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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No! not for me personally i like intimacy."
what about if you really loved that person tho? Would you stay with them but try and find a kiss somewhere else?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Unless there was a medical reason ( no, can’t think of one either!) then we would question why someon in a relationship would not be kissing their partner.."
well it happens
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Unless there was a medical reason ( no, can’t think of one either!) then we would question why someon in a relationship would not be kissing their partner.."
and I think it's the worst thing ever
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"No! not for me personally i like intimacy. what about if you really loved that person tho? Would you stay with them but try and find a kiss somewhere else? "
Never said i'd kiss someone else... If I was in a relationship with someone and they didn't want to be intimate or affectionate, I'd be wondering why unless their was a valid reason. Perhaps they are getting elsewhere?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No! not for me personally i like intimacy. what about if you really loved that person tho? Would you stay with them but try and find a kiss somewhere else? Never said i'd kiss someone else... If I was in a relationship with someone and they didn't want to be intimate or affectionate, I'd be wondering why unless their was a valid reason. Perhaps they are getting elsewhere? "
but if they were getting it somewhere else, they probably wouldn't have sex with you then either tho? But they do, sex is not a problem there
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We won't even play with people on one night thing if there is no kissing, as for a relationship the bags would be packed and the kids would be getting 2 Christmas's. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We won't even play with people on one night thing if there is no kissing, as for a relationship the bags would be packed and the kids would be getting 2 Christmas's."
lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If there was no kissing in the relationship then I would definitely think there was something wrong I just couldn have the relationship personally, kissing is affectionate and it’s be love n bond between a couple, n as for kissing other men or men kissing another women when swinging absolutely not |
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"No! not for me personally i like intimacy. what about if you really loved that person tho? Would you stay with them but try and find a kiss somewhere else? Never said i'd kiss someone else... If I was in a relationship with someone and they didn't want to be intimate or affectionate, I'd be wondering why unless their was a valid reason. Perhaps they are getting elsewhere? but if they were getting it somewhere else, they probably wouldn't have sex with you then either tho? But they do, sex is not a problem there"
The question was about kissing not sex. A relationship with no affection is pretty much dead in my opinion.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unless there was a medical reason ( no, can’t think of one either!) then we would question why someon in a relationship would not be kissing their partner.."
Severe halitosis? |
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Maybe there's a trauma related reason.
Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing
Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.
If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. |
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"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.
Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing
Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.
If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. "
I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you stay with someone if they do not kiss or snog you at all?"
Are there other signs of affection? Touch, cuddling, being intimate in other ways? I must admit, I'd really struggle to nit feel horribly rejected and unwanted if my partner did not want to kiss me even with other things happening...
Is it a physical reason? Or psychological...people withdraw from expressions of affection for all kinds of reasons? Is it a recent thing or always been the case? |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.
Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing
Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.
If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket. "
It's not your partner's burden to carry you through your trauma. In my opinion, you should work up your issues before you seek out for a relationship. Everything else is just selfish. |
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"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.
Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing
Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.
If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket.
It's not your partner's burden to carry you through your trauma. In my opinion, you should work up your issues before you seek out for a relationship. Everything else is just selfish."
Wow you have taken it out of context. You are supposed to feel safe with a partner! That's not selfish at all. Wasn't me who said about trauma? Please don't patronise me. Nothing selfish about me dear Lol  |
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"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.
Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing
Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.
If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket.
It's not your partner's burden to carry you through your trauma. In my opinion, you should work up your issues before you seek out for a relationship. Everything else is just selfish."
Work on you mean? That is kind of obvious though. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.
Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing
Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.
If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket. "
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What a relationship with “No kissing??”
As you might have guessed from our fab name that notion sounds abhorrent.
But…. There is always a but
You would have to find out the reasons why the person has opted for a no kissing rule with the relationship? Bad experience? Personal issue?
One that going into a relationship might be a red flag for you and then you can walk away! Mid way through a relationship you really have to sit down and discuss it together and find out the reasons why and then make an educated guess within that situation.
Mr S big sloppy snogs of a kiss ?? |
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"Unless there was a medical reason ( no, can’t think of one either!) then we would question why someon in a relationship would not be kissing their partner.."
I never used to kiss my partner's or anyone else for that matter. I had my reasons. I'm still hugely picky about when I will and who
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.
Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing
Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.
If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket.
It's not your partner's burden to carry you through your trauma. In my opinion, you should work up your issues before you seek out for a relationship. Everything else is just selfish. Work on you mean? That is kind of obvious though. Lol"
I was commenting, not attacking. But yeah, work on yourself.
See, loads of women don't. They go around the world with obvious mental problems and think their partner just has to accept them the way they are, which is selfish but way too common.
Don't date before you feel good in your own skin. If you hve insecurities, find a man and have children, who do you think will suffer under your(not you personally, generally, don't want you to get this wrong again) mental disorders?
If you notice that you're not well mentally, don't be a burden to whoever you're dating. |
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"Maybe there's a trauma related reason.
Maybe they genuinely dislike kissing
Maybe the person who likes kissing has a problem they're unaware of.
If it's not possible to discuss this and find a compromise a person has to either leave or find a way to live with it. I get what you mean about trauma! But surely if you are in a relationship with someone you trust them completely, As they are supposed to be your safe place and security blanket.
It's not your partner's burden to carry you through your trauma. In my opinion, you should work up your issues before you seek out for a relationship. Everything else is just selfish. Work on you mean? That is kind of obvious though. Lol
I was commenting, not attacking. But yeah, work on yourself.
See, loads of women don't. They go around the world with obvious mental problems and think their partner just has to accept them the way they are, which is selfish but way too common.
Don't date before you feel good in your own skin. If you hve insecurities, find a man and have children, who do you think will suffer under your(not you personally, generally, don't want you to get this wrong again) mental disorders?
If you notice that you're not well mentally, don't be a burden to whoever you're dating."
Just because someone has mental health issues that doesn't make them a burden or unlovable. Lot's of people with health conditions whether it's physical or mental have healthy relationships. Maybe you need more compassion and understanding? It's selfish to expect someone to be perfect because everyone has flaws. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My best mate is autistic. He is unable to do kissing, cuddling with his Mrs.
Their sex life is almost entirely BDSM with him as dominant.
They have a whole room set up for it.
She just accepts it because he loves her and she loves him.
If she wants a cuddle and affection they have several dogs.
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"My best mate is autistic. He is unable to do kissing, cuddling with his Mrs.
Their sex life is almost entirely BDSM with him as dominant.
They have a whole room set up for it.
She just accepts it because he loves her and she loves him.
If she wants a cuddle and affection they have several dogs.
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There are many ways of being in a loving relationship aren't there.  |
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If I love a person deeply then there's nothing I wouldn't do and/or put up with. Remember a person can cheat on you one minute and kiss you goodnight the next. If your partner doesn't like kissing well....you find a way to work around that. Seems like she may have intimacy issues which you need explore. But if the sex is good then carry on pounding and rogering.
Kiss her other lips. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah I wrote this post, because I have been in a kissless marriage for nearly 15 years now.and I accepted that she just doesn't like kissing! But if I'm honest, reading story's on here, and watching other people kiss and get off with one another. It's starting to get to me now! And I have realised that I really do miss it. I used to love kissing and getting it on, having a good snog, and then where it leads to afterwards. And now I'm not sure what I want to do about it? |
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