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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always send a face pic if asked..and ask for one of the person I am chatting with early in the conversation...
If they don't fancy me that's fine and visa versa... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There should be an opt in auto share.
Where if you choose to, you can opt in to automatically sharing your face pics. Both sides have to agree and opt in and be online at the same time. They auto delete after they have been seen. That way they're wouldn't be that mexican standoff type imbalance where some people send and others don’t.
Also, it asks if theres mutual attraction, after viewing the picture, if yes you continue to talk if not it blocks you from each other. |
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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago
Northampton |
"There should be an opt in auto share.
Where if you choose to, you can opt in to automatically sharing your face pics. Both sides have to agree and opt in and be online at the same time. They auto delete after they have been seen. That way they're wouldn't be that mexican standoff type imbalance where some people send and others don’t.
Also, it asks if theres mutual attraction, after viewing the picture, if yes you continue to talk if not it blocks you from each other. "
Way too hard to implement on such a small site. Plus you can pretty much get that from adding as friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will share my face pic when I am ready to but that isn't until well into a conversation where it looks like a meet will happen. That method has served me well for the past 20 years I have been swinging. |
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Face pics are important to me I can’t keep track of guys I message unless I get face pics there are so many anonymous profiles
I ask for pics at appropriate times especially if they talk about my pics
Then it’s no pic no reply for me xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Surely the best time to share face pics is right at the start of a conversation so if there is no attraction then it just save everyone’s time."
I second that... |
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If someone asks me for face pics before I've established I'm actually interested in meeting them then it's a no from me.
I have face pics on friends only for people I have met or intend to meet. But I'm not interested in showing my face to every random person that asks for it. |
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I`ve the odd face picture on my profile,every so often upload just a normal one.
still get people messaging requesting face pics,But they`re never willing to send a face picture(even though they instigated the chat)
pretty much why I have only been meeting up with friends, I met on here previously.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We won’t share unless we see theirs first and find them attractive."
We're exactly the same, we've stated on our profile that a message with a face pic will normally get a reply. But we never get them  |
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By *nkyCplCouple
over a year ago
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"We won’t share unless we see theirs first and find them attractive.
We're exactly the same, we've stated on our profile that a message with a face pic will normally get a reply. But we never get them "
Yup same. We typically just delete the messages straight away, sometimes ask if we can be arsed though.  |
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We've been criticised and berated for this numerous times.
Often told, we're never going to get away. However, we've been on this site for about 8 years with different profiles. Our latest profile has over 25 verifications in 10 months. That averages more than 1 meet per fortnight. This isn't the only site we meet people from. In those 8 years we've neither shared nor asked for face pictures.
People often ask us why we refuse, but it's usually pointless trying to explain to them. If they don't understand before they ask, they probably won't understand after either.
To flip this on its head, let's compare with the 'no reply' mentality. Many on here say they won't give a reply to messages from people they aren't interested in. Usually the is because of 'Fab Rules'. There is no such rule, however there is guidance for the sender suggesting no reply equals no interest. The recipient can still choose to send a 'no thanks' message. We often do, because we wouldn't ignore people in other strands of society.
There it a rule which covers face pictures though...
"10.7 It is your responsibility to decide which Content to publish or send (subject to these terms and conditions). We do not accept responsibility if your Content is misused by others as this is outside our reasonable control. Do not send or publish any Content if you are concerned that it may be misused"
The term misused can be interpreted in many ways. For us, it means another person using that face picture to identify us to another (or themselves) in a way which could affect our personal lives.
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"Why do so many people refuse to share face pics? We have heard so many excuses but this isn’t blind date, surely everyone wants to see who they are meeting first."
Because I only meet at clubs so they'll see it then |
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Happy to share photos AV nothing to hide usually if someone doesn't want to show there pic either hiding this from there partner or shy on what other woman will think about them I for one no once I speak to someone and after I send a face pic they don't wanna no me any more am no looker but a guy can only try |
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"We've been criticised and berated for this numerous times.
Often told, we're never going to get away. However, we've been on this site for about 8 years with different profiles. Our latest profile has over 25 verifications in 10 months. That averages more than 1 meet per fortnight. This isn't the only site we meet people from. In those 8 years we've neither shared nor asked for face pictures.
People often ask us why we refuse, but it's usually pointless trying to explain to them. If they don't understand before they ask, they probably won't understand after either.
To flip this on its head, let's compare with the 'no reply' mentality. Many on here say they won't give a reply to messages from people they aren't interested in. Usually the is because of 'Fab Rules'. There is no such rule, however there is guidance for the sender suggesting no reply equals no interest. The recipient can still choose to send a 'no thanks' message. We often do, because we wouldn't ignore people in other strands of society.
There it a rule which covers face pictures though...
"10.7 It is your responsibility to decide which Content to publish or send (subject to these terms and conditions). We do not accept responsibility if your Content is misused by others as this is outside our reasonable control. Do not send or publish any Content if you are concerned that it may be misused"
The term misused can be interpreted in many ways. For us, it means another person using that face picture to identify us to another (or themselves) in a way which could affect our personal lives.
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Ok so you guys do video chats with people before meeting or just meet blindly? |
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"Happy to share photos AV nothing to hide usually if someone doesn't want to show there pic either hiding this from there partner or shy on what other woman will think about them I for one no once I speak to someone and after I send a face pic they don't wanna no me any more am no looker but a guy can only try"
It often happens to me. I chat for a bit. They show their face and I'm no longer interested. If they shared it in the second of first message, saves eachother time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Got a face pic on here for all to see. I have nothing to hide, so why not… I’m not doing anything wrong by being on here… not sure it does me many favours though?????? |
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"We've been criticised and berated for this numerous times.
Often told, we're never going to get away. However, we've been on this site for about 8 years with different profiles. Our latest profile has over 25 verifications in 10 months. That averages more than 1 meet per fortnight. This isn't the only site we meet people from. In those 8 years we've neither shared nor asked for face pictures.
People often ask us why we refuse, but it's usually pointless trying to explain to them. If they don't understand before they ask, they probably won't understand after either.
To flip this on its head, let's compare with the 'no reply' mentality. Many on here say they won't give a reply to messages from people they aren't interested in. Usually the is because of 'Fab Rules'. There is no such rule, however there is guidance for the sender suggesting no reply equals no interest. The recipient can still choose to send a 'no thanks' message. We often do, because we wouldn't ignore people in other strands of society.
There it a rule which covers face pictures though...
"10.7 It is your responsibility to decide which Content to publish or send (subject to these terms and conditions). We do not accept responsibility if your Content is misused by others as this is outside our reasonable control. Do not send or publish any Content if you are concerned that it may be misused"
The term misused can be interpreted in many ways. For us, it means another person using that face picture to identify us to another (or themselves) in a way which could affect our personal lives.
Ok so you guys do video chats with people before meeting or just meet blindly?"
Nope, we've never knowingly shared our faces online in any capacity. Neither pictures, webcam, etc. |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
Simple for us. If we are the ones to initially contact we always attach a clear picture of us.
We'll respond to messages without, but won't invest much energy if they don't..
Funniest was a couple who sent us one of each of them but with his head cropped off  Our response was "Thanks for the picture, although Y likes kissing so won't be attracted to a decapitated man"  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I don't share face pics early in a conversation and I don't ask the other person to either. That's my choice if it doesn't suit the person I'm chatting to that's fine they can move on.
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Surely the best time to share face pics is right at the start of a conversation so if there is no attraction then it just save everyone’s time."
Could be but I've chatted with some at great length neither asked for a picture until later on and we've been friends ever since even some who no longer are on the site gift of the gab |
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"Surely the best time to share face pics is right at the start of a conversation so if there is no attraction then it just save everyone’s time."
I agree if they don't appeal no point in continuing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I will share my face pic when I am ready to but that isn't until well into a conversation where it looks like a meet will happen. That method has served me well for the past 20 years I have been swinging."
We are still pretty new to the scene but we are the same - we will share face pics when we have got to know people chatting for a wee while, and feel comfortable with them
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"I don't share face pics early in a conversation and I don't ask the other person to either. That's my choice if it doesn't suit the person I'm chatting to that's fine they can move on. "
My thoughts exactly. They can share if they want to but I’m not sharing face pics until I feel comfortable to do so  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t speak for all men however there have been many times where I have been asked to send a face pic and then I just get ignored… or I read their profile and they demand face pics in first message but have no face pics on their profile, then I send a face pic and again blocked or ignored!
So personally I don’t bother any more because it can be quite confusing and rude in my opinion.. like am I that ugly that as soon as someone sees me they throw up in their mouth a little and can’t even summon up the courage to reply “sorry not my/our type” it doesn’t take much! And I don’t buy into this “too many messages” either! If you are wanting someone to send a face pic and then someone actually takes the time to read your profile and do what u ask then give them the Curtesy of a reply even they aren’t your type!
And it’s not just face pics a lot of men don’t get replies from so I would imagine a lot of men just don’t bother any more! Like many have said on here why waste each others time! If I am willing to put in the effort to send a face pic and then the other party just ignores or blocks with no response well we probably wouldn’t get on any way as I’m not a fan of rude people … |
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"Surely the best time to share face pics is right at the start of a conversation so if there is no attraction then it just save everyone’s time."
This. Sadly most people are on here to chat and sadly it’s the ones we get on with who we don’t fancy. |
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"Surely the best time to share face pics is right at the start of a conversation so if there is no attraction then it just save everyone’s time."
I don't share facepics and like others I have been told I won't get anywhere on here but strangely enough it has never been an issue.
I am very choosey in who I meet.
Therefore 80 percent of all conversations will never lead to even a social meet and as a result facepics aren't really relevant.
I'm attracted to quality people and a facepic won't determine that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do so many people refuse to share face pics? We have heard so many excuses but this isn’t blind date, surely everyone wants to see who they are meeting first."
Because of their job or people being on here they know etc.
I'll share a face pic when I start chatting to someone if there's an interest but why would I plaster my face for everyone to see and do what they want with when it could jeopardise my job? |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
It's a prerequisite before any meeting for us. If they give us an excuse as to why they won't do so we immediately tell them we are not interested.
Yes people say they need to be discreet because of their job and we understand that but then we wonder if they should actually be on here in the first place.
Before anybody starts shouting we joined Fab ten years ago. The reason we didn't start swinging earlier was because of my job. Once I left that job we decided it was safe to join the life style so fully understand the dilemma people have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow stalker that sounds so creepy we hope you sorted it out and reported whoever it was
Stunning profile and lovely pictures and videos xxx Kathy & billy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always send a face pic when messaging someone. We expect the same in return
Why invest serious time into chatting to someone that you may not be attracted to? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just put ‘em on your profile, no one actually cares! People don’t point and yell ‘look it’s them, it’s the dirty swingers’ in the street at you! "
Yes sometimes they do. How incredibly naïve! |
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"Just put ‘em on your profile, no one actually cares! People don’t point and yell ‘look it’s them, it’s the dirty swingers’ in the street at you! "
This is a very narrow-minded opinion. So, your advice is to put face pictures on public display, Do you think everyone on this site is over 18? Do you think it's possible for other pupils from the school of our mid-teen children to be on this site? Do you think it's possible for said pupils to ridicule our children after seeing us on this site?
This is just ONE of the many reasons we and others do not put our faces online. At the point a picture is shared on the Internet, the starter sharer has lost control of it.
Your comment reinforces our initial reply on this thread. "People often ask us why we refuse, but it's usually pointless trying to explain to them. If they don't understand before they ask, they probably won't understand after either." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Usually if they are fake. Had a couple talking to us, wasn't fab verified and kept making excuses as to not sending a pic. In the end we blocked them. We will always happily send a pic to people who are fab verified. There are single guys who do think it doesn't matter what you look like, as your on fab, you'd fuk anyone |
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"Just put ‘em on your profile, no one actually cares! People don’t point and yell ‘look it’s them, it’s the dirty swingers’ in the street at you!
This is a very narrow-minded opinion. So, your advice is to put face pictures on public display, Do you think everyone on this site is over 18? Do you think it's possible for other pupils from the school of our mid-teen children to be on this site? Do you think it's possible for said pupils to ridicule our children after seeing us on this site?
This is just ONE of the many reasons we and others do not put our faces online. At the point a picture is shared on the Internet, the starter sharer has lost control of it.
Your comment reinforces our initial reply on this thread. "People often ask us why we refuse, but it's usually pointless trying to explain to them. If they don't understand before they ask, they probably won't understand after either.""
Our initial comment was slightly light hearted but as you’ve clutched your pearls and shouted ‘think of the children’ I shall say a few more serious points on the subject.
It’s your choice whether to display public pictures or not and whatever reasons you have are probably valid.
Fab is an over 18 website. Anyone you think that is below that age you should report the profile.
Pictures shared with others on a website where you trust the recipient is what the op was talking about and if you can’t trust them in that respect, why would you meet for sex.
We’ve been open for about three years and nothing cataclysmic has happened, so that’s why we’re so blasé!
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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago
Leeds + Newcastle |
"If someone asks me for face pics before I've established I'm actually interested in meeting them then it's a no from me.
I have face pics on friends only for people I have met or intend to meet. But I'm not interested in showing my face to every random person that asks for it."
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I won’t share my face pictures and won’t ask for any either, as most of my fab interactions come from big organised socials or from clubs, so no need for that.
I’m clear about that on my profile so everyone has a choice if they want to start an interaction with me on here.
I think it’s fair, works for me so far. |
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"Surely the best time to share face pics is right at the start of a conversation so if there is no attraction then it just save everyone’s time.
I don't share facepics and like others I have been told I won't get anywhere on here but strangely enough it has never been an issue.
I am very choosey in who I meet.
Therefore 80 percent of all conversations will never lead to even a social meet and as a result facepics aren't really relevant.
I'm attracted to quality people and a facepic won't determine that.
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I wholeheartedly agree. |
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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"Just put ‘em on your profile, no one actually cares! People don’t point and yell ‘look it’s them, it’s the dirty swingers’ in the street at you! "
They do actually. It happened to me. A whole back a guy went missing and there was a country wide search for him. Reporters found out he had a profile on here. They found he had left me a verification from the year before and I ended up with reporter's at my door step and my name on this site was released in the papers. So yeah |
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Don't really have an issue sending face pic, depending on the profile request or my mood I'll often send it with first message - frequently get the not for us reply though but at least it avoids wasting time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ll send mine when am ready to. People who ask for one without sending there’s first is an instant block for me. I’d never ask for one without sending mine first |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
If my face is visible on my profile, I expect to see yours with your first communication, if you are expecting me to consider meeting you,I will delete your message otherwise... And I won't ask for or confirm I want to see a face pic if you ask in your message or say on your profile, ... No face, no contact, unless it's extremely unlikely that we could ever meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a tricky one: So many factors at play with sharing face pics and the reasons some are reticent to do so. Personally speaking I prefer to chat a little without any expectations to see if there's 'chemistry' before sharing, but appreciate that is anathema to many! I guess it can feel pretty high stakes if only one party is expected to share first, but appreciate that is how it has to be. The joy of life on Fab I guess! :D |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"It's a tricky one: So many factors at play with sharing face pics and the reasons some are reticent to do so. Personally speaking I prefer to chat a little without any expectations to see if there's 'chemistry' before sharing, but appreciate that is anathema to many! I guess it can feel pretty high stakes if only one party is expected to share first, but appreciate that is how it has to be. The joy of life on Fab I guess! :D"
There are plenty of people I love talking to but if I don't find them attractive then it means nothing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do so many people refuse to share face pics? We have heard so many excuses but this isn’t blind date, surely everyone wants to see who they are meeting first."
If there’s a strong chance a meet will happen (so I trust them enough to consider this) I’m good to share but before that, nah. I’ve been approached when out from people knowing me from here, others have messaged me on social sites where my real name is on… it’s very disconcerting. |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
I don't engage with people that message me for a meet and calling me sexy or beautiful, when my face isn't visible, it just means they don't care who they are fucking and sex with someone that doesn't actually fancy you is utter shite... It's bad enough when I am visible so ya know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably helps that you have a 6pack mate that's why you don't have a problem the ladys and couples can be more picky and have no problems while a few of us are feeling deflated at the lack of response despite being respectful and genuine it's cut throat at best |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"Probably helps that you have a 6pack mate that's why you don't have a problem the ladys and couples can be more picky and have no problems while a few of us are feeling deflated at the lack of response despite being respectful and genuine it's cut throat at best "
If you think a 6 pack is enough, you are wrong |
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By *omCoyoteMan
over a year ago
Northern England |
"Just put ‘em on your profile, no one actually cares! People don’t point and yell ‘look it’s them, it’s the dirty swingers’ in the street at you!
They do actually. It happened to me. A whole back a guy went missing and there was a country wide search for him. Reporters found out he had a profile on here. They found he had left me a verification from the year before and I ended up with reporter's at my door step and my name on this site was released in the papers. So yeah "
That's truly terrifying! What especially concerns me is how on earth did reporters get hold of your address? |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
i have a very simple rule that i 100% stick too if you message me first then you send clear face pic first if i message you first (yes i often message first) then i send my clear face pic first ... ive put it on my profile so they can see if they can be bothered to read and i 100% stick to that rule if they get pissy i just block and think that was a blessing ...
no pic no meet however there are alot of guys who never ask for a pic and again for me thats a warning not to meet ..to me it means they will fuck anyone and that to me is a massive turn off too = block job done plenty of hot fish in those massive oceans  |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
for those saying face pic on profile is best ermmm no over the years ive seen loads of profiles disappear because there a type of vindictive person on here who loves nothing more than outing people especially after being told no thanks ..
know of a local fieman who made the mistake of posting his face pic ... a jealous guy outed him to his wife his work college and his employer he lost his job and im sure it destroyed his married too ...know a couple of marines who had to explain to senior officers why they were on here in there uniform ...there are plenty of scum bags on here who think these things are funny |
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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"Just put ‘em on your profile, no one actually cares! People don’t point and yell ‘look it’s them, it’s the dirty swingers’ in the street at you!
They do actually. It happened to me. A whole back a guy went missing and there was a country wide search for him. Reporters found out he had a profile on here. They found he had left me a verification from the year before and I ended up with reporter's at my door step and my name on this site was released in the papers. So yeah
That's truly terrifying! What especially concerns me is how on earth did reporters get hold of your address? "
Well they created a profile on here and used fake photos. Started a conversation about it and stupidly I had the same insta name and they obviously checked it on here and got my name and I had a phone call about it which I told them to do one and they turned up to my address at the time which was my mum's house. I guess from the electoral roll I had to explain to my mum what site I was on. Questioned by the police etc. It was an absolute nightmare.
I was young, dumb and naive. |
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"Just put ‘em on your profile, no one actually cares! People don’t point and yell ‘look it’s them, it’s the dirty swingers’ in the street at you!
They do actually. It happened to me. A whole back a guy went missing and there was a country wide search for him. Reporters found out he had a profile on here. They found he had left me a verification from the year before and I ended up with reporter's at my door step and my name on this site was released in the papers. So yeah
That's truly terrifying! What especially concerns me is how on earth did reporters get hold of your address?
Well they created a profile on here and used fake photos. Started a conversation about it and stupidly I had the same insta name and they obviously checked it on here and got my name and I had a phone call about it which I told them to do one and they turned up to my address at the time which was my mum's house. I guess from the electoral roll I had to explain to my mum what site I was on. Questioned by the police etc. It was an absolute nightmare.
I was young, dumb and naive. "
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We have face pictures on our friend pictures but we only have people on our friends list that we have met at group socials or events.
We wouldn’t send random face pictures to anyone and wouldn’t ask anyone to send them to us.We only meet people through socials and clubs and we have never had a issue with being let down or fakes so it works well for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We won’t share unless we see theirs first and find them attractive.
But what of they feel the same way?
Both say happy fabbing and leave each other to it. "
Agreed, rules are rules |
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By *irce22Couple
over a year ago
somewhere near you |
If you don’t want to be a target, I suggest never sharing your face pictures on here. Use a disappearing image/non screenshot or wear some sort of ask or sunglasses on pictures you do share. AI image searches on Pimeye (Google it) can find any public profile pictures of you in seconds. It’s scary. |
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over a year ago
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Happy to share in messages, but too many people can join and view profiles. Bit sad in a way, but while open about my “kink” or “lifestyle”, don’t need it to be the office gossip! |
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I’m always happy to share but find that my face doesn’t fit what most people are looking for so as a rule I now don’t send a face pic unless I receive one with the request. Some people seem to gain satisfaction from seeing you then deleting your message which I get people are busy but it’s rude aswell no?! |
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"Probably helps that you have a 6pack mate that's why you don't have a problem the ladys and couples can be more picky and have no problems while a few of us are feeling deflated at the lack of response despite being respectful and genuine it's cut throat at best "
If only this were true! A 6 pack don’t get you no where on fab but if you need a hand getting a 6 pack let me know! |
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We are who we are. That's why we show ours on our profile. We have our bumps and lumps but would rathe people know what they were getting than being disappointed lol. Plus to see our pics means you have to be on here. To out us means outing themselves and almost all our friends already know what we do |
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For a lot of people (myself included) there's a need to ensure the other person(s) are genuine, you don't know them and there is some level of attraction.
If not, you're able to remain anonymous
Being male though, with the numbers on here, sometimes you need to take a leap of faith!
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We don't post face pictures as we don't like the idea that pictures can be scraped and used by someone hence some anonymity. Once we start chatting to anyone we tend to exchange face pictures quickly as mutual attraction is important. |
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
How do you know that they’re not sending you a fake face picture anyway? What’s the point in asking for a picture if you don’t know for sure that it’s a picture of the person you’re talking to?
I’m happy to chat with someone for a while without seeing their face, my time really isn’t that valuable and what the person’s face looks like isn’t the most important factor in determining whether I like someone or not anyway. I can normally tell after a few messages whether I want to carry on chatting with someone, most people I stop chatting with pretty quickly because I don’t like their vibe but a few I want to carry on talking to and getting to know more about them. If they ask for a face picture I’m happy to send one and will ask for one off them (it would be weird if I didn’t ask for one after sending one haha) but I don’t feel 100% secure until we video chat. When it feels appropriate to I’ll ask them how they feel about video chats, if they say they never do them and won’t even do one for a few seconds, without talking, then that’s a massive red flag, if they say they do them but don’t feel ready to do it with me yet then that’s fine and I’m happy to carry on chatting until they feel ready and obviously if they say they’ll do it straight away then that’s fine too.
I don’t ask to video chat to check whether I like the way their face looks though, I ask so that I know the person I’m chatting with is who they claim to be and not a fake. I would never feel safe meeting someone without doing a video call first. I’ve never once stopped talking to someone who I was getting on well with because i didn’t like their face when i saw it. The most important thing for me is to feel safe and comfortable with someone and for there to be at least a small amount of chemistry.
If I’m meeting somebody for a bit of fun, something casual, then I’m definitely not going to be put off if I’m not totally attracted to their face, if someone had a beautiful face but a bad vibe I would be put off though and wouldn’t meet them.
I met a woman once who I’d done a quick video call with but we didn’t talk on it as she said she was shy about talking on video calls. When she arrived at mine I quickly noticed that all her teeth were black and rotten. Bad teeth is something that I find particularly off putting and hers were the worst I’d ever seen, but we had a lot of chemistry and I really liked her so I didn’t let her teeth put me off and we had a great time together.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just put ‘em on your profile, no one actually cares! People don’t point and yell ‘look it’s them, it’s the dirty swingers’ in the street at you! "
I wish people in our neck of the woods were actually as liberal as us to not care! Someone having an affair is practically headline news, never mind people in the lifestyle hahaha
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I used to only post body pics and dick pics but sending a face pic can cause someone to not want to meet if they decide they don't like you or know you but it's too late they've seen you in the nip.
So I'm just doing it in reverse now. I'm fine with people not wanting to send face pics but. They've gotta at least show something. Too many Photoless accounts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had mine visible for a long time but unfortunately due to an incident that made me extremely uncomfortable I now have them set to friends only.
I'm happy to share them though if I'm initially interested and to be the sure there is an attraction on both sides. |
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By *omCoyoteMan
over a year ago
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"Just put ‘em on your profile, no one actually cares! People don’t point and yell ‘look it’s them, it’s the dirty swingers’ in the street at you!
They do actually. It happened to me. A whole back a guy went missing and there was a country wide search for him. Reporters found out he had a profile on here. They found he had left me a verification from the year before and I ended up with reporter's at my door step and my name on this site was released in the papers. So yeah
That's truly terrifying! What especially concerns me is how on earth did reporters get hold of your address?
Well they created a profile on here and used fake photos. Started a conversation about it and stupidly I had the same insta name and they obviously checked it on here and got my name and I had a phone call about it which I told them to do one and they turned up to my address at the time which was my mum's house. I guess from the electoral roll I had to explain to my mum what site I was on. Questioned by the police etc. It was an absolute nightmare.
I was young, dumb and naive. "
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"Why do so many people refuse to share face pics? We have heard so many excuses but this isn’t blind date, surely everyone wants to see who they are meeting first."
You cant always be sure it is of the person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wouldn't meet anyone without seeing a face pic. We don't have one of us on public photos but we do have one we will send when talking to someone and asked for it or if we ask for one off a couple we send one at the same time. |
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Just had a couple who said they were cautious about sending their face pics so we said we would send ours first and low and behold the guy says wife was burnt before and now won’t send their pics what a waste of time !! |
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So perhaps that verified pic should be a face picture only and it should then automatically be put on the public gallery?
Would this prevent people joining? Would it not cut down lots of messages. It’s the women who get inundated with messages. Perhaps folk would be a bit more selective to who they chose to message depend on how they find them.
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"We've been criticised and berated for this numerous times.
Often told, we're never going to get away. However, we've been on this site for about 8 years with different profiles. Our latest profile has over 25 verifications in 10 months. That averages more than 1 meet per fortnight. This isn't the only site we meet people from. In those 8 years we've neither shared nor asked for face pictures.
People often ask us why we refuse, but it's usually pointless trying to explain to them. If they don't understand before they ask, they probably won't understand after either.
To flip this on its head, let's compare with the 'no reply' mentality. Many on here say they won't give a reply to messages from people they aren't interested in. Usually the is because of 'Fab Rules'. There is no such rule, however there is guidance for the sender suggesting no reply equals no interest. The recipient can still choose to send a 'no thanks' message. We often do, because we wouldn't ignore people in other strands of society.
There it a rule which covers face pictures though...
"10.7 It is your responsibility to decide which Content to publish or send (subject to these terms and conditions). We do not accept responsibility if your Content is misused by others as this is outside our reasonable control. Do not send or publish any Content if you are concerned that it may be misused"
The term misused can be interpreted in many ways. For us, it means another person using that face picture to identify us to another (or themselves) in a way which could affect our personal lives.
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"We've been criticised and berated for this numerous times.
Often told, we're never going to get away. However, we've been on this site for about 8 years with different profiles. Our latest profile has over 25 verifications in 10 months. That averages more than 1 meet per fortnight. This isn't the only site we meet people from. In those 8 years we've neither shared nor asked for face pictures.
People often ask us why we refuse, but it's usually pointless trying to explain to them. If they don't understand before they ask, they probably won't understand after either.
To flip this on its head, let's compare with the 'no reply' mentality. Many on here say they won't give a reply to messages from people they aren't interested in. Usually the is because of 'Fab Rules'. There is no such rule, however there is guidance for the sender suggesting no reply equals no interest. The recipient can still choose to send a 'no thanks' message. We often do, because we wouldn't ignore people in other strands of society.
There it a rule which covers face pictures though...
"10.7 It is your responsibility to decide which Content to publish or send (subject to these terms and conditions). We do not accept responsibility if your Content is misused by others as this is outside our reasonable control. Do not send or publish any Content if you are concerned that it may be misused"
The term misused can be interpreted in many ways. For us, it means another person using that face picture to identify us to another (or themselves) in a way which could affect our personal lives.
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Appears from your published verifications that your not showing your face policy mainly (but not exclusively) works because your meeting people through socials and clubs, where as a lot of people use the site as the main way of meeting people. It's like comparing apples and oranges, and whilst you're entitled to protect your privacy any way that you wish, I'd be interested to know how many people you arrange a first meeting with directly through the site without seeing a face picture adverse to how many won't meet for the same reason.
As a couple we know that single guys who have messaged us aren't bothered about face pictures but also curious if that goes for other groups too. |
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"So perhaps that verified pic should be a face picture only and it should then automatically be put on the public gallery?
Would this prevent people joining? Would it not cut down lots of messages. It’s the women who get inundated with messages. Perhaps folk would be a bit more selective to who they chose to message depend on how they find them.
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Of course it would put people off joining! The b-mail and outing would be horrendous! |
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"Appears from your published verifications that your not showing your face policy mainly (but not exclusively) works because your meeting people through socials and clubs, where as a lot of people use the site as the main way of meeting people. It's like comparing apples and oranges, and whilst you're entitled to protect your privacy any way that you wish, I'd be interested to know how many people you arrange a first meeting with directly through the site without seeing a face picture adverse to how many won't meet for the same reason.
As a couple we know that single guys who have messaged us aren't bothered about face pictures but also curious if that goes for other groups too."
It would be impossible to give a figure for why 'no face pictures' is the reason for not meeting. People have different reasons, and it's not for us to assume.
However, we can give some details about how many people we have met directly from a site. We first started to explore this lifestyle in 2015. The bad online experiences we had during the first 18 months were a contributing factor to why we now won't share face pictures.
In 2017 we had our first meet, from another site. Our profile on that site is still active, and over the last 8 years we've met 2 males and 4 couples. None of them are from arranged socials.
In 2018 we signed up to this site, but wasn't very active. We chose not to meet single guys as we found it a minefield of unreliability! We closed that account last year, with 8 verifications from couples.. Again none were from arranged socials.
Last summer our personal circumstances changed and we were able to start attending arranged socials, which we couldn't do before. We also became open to meeting single guys again. So we created this new profile. Yes, our current verifications are significantly higher than the previous profile, but we've met 7 males, 4 couples and 1 female as a result of direct contact from this site. These figures have not been twisted in any way. The meets have been conventional, direct contact from this site, without any arranged group social involved. |
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