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Bad form...but is it normal ?
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By *uotwo OP Couple
over a year ago
Melksham |
Hey, just put up a dogging meet and had lots of replies but 'T' was definate on numbers and four it was. Not many but that was what made her comfortable.
Had a user message and went right off on one because he hadn't been 'picked' as I explained his was the seventh message in the line and so 'sorry but it wasn't his turn'. Couldn't accept it and got aggresive & went on and on..its fun I said not your god given right. Is this the way things are now going ?
Upshot is meet has now been pulled as 'T' not comfortable...a real shame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately the attitude is all too common. We get it when we decline people in a club or out dogging or just in general too. Just because Miss is being fucked in a public play room some guys think that automatically entitles them to play without Mr giving permission. |
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"Hey, just put up a dogging meet and had lots of replies but 'T' was definate on numbers and four it was. Not many but that was what made her comfortable.
Had a user message and went right off on one because he hadn't been 'picked' as I explained his was the seventh message in the line and so 'sorry but it wasn't his turn'. Couldn't accept it and got aggresive & went on and on..its fun I said not your god given right. Is this the way things are now going ?
Upshot is meet has now been pulled as 'T' not comfortable...a real shame. "
We'd have said no, yet a couple became unpleasant with us a few weeks ago as we told them they weren't for us and we wouldn't then still send our face pics to them !?  . We had to block them, you'd think that was the end of it but NO. They created a new profile just to attack us further so we blocked that one too  . We find the most common thing though is folk arranging meets then ghosting us, plus the odd single guy posing as a couple  |
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"Don't even get into conversations with the cranks. If anyone acts like a crank, I just block them . Maybe an unpopular opinion, but dealing with people like that just sucks the fun out of it. "
isnt that what the block button is for |
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By *ightNWet69Woman
over a year ago
dark side of the moon |
Unfortunately a lot online & some in clubs seem to think because you are a swinger then you are going to play with anyone & everyone 
These are usually the ones who then go on to complain about not getting meets |
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My favourite thing to do with men like this is call out their aggressive behaviour and attitude and ask them why they think it's appropriate to talk to me like that, they soon vanish, limp dick between their legs... |
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"Unfortunately a lot online & some in clubs seem to think because you are a swinger then you are going to play with anyone & everyone
These are usually the ones who then go on to complain about not getting meets "
Oh yes! Very true! Frankie gets this from bi guys all the time! |
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"Unfortunately a lot online & some in clubs seem to think because you are a swinger then you are going to play with anyone & everyone
These are usually the ones who then go on to complain about not getting meets
Oh yes! Very true! Frankie gets this from bi guys all the time! "
Genuine question!
How do you know they’re “bi guys”, I’ve assumed a club environment re your comment but if you mean bi guys on Fab with bi profiles then cool.
I ask given my experience of bi guys is the abject opposite, this cohort in particular are often the most courteous and respectful around the scene.  |
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You do need to grow a thick skin. I would say 95 % of profiles are only accessed by men, even the couples profiles that are genuine are controlled by the male half.In my profession it means I can 99% of time tell if it's a male or female writing. Just block them, no need to cancel your fun because of guys with issues. Mist guys we've played with who said single , were married. Their problem not ours. So also putting only single guys on your profile is pretty much a waste of time. |
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"Unfortunately a lot online & some in clubs seem to think because you are a swinger then you are going to play with anyone & everyone
These are usually the ones who then go on to complain about not getting meets
Oh yes! Very true! Frankie gets this from bi guys all the time!
Genuine question!
How do you know they’re “bi guys”, I’ve assumed a club environment re your comment but if you mean bi guys on Fab with bi profiles then cool.
I ask given my experience of bi guys is the abject opposite, this cohort in particular are often the most courteous and respectful around the scene. "
I agree, the bi nights I have attended and the bi guys contacting me on this site, have always been respectful and non pushy. If I say no or not into whatever it is they suggest then my boundaries are respected and no rudeness afterwards. |
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"I would have blocked the second they went off on one. "
Reading between the lines wonder if OP put up location for a dogging meet and then tried to find people as many do. Blocking is fine but then run the risk of them turning up and causing trouble or even just turning up which is not good after a torrent of abuse. I can see why that would put off the lady (and the man).
Best advice on any kind of meet- dogging, private, house party, even big social etc. is to leave it as late as possible to disclose location - so any twats can be blocked without fear of them turning up.
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"Unfortunately a lot online & some in clubs seem to think because you are a swinger then you are going to play with anyone & everyone
These are usually the ones who then go on to complain about not getting meets
Oh yes! Very true! Frankie gets this from bi guys all the time!
Genuine question!
How do you know they’re “bi guys”, I’ve assumed a club environment re your comment but if you mean bi guys on Fab with bi profiles then cool.
I ask given my experience of bi guys is the abject opposite, this cohort in particular are often the most courteous and respectful around the scene. "
Sorry wrote that after being up almost 20 hours.
What I meant was Frankie gets guys that assume just cos they are bi they will fuck or be fucked by any bi guy that offers! |
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"Unfortunately a lot online & some in clubs seem to think because you are a swinger then you are going to play with anyone & everyone
These are usually the ones who then go on to complain about not getting meets
Oh yes! Very true! Frankie gets this from bi guys all the time!
Genuine question!
How do you know they’re “bi guys”, I’ve assumed a club environment re your comment but if you mean bi guys on Fab with bi profiles then cool.
I ask given my experience of bi guys is the abject opposite, this cohort in particular are often the most courteous and respectful around the scene.
Sorry wrote that after being up almost 20 hours.
What I meant was Frankie gets guys that assume just cos they are bi they will fuck or be fucked by any bi guy that offers! "
And that’s contact through here not in person! |
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"Hey, just put up a dogging meet and had lots of replies but 'T' was definate on numbers and four it was. Not many but that was what made her comfortable.
Had a user message and went right off on one because he hadn't been 'picked' as I explained his was the seventh message in the line and so 'sorry but it wasn't his turn'. Couldn't accept it and got aggresive & went on and on..its fun I said not your god given right. Is this the way things are now going ?
Upshot is meet has now been pulled as 'T' not comfortable...a real shame. "
Why did you pull the meet? Did you publicise exactly when and where you will be? If you had 4 guys lined up (which is what you wanted), you should have just unlisted the meet from your profile, and carried on with those who had confirmed. They are probably feeling cheesed off now, and possibly think you are time wasters.
Just don’t open any messages once you have your ‘quota’  |
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"Hey, just put up a dogging meet and had lots of replies but 'T' was definate on numbers and four it was. Not many but that was what made her comfortable.
Had a user message and went right off on one because he hadn't been 'picked' as I explained his was the seventh message in the line and so 'sorry but it wasn't his turn'. Couldn't accept it and got aggresive & went on and on..its fun I said not your god given right. Is this the way things are now going ?
Upshot is meet has now been pulled as 'T' not comfortable...a real shame.
Why did you pull the meet? Did you publicise exactly when and where you will be? If you had 4 guys lined up (which is what you wanted), you should have just unlisted the meet from your profile, and carried on with those who had confirmed. They are probably feeling cheesed off now, and possibly think you are time wasters.
Just don’t open any messages once you have your ‘quota’ "
Suspect they did mention location already - schoolboy error 
Easy to say don't open messages once got your quota but when organising things with lots of people you never know who is going to drop out so need some reserves warmed up sometimes. |
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