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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
london stratford |
"Are there any cuckold specific events/socials where you can go and meet potential bulls in person? "
I wish there was. If you hear of any, please keep me in the loop and inform me.
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"Are there any cuckold specific events/socials where you can go and meet potential bulls in person? "
Lovely profile! Reads so well, and very similar minds 
Hope you guys find the bull you are looking for! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are there any cuckold specific events/socials where you can go and meet potential bulls in person?
Lovely profile! Reads so well, and very similar minds
Hope you guys find the bull you are looking for! "
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Exactly
It depends on your personality a bit more as I believe there is more mental stimulation with the cuckold, Hotwife and bull situation
BMFC is great but that’s very specific
I would suggest advertise a meet and request bulls with plenty of notice and speak to them a lot in advance to make sure your on the same page
Because the last thing you want if your not into it is a very dom bull arriving and you both get put off
I have been so lucky in that my couples have been so easy to get on with and being open we have made sure everyone got out just way they wanted
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It depends on what you are looking for, club events can be quite overwhelming at times whereas a more one-to-one meet can be a little more intimate."
Thank you. We thought a club social atmosphere would be better than just relying online. More of a face to face approach. Will give this some more though |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Exactly
It depends on your personality a bit more as I believe there is more mental stimulation with the cuckold, Hotwife and bull situation
BMFC is great but that’s very specific
I would suggest advertise a meet and request bulls with plenty of notice and speak to them a lot in advance to make sure your on the same page
Because the last thing you want if your not into it is a very dom bull arriving and you both get put off
I have been so lucky in that my couples have been so easy to get on with and being open we have made sure everyone got out just way they wanted
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Thank you. The issue we’re encountering via online is that it’s all instant meets and full on. Not many want to chat and those they do eventually just stop replying as they’ve found someone/something else
We’ll keep trying. It’s only been 7 months haha |
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By *iganpairCouple
over a year ago
Wigan, Lancs. |
Yea know what you mean there it's like no connection or spark just want was bam thanks and next
"Exactly
It depends on your personality a bit more as I believe there is more mental stimulation with the cuckold, Hotwife and bull situation
BMFC is great but that’s very specific
I would suggest advertise a meet and request bulls with plenty of notice and speak to them a lot in advance to make sure your on the same page
Because the last thing you want if your not into it is a very dom bull arriving and you both get put off
I have been so lucky in that my couples have been so easy to get on with and being open we have made sure everyone got out just way they wanted
Thank you. The issue we’re encountering via online is that it’s all instant meets and full on. Not many want to chat and those they do eventually just stop replying as they’ve found someone/something else
We’ll keep trying. It’s only been 7 months haha"
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This has been a passion of mine for years however I've had to conclude that for a 100% undiluted cuckold themed even the numbers just aren't there for large scale events. Years back I hosted a couple of intimate parties but even then it needed to be a mix of cuckold and bi fun to get the number.
Was still a whole lot of fun though |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
I think you're profile says exactly what you are looking for, so it's just ing out those that talk but don't walk. Reading what you said previously about guys being impatient, I would suggest they're not right for you anyway. You say you're not interested in humiliation etc, so what's wrong with taking time and making sure you are all getting something from the dynamic? It has to work for the two of you primarily, but you're bull has to respect that as well as get what he wants from it. Don't change your vetting process. The right one will be worth waiting for. |
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"Exactly
It depends on your personality a bit more as I believe there is more mental stimulation with the cuckold, Hotwife and bull situation
BMFC is great but that’s very specific
I would suggest advertise a meet and request bulls with plenty of notice and speak to them a lot in advance to make sure your on the same page
Because the last thing you want if your not into it is a very dom bull arriving and you both get put off
I have been so lucky in that my couples have been so easy to get on with and being open we have made sure everyone got out just way they wanted
Thank you. The issue we’re encountering via online is that it’s all instant meets and full on. Not many want to chat and those they do eventually just stop replying as they’ve found someone/something else
We’ll keep trying. It’s only been 7 months haha"
*I can give you another Bulls perspective and I hope you find it useful*
An experienced Bull will enjoy the slow get to know you process. Not only is it part of the fun but getting a sense of how a couple ticks is a great way of discovering if everyone's desired outcomes align enough for future encounters to be pleasurable for all concerned.
However speaking for my perspective if I'm chatting with a "brand new" (strong emphasis on brand new to all things swinging related) couple that I've not yet met in person there are a few areas of friction that can often lead to discussions coming to an end.
There are as many fantasist couples are there are time wasting or unauthentic Bulls. With this in mind I always try to quickly establish if the couple are genuinely interested or if the cuck is 100% on board and the hotwife is still on the fence about taking the leap into the lifestyle. I also need to feel comfortable that the couple has the right motivations and it’s easier to establish this when there is an opportunity to chat with the wife too.
This can often be an area of friction because more often that not the hotwife understandably doesn’t have the time or interest in filtering through all the Bull wannabes.
I say this as someone who is sometimes part of a couple and the filtering of single males is almost always done by me.
Long story short you may find that things get a little bit easier once you’ve got an actual meet or social under your belt. Have to warn you though, for most of us into cuckold play it’s a bitter sweet search but it always feels worth it when you find the right couple/single male.
Wish you both the best of luck.
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"Exactly
It depends on your personality a bit more as I believe there is more mental stimulation with the cuckold, Hotwife and bull situation
BMFC is great but that’s very specific
I would suggest advertise a meet and request bulls with plenty of notice and speak to them a lot in advance to make sure your on the same page
Because the last thing you want if your not into it is a very dom bull arriving and you both get put off
I have been so lucky in that my couples have been so easy to get on with and being open we have made sure everyone got out just way they wanted
Thank you. The issue we’re encountering via online is that it’s all instant meets and full on. Not many want to chat and those they do eventually just stop replying as they’ve found someone/something else
We’ll keep trying. It’s only been 7 months haha
*I can give you another Bulls perspective and I hope you find it useful*
An experienced Bull will enjoy the slow get to know you process. Not only is it part of the fun but getting a sense of how a couple ticks is a great way of discovering if everyone's desired outcomes align enough for future encounters to be pleasurable for all concerned.
However speaking for my perspective if I'm chatting with a "brand new" (strong emphasis on brand new to all things swinging related) couple that I've not yet met in person there are a few areas of friction that can often lead to discussions coming to an end.
There are as many fantasist couples are there are time wasting or unauthentic Bulls. With this in mind I always try to quickly establish if the couple are genuinely interested or if the cuck is 100% on board and the hotwife is still on the fence about taking the leap into the lifestyle. I also need to feel comfortable that the couple has the right motivations and it’s easier to establish this when there is an opportunity to chat with the wife too.
This can often be an area of friction because more often that not the hotwife understandably doesn’t have the time or interest in filtering through all the Bull wannabes.
I say this as someone who is sometimes part of a couple and the filtering of single males is almost always done by me.
Long story short you may find that things get a little bit easier once you’ve got an actual meet or social under your belt. Have to warn you though, for most of us into cuckold play it’s a bitter sweet search but it always feels worth it when you find the right couple/single male.
Wish you both the best of luck.
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I have found your comments to always be so very wise. Thank you. Always enjoy reading your words.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Exactly
It depends on your personality a bit more as I believe there is more mental stimulation with the cuckold, Hotwife and bull situation
BMFC is great but that’s very specific
I would suggest advertise a meet and request bulls with plenty of notice and speak to them a lot in advance to make sure your on the same page
Because the last thing you want if your not into it is a very dom bull arriving and you both get put off
I have been so lucky in that my couples have been so easy to get on with and being open we have made sure everyone got out just way they wanted
Thank you. The issue we’re encountering via online is that it’s all instant meets and full on. Not many want to chat and those they do eventually just stop replying as they’ve found someone/something else
We’ll keep trying. It’s only been 7 months haha
*I can give you another Bulls perspective and I hope you find it useful*
An experienced Bull will enjoy the slow get to know you process. Not only is it part of the fun but getting a sense of how a couple ticks is a great way of discovering if everyone's desired outcomes align enough for future encounters to be pleasurable for all concerned.
However speaking for my perspective if I'm chatting with a "brand new" (strong emphasis on brand new to all things swinging related) couple that I've not yet met in person there are a few areas of friction that can often lead to discussions coming to an end.
There are as many fantasist couples are there are time wasting or unauthentic Bulls. With this in mind I always try to quickly establish if the couple are genuinely interested or if the cuck is 100% on board and the hotwife is still on the fence about taking the leap into the lifestyle. I also need to feel comfortable that the couple has the right motivations and it’s easier to establish this when there is an opportunity to chat with the wife too.
This can often be an area of friction because more often that not the hotwife understandably doesn’t have the time or interest in filtering through all the Bull wannabes.
I say this as someone who is sometimes part of a couple and the filtering of single males is almost always done by me.
Long story short you may find that things get a little bit easier once you’ve got an actual meet or social under your belt. Have to warn you though, for most of us into cuckold play it’s a bitter sweet search but it always feels worth it when you find the right couple/single male.
Wish you both the best of luck.
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Thank you for your insight.
We have had many meets with guys as a Stag/Vixen dynamic via another profile on here for around 6 years but is easier to find guys for that than the cuckold dynamic we now wish to indulge in. That’s why we were curious to see if there were specific events for it out there.
We will just persevere. |
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"Exactly
It depends on your personality a bit more as I believe there is more mental stimulation with the cuckold, Hotwife and bull situation
BMFC is great but that’s very specific
I would suggest advertise a meet and request bulls with plenty of notice and speak to them a lot in advance to make sure your on the same page
Because the last thing you want if your not into it is a very dom bull arriving and you both get put off
I have been so lucky in that my couples have been so easy to get on with and being open we have made sure everyone got out just way they wanted
Thank you. The issue we’re encountering via online is that it’s all instant meets and full on. Not many want to chat and those they do eventually just stop replying as they’ve found someone/something else
We’ll keep trying. It’s only been 7 months haha
*I can give you another Bulls perspective and I hope you find it useful*
An experienced Bull will enjoy the slow get to know you process. Not only is it part of the fun but getting a sense of how a couple ticks is a great way of discovering if everyone's desired outcomes align enough for future encounters to be pleasurable for all concerned.
However speaking for my perspective if I'm chatting with a "brand new" (strong emphasis on brand new to all things swinging related) couple that I've not yet met in person there are a few areas of friction that can often lead to discussions coming to an end.
There are as many fantasist couples are there are time wasting or unauthentic Bulls. With this in mind I always try to quickly establish if the couple are genuinely interested or if the cuck is 100% on board and the hotwife is still on the fence about taking the leap into the lifestyle. I also need to feel comfortable that the couple has the right motivations and it’s easier to establish this when there is an opportunity to chat with the wife too.
This can often be an area of friction because more often that not the hotwife understandably doesn’t have the time or interest in filtering through all the Bull wannabes.
I say this as someone who is sometimes part of a couple and the filtering of single males is almost always done by me.
Long story short you may find that things get a little bit easier once you’ve got an actual meet or social under your belt. Have to warn you though, for most of us into cuckold play it’s a bitter sweet search but it always feels worth it when you find the right couple/single male.
Wish you both the best of luck.
Thank you for your insight.
We have had many meets with guys as a Stag/Vixen dynamic via another profile on here for around 6 years but is easier to find guys for that than the cuckold dynamic we now wish to indulge in. That’s why we were curious to see if there were specific events for it out there.
We will just persevere. "
I am sure you will find what you are looking. There are club nights (bmfc, dark desires to name two who probably have an aspect or theme night for your needs) the other way could be to seek out verified profiles of groups of guys who provide the cuckold experience and make clear your wants. Good luck ! |
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"Exactly
Thank you for your insight.
We have had many meets with guys as a Stag/Vixen dynamic via another profile on here for around 6 years but is easier to find guys for that than the cuckold dynamic we now wish to indulge in. That’s why we were curious to see if there were specific events for it out there.
We will just persevere. "
Ohhh that's totally different. That's not brand new in my book that's just a case of everyone finding what they want.
Over the years I've written blogs about my perspective from the guys point of view. Couples have read it and reached out to me because of it. Almost like a CV lol |
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"Bmfc bulls events at xtasia are good for us, but to be honest still not quite what we are looking for if you want a long term real bull"
Looking for long term bull dynamics. It would be nice to chat about the scenarios that you want to explore, Ed |
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I think putting yourself in the cuckold/bull category might perhaps not be helping and perhaps you should just go along to normal organised socials/events where single men will be attending.
What you describe in your profile could broadly be the type of threesome MFM scenario that many on here pursue. You just need a man who is reasonably confident and comfortable not some dominant bull type. Often the people who describe themselves as bulls are full of bull and not particular nice (not all but experience from many years here with my partner as well) so I would widen your search based - one-to-one focusing on men with a few veris and in terms on attending more general swinging socials/events.
Sometimes all these swinging labels are helpful but often just make it harder imo and either put off some good people or attract the wrong ones.
Best of luck in your journey.
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
the last place i would look for a ''bull'' is fab the last place i would take advise from a guy on cuckolding the are simply far too few real anything on fab that includes cuckold couples and bulls ... alot of cuckold couples are fantasy cuckold (nothing wrong with this by the way) and alot of the bull are dreamers and are simply men wanting a fuck or relive a porn scene they have viewed ...
ive lost count of the amount of men who have said they were bulls via fab and the bulls i have found were guys who did not see themselves as bulls..
the cuckold scene is a weird and varied scene from the real lifestyle to the play couples from hard core to softcore from the mental game to the its all sex only...
for most men they just see it as a opening to just fuck someones wife thats fine for the fantasy / play crowd but not for the real lifestyle couples alot just want the sexual going ons of cuckold and nothing else but at the end of the day thats not cuckold thats just doing sexual things..
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"the last place i would look for a ''bull'' is fab the last place i would take advise from a guy on cuckolding the are simply far too few real anything on fab that includes cuckold couples and bulls ... alot of cuckold couples are fantasy cuckold (nothing wrong with this by the way) and alot of the bull are dreamers and are simply men wanting a fuck or relive a porn scene they have viewed ...
ive lost count of the amount of men who have said they were bulls via fab and the bulls i have found were guys who did not see themselves as bulls..
the cuckold scene is a weird and varied scene from the real lifestyle to the play couples from hard core to softcore from the mental game to the its all sex only...
for most men they just see it as a opening to just fuck someones wife thats fine for the fantasy / play crowd but not for the real lifestyle couples alot just want the sexual going ons of cuckold and nothing else but at the end of the day thats not cuckold thats just doing sexual things..
#justmyopinion ...."
It does sound like the OP is looking for the more softer side of things more akin to a normalish threesome but who knows.
I wouldn't be so negative on everyone on Fab including single men. Many are very experienced, polite, sensible and many are also part of couples (myself included) so see it from the other side as well. OP is also in the first instance looking for advice on events where could meet somebody so think we many are qualified to say something on that topic. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
"the last place i would look for a ''bull'' is fab the last place i would take advise from a guy on cuckolding the are simply far too few real anything on fab that includes cuckold couples and bulls ... alot of cuckold couples are fantasy cuckold (nothing wrong with this by the way) and alot of the bull are dreamers and are simply men wanting a fuck or relive a porn scene they have viewed ...
ive lost count of the amount of men who have said they were bulls via fab and the bulls i have found were guys who did not see themselves as bulls..
the cuckold scene is a weird and varied scene from the real lifestyle to the play couples from hard core to softcore from the mental game to the its all sex only...
for most men they just see it as a opening to just fuck someones wife thats fine for the fantasy / play crowd but not for the real lifestyle couples alot just want the sexual going ons of cuckold and nothing else but at the end of the day thats not cuckold thats just doing sexual things..
#justmyopinion ....
It does sound like the OP is looking for the more softer side of things more akin to a normalish threesome but who knows.
I wouldn't be so negative on everyone on Fab including single men. Many are very experienced, polite, sensible and many are also part of couples (myself included) so see it from the other side as well. OP is also in the first instance looking for advice on events where could meet somebody so think we many are qualified to say something on that topic. "
im not being negative im just saying what its like in the real world of swinging im not knocking all men hell no there are loads ive met ove the 30+ years of being on this scene (im no newbie) men are the real reason im here with this my single profile and our couples one ...
being a male half of a couple dont make you one of the good guys either can (if you could see how they all behave ..not saying you or indeed all but alot of male halfs of couples are alot worse than some of the single guys on here or in clubs (ill say again not all)
the longer your on a scene i guess the more you see and the easier it becomes to see i can be just as negative with couples and single women too it dont mean there's not plenty left to enjoy and have fun with ..the scene is very much alive but as with everything posative there will always be negatives
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