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Is there a scenario where its a party (drinks, music, chatting, dancing etc) but if people want to they can go upstairs for some XXX fun? Or is that just a porn thing?
We'd love this to be real & find local ones if so, as it would relive some of the pressure of "expected sex".
We've been swinging for 2 years now but mostly 1 0n 1 stuff & would like to get into the more social-group type of scene.
We aren't close to any clubs so traveling is an issue & we cant both stay away due to having children. |
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Oh it's definitely real. Been to a couple like that in the last few weeks. Some are advertised and open to pretty much all and are quite regular. Some are not advertised and all about the network and getting an invite. First step with these is becoming friends (ideally meeting not Fab friends) with experienced party folk/hosts. |
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Also hear you on the club thing. Really not easy and convenient for many people depending on location and circumstances and house parties are a good option. Fingers crossed something near to you but may well take time and effort to get into those circles. |
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We have very limited experience of house parties. We went to a freinds not long ago. They were the perfect hosts and invited a great crowd. People gelled really well. Drinks, conversation and lots of laughter. The focus was like minded adults comming together for a great party with the possibility of sex as an added bonus. There really wasn't any pressure for sex. Lots of it as the night went on, different groups running off into different spaces. But completely no pressure. It was just easy going, fun and sexy. Granted our perception is some house party's are a bit more focused on the sex. But I think the people who run them also are careful to invite the same like minded folk. So what you are looking for exists, you just need to find the right hosts/crowd. Hopefully your post will lead to some invites. |
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"Try the events and meets thing where they are advertised on here, iv seen a few "
Might be something but wouldn't rely on it. Very hit and miss geographically and large chunk of Fab doesn't use Forum. Just an example - within 1 hour or so drive of me don't think any house parties have been on Forum in last year or two. A few advertised on people's profiles (generally the ones that charge) and lots happening with no advertising at all via word of mouth. |
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"Is there a scenario where its a party (drinks, music, chatting, dancing etc) but if people want to they can go upstairs for some XXX fun? Or is that just a porn thing?
We'd love this to be real & find local ones if so, as it would relive some of the pressure of "expected sex".
We've been swinging for 2 years now but mostly 1 0n 1 stuff & would like to get into the more social-group type of scene.
We aren't close to any clubs so traveling is an issue & we cant both stay away due to having children."
Jaydees is fairly close to you if you drive. |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
Baughurst |
We sympathise, we were so scared of peer pressure at parties where people would expect us to play
We only play we couples we connect with, we do not engage in big open beds. So we are not party animals, but we have attended quite a few parties now, and they are all wildly different. Some we did not like, some we have repeated.
- Advice (if we may): don't be shy to ask the hosts about the people attending, the ratios, if the house has rooms upstairs, if it's ok to play privately, if there's a dress down time or people can remain chatting downstairs if they do not want to get involved, even some are happy to share the list of profile names of the guests.
- Advice: you'd be surprised how many parties you can incur yourselves to. Just message politely showing interest and often they will welcome you. Look at the meetings in Fab in your area and nothing wrong with message. If anyone is announcing s party they are likely open to people.
Note: there's parties that go for profit, others are free. Some are being your own alcohol, however they do a little charge e.g. £10 per couple to cover cleaning, soft drinks, ice, nibbles. So just because there's a small charge it doesn't always mean it's a for profit party.
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"We sympathise, we were so scared of peer pressure at parties where people would expect us to play
We only play we couples we connect with, we do not engage in big open beds. So we are not party animals, but we have attended quite a few parties now, and they are all wildly different. Some we did not like, some we have repeated.
- Advice (if we may): don't be shy to ask the hosts about the people attending, the ratios, if the house has rooms upstairs, if it's ok to play privately, if there's a dress down time or people can remain chatting downstairs if they do not want to get involved, even some are happy to share the list of profile names of the guests.
- Advice: you'd be surprised how many parties you can incur yourselves to. Just message politely showing interest and often they will welcome you. Look at the meetings in Fab in your area and nothing wrong with message. If anyone is announcing s party they are likely open to people.
Note: there's parties that go for profit, others are free. Some are being your own alcohol, however they do a little charge e.g. £10 per couple to cover cleaning, soft drinks, ice, nibbles. So just because there's a small charge it doesn't always mean it's a for profit party.
Hope this helps."
Hey, advice is more than welcome. We have such an awkward situation, as I play but V doesn't & we both want to go to parties where I could be relaxed & join if i wanted.
With having a young child it means we have limited time & staying overnight somewhere would be tricky.
It'll happen i'm sure, we're enjoying it all the same  |
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"Oh it's definitely real. Been to a couple like that in the last few weeks. Some are advertised and open to pretty much all and are quite regular. Some are not advertised and all about the network and getting an invite. First step with these is becoming friends (ideally meeting not Fab friends) with experienced party folk/hosts. "
This is pretty much spot on - most of the parties I have been to have been through friends/people I know. You just need to get to know people and eventually you will start to get some invites. |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
Baughurst |
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Hey, advice is more than welcome. We have such an awkward situation, as I play but V doesn't & we both want to go to parties where I could be relaxed & join if i wanted...
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Thanks, and may we add that in all parties we have been, there's people that only play as couples (so no chance for you with them if only one of you is likely to play), but always there are many couples and singles who do not mind, or even prefer, to play without their partner involved, and no one will be bothered (or notice) if V does not play.
Yet, the key part of a party is socialising, so go without any play expectations. Chat to people, watch the dynamics, if all feels good for you two, and you have a chance to play or you go upstairs and people playing invite you to join, then it's you and V's choice what to do next, if not comfy then enjoy having met people there, learn about the experience and try again next time or at another party. |
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Hey, advice is more than welcome. We have such an awkward situation, as I play but V doesn't & we both want to go to parties where I could be relaxed & join if i wanted...
Thanks, and may we add that in all parties we have been, there's people that only play as couples (so no chance for you with them if only one of you is likely to play), but always there are many couples and singles who do not mind, or even prefer, to play without their partner involved, and no one will be bothered (or notice) if V does not play.
Yet, the key part of a party is socialising, so go without any play expectations. Chat to people, watch the dynamics, if all feels good for you two, and you have a chance to play or you go upstairs and people playing invite you to join, then it's you and V's choice what to do next, if not comfy then enjoy having met people there, learn about the experience and try again next time or at another party."
I would say that is more true of the larger house parties that are advertised and often have payment (maybe 30-5o people). These are a bit more like mini-clubs. Very hit and miss as to where these take place and how often. Less true for the smaller, more private word of mouth events. Saying that the thing about house parties is that all different and so dependent on the hosts and how they are organising and what kind of vibe they want. |
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In the interest of making these contacts faster do edit your profile to say you're looking for house party invites, prominently if it's your no 1 swinging goal right now, and also an update or two asking if anyone hosts them in your locality may help. The only-one-of-you-playing is a question for the host, I should think that her playing will be an easier pass than if it was the other way round! |
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We were lucky to be invited to one - it also had a paid photographer wish is why we have some fuxking hot pics in our gallery. Can't wait for the next one in September!
They do exist- keep an eye on the parties and meets section ... but also if you can get to clubs connecting with ppl there can open party door invites.
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
I am going to give a try to do one once my house renovation completed.
Ground floor and garden social area with strict no sex rule. Two bedroom upstairs for fun. Both have locks to give privacy if needed. I am thinking of 6-8 people max. But I am wonder if I can get any couple or single lady visit from here. Or would it be just a guys do with beer and football lol |
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"I am going to give a try to do one once my house renovation completed.
Ground floor and garden social area with strict no sex rule. Two bedroom upstairs for fun. Both have locks to give privacy if needed. I am thinking of 6-8 people max. But I am wonder if I can get any couple or single lady visit from here. Or would it be just a guys do with beer and football lol "
Best of luck and hope if goes well. Have seen guys arrange things but you might struggle at first without a lady or couple involved. 6-8 people is the kind of number that seems less social and more sex oriented so and then need the right people and be sure they are going to get on. One person out of 8 could realy mess up the evening. I would try to have a few more unless you know them well. Also locked doors? Nah forget that Many parties are open doors only. Been to one that had closed doors and ended up with three bedrooms all closed - a couple in each of two of them, and a couple with a guy they brought in another. They might as well have got hotel rooms. Complete shite |
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Cjs been invited to one or two over the years... tells me they were pretty hit or miss as to having a great time
when we got together we were invited to one, but I declined as it drew closer as I decided it wasn't going to be my thing.
I guess it depends on the venue and those present as to how nice such an evening would likely turn out to be. |
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
Only been to one house party. Everyone was very friendly. There were about 8 couples there and we only fancied one of them. After a couple of hours most went to a big communal play room including the couple we fancied so we left as didn’t really want a big group experience .
So big play experiences do happen at parties. |
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I’ve been to a few house parties.
All are different but are mostly very social events. Always go with an open mind, as you may pick up further information and links with people even if you don’t want to play with them.
I’ve made some great friends and contacts at parties who are happy to recommend places and people to me.
I have been to two parties as a single lady and a fair few as a couple.
Most have an open door policy but there is no harm in shutting the door of you want.
Never fell pressured to play no matter what though, any host should be understanding of this.
Some parties even have a WhatsApp group beforehand so you can introduce yourself and get to know people before attending. Not everyone will be in it necessarily though so bare that in mind.
I’d love to host parties but I don’t have the space and I do have a permanent resident. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"Is there a scenario where its a party (drinks, music, chatting, dancing etc) but if people want to they can go upstairs for some XXX fun? Or is that just a porn thing?
We'd love this to be real & find local ones if so, as it would relive some of the pressure of "expected sex".
We've been swinging for 2 years now but mostly 1 0n 1 stuff & would like to get into the more social-group type of scene.
We aren't close to any clubs so traveling is an issue & we cant both stay away due to having children."
. These type of parties do exist and are sometimes on the meet & events page.Others are were there is a network of people who perhaps are a similar age and maybe into the same sort of things sexually. |
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