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Given a verification but haven’t received one back
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By *eFCUKaLot OP Couple
over a year ago
somewhere close |
We meet a lovely couple at the weekend, we hit it off straight away, chat was flowing, flirting, the usual stuff. We ended up having some playtime which was amazing. We’re now friends with them on here, we’ve exchanged messages, saying the night was great & we should do it again.
We’ve gave them a lovely verification & they’ve displayed it but they still haven’t gave us one enough though they said they would. I think what’s bugging us is, they’ve been online a few times since. Do you think we should message them to remind them or take it on the chin that maybe they didn’t have fun? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had this recently.
I liked someone’s FB post but they didn’t like mine back.
I’ve deleted them as a friend and I swear I’ll never talk to them or like any of their families posts ever again. |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
Sandwich |
Are you particularly bothered about a verification?
They really don’t mean that much and some people don’t like to see them at all.
You are going to clubs, you should ask the club to verify you. |
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By *obbaukMan
over a year ago
Hitchin |
Give it a couple of more days then send a polite reminder saying your appreciate a return veri.
If they still don’t, then leave it. Sometimes it just happens.
There’s a good chance they just forgot, or Mrs thought Mr would write it, or vice Versa etc |
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By *eFCUKaLot OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Are you particularly bothered about a verification?
They really don’t mean that much and some people don’t like to see them at all.
You are going to clubs, you should ask the club to verify you."
Not particularly worried about the verification as such, just common courtesy I suppose.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's possible they haven't got around to it, or can't find the words to express, just yet.
Some though just don't value the verification system so much, forgetting that others may do.
It's often the well verified that don't value it so much, because they're already established.
It would be nice if you get what you hope for, especially as it is a valuable part of the site.
Though I'm think if they were to see this, they might be unhappy.
We verify everyone we canoodle with, OP.
Just saying 
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"We meet a lovely couple at the weekend, we hit it off straight away, chat was flowing, flirting, the usual stuff. We ended up having some playtime which was amazing. We’re now friends with them on here, we’ve exchanged messages, saying the night was great & we should do it again.
We’ve gave them a lovely verification & they’ve displayed it but they still haven’t gave us one enough though they said they would. I think what’s bugging us is, they’ve been online a few times since. Do you think we should message them to remind them or take it on the chin that maybe they didn’t have fun? "
Had this before with couples profile when we've met another couple so can understand your feelings. Depends a little bit on context. Are they the kind of couple that gives veris to others? Some people just don't bother or do so casually at later so no big deal if they don't veri you. Some do pretty much right away and in that case would be odd if they don't do for you as well and probably means they didn't enjoy quite as much as you. |
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"Are you particularly bothered about a verification?
They really don’t mean that much and some people don’t like to see them at all.
You are going to clubs, you should ask the club to verify you."
It not the veri per se but the feeling it can leave afterwards if they are people who often give veris. You start questioning whether is was good as you thought, whether to try to see again etc. If they don't give veris much then different story. |
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"We meet a lovely couple at the weekend, we hit it off straight away, chat was flowing, flirting, the usual stuff. We ended up having some playtime which was amazing. We’re now friends with them on here, we’ve exchanged messages, saying the night was great & we should do it again.
We’ve gave them a lovely verification & they’ve displayed it but they still haven’t gave us one enough though they said they would. I think what’s bugging us is, they’ve been online a few times since. Do you think we should message them to remind them or take it on the chin that maybe they didn’t have fun? "
For some good verifications means a lot and for some it’s not a big deal. It happens all the time when you took a time out and wrote a nice one and they won’t verify back. Annoying yes but not the end of world. Maybe they don’t have anything nice to say about me  Even my best friends refused to verify me back lol  |
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some people just don't leave them, i have left a lot of verif and never got one back mainly from "straight" men profile so now learned my lesson and will only give one once i receive one first.
Also if no verification after first meet i won't meet again.
I do not expect or would want a verification after each meet with same person but the initial one for me prove that they had a good time and want to maybe meet again. |
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By *ayndeeCouple
over a year ago
Newark |
This has happened to us,
we met a lovely couple at a club, chatted and had a great time, they verified us no problem at all, we tried to return the verification and cannot do so as we are outside of there preferred age range.
We also cannot message them to let them know its not been intentional. We don't want them to think we've forgotten them or ignoring them. Maybe this is the op's issue. |
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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire/Northwest |
"We meet a lovely couple at the weekend, we hit it off straight away, chat was flowing, flirting, the usual stuff. We ended up having some playtime which was amazing. We’re now friends with them on here, we’ve exchanged messages, saying the night was great & we should do it again.
We’ve gave them a lovely verification & they’ve displayed it but they still haven’t gave us one enough though they said they would. I think what’s bugging us is, they’ve been online a few times since. Do you think we should message them to remind them or take it on the chin that maybe they didn’t have fun? "
Maybe they are busy during the week and they want to sit down and compose it when they are more relaxed?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do they have to display it?
Maybe the will display it in afew more days time.
I wouldn't get hung up on it.
if genuine friendship/play meets are happening again then nothing to worry about.
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I think the OP is saying that they have displayed it but not sent them a verification in return. |
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Have they verified others? If so, have a read of those and determine the type of verifications they normally leave. If they require a bit of thought, it might take some time.
If we've enjoyed a meet with someone, whether social or otherwise, we'll take time to consider the verification. That might take a few days, especially if daily life gets in the way. In the past, we've left a verification two weeks after meeting someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We meet a lovely couple at the weekend, we hit it off straight away, chat was flowing, flirting, the usual stuff. We ended up having some playtime which was amazing. We’re now friends with them on here, we’ve exchanged messages, saying the night was great & we should do it again.
We’ve gave them a lovely verification & they’ve displayed it but they still haven’t gave us one enough though they said they would. I think what’s bugging us is, they’ve been online a few times since. Do you think we should message them to remind them or take it on the chin that maybe they didn’t have fun? "
Why not message them and give them a nudge, no harm in that and if they still don’t then yes take it on the chin and move on. Shame really as general etiquette as far as I’m concerned is if you get a veri then you should veri back. |
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"We meet a lovely couple at the weekend, we hit it off straight away, chat was flowing, flirting, the usual stuff. We ended up having some playtime which was amazing. We’re now friends with them on here, we’ve exchanged messages, saying the night was great & we should do it again.
We’ve gave them a lovely verification & they’ve displayed it but they still haven’t gave us one enough though they said they would. I think what’s bugging us is, they’ve been online a few times since. Do you think we should message them to remind them or take it on the chin that maybe they didn’t have fun? "
One of my pet hates this !
I personally think if someone veris you then you should return the favour must definitely - of course only if you did actually meet and not some random
Fab etiquette!!
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