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By *orl1971 OP Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
If you’re exchanging face pics how much trust do you put that the pics you see will be the person you meet ?
We now don’t exchange pics due to a photo stealing incident but have felt that pics can be easily old, photoshopped or even of a completely different person. |
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over a year ago
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It is always a worry but we figure if we turn up and they don’t look like their pic, or they’re considerably older than the pics they sent, we just say we’re sorry but we’re not interested and leave after a drink or two.
One of the reasons we do socials first and club meets  |
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Confidence in the sincerity of a stranger from online is the sum of a few different factors such as the profile, verifications and the conversation. If everything checks out then chances we have more confidence in the photo being real. Especially when it's clear someone has a sound track record on the scene. |
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"If you’re exchanging face pics how much trust do you put that the pics you see will be the person you meet ?
We now don’t exchange pics due to a photo stealing incident but have felt that pics can be easily old, photoshopped or even of a completely different person. "
I really don't get it. Why do people use very old photos? Surely when they actually meet, the first thing you're going to realise about the person is that they are dishonest.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We tend to look at their overall profile, recent verifications etc. You can tell which folk are genuine and our instincts haven't failed us thus far.
One thing we've noticed is people messaging with a pic tend to be more genuine than the ones who don't. When it comes to older pics, we tend to look at the pics on their profile and their age now. |
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"If you’re exchanging face pics how much trust do you put that the pics you see will be the person you meet ?
We now don’t exchange pics due to a photo stealing incident but have felt that pics can be easily old, photoshopped or even of a completely different person.
I really don't get it. Why do people use very old photos? Surely when they actually meet, the first thing you're going to realise about the person is that they are dishonest.
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But they would still get a meet, no matter what the outcome.
I am not overly bothered with the photos nowadays (as way too many people use various filters). It's more personality that I can get through conversations on here as well as my gut instinct. If it tells me something's off, even if I can't put my finger on it, I do trust it entirely.
In my younger days, however, before I learned to trust my instincts, I had some instances when the person looked nothing like their photos. One I remember the most vividly is when I was dating- agreed to meet a guy, saw his photos before. Went to the pub we agreed to meet at, could not see the guy from the photo but saw a guy waving at me. It turned out it was the guy I agreed to meet, just at least 5 stone heavier and 10 years older than the one from the photos... Needless to say, the "date" only lasted as long as it was considered polite, and did not get a follow up. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Get them to pose for a new face pic holding a copy of today's newspaper in a 'Proof of Life' (a 2000 movie starring Russell Crowe and Meg Ryan) style photo.
Could still be photoshopped of course by anyone with a rudimentary knowledge of editing software, but less likely.
Or. Video call them.
Or meet somewhere for a coffee/pina colada.
Putting 100% faith in a photo is akin to buying something off Wish and then discovering it's much smaller or made of plastic instead of carbon fibre, and believing that your Big Mac at Maccies will look like the one on the photo over the counter instead of something that's been run over by an antique steamroller before being yeeted the length of a football pitch in its box before several elephants kick it around for an hour.
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
When I was meeting more years ago,most people looked like the pics I'd seen to be fair.
I always meet socially first though ,I did have one man who had claimed to be late 30s.When he turned up it was more like in his 50s,so the social went no further.
I hate being deceived.
I never get the profiles that only have pics on from 10 years plus too,we've all changed in that time.
If in any doubt ,you could ask to facetime with them. |
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By *orl1971 OP Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"If you’re exchanging face pics how much trust do you put that the pics you see will be the person you meet ?
We now don’t exchange pics due to a photo stealing incident but have felt that pics can be easily old, photoshopped or even of a completely different person.
I really don't get it. Why do people use very old photos? Surely when they actually meet, the first thing you're going to realise about the person is that they are dishonest.
But they would still get a meet, no matter what the outcome.
I am not overly bothered with the photos nowadays (as way too many people use various filters). It's more personality that I can get through conversations on here as well as my gut instinct. If it tells me something's off, even if I can't put my finger on it, I do trust it entirely.
In my younger days, however, before I learned to trust my instincts, I had some instances when the person looked nothing like their photos. One I remember the most vividly is when I was dating- agreed to meet a guy, saw his photos before. Went to the pub we agreed to meet at, could not see the guy from the photo but saw a guy waving at me. It turned out it was the guy I agreed to meet, just at least 5 stone heavier and 10 years older than the one from the photos... Needless to say, the "date" only lasted as long as it was considered polite, and did not get a follow up. "
That’s exactly what happened to us. We met someone whose photo was obviously taken 4 stone and 15 years ago. You can present anything in a photo.
We trust verifications from other trusted people on the site and just meet blind. That’s because we had our pics copied and used on another profile plus we’ve had single guys send us naked, with face, pics of their fwb. We’re sure without their permission. We just now don’t trust people won’t copy and distribute photos.
A social might waste an hour or two without face pics but you’re unlikely to have your pics distributed without permission. And with the right verified people it’s pretty safe.
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I tend to trust face pics I always think if it wasn't their faces/old pics why would they bother, however we've had one that was definitely an older photo than in person.
I don't understand what people have to gain it's just a waste of eveyones time if it progresses to a meet and the photo isn't matching.
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By *orl1971 OP Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"I tend to trust face pics I always think if it wasn't their faces/old pics why would they bother, however we've had one that was definitely an older photo than in person.
I don't understand what people have to gain it's just a waste of eveyones time if it progresses to a meet and the photo isn't matching.
Mrs "
They’re thinking you’ll turn up and then overlook the photo or still find them attractive even if they have changed.
The photo is the sales pitch and the social is the reality because you can’t hide anything face to face. |
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"If you’re exchanging face pics how much trust do you put that the pics you see will be the person you meet ?
We now don’t exchange pics due to a photo stealing incident but have felt that pics can be easily old, photoshopped or even of a completely different person.
I really don't get it. Why do people use very old photos? Surely when they actually meet, the first thing you're going to realise about the person is that they are dishonest.
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But they do though, I get messages from guys with photo 10 yrs old. You can change considerably in 10 years  |
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"I tend to trust face pics I always think if it wasn't their faces/old pics why would they bother, however we've had one that was definitely an older photo than in person.
I don't understand what people have to gain it's just a waste of eveyones time if it progresses to a meet and the photo isn't matching.
Mrs
They’re thinking you’ll turn up and then overlook the photo or still find them attractive even if they have changed.
The photo is the sales pitch and the social is the reality because you can’t hide anything face to face. "
Yeah they need to change their thinking in that case, I'd walk in say who the fuck are you & why have you wasted my time then walk out again, I'm never going to fuck someone who's lied from the start.
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"If you’re exchanging face pics how much trust do you put that the pics you see will be the person you meet ?
We now don’t exchange pics due to a photo stealing incident but have felt that pics can be easily old, photoshopped or even of a completely different person. "
This is why I only meet in clubs always someone there to take my fancy lol x |
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I need photos and their other information in order to make some kind of assessment. Those with none are a black hole that I don't get sucked into
But having met someone who must have been the great, great, great grandfather and incorrectly certified deceased, who came to the meet instead, I don't blindly put 100% trust into pics.
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Confidence in the sincerity of a stranger from online is the sum of a few different factors such as the profile, verifications and the conversation. If everything checks out then chances we have more confidence in the photo being real. Especially when it's clear someone has a sound track record on the scene."
Yes, this is how it is for us. We’ve always assumed the photos we received were of the person we were talking to, and we’ve never had a meet where they weren’t exactly as their photos showed them to be. |
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By *ampire69Man
over a year ago
Birmingham West Midlands |
photo's cannot be trusted and once online you loose control of them, they can be borrowed and used by anyone, i am a professional photographer by trade and i know how to alter change manipulate images, so no would i trust an on line image ERR no. better to have a telephone chat with a person first then maybe an on line video link test the water a bit further, its down to the individual to make the call, you can also gain an insight simply by reading their written content |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is always a worry but we figure if we turn up and they don’t look like their pic, or they’re considerably older than the pics they sent, we just say we’re sorry but we’re not interested and leave after a drink or two.
Exactly this, how do u know who you are going to meet if you don't exchange pics?
One of the reasons we do socials first and club meets "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people can take a great pic, some take terrible ones.
I tend to treat them as a bit of a guideline as I'm usually much more attracted to personalities anyway |
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I do trust people couples totally but I have met socially sone who did not look like the photos one couple were much better in fact
I had a couple who I met a few times and I never saw them
Never got a photo, and when I went to their house I had to put a blind find on and then strip in the hall and the guy collected me and the fun began
Photos are only part of the journey |
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Had afew meets where they do seem rather surprised that Mrs4 does avtually look like the pictures ?? and that's sad really we think as what's the point in arranging to meet knowing you don't look like the pictures ?? mystery to us ...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Heavily filtered photos are a big red flag for me.
If I’m chatting to someone of my age group I expect them to have wrinkles and laughter lines. I’d prefer they didn’t blur them out.
Same as when TV’s “feminise” their facial features with filters.
I want to see a real pic of the person I’m going to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always ask for a 'now' picture if we are chatting with a couple, arranging a meet and they say they are both sat together, we will send an unfiltered one back of us sat together at the same time. It also helps filter the ones where one is arranging a meet and the other doesn't have a clue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh, I am so naive. I did not think photo deception was a thing…doesn’t make sense because first thing you see on meeting is their face.
The verification thing is interesting. I got verified by the site but not by any people yet. I’m just back after a break (actually, I never really got started previously) and am looking for my first adventure in swinging. I guess a verification is important,right? |
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By *kultraCouple
over a year ago
chesterfield |
People with no face pics - we avoid like the plague as why wouldn’t you have any at all?
People with filtered photos - we feel like they’re being dishonest from the start as they won’t even show you the real them. It’s ok to have one or two ‘fun’ filtered pics but when they’re all filtered we can’t tell what they actually look like as some people are unrecognisable. Anyone that sends us a message with filtered photos are instantly deleted. Don’t lie to us about what you look like
Lastly all of our photos are 100% unfiltered and yes we do have face pics (also 100% unfiltered) so we expect the same in return
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By *orl1971 OP Couple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"People with no face pics - we avoid like the plague as why wouldn’t you have any at all.
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Perhaps because you have a private life, a responsible job and someone has copied and distributed your photos before so it has made you very careful. Also you might have seen evidence that some people have shared face pics of people with swinging friends. We’ve had single guys share pics of fwbs and pretty sure the fwbs don’t know. |
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By *kultraCouple
over a year ago
chesterfield |
"People with no face pics - we avoid like the plague as why wouldn’t you have any at all.
Perhaps because you have a private life, a responsible job and someone has copied and distributed your photos before so it has made you very careful. Also you might have seen evidence that some people have shared face pics of people with swinging friends. We’ve had single guys share pics of fwbs and pretty sure the fwbs don’t know. "
That thought hadn’t occurred to me actually |
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"People with no face pics - we avoid like the plague as why wouldn’t you have any at all?
People with filtered photos - we feel like they’re being dishonest from the start as they won’t even show you the real them. It’s ok to have one or two ‘fun’ filtered pics but when they’re all filtered we can’t tell what they actually look like as some people are unrecognisable. Anyone that sends us a message with filtered photos are instantly deleted. Don’t lie to us about what you look like
Lastly all of our photos are 100% unfiltered and yes we do have face pics (also 100% unfiltered) so we expect the same in return
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I'm not that tech savvy, but what is a "filtered photo"? |
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"If you’re exchanging face pics how much trust do you put that the pics you see will be the person you meet ?
We now don’t exchange pics due to a photo stealing incident but have felt that pics can be easily old, photoshopped or even of a completely different person.
I really don't get it. Why do people use very old photos? Surely when they actually meet, the first thing you're going to realise about the person is that they are dishonest.
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We were chatting to a guy who was over 50, and thought was quite good looking, so invites him for a social and when he turned up he was in his late 70s and had used a photo of when he was around that age...there was no way we were going to even entertain the idea of a play meet...its just such a bizzare thing to do as they will always be found out! |
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By *kultraCouple
over a year ago
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"People with no face pics - we avoid like the plague as why wouldn’t you have any at all?
People with filtered photos - we feel like they’re being dishonest from the start as they won’t even show you the real them. It’s ok to have one or two ‘fun’ filtered pics but when they’re all filtered we can’t tell what they actually look like as some people are unrecognisable. Anyone that sends us a message with filtered photos are instantly deleted. Don’t lie to us about what you look like
Lastly all of our photos are 100% unfiltered and yes we do have face pics (also 100% unfiltered) so we expect the same in return
I'm not that tech savvy, but what is a "filtered photo"? "
Have you seen photos where people can have dog ears and tongues?…. well they’re filtered photos but you can have all sorts of filters and people can literally use filters to smooth out their face, add makeup, change the shape of their face etc. I suppose it’s modern day photo editing |
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