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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Deleted my original message pressing the wrong buttons!!
Hi everyone, I am very new to all of this. I met Si on a dating app and we started meeting up for fun. We have developed our fun into a casual relationship and so set up a profile on here as we want to play together.
Prior to meeting Si I was married for 23 years and very much in a vanilla sex type set up. I wanted to explore and he is certainly helping me do that.
I am very much comfortable with hot wife scenario and we’ve done that a few times. I want to explore further but can’t seem to get out of my own head. We went to a social on Saturday and I felt out of my depth and then a couple invited us to play this week and I panicked. Any advice or guidance on how to just enjoy this and explore my boundaries?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you tried events ? You can go socialise , watch ,be watched no pressure to play with anyone whilst you might do if you want to and find someone who would like to as well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take your time. You don’t need to do it all straight away.
I am part of a couples profile and much the same as yourself was in a very vanilla marriage.
Fast forward to when I met my partner and we decided we’d like to be part of this lifestyle.
It took a while to decide what worked for us and what we were comfortable with.
We had socials and attended clubs. We didn’t meet another couple in a sexual way until we felt we were ready to.
Boundaries and communication are key.
It’s not for everyone and there’s nothing wrong with that.
I hope it all works out for you x |
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"Have you tried events ? You can go socialise , watch ,be watched no pressure to play with anyone whilst you might do if you want to and find someone who would like to as well "
yes events are great we agree .. watch and be watched … |
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We've done a few socials now but I still get anxious and overwhelmed. We try and find outher people who are going ahead of the event so there are a few friendly faces to chat to on the night. We have played but only if it feels right at the time. So I turned down going into an open room for example but will play in a locked one. It's all about taking your time and feeling comfortable. |
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Take a step back and decide what it is you’re looking to explore.
Then (as others have said), try the socials again.
Don’t overthink it, a social is just a night out down the pub but with people you can have like minded and open conversations with. Never go out feeling like you ‘have’ to play, a lot of people on the scene who attend socials and clubs sometimes just like the socialising aspect in an accepting environment but then go home to play alone as a couple.
There are no hard and fast rules here, take your time to find your own comfort zone and if and when you’re ready for more you’ll have built up a great network of friends to begin your journey.
Relax and just enjoy meeting people you meet along the way as you would any new friends. Xx |
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