case I'd be asking for a throat swab when going through my regular checks."

Hello, I was if anything being less technical and inaccurate due to not wanting to fall further into the rabit hole of safe sex, apologies for that. A simple or full screen usually tests around 8-14 pathogens including HIV. As AIDs is a different category pathogen it is done as an antigen/antibody test 18-45 days after exposure. It can be done as a rapid form finger prick test at 18 -90 days but usually a venepuncture is performed for an antigen test.

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By *urge72Man  over a year ago

oxfordshire & Hull

I would never leave for any sort of meet without condoms, just like any other responsible guy. It such a shame that there are still dicks that expect the world without protection or go unprepared and then still think they can chance it.

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By *rincess-PeachWoman  over a year ago

irrelevant

I always have condoms and everyone should carry them. Unless bareback is pre agreed the expectation should be using condoms.

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS  over a year ago

stockport

Celibacy is not an option so getting checked out regularly is surely the answer.

Being vaccinated against hep b is also sensible

Prep is available for the promiscuous though obviously doesn't protect against STIs.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m a regular club goer and enjoy lots of fun there.

I have found recently that many guys don’t have condoms and some don’t want to use them. Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

It just seems really one sided and rather than having mutual fun it’s just one sided and I feel used.

In future I’m not going to play with any guy who doesn’t have or is not willing to use a condom and indulge in joint pleasure.

Btw I do have a bag of condoms with me.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?"

You certainly basically said why, so they can use it as an excuse to just ask for oral, either that or because they want to try and bully women into bareback

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By *breedyouMan  over a year ago

Chobham

I would say more often than not lazy.

I carry always and never assume. Play friends are different if you trust them.

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By *orthwestsamMan  over a year ago

travel with work

Good manners, condoms and a hair bobble (not for me) basically club essentials!

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By *igeress66 OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxford

I don’t do bareback with anyone and I do carry condoms with me at all times.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I’m a regular club goer and enjoy lots of fun there.

I have found recently that many guys don’t have condoms and some don’t want to use them. Obviously safety comes first but they are happy to ask for a bj.

It just seems really one sided and rather than having mutual fun it’s just one sided and I feel used.

In future I’m not going to play with any guy who doesn’t have or is not willing to use a condom and indulge in joint pleasure.

Btw I do have a bag of condoms with me.

Does anyone have any insight on this subject?

You certainly basically said why, so they can use it as an excuse to just ask for oral, either that or because they want to try and bully women into bareback"

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By *osey WalesMan  over a year ago

Surrey

I think i have been caught out twice. First time ran back to the locker to get them. I was naked so had no pockets to carry them around. 2nd time with a couple and the chap kindly provided one.

As a rule, I try to always have some on me and unless with a person i know very very well, i will use a condom without question or issue

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