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to stay on fab or leave
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on here on and off since I was 26. I always come back haha.
Only you can make that decision. Fab is frustrating and it's not an easy site to find what you want, but ultimately I find it worth it.
You just need to decide if you do. |
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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago
tonyrefail |
"I've been on here on and off since I was 26. I always come back haha.
Only you can make that decision. Fab is frustrating and it's not an easy site to find what you want, but ultimately I find it worth it.
You just need to decide if you do. "
might hide my profile instead always got the option to unhide it then |
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"is there a way of building confidence up "
Confidence comes from within yourself. My advice is accept who you are and don't try to be something you aren't. If there is something you can change about yourself that you feel will give you more confidence then do it, again this comes from you.
If you aren't happy on here then get out. The dating scene is far easier, for guys, than fabs will ever be. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"didn’t say i wasn’t hsppy just feel like i’m banging my head against a brick wall "
If what you're doing isn't working then the only sensible choice is to change what you're doing.
Just being here guarantees nothing. Trying the same unsuccessful approach will just get the same results.
Good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d say stay… take a break from fab a week or two comeback and see how you feel.
It’s your choice and only you can say how you feel, and make your choice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe take a break, place your profile into hidden, take some time away and if you choose to come back, you carry on where you left.
Try to avoid the mistake of deleting, coming back and trying to start again.
Take care, OP.  |
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19 verifications pretty good for a guy on here, delete and you lose the lot. Hide your profile instead I do when I’m not feeling it.
All posts are ‘attention posts’ you don’t create or contribute to a thread if you’re not looking for some attention. |
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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago
tonyrefail |
"7 meet in person verifications this year!!! Most men would be happy to get that in a lifetime on here!!!!!  "
think my problem is i lack confidence literally only spoke to 2-3 people last night deffo need to come out of my shell more x |
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"7 meet in person verifications this year!!! Most men would be happy to get that in a lifetime on here!!!!!
think my problem is i lack confidence literally only spoke to 2-3 people last night deffo need to come out of my shell more x"
Most single guys on here don't speak to anyone most of the time. 2/3 in one night is very good going. I'd stop moaning about it if I was you |
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"seriously debating wether to stay on fab or leave "
My advice is hide your profile and don't log on for a while.
You may feel differently in a few weeks.
Much easier than constantly leaving and returning.
Don't forget your password though  |
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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago
tonyrefail |
"Go to clubs. Meet people in the flesh. Don't have to waste your time messaging 1000s of people.
Go to a club and chat to people. "
was at chams last night decent ish night just need go get over my nerves x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"didn’t say i wasn’t hsppy just feel like i’m banging my head against a brick wall
ITS NOT Dail a ride go Pay for it
what are you talking about "
Ignore him.
Seems like clubs are working for you. Keep going to them and you will meet loads of lovely people.
Chams is great. We have been once before on a bbw Sunday night.
Definitely be going back there at some point |
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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago
tonyrefail |
"didn’t say i wasn’t hsppy just feel like i’m banging my head against a brick wall
ITS NOT Dail a ride go Pay for it
what are you talking about
Ignore him.
Seems like clubs are working for you. Keep going to them and you will meet loads of lovely people.
Chams is great. We have been once before on a bbw Sunday night.
Definitely be going back there at some point "
thanks deffo trying darlo bbw sundays soon
i’m i. darlo on a friday end of month |
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It is tricky as a single male. Many single males
Are not attention seeking but it can still be demoralising
We met on here so will always support fab and it’s results but understand how it can feel |
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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago
tonyrefail |
"It is tricky as a single male. Many single males
Are not attention seeking but it can still be demoralising
We met on here so will always support fab and it’s results but understand how it can feel"
so it’s possible then? |
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It's amazing how many people say they are leaving a d you then see them online the next day.
It's tough on fab as a single guy. But as in the real world not everyone is attracted to each other and just because the site is whatnot is, doesn't mean your guaranteed a meet.
Just hang in there and chill. |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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I have been using this site for over 15 years now. The first time I left I deleted my profile, which I definitely regretted when I decided to rejoin.
You can hide your profile, you can just turn on all your message filters. Either of these options work well if you feel the need to take a break.
If you feel that your only problem is your lack of confidence when you attend a club, then you probably just need to keep going to clubs. Eventually, chatting to others becomes easier.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I left I had verifications, when I came back I didn't.
Meh, I dunno -- it's easier to get laid on conventional dating sites, so if you're just here for a shag you will drive yourself barmy. |
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Can't help thinking this is an attention post, you have 30 verifications..thats amazing for a single man on here..iv seen men that have been on here for years and years and not had 1 meet. I'd say you were doing very well |
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"It's amazing how many people say they are leaving a d you then see them online the next day.
It's tough on fab as a single guy. But as in the real world not everyone is attracted to each other and just because the site is whatnot is, doesn't mean your guaranteed a meet.
Just hang in there and chill. "
I'd say it's not tough for him, he has 30 verifications. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had far more hook-ups on normal dating sites than I have on Fab. With better looking and more grounded women to boot."
Me too, so leaving wouldn't really bother me tbh. My sub is up today so having similar thoughts. I have previously just hidden it especially when I meet someone and start dating I've either deleted it all or hidden it all. The dating apps are way more fruitful as a single guy, plenty kinky folks out there who've never heard of this site or just dont feel the need to be part of 'the scene' or lifestyle but they are plenty fun in the bedroom. |
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There are a few on here who routinely post, or put on their profile, how they are leaving, they are fed up , it’s not working, it’s too much … etc, etc - but never do!!
Then there are others I have spoken, or are friends with in here who simply just disappear - maybe for the reasons cited above.
The bottom line is, those who talk about it often don’t, those who don’t talk about often do.
R x
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Its not easy for cpls either. You can attend socials and hardly anyone talks to you. We met a guy saterday night and thats the guy first meet in a while due to family, childcare and work commitments. Keep at it and you will strike lucky marc mate. I have been a single on here so understand the trouble and strife this site causes you. John |
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"I've had far more hook-ups on normal dating sites than I have on Fab. With better looking and more grounded women to boot."
Your inbox got some tumble blowing across it then.....if not it soon will have... |
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By *2sexyMan
over a year ago
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"Can't help thinking this is an attention post, you have 30 verifications..thats amazing for a single man on here..iv seen men that have been on here for years and years and not had 1 meet. I'd say you were doing very well"
I will conquer with this reply . On my previous venture I had 2 verifications albeit from the people who i knew who got me onto the site and when they left I left also and now I’m back to square one …… which is about 10 steps backwards . Just don’t overthink it because I do and it’s not healthy . When I get 1 reply back even to say sorry or I see a message deleted at least I know I exist
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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago
tonyrefail |
"Can't help thinking this is an attention post, you have 30 verifications..thats amazing for a single man on here..iv seen men that have been on here for years and years and not had 1 meet. I'd say you were doing very well I will conquer with this reply . On my previous venture I had 2 verifications albeit from the people who i knew who got me onto the site and when they left I left also and now I’m back to square one …… which is about 10 steps backwards . Just don’t overthink it because I do and it’s not healthy . When I get 1 reply back even to say sorry or I see a message deleted at least I know I exist "
yeah i’m deffo overthinking it |
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