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By *arry C OP Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
A thing that I have noticed on here is that if you are a married guy whose wife is not into swinging or sex has a problem trying to get a meet on here.
If you are a single woman many couples want that along with swinging couples and well hung young lads if they are lucky.
If you are an older married man who is looking for a threesome with a couple you have no chance even if you are bi.
Sometimes saying your bi puts the women off so many men on here don't mention it in their profile.
Any other men have this problem on here?
Only meets I have had on here has been with other men.
Would be nice to have fun with a female especially when my wife won't allow me to have sex with her and I don't want to go into a relationship with another woman .
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"A thing that I have noticed on here is that if you are a married guy whose wife is not into swinging or sex has a problem trying to get a meet on here.
If you are a single woman many couples want that along with swinging couples and well hung young lads if they are lucky.
If you are an older married man who is looking for a threesome with a couple you have no chance even if you are bi.
Sometimes saying your bi puts the women off so many men on here don't mention it in their profile.
Any other men have this problem on here?
Only meets I have had on here has been with other men.
Would be nice to have fun with a female especially when my wife won't allow me to have sex with her and I don't want to go into a relationship with another woman .
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Cheating is not and has never been part of swinging!! |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
The dot in the i |
Being a single women doesn’t mean it’s easy to find a meet in the slightest, if anything there is more to wade through because too many will manipulate so I’m forced to hold higher walls up than I would otherwise, telling the difference isn’t any easy task |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"When you say your wife is not into swinging do you mean she didn’t consent for you to have sex a with other people?
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And there's the $50,000 question.
OP it's hard for many people to get a meet. Nobody is entitled to anything just by joining a website. If people don't want to meet you they won't, whether you're old or young, married or single, straight or bi.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honest answer is the odds are not in your favour but be honest about what you are looking for, your circumstances and your sexuality.
Truth is we are all entitled to our own preferences with who we will or will not meet. Your marital circumstances exclude you for some people, your sexuality may as well .... but don't lie to get round filters because nothing worse than feeling lied to and used.
We are all people first and none of us on here are entitled to a meet or to sex.
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"The odds aren't in your favour. Many woman are turned off by men that cheat.
Be patient. Get involved socially. "
-True, but women cheat too though obviosly. There is a whole tranche of people on Fab who do it. They'll only find each other if they indicate in some way.
I don't cheat myself, but we never know the details. Apparently a lot of people who go with someone new when they feel things are 'over' don't feel that it's cheating at all. Some people feel trapped. Some (like the OP it seems) just need sex in their lives.
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Aberdeen is a tough area, when I was working up there, I had zero luck, few conversations, but no luck at all.
But in general there are 100s of us (singles/couples looking) to each one of them, so it's not easy.
There is an Aberdeen Social coming up, something else I tried to do but failed but this coming up looks promising, get along to that.
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
It's not easy but then again, with a male to female ratio of something like 50 to 1 (I maybe wrong but whatever it is, it's huge), I never expected it to be easy. But meets do happen and when they do its always worth the struggle. |
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It is difficult as a single guy, but from the perspective of couples/women they get barraged with messages all the time and you will have to REALLY stand out or be exactly what they're looking for. There are also a lot of creepy guys on here so it's understandable they will be wary.
I find it best to go to socials or clubs and meet people that way. You can establish a proper connection and if nothing else have a good chat with decent people. |
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"A thing that I have noticed on here is that if you are a married guy whose wife is not into swinging or sex has a problem trying to get a meet on here.
If you are a single woman many couples want that along with swinging couples and well hung young lads if they are lucky.
If you are an older married man who is looking for a threesome with a couple you have no chance even if you are bi.
Sometimes saying your bi puts the women off so many men on here don't mention it in their profile.
Any other men have this problem on here?
Only meets I have had on here has been with other men.
Would be nice to have fun with a female especially when my wife won't allow me to have sex with her and I don't want to go into a relationship with another woman .
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you're buggered mate literally  |
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"Here https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/scotland/1428142"
Yes I agree, going to socials is a great way to meet people in real life, I feel it's easier than trying to get to know someone through messaging.
However I also agree that if you're cheating it's going to turn off a lot of folk |
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I can see it being frowned on in the Fab socials - there will be lots of happily married couples for a start - but really socials are only a small fraction of the whole picture. Socials are great for those who use them but clearly not for everyone.
Maybe you could enquire about cucks etc on that Aberdeen page?
I think a lot of people don't always ask too many questions on Fab (and not give too much away too obviously), so it's good you are at least honest about where you are in life.
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Some will meet married men playing away & others Won't op .same goes for bi men,be honest with those you speak to though and give them a choice to meet based on the truth.
As a woman i dont have the pick of who i want to meet,its hard to gwt an attraction & connection.
Make sure you fill in your profile & sell yourself ,its the effort in that equals the results.
Also nobody owes anyone a meet,people have their own morals and preferences on here as much as they would anywhere else. |
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"Unless you’re black with a big knob I’d go looking for your nearest paid for female! ??"
Have to laugh at this comment, as I was offered a bj from a black guy with a big knob only last night, and I am straight!  |
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OP, you're not cheating if you meet others for sex, when your wife is refusing you sex at home; you're playing away. If you've had a conversation which ended with your wife saying she doesn't want to have sex with you, you should let her know you will look to have your needs filled elsewhere 
Aberdeen is some distance from Edinburgh and Glasgow, where the only swinger clubs in Scotland are located, so you may have to factor in overnight stays if you decide to visit any of them? Personally, based on my experiences as a single guy in clubs, I would never recommend them to a mate, as a good way to meet women looking for no-strings fun.
Be open on your profile about being a bi male. I'm sure you will find plenty of guys looking for discreet fun closer to home if you do 
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"A thing that I have noticed on here is that if you are a married guy whose wife is not into swinging or sex has a problem trying to get a meet on here.
If you are a single woman many couples want that along with swinging couples and well hung young lads if they are lucky.
If you are an older married man who is looking for a threesome with a couple you have no chance even if you are bi.
Sometimes saying your bi puts the women off so many men on here don't mention it in their profile.
Any other men have this problem on here?
Only meets I have had on here has been with other men.
Would be nice to have fun with a female especially when my wife won't allow me to have sex with her and I don't want to go into a relationship with another woman .
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I know the feeling too well, i get the usual "Sorry but im not or we are not into Asian Men"
The more polite you are, the nastier the replies |
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"A thing that I have noticed on here is that if you are a married guy whose wife is not into swinging or sex has a problem trying to get a meet on here.
If you are a single woman many couples want that along with swinging couples and well hung young lads if they are lucky.
If you are an older married man who is looking for a threesome with a couple you have no chance even if you are bi.
Sometimes saying your bi puts the women off so many men on here don't mention it in their profile.
Any other men have this problem on here?
Only meets I have had on here has been with other men.
Would be nice to have fun with a female especially when my wife won't allow me to have sex with her and I don't want to go into a relationship with another woman .
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My answer to the woman being put off by stating your bi...if you were genuinely bisexual then surely women being put off wouldn't bother you! And if your genuinely bisexual then why aren't you proud of that if that's truly who you are and not be shy about stating that fact! |
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"A thing that I have noticed on here is that if you are a married guy whose wife is not into swinging or sex has a problem trying to get a meet on here.
If you are a single woman many couples want that along with swinging couples and well hung young lads if they are lucky.
If you are an older married man who is looking for a threesome with a couple you have no chance even if you are bi.
Sometimes saying your bi puts the women off so many men on here don't mention it in their profile.
Any other men have this problem on here?
Only meets I have had on here has been with other men.
Would be nice to have fun with a female especially when my wife won't allow me to have sex with her and I don't want to go into a relationship with another woman .
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Also was this part of your vows that if your wife wasn't into swinging or having sex with you.. did she give you the permission to have sex with other people..I think k you will find its just the married bit that causes you problems in this swinging world! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's actually hard as a couple too. We have to wade though the endless dick pics and messages from guys that haven't read our profile and don't meet our preferences. There's all the fake couple profiles and timewasters.
That's about 99.9% of the messages we get.
Clubs and socials are a much better way to meet people. The men don't immediately show you a photo of their cock, they try a bit harder than 'how's U?' or 'meet now?' and you can chat to real couples.
We rarely meet people from Fab. It's much more of a place to keep in touch with people we meet face to face.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless you’re black with a big knob I’d go looking for your nearest paid for female! ??"
Comments like this are hilarious as I’d bet that unless you’re into being fetishised there are way more people that aren’t into Black guys and prefer white Men on here. Especially given the demographic that seem to use it 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be difficult for anyone to arrange a meet.
It's more difficult for single men.
Even harder for single men with an unimpressive profile.
And far more difficult for cheating men.
As a collective, they're near the bottom of the pile and they'll likely find it real tough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A thing that I have noticed on here is that if you are a married guy whose wife is not into swinging or sex has a problem trying to get a meet on here.
If you are a single woman many couples want that along with swinging couples and well hung young lads if they are lucky.
If you are an older married man who is looking for a threesome with a couple you have no chance even if you are bi.
Sometimes saying your bi puts the women off so many men on here don't mention it in their profile.
Any other men have this problem on here?
Only meets I have had on here has been with other men.
Would be nice to have fun with a female especially when my wife won't allow me to have sex with her and I don't want to go into a relationship with another woman .
Cheating is not and has never been part of swinging!!"
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"Unless you’re black with a big knob I’d go looking for your nearest paid for female! ??"
What a stupid thing to say!
I have first hand experience of you messaging me and I can honestly say the reason it never got of the ground was absolutely nothing to do with your colour or the size of your appendage! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Aberdeen is a tough area, when I was working up there, I had zero luck, few conversations, but no luck at all.
But in general there are 100s of us (singles/couples looking) to each one of them, so it's not easy.
There is an Aberdeen Social coming up, something else I tried to do but failed but this coming up looks promising, get along to that.
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We haven't made it to the Aberdeen social yet, but we know a couple who go regularly and they really enjoy it
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"A thing that I have noticed on here is that if you are a married guy whose wife is not into swinging or sex has a problem trying to get a meet on here.
If you are a single woman many couples want that along with swinging couples and well hung young lads if they are lucky.
If you are an older married man who is looking for a threesome with a couple you have no chance even if you are bi.
Sometimes saying your bi puts the women off so many men on here don't mention it in their profile.
Any other men have this problem on here?
Only meets I have had on here has been with other men.
Would be nice to have fun with a female especially when my wife won't allow me to have sex with her and I don't want to go into a relationship with another woman .
My answer to the woman being put off by stating your bi...if you were genuinely bisexual then surely women being put off wouldn't bother you! And if your genuinely bisexual then why aren't you proud of that if that's truly who you are and not be shy about stating that fact! "
I agree with that, I'm openly bisexual, I agree it has put many women off , they don't matter. I've had more than my fair share of fun with guys though. My last 2 longterm relationships were with bi females and they weren't put of with me being bi , so they do exsist and in not changing who I am for anyone. Not interested your loss as they say. It won't bother me in the slightest.
That said I do get the odd homophobic male on here who feels the need to try and tell me I'm gay because all my pics are m/m ,
My favourite analogy .
A werewolf when it's in wolf form is still a werewolf , when it's in human form it's still a werewolf. Just because I've not fucked many women recently I'm still bisexual  |
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P.s even as a bi male I won't entertain cheaters. If I suspect or find out during a meet they have a partner I'll make sure to leave marks they might need to explain.
Can't stand liars
Or consent violators |
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"A thing that I have noticed on here is that if you are a married guy whose wife is not into swinging or sex has a problem trying to get a meet on here.
If you are a single woman many couples want that along with swinging couples and well hung young lads if they are lucky.
If you are an older married man who is looking for a threesome with a couple you have no chance even if you are bi.
Sometimes saying your bi puts the women off so many men on here don't mention it in their profile.
Any other men have this problem on here?
Only meets I have had on here has been with other men.
Would be nice to have fun with a female especially when my wife won't allow me to have sex with her and I don't want to go into a relationship with another woman .
My answer to the woman being put off by stating your bi...if you were genuinely bisexual then surely women being put off wouldn't bother you! And if your genuinely bisexual then why aren't you proud of that if that's truly who you are and not be shy about stating that fact!
I agree with that, I'm openly bisexual, I agree it has put many women off , they don't matter. I've had more than my fair share of fun with guys though. My last 2 longterm relationships were with bi females and they weren't put of with me being bi , so they do exsist and in not changing who I am for anyone. Not interested your loss as they say. It won't bother me in the slightest.
That said I do get the odd homophobic male on here who feels the need to try and tell me I'm gay because all my pics are m/m ,
My favourite analogy .
A werewolf when it's in wolf form is still a werewolf , when it's in human form it's still a werewolf. Just because I've not fucked many women recently I'm still bisexual "
Love that analogy!! |
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