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It is aschas been said really their choice to do so snd hsppens all the time. Don't take it as a reflection of anything you have done at all. On a wider note, please remember that behaviour norms of interacting and communicating with others are almost abandoned on here and can be hard for those who expect those social norms they adhere to in daily life to carry on here too. It's not everyone of course but some do believe in 'I am entitled to do as I please at all times' including berrating people in forums, especially new ones on here who have yet to adjust to fab norms. On the other hand, remember there are also lots of great people too on here that will normally think before they speak or act.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People block for all sorts of reasons and you won't necessarily have done anything "wrong". For many it's just another filtering tool and they block pre-emptively simply because they're not interested in meeting you or having interactions with you. It's not personal, you just don't fit with what they're looking for.
Concentrate on those who are a good fit and stress less about those who aren't |
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Anything that helps you to your energy on people who you match with, is to be welcomed. Blocks make it really easy that you need to put your attention on to others.
You will not be mutually compatible with most people. Move on to those who you may be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women on here seem to do that,block you for no particular reason. You can't seem to trust any of em."
There's always a reason. I'm not sure how that relates to someone's trustworthiness |
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"Some one has put me on a block list very annoying when I havent done anything  "
On our old account, we blocked all single males within a certain distance. This is because they were too close to home. They may have done nothing wrong, they may not have even interacted with us, but there was no other way to exclude them from our searches.
As mentioned above, this works to your benefit, because you know you aren't compatible with the other profile.
If it helps, we actively encourage other profiles to block us, when they consider us incompatible. Once you realise it's not necessarily a negative, it's quite useful. |
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"Some one has put me on a block list very annoying when I havent done anything "
If you haven't done anything, you haven't done anything. People will block...for distance, sexualities (bi-non bi) and various other reasons it filtering who or what THEY want from what they don't. |
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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago
Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk |
I block lots of profiles for various reasons and that includes profiles I've come across that I don't want to risk contact from because often in the long run it saves time or getting the abusive/irate/snarky replies when you politely say sorry not my type
Blocking those who are of no interest for whatever reason helps the finding of the needle in the haystack |
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I preemptively block sometimes ie
Profiles that I'd never want to interact with or that I'm not gonna be compatible with.
There's always a reason for a block op ,doesn't mean You've done wrong ,we can't be for everyone & the block button is a good tool. |
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"Women on here seem to do that,block you for no particular reason. You can't seem to trust any of em.
Trust them?  "
Yes! you know we not allowed to block anyone even if they are being rude abusive and general Assholes!!!!!!! lol  |
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"Women on here seem to do that,block you for no particular reason. You can't seem to trust any of em."
It's not for no reason. They just don't want you messaging or looking at their profile. It's pretty obvious why they blocked you |
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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago
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Those that haven't paid membership only get to see the 10 closest in "nearby" list.
So sometimes can be they're just clearing people they're not interested in too, or just fed up of seeing the same people in searches.
I also block People based on their status that tells me we are incompatible.
Saves wasting eachothers time.
I do however know how it feels to get blocked, at first i was as surprised as you.
Sometimes after lovely back and forth messages, without warning, a block.
But I've learned to just move on and not worry about it.
I've |
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"Some one has put me on a block list very annoying when I havent done anything "
Lol our block list is so long we can't scroll to the end of it  . We sometimes block those who we wouldn't meet for some reason or another so don't worry about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The block feature is there to allow people to choose who can and can not message them - just as filters are.
You don't necessarily have to have 'done' anything to be blocked.
If someone has decided, upon looking at your profile, that you are not suitable for them, they may block you to prevent you from messaging them.
Honestly, some people take things so personally on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many will block, not necessarily as punishment to behaviour, often to avoid messages, for is they've already decided there's no interest.
It's a way to minimise unnecessary communication.
Don't worry about it.
Find your tribe, don't focus on those that aren't.  |
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"Women on here seem to do that,block you for no particular reason. You can't seem to trust any of em."
Why would that mean you can't trust them. And why are you expecting to trust strangers on the internet anyway?
But they (the women on here, that is) have a reason. You just don't know what it is. |
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Sometimes block not to prevent messages but to stop somebody showing up in update feed. This could be for various reasons - eg, they keep posting drivel, pic spam, don't meet their criteria so would rather not see them posting about meets etc., definitely not for me/us, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a load of people on my block list . It's nothing personal against them . If I,ve messaged and they have deleted my message without replying they obviously aren't interested so I block them to stop them showing up in a search again . Same if they have said no . |
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I block people for all sorts of reasons.
Something they said on the forum
They send repeated messages
They send repeated cock pics
I think I might know them
Their profile is shit and it’s annoyed me. |
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I was always puzzled when I got blocked for no apparent reason. For example, someone would send me a message expressing interest and when I went to reply I was blocked! But as people have said, sometimes it's just used as filter if you get a lot of messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I block people for all sorts of reasons.
Something they said on the forum
They send repeated messages
They send repeated cock pics
I think I might know them
Their profile is shit and it’s annoyed me. "
That last line made me chuckle out loud.
It's relatable, though we prefer 'notes' to a block, usually. |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
I was blocked by some one whom I had never met,never messaged, would never intend to message and the only connection was that we both contributed to the same forum thread. I did wonder why they felt it necessary but pleased it gave them some satisfaction clicking that button. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was blocked by some one whom I had never met,never messaged, would never intend to message and the only connection was that we both contributed to the same forum thread. I did wonder why they felt it necessary but pleased it gave them some satisfaction clicking that button. "
As mentioned above.
Some use the block button simply to avoid getting into possible, unnecessary conversation, and not as punishment.
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People are rarely blocked for no reason. You might not know the reason but there will be one.
I've blocked people I haven't spoken to. People who have posted status regarding drugs or other things I don't really want to be involved in. People who've posted in the forums and I know from what I've read I wouldn't want to interact with them.
I'm sure I'm on other people's block lists but that's cool too. The block button on each account is for the perogative of the account holder. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I apologise for doing this - but I block when people either don't reply to my message, or reply with a "not interested".
Many profiles suggest "don't bombard with messages when I don't reply or say no."
I use the block function (believe it or not) to be polite and adhere to the person's request.
In my case - it is NOT meant to offend!
However; As a straight guy - I have blocked one profile from a guy who suggested he would like to "Have his way with me" after getting me intoxicated or high on something! |
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"I apologise for doing this - but I block when people either don't reply to my message, or reply with a "not interested".
Many profiles suggest "don't bombard with messages when I don't reply or say no."
I use the block function (believe it or not) to be polite and adhere to the person's request.
In my case - it is NOT meant to offend!
However; As a straight guy - I have blocked one profile from a guy who suggested he would like to "Have his way with me" after getting me intoxicated or high on something!"
Thats sounds like he wanted to take avantage you which obviously is wrong on so many levels |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I block men and trans who look at my profile and fab my pics and make no apologies for it. "
Now to really blow your mind. What if the male part of a couple fabs one of your pics lol |
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"I block men and trans who look at my profile and fab my pics and make no apologies for it.
Now to really blow your mind. What if the male part of a couple fabs one of your pics lol"
Funny enough no couple actually fabbed my pics as of yet but even still its likely to be a block as theres no telling (from my perspective) on who's really behind a couple profile |
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If you message me but haven’t read my profile - block
If don’t reply and you message again - block
If you’re profile pic is a penis that I find hideous - block
If you post pics in my local updates that I don’t want to see - block
I HAMMER the block button, must be thousands of folk on it. Above are the most common reasons.
If I could tailor my preferences on here more it’d make it easier, but I can’t so I block
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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago
Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk |
"If you message me but haven’t read my profile - block
If don’t reply and you message again - block
If you’re profile pic is a penis that I find hideous - block
If you post pics in my local updates that I don’t want to see - block
I HAMMER the block button, must be thousands of folk on it. Above are the most common reasons.
If I could tailor my preferences on here more it’d make it easier, but I can’t so I block
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I'm very much like this myself |
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"If you message me but haven’t read my profile - block
If don’t reply and you message again - block
If you’re profile pic is a penis that I find hideous - block
If you post pics in my local updates that I don’t want to see - block
I HAMMER the block button, must be thousands of folk on it. Above are the most common reasons.
If I could tailor my preferences on here more it’d make it easier, but I can’t so I block
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This, it's the best filter of all! |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
I've just added 3 more to ours simply because they messages asking if we want to meet tonight.
A basic scan of our profile explains why that's the likely outcome but hey - if they can't be arsed to read it I'll save them bothering in the future.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you message me but haven’t read my profile - block
If don’t reply and you message again - block
If you’re profile pic is a penis that I find hideous - block
If you post pics in my local updates that I don’t want to see - block
I HAMMER the block button, must be thousands of folk on it. Above are the most common reasons.
If I could tailor my preferences on here more it’d make it easier, but I can’t so I block
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This  some very questionable pics posted lol |
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"If you message me but haven’t read my profile - block
If don’t reply and you message again - block
If you’re profile pic is a penis that I find hideous - block
If you post pics in my local updates that I don’t want to see - block
I HAMMER the block button, must be thousands of folk on it. Above are the most common reasons.
If I could tailor my preferences on here more it’d make it easier, but I can’t so I block
This some very questionable pics posted lol"
There are. I just have very specific taste though. |
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There’s always a reason why someone blocks. It could be something tiny or insignificant but it’s just the way it is. I’ve got hundreds of people on my block list, it could even be in the thousands… I wouldn’t have a clue.
Reasons I block:
• They repeatedly message (sometimes even just a for a second time and I’ll hit the block button)
• They’ve sent me a dick pic
• They’ve sent me a dirty message
• If I’m certain I would never be interested in meeting them and I don’t want them to be able to contact me
• I don’t want them to be able to view my pictures
• Their picture/s knock me sick
• Their message has knocked me sick
• They’ve sent a message asking to ‘meet tonight’
• They’ve sent a rude or abusive message
• They’ve offered money
• They’ve said something in a forum thread that’s pissed me off or I find offensive
• They mention something in their bio that I have a strong dislike for
• They sound like a arsehole
Probably loads more reasons but that’ll do for now |
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"There’s always a reason why someone blocks. It could be something tiny or insignificant but it’s just the way it is. I’ve got hundreds of people on my block list, it could even be in the thousands… I wouldn’t have a clue. 100% agree. I uses to be polite and answer every message but some take that as encouragement. It's everyone's perogative.
Reasons I block:
• They repeatedly message (sometimes even just a for a second time and I’ll hit the block button)
• They’ve sent me a dick pic
• They’ve sent me a dirty message
• If I’m certain I would never be interested in meeting them and I don’t want them to be able to contact me
• I don’t want them to be able to view my pictures
• Their picture/s knock me sick
• Their message has knocked me sick
• They’ve sent a message asking to ‘meet tonight’
• They’ve sent a rude or abusive message
• They’ve offered money
• They’ve said something in a forum thread that’s pissed me off or I find offensive
• They mention something in their bio that I have a strong dislike for
• They sound like a arsehole
Probably loads more reasons but that’ll do for now "
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Missed adding my bit! Agree with the above. I used to politely reply to all messages but some just can't take no. So few that message me don't even bother to read my profile. Its everyone's perogative to block those they don't want interaction with |
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itsIt happens & it can be annoying.Guess you need to think their loss.Same as Verification when you reciprocate & they have met you but chose not to show them.I wish verification could be put up anonymously. |
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"Missed adding my bit! Agree with the above. I used to politely reply to all messages but some just can't take no. So few that message me don't even bother to read my profile. Its everyone's perogative to block those they don't want interaction with "
Totally agree. Sending a ‘no thanks’ just brings another message back…it’s never ending. Delete the message and they still don’t get the hint, even some I’ve blocked have set up new profiles and message again  |
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My block list is full of unsuitable people. For Instance, there may be an absolutely gorgeous single lady on there who lives close by,but if I am,for instance, outside of the age range she is looking for, then I block them so that they don't keep appearing on searches etc, which is pointless if I cannot message them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No response is a response and being blocked is part of that I block people not my type or if I feel they aint who they say they are!your time is pressious as is there's. The way of the world |
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"My block list is full of unsuitable people. For Instance, there may be an absolutely gorgeous single lady on there who lives close by,but if I am,for instance, outside of the age range she is looking for, then I block them so that they don't keep appearing on searches etc, which is pointless if I cannot message them "
I’m the same; no point reading updates or looking at pretty pics of people you are never going to meet. Blocking profiles you don’t match with (for whatever reason), cuts the wheat from the chaff, and means you can concentrate on genuine, potential matches.
I also agree with other posters on this thread, as the forum is a great filter tool…… |
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I often block people to save cluttering my search for instance if they are looking for someone half my age or with some characteristic I do not possess orbecause they keep because they keep disappearing from the site whenever you you from the site whenever you write to them |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Also I block couples who view my profile more then once as there's no telling who's really looking at it (likely to be the man but I hope I'm wrong)"
only way to find out send a little hello |
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"Also I block couples who view my profile more then once as there's no telling who's really looking at it (likely to be the man but I hope I'm wrong)"
What!? This sounds like cutting off your nose to spite your own face maybe they’re looking twice because they are interested…? Mrs has a look then shows to Mr so he can see also? |
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"Also I block couples who view my profile more then once as there's no telling who's really looking at it (likely to be the man but I hope I'm wrong)
What!? This sounds like cutting off your nose to spite your own face maybe they’re looking twice because they are interested…? Mrs has a look then shows to Mr so he can see also?"
I think a lot of guys think fabbing only takes place huddled round one device  |
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I'm pretty sure we are on quite a few block lists ( thanks mainly to hubby) he's a bit like marmite. I have in the past used the button, mostly for every reason stated above. It's nothing personal ( mostly) so don't take it that way and move on. |
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"Also I block couples who view my profile more then once as there's no telling who's really looking at it (likely to be the man but I hope I'm wrong)
What!? This sounds like cutting off your nose to spite your own face maybe they’re looking twice because they are interested…? Mrs has a look then shows to Mr so he can see also?"
Nah 99% of couple profiles are men that run it so actually I'm avoiding unwanted attention |
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I also have a couples profile on here, well me and my FB to be precise but we've started blocking folk for sending random friends invites, obviously desperate attempts to see our friends only photos. Instant block however we did get a rather abusive message sent to us telling we are wrong to block these people and it's folk like us who are spoiling the site. I was going to reply but ironically the coward had blocked us. |
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We also got another abusive message from a 60 year old going crazy because we have age limits set. Saying he should just go kill himself because we are telling him his life is over apparently.
Been on here for years as a single male profile but honestly our couples profile is an eye opener at times. No wonder men get a bad name and blocked on here. |
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I block people if I see indicators that talking to them would just be a waste of both of our time.
I've already decided its a no, why have to go through the same process again when they get in touch after I've forgotten they exist? |
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"We also got another abusive message from a 60 year old going crazy because we have age limits set. Saying he should just go kill himself because we are telling him his life is over apparently.
Been on here for years as a single male profile but honestly our couples profile is an eye opener at times. No wonder men get a bad name and blocked on here."
Welcome to the Cpls world. In all honestly ( this is the hubby BTW.)
Most single men are respectful & just drop a cheeky nice profile msg. That's fine an they normally receive a polite thumbs up or a quick thank you from Claire
HOWEVER!!!!!
The dick pics that seem to be most prevalent on here receive the customary block.
End of the day!!
If they can't be arsed to read a profile......... |
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"We also got another abusive message from a 60 year old going crazy because we have age limits set. Saying he should just go kill himself because we are telling him his life is over apparently.
Been on here for years as a single male profile but honestly our couples profile is an eye opener at times. No wonder men get a bad name and blocked on here."
Had the same. He was unfortunate enough to find me on the end of the message.
Told him I had no argument with his suggestion. |
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over a year ago
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"I block people if I see indicators that talking to them would just be a waste of both of our time.
I've already decided its a no, why have to go through the same process again when they get in touch after I've forgotten they exist?"
This I completely respect, I'm far from wanting to waste anyone's time. I enjoy a lack of bullshit and to the point.
What I'm learning from my inherent lack of veris here though is that you sort of need someone to take a punt on you first and then you're "in" so to speak, which can become a little tiring lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Our block list is bigger than our friends list
Mrs C
Mines thicker than the Harry potter books "
But is it bigger than big Harold cock that's the question? |
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"I block people if I see indicators that talking to them would just be a waste of both of our time.
I've already decided its a no, why have to go through the same process again when they get in touch after I've forgotten they exist?
This I completely respect, I'm far from wanting to waste anyone's time. I enjoy a lack of bullshit and to the point.
What I'm learning from my inherent lack of veris here though is that you sort of need someone to take a punt on you first and then you're "in" so to speak, which can become a little tiring lol "
Various folks offer to meet socially to get you that first veri! |
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From a woman's point of view, we get bombarded with messeges, alot of the time you don't just get one messege off someone, you get several, if you have decided they are not your type it's easier to block to save them messaging repeatedly, or getting abuse by telling that they are not your type. If only you could see this site from the lens of a woman would you understand why. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some one has put me on a block list very annoying when I havent done anything "
How is it annoying? It's entirely up to anyone who the choose to connect with, or not. We use the block button to hide people who don't interest us to save any time wasting, it's not just about someone else 'doing something'. I wouldn't worry about it, just forget about it and move on
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"I block people if I see indicators that talking to them would just be a waste of both of our time.
I've already decided its a no, why have to go through the same process again when they get in touch after I've forgotten they exist?
This I completely respect, I'm far from wanting to waste anyone's time. I enjoy a lack of bullshit and to the point.
What I'm learning from my inherent lack of veris here though is that you sort of need someone to take a punt on you first and then you're "in" so to speak, which can become a little tiring lol "
Get to a club or social to get some in person veris if you think that stands in your way. |
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I've been blocked by quite a few couples, many of whom I've had no interaction with at all. I can only assume that they've looked at my profile, seen that I've been honest about married with permission and decided I'm not for them. No problems for me, plenty of other friends to chat with on here. |
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By *oris300Woman
over a year ago
Glasgow |
Personally, if a person forgets they've been politely turned down. Then try again another time, I block them. I don't like having the same conversation over and over again. It's happened a few times |
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"Personally, if a person forgets they've been politely turned down. Then try again another time, I block them. I don't like having the same conversation over and over again. It's happened a few times"
It’s easier then trying to reiterate your not interested we do the same |
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It comes to the point you have to question the mentality of some. When your status says random friends invites will be deleted and blocked yet still they come you have ask what is wrong with these people. Read the damn profile, read the status update and ask yourself am I really what they are looking for? Don't then go accusing them if being timewasters because they aren't meeting for your instashag after half a message |
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"It comes to the point you have to question the mentality of some. When your status says random friends invites will be deleted and blocked yet still they come you have ask what is wrong with these people. Read the damn profile, read the status update and ask yourself am I really what they are looking for? Don't then go accusing them if being timewasters because they aren't meeting for your instashag after half a message "
Totally agree… my profile states clear as day what will get them blocked and they still don’t pay any attention. Maybes some people see it as a challenge how many blocks they can get in one day? |
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"It comes to the point you have to question the mentality of some. When your status says random friends invites will be deleted and blocked yet still they come you have ask what is wrong with these people. Read the damn profile, read the status update and ask yourself am I really what they are looking for? Don't then go accusing them if being timewasters because they aren't meeting for your instashag after half a message
Totally agree… my profile states clear as day what will get them blocked and they still don’t pay any attention. Maybes some people see it as a challenge how many blocks they can get in one day? "
Same for us too, on our status it says please read our profile before messaging, profile quite clearly states what will get people blocked….. yet I still block multiple people everyday….. mind boggling!! |
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That's the problem, as soon as you reply to say no thanks, immediately that's a conversation. There way to excited to get a response.
By the way, I've just blocked you for my own reasons. Have a great day now. |
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