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sharing phone numbers- essential?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Had a potential meet with a couple get cancelled the other day as I was a bit cautious to immediately give out my phone number to someone i have never met.

My main concern is that my number is linked to my facebook, linkedin etc accounts, and it probably wouldnt be hard to find details about me from my number by just using google.

I just didnt like the idea of potentially giving all this personal info to someone with access to naked pics of me, and who i dont yet know if i can trust.

When i raised these concerns i was told i was a paranoid idiot, and was never going to get anyone to meet unless i shared my number with people.

Was just wondering how true this is? do most of you insist on sharing numbers, or sending texts/talking on the phone before meets? If so, i might get myself a cheap second phone to use. Just wondered whether it was worth it.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I personally only give out my number when plans are made so I know I can text or phone if something happens, but I don't expect to be badgered by someone in the days leading up to the meet.

Get a play phone for this site. Much easier.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

Get a free PAYG sim and either swap it into your phone, or get a cheap phone just for swinging contacts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never give my number out for exactly the same reasons as you.

It has caused a few problems but then I'd rather keep my privacy until I know someone well enough and trust them.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Get a cheap payg play phone that plays "everyone's a winner, baby"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get a fuck phone like people have said above.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i dont see why its even necessary to give numbers at all now with new phones having constant internet access

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By *ady4ladyWoman over a year ago

liverpool

If you had met them once , would you of then been happy to give out your number?? I think probably not. So for future get a spare phone. It will save any upsets and put your mind at rest

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the advice everyone. Think ill pick up a cheap one tomorrow if i have time.

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By *pecifically1Woman over a year ago

Hull

"Had a potential meet with a couple get cancelled the other day as I was a bit cautious to immediately give out my phone number to someone i have never met.

My main concern is that my number is linked to my facebook, linkedin etc accounts, and it probably wouldnt be hard to find details about me from my number by just using google.

I just didnt like the idea of potentially giving all this personal info to someone with access to naked pics of me, and who i dont yet know if i can trust.

When i raised these concerns i was told i was a paranoid idiot, and was never going to get anyone to meet unless i shared my number with people.

If you download and use kik messenger, you don;t have to give out your number, just create a name and give them that. There isn;t any way to trace the number then..Your kik name can be the same as on here...I have enough with one personal phone and a work one I can't be doing with a fuck phone too....Handbag aint that big

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i never give out my number and if they dont like it tough, however i have created a email address just for FAB and like someone has already pointed out every fone has internet access

jobs a good en

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Had a potential meet with a couple get cancelled the other day as I was a bit cautious to immediately give out my phone number to someone i have never met.

My main concern is that my number is linked to my facebook, linkedin etc accounts, and it probably wouldnt be hard to find details about me from my number by just using google.

I just didnt like the idea of potentially giving all this personal info to someone with access to naked pics of me, and who i dont yet know if i can trust.

When i raised these concerns i was told i was a paranoid idiot, and was never going to get anyone to meet unless i shared my number with people.

i give out my number if im going to meet sumone!sure how are u going to get in touch with them if u dont?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

get a nawty phone

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By *evilwolfCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

You need a disposable number... definitely no permanent number that is linked to other online accounts or can be searched through the online or other directories.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do not give out my personal contact details until I have sufficient good vibes about the person, in that he values his own privacy as I do about mine.

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By *for funCouple over a year ago

Dunfermline

Like everyone has said get a cheap play phone. That's what we do and give out the number for that one only.

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By *picyminxWoman over a year ago

Huntingdon

From now on I wont give out my number until I have a meet arranged and then its the same day ..I dont want to talk to someone all day every day before the meet happens ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Play phone is the way to go. Only my blokes have my real number. Everyone else has the play phone number. Need to swap numbers when meetingin case something happens last minute. Different email address for this site. Keep it all separate, not worth the hassle.

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

We ask that females and couples swap numbers so that we can verify they are indeed what they claim to be, unless they have a few checkable meet in person verifs.

As people have said, a cheap "play phone" is the way to go!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I won't make arrangements to meet if the other party won't disclose their number, and I always exchange one text message to ensure it's a genuine number.

I haven't always had that rule, and have noticed that failure to provide a number has always been accompanied by a no-show.

Anyone concerned about privacy need only by a payg and keep it for play.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have like others have suggested, a separate phone to use for giving out to someone on here, as its an old one, it has a block facility so if I get abuse, I just block their number

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never give my phone number out to anyone on here

If they dont want to meet me because of that so be it, but i havnt had that many problems, most guys i talk to are happy to meet me without swapping numbers, i really dont see the need for it now day, most people have the internet on their phone so if they want to get in touch they can mail me on here and i'll pick it up on my phone

I know it sounds daft to some but i really dont want guys off here phoning and texting me when im doing my every day things, when i log off fab i put my 'swinging' head away and im back to my normal life and that has no place for dirty text messages while im cooking the kids tea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone concerned about privacy need only by a payg and keep it for play."

i couldnt do that tho as i have kids and if i had two phones my kids would want to know why i needed two phone and it wouldnt take them long to put 2 and 2 together and i dont want my kids knowing i have a 'shag' phone, its not a side of my life i want to be giving them clues about so they work it out and having another phone would be doing just that, so i stick to just not giving my number out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone concerned about privacy need only by a payg and keep it for play.

get another sim then,,,same phone...??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope I NEVER give my number, all communication is through here, I also meet when I say I will

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only people I know and trust have my number. If didn't trust them I wouldn't meet them anyway

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By *evilwolfCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

They only get the number if they chat over a few messages. If they're not prepared to swap numbers then they don't get a meet. We've no quarms about giving out our (disposable) number, but have known some who either won't give us their number, or ask to be rung at certain times (like when the soaps are on usually

) - make of that what you will.

Talk's cheap.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very rarely, if ever give numbers out beforehand and certainly not for verification of how genuine we are. We don;t cam either. We have enough verifications and links to another site to believe that kink/swinging wise our online profiles make it pretty clear we are genuine. If people aren't happy with that then that's their choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone concerned about privacy need only by a payg and keep it for play.

get another sim then,,,same phone...??"

easier to just not give my number out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Very rarely, if ever give numbers out beforehand and certainly not for verification of how genuine we are. We don;t cam either. We have enough verifications and links to another site to believe that kink/swinging wise our online profiles make it pretty clear we are genuine. If people aren't happy with that then that's their choice. "

i pretty much feel like that, i find people who are over obsessed with who is and isnt genuine off putting anyway to be honest, i never ask anyone to prove they are genuine and to be honest i dont think a phone number does that anyway all it does do is gives them a way to text you every 10 mins and piss you off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm in the group that doesnt get badgered much lol...

but I'm wary of cpls/females who havent much verification if they cant give a number if a meets arranged...I have had ppl in the past try duping me into going for a meet without some vocal detail...turns out theyve almost always been somehow fake...

cam chats are fine if they dont want the phone contact..but if Im traveling out somewhere I dont know...I'd like to be in touch with the person..and I dont really use the internet on my phone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

pretty much my only online presence is fab and one other sex site.. so no-one can trace me thru my phone number. the thought of having myself all over the internet terrifies me. i have no facebook, no anything. just a couple of rude photos on fab where you cant really tell its me with a fake name. i just dont think its a good idea to have loads about yourself on the internet, but most people do these days.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We arranged to meet a couple at a event, we had not exchanged numbers but kept in contact via fab on our phones that night which was fine, so don't see we would need to exchange numbers. Although we do have a payg phone if needed but we do have verifications some of which we show and think this should be good enough to prove we are " real "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get a play phone for this site. Much easier."

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By * n zCouple over a year ago

leamington spa

"Anyone concerned about privacy need only by a payg and keep it for play.

i couldnt do that tho as i have kids and if i had two phones my kids would want to know why i needed two phone and it wouldnt take them long to put 2 anod 2 together and i dont want my kids knowing i have a 'shag' phone, its not a side of my life i want to be giving them clues about so they work it out and having another phone would be doing just that, so i stick to just not giving my number out"

I have 3 kids and agree with this too, could be too many questions asked, or texts, phone calls happening when you don't want them too .......

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

I have a work phone and my own.

In the five years I've been doing this only once has someone been a nuisance, but I didn't respond and he soon got bored.

I couldn't be dealing with multiple Sims and phones, so diligent in who I give my number to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we have verification, we can be verified as regular club attendants, we didn't join a week ago and M likes to run through the do's and don't of ours via text which means you'll have his number too, my face is clearly shown on here,i'm easily found on google and other sites....if after all that proof we are real and not out to tell on you to your boss and you still don't want to share your number...your not for us

we aren't about to give out our home address to someone not willing to share a phone number (and we are too busy getting ready for our meet to keep checking fab emails)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone concerned about privacy need only by a payg and keep it for play.

I have 3 kids and agree with this too, could be too many questions asked, or texts, phone calls happening when you don't want them too .......

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Turn phone on only went you want to use it, otherwise lock it away from kids view. They needn't know you own a second phone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone concerned about privacy need only by a payg and keep it for play.

I have 3 kids and agree with this too, could be too many questions asked, or texts, phone calls happening when you don't want them too .......

Turn phone on only went you want to use it, otherwise lock it away from kids view. They needn't know you own a second phone"

i suppose it depends how bothered you are about having a second phone, me personally im not that bothered about giving my number out to people that i would buy a new phone and go thro the hassel of making sure i never use it in front of my kids or thats its always hidden, im just really not that bothered, ive managed this long without swapping numbers and i still get meets so i see no point in getting one now

if people insist on phone chat they then can just look else where

i dont see the need to swap numbers and i dont want guys off here calling and texting me ever 5 mins from the time we swap number till we meet, then hassling me after for another meet, i get fed up of it on here it would do my nead in if i had them texting me too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone concerned about privacy need only by a payg and keep it for play.

I have 3 kids and agree with this too, could be too many questions asked, or texts, phone calls happening when you don't want them too .......

Turn phone on only went you want to use it, otherwise lock it away from kids view. They needn't know you own a second phone

if people insist on phone chat they then can just look else where

and uve still not relpied to my facetime wank text..30mins ago!!!