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Are profile bios obsolete?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ive noticed a fair amount of people ignore profile bios, and will message regardless of wether they are who you’re looking for or not. Its not any one group either. Matching a persons bio is no guarantee of a meet.
Should fab have more filters?
Are people just braver and more outgoing?
I do like a nice bio.
Thoughts?
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There is only 2 lines of text on my profile yet people (well, men) keep ignoring it. I guess sometimes it's just a "blanket approach" or "casting a wide net", where they send the exact same message to all women within x miles range. Other times, I wonder if they actually go any further than just looking at pictures and decided to message. |
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I love a good bio. It can tell you initially if you're compatible, or can give you an insight to the person. It can be very helpful and I find those that ignore them, aren't the people I'm gonna be meeting. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I always read a profile & like to have something to go on ,so i can see if we'd potentially get on.
Most don't read mine,but its a good filter.If they cant be arsed to read mine ,I dont feel bad deleting them. |
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I always read them. If they read like a big list of wants and demands I know we wouldn’t get on anyway. The ones that say I’m a happy person who just enjoys sex regardless of any physical attributes always get my attention. |
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"Ive noticed a fair amount of people ignore profile bios, and will message regardless of wether they are who you’re looking for or not. Its not any one group either. Matching a persons bio is no guarantee of a meet.
Should fab have more filters?
Are people just braver and more outgoing?
I do like a nice bio.
Thoughts?
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For us, the profile bio is more important than the pictures. |
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Oh, I don't think so.
The people I've met from here directly have been people with interesting bios as well as sending messages that demonstrate they've bothered to read mine.
Plenty of people don't read them for sure. But I'm not fucking those people, so  |
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I have a very similar comment for this, a I did for a question about which photos people like to see.
For simplicity we separate profiles into 'Swingers' and 'Shaggers'. I/we see swingers as people who you are happy to spend time with, PLUS you enjoy having sexual encounters with them too. Therefore, we like profiles which show a little of the personalities behind them. We always try to make any update to our profile reflective of us - so others can have an idea of the sort of people they are communicating with.
In contrast, it seems many on this site are more interested in the sex, and the number of different people they do it with. I refer to these as Shaggers. This isn't derogatory, it's just a simplification.
We're far more likely to meet swingers rather than shaggers. So please keep up the good work with decent profiles bios!  |
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"There is only 2 lines of text on my profile yet people (well, men) keep ignoring it. I guess sometimes it's just a "blanket approach" or "casting a wide net", where they send the exact same message to all women within x miles range. Other times, I wonder if they actually go any further than just looking at pictures and decided to message. "
why read when you can look at pics its same difference they won't get a meet anyways  |
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By *ooleyMan
over a year ago
preston |
I actually got some unsolicited & complimentary feedback last week on my profile. Never had any contact with the person before, and they were out of my area/not looking at the moment, and said that I was very clear in what I was looking for and she would have got in touch if the stars aligned for her.
Was lovely for me to read and *might* show that some people do still consider the Bios an important part of this site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always read a profile & like to have something to go on ,so i can see if we'd potentially get on.
Most don't read mine,but its a good filter.If they cant be arsed to read mine ,I dont feel bad deleting them."
I love reading the bio's, I really don't get why people wouldn't read about the very person you are trying to make contact with.
By the way i thought i would give yours a read, and let me tell you, thats how a bio should be wrote. |
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I love reading profiles, and I genuinely read every word! It’s quite often a straight block at some point though, as it’s clear we won’t be a match, so no need to look at their pretty pictures or read their status updates, if nothing is ever going to happen between us.
Generally; anything more than “I’m a xx year old woman looking for men” grabs my attention  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest we’ve tried to explain briefly who we are and what we’re looking for and if people want to ignore it or read it it’s up to them.
Messaging “on topic” is likely to meet with more success though. |
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"It's a good filter.
Other people's bios tell me things about them and if I might want to contact them.
People not reading my bio is a good indication I don't want to meet them."
I agree. I like people to match my effort. |
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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago
Bucks/London/Oxford |
"Ive noticed a fair amount of people ignore profile bios, and will message regardless of wether they are who you’re looking for or not. Its not any one group either. Matching a persons bio is no guarantee of a meet.
Should fab have more filters?
Are people just braver and more outgoing?
Sadly, as a single male, it is so hard to get a message read on here, let alone a reply, even with a carefully crafted message. So, as a consequence, a lot of men go for the cold-calling, leafleting philosophy, that the same message sent out to everyone, will get a 2.5% response.
This of course makes it harder, as women continue to get swamped with standard messages, so as consequence, men send even more blanket messages…. The problem is self-perpetuating.
I do like a nice bio.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whilst it’s definitely obvious to me who hasn’t read my bio (and that will be an instant no from me as there’s important stuff in there that I need to know people have understood), I wouldn’t say bios are obsolete though. I certainly always read other people’s bios and it’s clear who has read mine. I think a lot of people just send out so many first messages and look to see what sticks that they don’t really have time to read what’s there. |
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Bios mean a lot. They can immediately indicate that there is no point messaging.
Occasionally I will send a message appreciating a bio or picture even if I am outside their catchment or have different needs just in appreciation.
But bios indicate what the other party wants and so when messaging first I try to reference their bio, because it shows that it's both personalised and that I have already taken time to understand them at least a little.
It's a respect thing.
And normally fairly obvious if they haven't read mine. |
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There's always going to be people who use a scatter shot approach for who your bio is totally irrelevant. However that doesn't make your Bio irrelevant or obsolete. All it does is makes those people irrelevant to you as they are not the people you were looking for anyways. As for the rest of us who value a bio and looking for something special the bio will always be important. |
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I always read them and use it to filter myself out if they're not looking for me.
I do sometimes wonder if my own bio is discounting me from getting replies though, I can see why men would want to make their bio more generic to get more conversations! |
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By *ayna20Couple
over a year ago
Kent |
The thing is the lifestyle has become so “trendy” now. There are too many people seeing the site as a way to go out and get lots of sex.
Of course we’d all like a good sexy meet but there’s a difference between swinging and just plain fucking
Too many here for the wrong reasons |
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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago
Kingston upon Thames |
"To be honest we’ve tried to explain briefly who we are and what we’re looking for and if people want to ignore it or read it it’s up to them.
Messaging “on topic” is likely to meet with more success though. "
what we say ... but you can always be surprised and often "tempted" by someone who is good at communications and can seduce you to take an interest. x Anne |
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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago
Bucks/London/Oxford |
"Ive noticed a fair amount of people ignore profile bios, and will message regardless of wether they are who you’re looking for or not. Its not any one group either. Matching a persons bio is no guarantee of a meet.
Should fab have more filters?
Are people just braver and more outgoing?
I do like a nice bio.
Thoughts?
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From what I hear, women could post no photos, no bio… and they would still get 100s of messages a day. If the majority of men could just be more selective it would be so much better for all of us. |
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I find it's about 50/50 if they've read and understood or not. If they've clearly not in the first few lines or the message title I don't even bother to read the rest of the message, it's just deleted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We get messages every day from people that haven't read our profile. The first couple of lines are very clear about the type of single guy we want to avoid. I get that our profile is long but they don't even read the first couple of lines.
They see it purely as a numbers game. A microsecond looking at the pic and either a cut and paste message or a 'How's u?' They will be doing this rapidly to as many accounts as they can.
I often ask if they've read our profile when it's clear they haven't. They always say they have.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Often makes you wonder doesn't it.
I've had a fair share of messages that clearly demonstrate that the sender hasn't bothered to even read the first line, let alone tge whole profile - so it isn't just tge single men on here who are guilty of this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They probably did start off reading profiles and only messaging people they matched with.
After no replies they probably thought fuck it, no point reading... just message everyone and see if one replies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We put some time and effort into our bio to give people an idea of ehonwe are and what we are looking for.
If a profile we are looking at has a decent bio then we are more inclined to message, because we have a better feel for whether or not they seem our type of people
Mrs |
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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago
Buckley North Wales |
No we don't think profiles are obsolete in any way. We accept that many single guys don't bother reading them. They tend to be the sort of guy who won't make the effort to go to a club.
Personally: informative, well written and well structured profiles are a pleasured to see. Single, large block paragraphs are off putting and shows that the writer probably doesn't give much thought to written communication in general.
There is nothing wrong with a list of dos and don'ts. Certainly, some hint of potential drama and labarythanie conditionality. But those are often the sort of folk with whome we have great chats at a club, that don't lead to playing. So still part of a fun evening for us. |
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"Ive noticed a fair amount of people ignore profile bios, and will message regardless of wether they are who you’re looking for or not. Its not any one group either. Matching a persons bio is no guarantee of a meet.
Should fab have more filters?
Are people just braver and more outgoing?
I do like a nice bio.
Thoughts?
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A nice write up is lovely but many just don't write one as a woman you can afford to delete lovely guys or couples who don’t but as a guy you have to get to know a person first so a nice pic is a great start  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's definitely something more appealing about a profile with some information on it. I'm always dubious about half baked or empty ones. And text speak is massively of putting. |
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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago
Kingston upon Thames |
Profiles shape the conversation but the real comms are still messaging and of course meeting in person. We meet at clubs and have a 90% success rate with couples turning up and about 55% with single guys ... but then we can find others on the day/night. x A & G |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"It's a good filter.
Other people's bios tell me things about them and if I might want to contact them.
People not reading my bio is a good indication I don't want to meet them."
That!!  |
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I always read the bios pretty comprehensively, sometimes even though I'm very aware that the writer isn't looking for my 'type.'
Some are truly dreadful, others very amusing, some so downright blunt and instructive that I wonder that anyone would want to meet the writer.
I've learnt too that honesty doesn't always pay. |
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