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I had a close friend from the start. Who has advised me about swinging. I'd managed to accomodate at a different house which I can't use at present. This so called friend has made a point of finding out where I live after I requested he doesn't. I'm not happy about this. I'm concerned that he will b here one day and, i guess i feel he would blackmail me with my partner one day. Once he's in, he could describe parts of the house to him and prove that he has been with me. Am I just being silly or have I watched too many detective movies? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you have made a bit of a rod for your own back haven't you?
your got a few choices. you could do nothing and hope it goes easy. you could tell your partner or you could call his bluff. The choice, as they say,is yours
you're gonna get a myriad of answers here.
personally i'd call his bluff...or send the boy round.
by the way is he asking for anything in return to keep his mouth shut? cos that give you another option |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"by the way is he asking for anything in return to keep his mouth shut? cos that give you another option"
Blackmail is against the law, but it has to be blackmail and not just empty threats. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"by the way is he asking for anything in return to keep his mouth shut? cos that give you another option
Blackmail is against the law, but it has to be blackmail and not just empty threats."
but who decides if it's an empty threat? She has no idea if he will until he carries it out or not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a close friend from the start. Who has advised me about swinging. I'd managed to accomodate at a different house which I can't use at present. This so called friend has made a point of finding out where I live after I requested he doesn't. I'm not happy about this. I'm concerned that he will b here one day and, i guess i feel he would blackmail me with my partner one day. Once he's in, he could describe parts of the house to him and prove that he has been with me. Am I just being silly or have I watched too many detective movies?"
Ignoring the morality of this, I'm a little confused.
1) you say you met at another house? Is this other house one that your partner/hubby would recognise? If not then no probs.
2) so he knows where you live now? If he hasn't been inside then he can't describe the place can he?
Solution: jealous ex/guy who tried to chat you up in a bar etc. Who wouldn't take no for an answer.
The big thing I'd be worried about is if he can describe times when your partner was away/busy and what you were wearing, any moles/birthmarks/tattoos on odd places on you etc.
So damage limitation basically, think of ways he could embarress you and come up with good reasons why he knows this. e.g. mole on inside of leg = ex-boyfriend. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"by the way is he asking for anything in return to keep his mouth shut? cos that give you another option
Blackmail is against the law, but it has to be blackmail and not just empty threats.
but who decides if it's an empty threat? She has no idea if he will until he carries it out or not"
Thats the main problem with this sort of thing. When it gets down to 'he said she said' then its a question for m'learned friends, and starts getting expensive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"by the way is he asking for anything in return to keep his mouth shut? cos that give you another option
Blackmail is against the law, but it has to be blackmail and not just empty threats.
but who decides if it's an empty threat? She has no idea if he will until he carries it out or not
Thats the main problem with this sort of thing. When it gets down to 'he said she said' then its a question for m'learned friends, and starts getting expensive."
yeah I kind of assumed that a word in his ear from plod would be enough if she thinks its that serious. I wasn't expecting him to get 3 years |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't give in to any threats or blackmail and if he makes any then go to the police. They won't be shocked and will advise you or have a quiet word with your so called friend without involving your partner. Good luck and hope it comes to nothing. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Don't give in to any threats or blackmail and if he makes any then go to the police. They won't be shocked and will advise you or have a quiet word with your so called friend without involving your partner. Good luck and hope it comes to nothing. "
Good piece of advice.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He hasn't actually threatened you with anything though has he? You're probably just scared of the worst, just don't see him anymore, I'm sure he'll just go away.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Call his bluff. Tell him you told your hubby and have been forgiven... But that hubby wants a quiet word in his shell like for pushing his loving and faithful wife into swinging and stalking her to find out addresses.
Then maybe hide your profile for a while, or start over and learn the lessons.  |
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He has showed caring since the beginning I thought to explain situation of not having sex with my partner about there not being any passion. He felt he would help me with the problem next day. He advised that I should have a few discreet friends on here.
At this other house. He explained he wasn’t very well. And I ended up sucking his cock. The next time we met, time was restricted my partner left later than expected., we’d missed each other, met in my car. Ended up sucking his cock. I noticed a pattern here, I always seem to be put in a position of sucking his cock. We’ve actually never had sex.
He seems to ask questions about my experiences before him. The 1st member of Fab I saw before him and the one that came after. I thought he is obsessive. It turns out he likes hearing, gets excited about my “adventures” as he calls them. Still I keep an open mind and keep my distance about why he’s interested so I explain the barest minimum or not at all. He’s one I can turn to if I’m not very happy about a meet. I let him know where I am. He often emails back and advised me to keep him informed. He has never just shown up or made a nuisance of himself. Or keep comeing for sex.
I’m enclined to end the friendship after a session with another friend yesterday, I told him about meeting in the early hours of the morning and didn’t get his message urging me “ not to go in practically nothing I’m subjecting myself to prostitution. Read the rules again” As I say we both went to see this friend yesterday and I wasn’t happy with wot we did. I was crouched over this other friend and said friend just poked his finger in my vagina which hurt. I ended up sucking boths their cocks. I’m sorry to be a sour puss, but I’ve recently put on my profile to be gentle with me. Am I just being miserable wen I can try this later on.
I keep delaying answering his messages until I need to until this other property is possibly available in a fortnights time, I’d rather be shown more there. I would finish with him but I’m sure of his state of mind, his wife has found out about the site and says she will divorce him. He seems to be calm and doesn’t appear to be worrying about it. He said before if he ever met me in town with partner he would ignore me and not even smile and wonders if I trust anyone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why go private? It isn't going to alter the fact that he know where i live."
Everyone else can see your pic too. So it's not just him you have to worry about. Your next door neighbour might be on the site and spot you. |
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Having sex is not a criminal offence, but blackmail is.
If he tries to blackmail you remind him of this fact and tell him in no uncertain terms that you will bring in the police.
I wish you luck, and hope that it works out for you and your other half. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am gonna try that one
'oooh am not really well, just suck me cock for me'
Well, it's worked once
Thanks for the tip "
Bussy I love your fucked up ways. Tbh it's hard to follow what the OP is on about exactly, she doesn't like to tell him about her other meets yet she keeps him up to date on her whereabouts? Sounds kinda messed up altogether |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am gonna try that one
'oooh am not really well, just suck me cock for me'
Well, it's worked once
Thanks for the tip
Bussy I love your fucked up ways. Tbh it's hard to follow what the OP is on about exactly, she doesn't like to tell him about her other meets yet she keeps him up to date on her whereabouts? Sounds kinda messed up altogether "
She tells him her where abouts and with whom for safety reasons, but she doesn't want to tell him the gory details of the act.
That's how I read it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sweetheart...it sounds to me like this guy is using you purely for his own gain...the site IS supposed to be about enjoyment for all, it does'nt sound like he's interested in your pleasure at all!!
I would get rid asap...
There are so many lovely guys out there...give a decent bloke a chance! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From way I read it she meets a guy regularly, tells him about her adventures and sucks his cock. He gets off on hearing stories, so would say cuck tendencies there.
He has found out where she lives.
As far as I can make out he hasn't threatened or blackmailed her.
They introduced 3rd man and went a little rough for her liking.
She planning to meet said guy in two weeks if other house becomes free.
So, going on that not sure what post is about seeing as she is still arranging to meet up with guy. |
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By *enithWoman
over a year ago
closer than you think |
"close friend = shagged a few times
unfortunately thats how it could be seen"
but she hasn't shagged .... just given him a BJ!!
OP this man sounds like a control freak, in my honest opinion think you need to end the friendship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"close friend = shagged a few times
unfortunately thats how it could be seen
but she hasn't shagged .... just given him a BJ!!
OP this man sounds like a control freak, in my honest opinion think you need to end the friendship"
i best tick off my list of who ive shagged..i thought BJ's counted as sex arrRGghhhhHHHHhhhhHH!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"close friend = shagged a few times
unfortunately thats how it could be seen
but she hasn't shagged .... just given him a BJ!!
OP this man sounds like a control freak, in my honest opinion think you need to end the friendship
i best tick off my list of who ive shagged..i thought BJ's counted as sex arrRGghhhhHHHHhhhhHH! "
Would agree a bj is a sexual act, so would be deemed as sex in my opinion |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"The woman said she hadn't shagged the man only gave him a BJ.
She didn't say they hadn't done a sexual act."
That didn't sound right now that I looked again.
Zenith said that the OP hadn't shagged the man only gave him a BJ.
She didn't say they hadn't done a sexual act |
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By *yronMan
over a year ago
grangemouth |
"close friend = shagged a few times
unfortunately thats how it could be seen
but she hasn't shagged .... just given him a BJ!!
OP this man sounds like a control freak, in my honest opinion think you need to end the friendship
i best tick off my list of who ive shagged..i thought BJ's counted as sex arrRGghhhhHHHHhhhhHH! "
I dunno, ask Bill Clinton! 
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