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Profile tips/advice for (relative) newbie welcomed!
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By *elix85 OP Man
over a year ago
Kings Lynn |
Hi all! I’m very much a newbie on this site and the scene, so still feeling my way around (as it were). I appreciate that cis single guys have to be *really* special to stand out - and I make no pretensions that I am that kind of person - but I’d be really grateful for pointers from more experienced folk, however brief, on how to sharpen up and refine my profile! Ideas for pics welcome too!
(Alas, I am unable to show my face in my profile for work reasons, but you’ll note I’ve made a point in stating I’d be glad to share it in a message… once I am assured they’re not a colleague or someone I know!)
Thanks for reading! Happy fabbing to you all x |
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By *elix85 OP Man
over a year ago
Kings Lynn |
Lol. One was a veri from a club I went to, which was nice. The other was from the same club night. Alas… nothing since.
I guess it doesn’t help that - for some reason - I’m just not that attractive to women. My cock isn’t big enough to overcome that issue 
I get interest from guys, which is, of course, welcome (I’m bi). But mainly looking to play with bi couples and women. |
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"Lol. One was a veri from a club I went to, which was nice. The other was from the same club night. Alas… nothing since.
I guess it doesn’t help that - for some reason - I’m just not that attractive to women. My cock isn’t big enough to overcome that issue
I get interest from guys, which is, of course, welcome (I’m bi). But mainly looking to play with bi couples and women."
Believe it or not cock size isn't as big an issue as you may think, yes there are women on here who are size Queens, but also alot who prefer average, so try not to let that hold you back, the person above is absolutely right, 2 meets ( whatever the situation) is very very good in the short time you have been on here, iv seen men in the forums who have been here 3 years and not had one meet...look at this as a massive positive for you, if you have the confidence to attend clubs and socials then do it, thats how alot of people on here are successful, unfortunately for us where we live is very sparce in the swinging lifestyle and no decent clubs so take advantage of that..all in all your profile looks OK. |
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By *elix85 OP Man
over a year ago
Kings Lynn |
Ugh, so annoying that emoji’s don’t show. I guess that just helps facilitate the use of actual words and full sentences. No bad thing.
Thank you to people for their contributions!
There’s not much here in Kings Lynn to shout about. But one of the best things is it’s proximity to The Annex! |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London |
Write nice messages, and do something a little different "hey, how's you" is just boring the fuck out the girls.
Write something nice and engaging(!) about their pictures or profile "Nice pics" is not a good choice, "Are you diving in the maldives there?" is better.
Leave out introductions, those usually get skipped. They can preread the messages before opening them, and it's really all about what they can see there. "Hi, I am Dom." is not a good start, they can see my nickname already. "So about that picture of yours, where you dive in the maldives (it's maldives right?) blablabla" is better, because "What pictures is he talking about?" will lead to: *click message* :D
The length of hte messages shouldn't be books nor two words. It also works if you're are asking less and take the lead (but give them room still to say no or rearrange) when you ask for a meet up. I sometimes ask in the first few messages (people make up their mind early, women and especially couples who needs 300+ messages, are time wasters anyway).
I had great success in the last 3 months with "I would like to know more about you, maybe over a coffee, let's go this friday or sunday. Where is good for you?" (don't copy paste it, but something like that).
Had like 4 meets in the past 3 months with that.
Also include a picture in the message. The paperclip symbol is helping you a lot, too. Half the battle is to get her to open the message and not skip it. (despite profile's claims - they do see the messages in 99% of the cases, just choose to not open them (if they're not hooked, they're not interested!)
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By *elix85 OP Man
over a year ago
Kings Lynn |
"Write nice messages, and do something a little different "hey, how's you" is just boring the fuck out the girls.
Write something nice and engaging(!) about their pictures or profile "Nice pics" is not a good choice, "Are you diving in the maldives there?" is better.
Leave out introductions, those usually get skipped. They can preread the messages before opening them, and it's really all about what they can see there. "Hi, I am Dom." is not a good start, they can see my nickname already. "So about that picture of yours, where you dive in the maldives (it's maldives right?) blablabla" is better, because "What pictures is he talking about?" will lead to: *click message* :D
The length of hte messages shouldn't be books nor two words. It also works if you're are asking less and take the lead (but give them room still to say no or rearrange) when you ask for a meet up. I sometimes ask in the first few messages (people make up their mind early, women and especially couples who needs 300+ messages, are time wasters anyway).
I had great success in the last 3 months with "I would like to know more about you, maybe over a coffee, let's go this friday or sunday. Where is good for you?" (don't copy paste it, but something like that).
Had like 4 meets in the past 3 months with that.
Also include a picture in the message. The paperclip symbol is helping you a lot, too. Half the battle is to get her to open the message and not skip it. (despite profile's claims - they do see the messages in 99% of the cases, just choose to not open them (if they're not hooked, they're not interested!)
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Good and helpful advice, thank you! I’d like to think I follow much of this, but it’s good to have it confirmed. |
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"Hi all! I’m very much a newbie on this site and the scene, so still feeling my way around (as it were). I appreciate that cis single guys have to be *really* special to stand out - and I make no pretensions that I am that kind of person - but I’d be really grateful for pointers from more experienced folk, however brief, on how to sharpen up and refine my profile! Ideas for pics welcome too!
(Alas, I am unable to show my face in my profile for work reasons, but you’ll note I’ve made a point in stating I’d be glad to share it in a message… once I am assured they’re not a colleague or someone I know!)
Thanks for reading! Happy fabbing to you all x"
In my opinion do not worrie about the profile and just keep going to clubs. |
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"You have already had two meets in your first four weeks on Fab. Some of us have been here for at least a year and havnt had a single meet. I'd say you are doing a lot better than me. "
He went to a club it's that easy. |
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"You have already had two meets in your first four weeks on Fab. Some of us have been here for at least a year and havnt had a single meet. I'd say you are doing a lot better than me.
He went to a club it's that easy."
I have no interest in clubs or large socials, but I am more then happy to meet for a one on one social in a coffee shop or for a pint, or bite to eat with anyone for a chat to see if there is an attraction and a spark. I don't get why clubs and socials are the "holy grail" to meet people on Fab. |
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