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are we to young for the swinging scene?
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By *aceylew OP Couple
over a year ago
st albans |
Thought we would get your opinions on the right age to start exploring the scene, we have noticed we are out of the age range of quite a few users and haven’t had much luck with meeting anyone, dose anyone have any tips or suggestions? |
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By *omeoplaysMan
over a year ago
London / Hertfordshire |
You’re about the same age that I started swinging. On and off. Meeting people might be hard with no pictures what so ever. But your best bet is to go to swingers clubs and events. Less pressure and get to speak to people build friendships etc. |
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We see people your age in our local club. I think you're probably young enough that you're younger than some people's kids.
We really enjoy playing the with younger guys (we don't play with couples) so there is definitely a market. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your verifications are from a social it looks like which is a great way to meet people.
You maybe young but there are a few around your age, maybe try a club. They are great and never any pressure to do anything that you dint want to.
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Not at all, we started a few years ago so similar age.
Yes a lot of swingers might be older (something we both enjoy) but there is a growing number of younger seems.
As long as you’re having fun that’s what matters!
Kayla |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not too young for the scene but you may be too young for the majority of people on the scene.
Like all things, you’re never going to be right for everyone but that doesn’t mean you won’t be right for someone. Just might make your options a bit more limited |
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Not at all to us there isn't enough people in their 20s and 30s on the site but tbh we kinda think that's because the site is so outdated people in their 40s and 50s are of a particular generation and can be off-putting to 90s kids so we do wish there was more younger people on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely not too young. I started when I was 17 and still in a foreign country back then, and when I came to the UK for my first uni stint at 21 I joined Fab and dived headlong into the swinging scene. There are others out there in your age range, fret not!  |
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By *p4fun60Couple
over a year ago
Hampshire |
It's ironic that we asked the same question but at the opposite end of the spectrum at nearly 60 thinking we were too old, I think the only people feeling ageist were us when we decided we wouldn't play with anyone younger that our kids (the eldest being 40)
So how foolish did we feel when we went to a club & immediately got hit on by a couple in their early 20s - one thing we've learnt in this lifestyle is, age is immaterial as attaction & compatibility is ageless |
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"I started when I was 18 so no your not too young. Just persevere and you will have lots of fun."
I started at 19 and have been dipping my toes ever since. And you'd be ok for me but probably not the other way round! LOL.
Such is life, grasp each opportunity as it comes up.
The main thing is have fun! |
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"It's ironic that we asked the same question but at the opposite end of the spectrum at nearly 60 thinking we were too old, I think the only people feeling ageist were us when we decided we wouldn't play with anyone younger that our kids (the eldest being 40)
So how foolish did we feel when we went to a club & immediately got hit on by a couple in their early 20s - one thing we've learnt in this lifestyle is, age is immaterial as attaction & compatibility is ageless "
I love a older couple it sooo hot x |
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There is loads of 18- 30 swingers about in person and on other sites not so specifically just swingers sites.
Prob on fab as it’s a legacy site and quite poor visually looking / functioning compared to modern contact sites which younger or tech loving people prefer ..
I am in a couple of discords which is mostly i meet up single people from .
Clubs are a spread at some and as others said a few will cater for age specific nights like under 35s |
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I'm going to guess as your age range on here is 18-30 your choices of potential play mates is limited. Which is perfectly OK just the facts are the main demographic is mid-late 30s plus. Doesn't mean your too young for the general scene if your enjoying the socialising and hanging out with like minded others. We've made lots of good freinds and laughs we people who aren't our type or us their type either sexually, sometimes due to age. But good freinds and times non the less. The scene is more than just the sex to us and maybe it is for you too? However the lack of people in your age range will always limit your play options and/or your social options if you tend to enjoy the social company of people your own age range. However in the few years we've been at it we've notice an increase in people in their 20s attending in clubs, especially on couples nights. So the demographic is slowly widening.
As others have said if you are specifically seeking the company of folk in your advertised age group them best to seek out special events for the under 30s or organise a club visit with others who are seeking the same. |
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Also as others have said younger people tend to use other apps to hook up. We have adult kids and talking to them we know the youth use other apps (in addition to the famous swipe left/right one) that we didn't even know existed to hook up and meet new people. So maybe there's other places on the Internet to find a younger active scene. From what we can tell its tends to be more informal and probably non of them would call it swinging. But it's just the same sexual non-monogamy, experimentation and 3somes/moresomes going on, just without labels. |
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As already said being at either the upper age or as you the lower age group does have the limitations of people not wanting too meet
But doing the socials locally or clubs in your local area would help ? If your worried about being recognised do what some do and go a bit further a field to clubs for fun ?
Hope this doesn’t put you off |
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"extend your looking for age, better off 18 to 90"
If they don't want to meet people over the age of 30 why would they extend their age range it's there for a reason and typically only men have that kind of wide age range on fab and they get slated for it on a daily in forums. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
no me and hubs started younger than you and its for nobody else to tell you your to young either ...stick to your rules and enjoy the lifestyle
dont be fooled in to other swingers saying you must be this or that as there are no golden rules as theres no rulebook no matter where you are on the scene ...you'll hear offten oh the clubs are the scene its not its a tiny fraction same with these forums tiny tiny fraction ... go have fun you only live once
swinging = such a wide spectrum from role play,fantasy to real just enjoy |
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Certainly not, although you may find more success once you find the right event/venue for you. There are some that attract a younger crowd by virtue of the type of music they play etc- just like differing Vanilla pubs and clubs cater to different age groups.
There’s nothing “wrong” with being younger than the perceived average age on her, but before things get to the sexual stuff, it’s nice to have some sort of social chemistry as well.
That said, there will be some people who are put off by the idea of sex with someone young enough to be their child- and those who are actively looking for a cougar/cub or DDLG sort of thing.
Just be you, I’m sure you’ll find your niche if you’re patient.
And I recommend Penthouse Playrooms as a good venue, well run, with a relatively high number of under 30s- it’s in Dunstable, so also not far from you! |
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