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Newbie help needed to get meets
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By *alcox OP Man
over a year ago
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Hello All,
I have been picture verified but still struggle to get response for a meet. I have had some few chats then they all go quiet all of a sudden.
I some times have to browse through other mens profile to see how they do theres and picked some ideas that i used to add on my profile. Still no luck . ????
Please send me invites for day time events as most times I work night shift as a network cloud engineer.
Any advice and tips are welcome
Thanks in advance |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Hello All,
I have been picture verified but still struggle to get response for a meet. I have had some few chats then they all go quiet all of a sudden.
I some times have to browse through other mens profile to see how they do theres and picked some ideas that i used to add on my profile. Still no luck . ????
Please send me invites for day time events as most times I work night shift as a network cloud engineer.
Any advice and tips are welcome
Thanks in advance "
Out of interest what did you expect when you joined?
Fab is no different to any normal dating app or online contact site.
You need to interest people and attract them to your profile, send messages that encourage replies and most of all - be patient.
Nobody sends invites out to individual profiles for events but there is a forum full of club and party events giving info on dates and locations.
Being limited to daytimes won't work in your favour when the majority on here are probably busy working then and looking to meet evenings and weekends.
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By *alcox OP Man
over a year ago
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Thanks , I will keep updating my profile to make it attractive and entertaining,
I have seen some people that like day time meets though and milf club meets.
Lets see how it goes. I appreciate your inputs A. Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The usual advice is go to a club,
get to a social.
There are many post like this, the O.P is usually given grief for asking.
But you see FAB isn't for meeting, its a portal to clubs, socials and you wallet.
Why would you join a site such as FAB, only be advised to use other means of meeting people? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The usual advice is go to a club,
get to a social.
There are many post like this, the O.P is usually given grief for asking.
But you see FAB isn't for meeting, its a portal to clubs, socials and you wallet.
Why would you join a site such as FAB, only be advised to use other means of meeting people?"
80% of the single guys we’ve had fun with have been met through Fab.
is that the smell of a theory going up in smoke? |
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It is certainly not easy but quite possible to meet single ladies and couples via Fab without clubs or socials. Met quite a few going back many years. It does take effort, patience and little bit of charm. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"The usual advice is go to a club,
get to a social.
There are many post like this, the O.P is usually given grief for asking.
But you see FAB isn't for meeting, its a portal to clubs, socials and you wallet.
Why would you join a site such as FAB, only be advised to use other means of meeting people?
80% of the single guys we’ve had fun with have been met through Fab.
is that the smell of a theory going up in smoke? "
It's a common theory with some men. Mainly those that can't get meets via online interaction.
Clubs wouldn't be a good alternative for them though. If you struggle to engage with people via messages and aren't finding people interested or attracted to you then there's no guarantee a club environment will be any different.
Anyone who can be pleasant, engaging and sociable would likely do well in a club though, given that face to face encounters show the real you, rather than some artificial online persona.
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Having realistic expectations is important here. Most chats will dry up, as most people are not mutually compatible with most other people - it takes a few chats to get to know each other. This will include preferences, as well as attraction.
Get rid of the warning.
Go to clubs and socials.
Include a range of photos, so people can assess if they fancy you. Including body is ideal. |
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By *alcox OP Man
over a year ago
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I second that, am very good with face to facing as well. I have no issues with club meets and outings. Am slowly gravitating to this chat/online aspect of it.
Don’t worry, watch this space and see updates that will be coming in soon. Am also very busy out side of fab. So I understand that part can cause a delay for me to.
Thanks for your input, very much appreciated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I second that, am very good with face to facing as well. I have no issues with club meets and outings. Am slowly gravitating to this chat/online aspect of it.
Don’t worry, watch this space and see updates that will be coming in soon. Am also very busy out side of fab. So I understand that part can cause a delay for me to.
Thanks for your input, very much appreciated "
Please click the "reply and quote" tab so we know who you're answering |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"Thanks am booked for some social events already and am eagerly waiting"
If you use the reply and quote on someone comment it helps others understand that you are referring to them
Good luck pal  |
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Your first two pics look identity and the third doesn’t add any more. Needs a full body pic as unclothed as you are comfortable with. The disclaimer stuff is common on here but always turns me off. It’s meaningless |
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"The usual advice is go to a club,
get to a social.
There are many post like this, the O.P is usually given grief for asking.
But you see FAB isn't for meeting, its a portal to clubs, socials and you wallet.
Why would you join a site such as FAB, only be advised to use other means of meeting people?"
How can you say fab isn't for meeting? Not everyone goes to clu bs and organised socails. Never heard anything quite so ridiculous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The usual advice is go to a club,
get to a social.
There are many post like this, the O.P is usually given grief for asking.
But you see FAB isn't for meeting, its a portal to clubs, socials and you wallet.
Why would you join a site such as FAB, only be advised to use other means of meeting people?
80% of the single guys we’ve had fun with have been met through Fab.
is that the smell of a theory going up in smoke? "
What I understand is when a person questions the narrative, they are insulted or belittled.
Up in smoke, no not at all, to me it is common sense to question why so many men post these types of threads.
It is an everyday occurrence..
I see it this way, a person joins a site to make friends, meet people whatever, gets no response, or success even with the aim of polite conversation.
the person asks for advice and the usual suspects turn up and suggest clubs and socials, or they are moaning because yet another thread has arisen asking why.
Now why would a person join an on site club to meet people on line, only to be told go to another place to meet people? strange IMHO |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The usual advice is go to a club,
get to a social.
There are many post like this, the O.P is usually given grief for asking.
But you see FAB isn't for meeting, its a portal to clubs, socials and you wallet.
Why would you join a site such as FAB, only be advised to use other means of meeting people?
How can you say fab isn't for meeting? Not everyone goes to clu bs and organised socails. Never heard anything quite so ridiculous."
From the daily threads I come across stating that people cannot get meets that's how I come to my conculsion.I can say anything I wish, as this is FAB and the choice is mine. |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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Some people seem to join fab with the expectation that just having a profile on here is enough, and that invites for meeets will come flooding in, that's not realistic.
As with most things in life, you won't get results on here unless you put in a bit of effort. There are many more men on here than women and couples, this means that men are inevitably going to find it harder to get meets, and consequently need to put in a lot more effort.
It's also worth bearing in mind that only a tiny percentage of site members actually use the forums, putting a post on here asking for meets is very unlikely to get results.
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"The usual advice is go to a club,
get to a social.
There are many post like this, the O.P is usually given grief for asking.
But you see FAB isn't for meeting, its a portal to clubs, socials and you wallet.
Why would you join a site such as FAB, only be advised to use other means of meeting people?
How can you say fab isn't for meeting? Not everyone goes to clu bs and organised socails. Never heard anything quite so ridiculous.
From the daily threads I come across stating that people cannot get meets that's how I come to my conculsion.I can say anything I wish, as this is FAB and the choice is mine."
The thing is men people getting meets don't set up threads and post status updates talking about getting meets. They might display a veri but they just go about their journey quietly. The people not getting meets are the noisy ones who get noticed. Rest assured plenty of men are meeting ladies and couples via Fab. Obviously the numbers make it difficult (apart from anything else) but it is very possible with some effort, charm, patience and flexibility. Yes going to socials and clubs increases the chances of making contacts and perhaps sex for some people but it is not a requirement. I would say if you have interest in any kind of small group scenario as opposed to one on ones then socials, parties clubs etc. do become much more important as invites to these things is all about networking. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
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Now why would a person join an on site club to meet people on line, only to be told go to another place to meet people? strange IMHO"
Because often that's good advice.
It's called 'not putting all tour eggs in one basket', using a balanced approach and keeping all options open.
Nobody has to go to clubs. Nobody has to take advice. Again - clubs aren't for everyone.
But if you're struggling to arrange meets using just the online option then why not utilise an alternative channel, or at least give it a try?
In the last month we've met and played with two single guys in a club that had we seen their profiles online we'd have scrolled straight past.
They openly admitted to finding it hard to find company via messages on here, so had tried the club route.
Equally we've met guys in clubs that we've chatted to online because their profiles seemed interesting, only to find that in person they were completely different and not for us.
It's not either/or with clubs and online. Use what works best for you and if something isn't working then try a different approach.
Or don't and continue on as before.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The usual advice is go to a club,
get to a social.
There are many post like this, the O.P is usually given grief for asking.
But you see FAB isn't for meeting, its a portal to clubs, socials and you wallet.
Why would you join a site such as FAB, only be advised to use other means of meeting people?
How can you say fab isn't for meeting? Not everyone goes to clu bs and organised socails. Never heard anything quite so ridiculous.
From the daily threads I come across stating that people cannot get meets that's how I come to my conculsion.I can say anything I wish, as this is FAB and the choice is mine.
The thing is men people getting meets don't set up threads and post status updates talking about getting meets. They might display a veri but they just go about their journey quietly. The people not getting meets are the noisy ones who get noticed. Rest assured plenty of men are meeting ladies and couples via Fab. Obviously the numbers make it difficult (apart from anything else) but it is very possible with some effort, charm, patience and flexibility. Yes going to socials and clubs increases the chances of making contacts and perhaps sex for some people but it is not a requirement. I would say if you have interest in any kind of small group scenario as opposed to one on ones then socials, parties clubs etc. do become much more important as invites to these things is all about networking."
I have swung with like minded people in the past without the need to go to clubs or socials.
Coming here was to find others, but to my surprise my experience of this scene on FAB is not my real off line experience for sure, I have long been put off by people on here and wouldn't dream of meeting any on here.
I spend more time blocking than reading forum posts.
Anyway I do not need convincing that this site is not good, so its better to visit clubs or socials....... For a price, no I do not need to be convinced of that at all, I just keep on reading the ever on going post from single men as some idea clicks in their minds, as to what this site is. |
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