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By *windon_shy_cpl OP Couple over a year ago

Swindon

Have you had a full swap yet? And how did you feel leading up to and afterwards as we are discussing it but I am still a little nervous

And do you think the bigger the better when it comes to cock size? I don't think it is all about cock size at all, but there are times when a bit bigger does have it's benefits lol and hubby is about average and would love to see me with a larger cock.

Please no posts from guys telling us they can help etc, just looking for genuine answers from ladies.

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By *iss DevilWoman over a year ago

Bedford

First, let's answer your question about the size. It all depends on what you, the lady, believe you'd like to try, and what you like. Do you prefer full fucking instead of what most people treat as foreplay, ie: licking, fingering, teasing, making sure every nerve in your body is on high alert and sending pleasure waves through your body before you have even been entered. Maybe I have not had the best experience, but I've noticed most better-endowned men seem to be just about cock and not much else. Then it's also about the man himself- do you click? Is there enough chemistry between the two of you? If anything feels off and you want to stop, just stop, it's supposed to be for your enjoyment.

Now the second part, re full swap: I do have a partner, and we have couple's profile. It was different for us, the first time we did full swap with another couple, as I was already rather experienced on the scene but he wasn't. And it was me who insisted I needed to see other people. Therefore, can't really give you advice apart from be openly communicating with your partner, find ways of letting him know you're not comfortable with something without having to use words during the meet or have a kind of "safe" word.

Overall, enjoy and try not to overthink it. A respectable and experienced gentleman that would join you should respect your choice.

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By *ellardnorthamptonMan over a year ago

northampton

I’ve been with a couple of first time swingers.

We found best thing was to not expect anything and just go with the flow and if wanted a break from the 3rd party then say.

Cock size isn’t always relevant I’m quiet big but sometimes only been able to use half of it or so as hurt the female if was too deep,

Just make it clear from the start what you want and how you as a couple want it to go and if you have found the rite person they will be more than happy to just go with it

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By *herry delightWoman over a year ago

Ilfracombe

The best thing to do is not over think it, as you will make problems where there are not an problems.

You are not going to know how you are going to feel until you try full swap.

As for the meeting go with the flow don't put to many no nos on the list as it could well put a damper on the wonderful experience.

Also don't use any Dutch courage that is a bad idea.

As for size it's not always about the size.

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By *om in JerryCouple over a year ago

Welywyn, Herts

Sounds like OP is interested in a hung cock. Go for it!

Some women actually don’t find larger dicks all that comfortable. But there’s plenty of variety out there. Though this scene does seem to attract endowed men.

For general advice, just keep talking.

Talk talk talk.All the time. Before, during if you have to, and after. Make sure you’re both always on the same page.

Be a team. Talk to other players too, most importantly keep talking between yourselves.

There’s a lot of fun to be had out there.

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By *rpeggioCouple over a year ago

Baughurst

About full swap, I was worried about how she would feel seeing me with another lady and a tiny bit worried if I would be uncomfortable watching her with another man. After I saw that she was enjoying herself with him and heard her moaning with pleasure, all concerns went away and then I could relax and enjoy myself.

But you won't know for sure until you try. Don't overthink it, it's pointless wondering how you will feel. Make sure you and your partner check with each other frequently during your first time. Are you ok? Are you having a good time? look at each other. Any indication either of you are uncomfortable, just stop and have a chat. Let your playing partners know it's your first Full, usually they will be very understanding to take things slowly.

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By *ethnmelvCouple over a year ago

Cardiff

"Have you had a full swap yet? And how did you feel leading up to and afterwards as we are discussing it but I am still a little nervous

Please no posts from guys telling us they can help etc, just looking for genuine answers from ladies."

As your partner has a bit more experience, why not just invite a guy you fancy at a Club you like if you see someone you fancy. Sometimes couples could be more intense than a single guy. So long as your partner is happy with you with another guy, then this might be simpler. We have certainly found this and started this way.

Don’t overthink as others have said, but only do what you are comfortable with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you had a full swap yet? And how did you feel leading up to and afterwards as we are discussing it but I am still a little nervous

Please no posts from guys telling us they can help etc, just looking for genuine answers from ladies.

Don’t overthink as others have said, but only do what you are comfortable with

They are looking for couples not single guys.

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By *oxy jWoman over a year ago

somerset

can i just add there is nothing wrong with women wanting bigger cocks its no different to a guy wantting big tits or anything else ... to many on here are abrasive towards women who know what the want ....

and no i dont care well i do a bit average or bigger variety is the spice of life as they say

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

We haven't yet, but cock size is the least important thing I'd be looking for.

Mrs

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By *heekyDemandCouple over a year ago

Leicester

We have seen your pictures, we totally understand your worries, size is the absolute last thing we care about. We visit Swindon visiting family and would be honoured to meet you, chat and see where things go x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my experience the bigger the pebis the bugger the problems, I find not many have much finesse and it's literally a cervical banging. It depends on how big though.

I wouldn't really be focusing on that though.

You both need to be really clear in what you want from it all but it's about finding the right person to join you, that will take time.

Good luck and have fun.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Have you had a full swap yet? And how did you feel leading up to and afterwards as we are discussing it but I am still a little nervous

Please no posts from guys telling us they can help etc, just looking for genuine answers from ladies.

Don’t overthink as others have said, but only do what you are comfortable with

They are looking for couples not single guys. "

I agree the threesomes might be an easier way into things than full couples swap if one partner is nervous. Do MFF one week and MMF the next

In the past with partner I was comfortable with a man fucking her but she was a touch nervous about how she would feel with me and another lady (and she was already an experienced single swinger). So our first interaction together with others was MFF. She enjoyed it and the rest was history.

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By *lay TogetherCouple over a year ago

Burgh Heath

Hey guys. Loads of help from everyone here x

We are in a similar situation to yourselves, in that we have not had a full swap yet! We met a lovely couple, have a good friendship with them, we've played on several occasions but never fully swapped. It's been masses of fun but the next natural step for K and myself was full swap. Unfortunately the couple got cold feet and were worried that there would be awkwardness afterwards so they cancelled our meet. Very disappointed, but we appreciate their honesty and would never want to break their boundaries.

I would regard myself as average in the trouser dept, and like your OH, can't wait for K to be with larger than myself.

I hope you overcome any worries you have in terms of the full swap. I know that we can't wait! X

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By *onnoisseur100Man over a year ago

Woking-ish

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We haven't taken that step yet. But we are pretty much go with the flow. We talk openly with eachother and have said if it happens it will be a mutual agreement. And definitely cock size doesn't matter, I mean yeah over 6inch is good, but it is about the foreplay and actual sex rather than the size

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