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the main thing is to really relax when receiving anal and not rushing,
butt plug will help start small and work up the sizes. use plenty of lube and clean before play.
i currently use lubido anal lube, water based but nice gel consistancy and really slippery (as with all water based lube it will get sticky, but this one seems to last a good amount of time before it does) and it is cheap on amazon 6.99 for 250 ml.
I used to use pjur back door anal lube, silicone based but too liquid imo and goes everywhere never dry out though but everything gets slippery and a nightmare to clean off. |
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"the main thing is to really relax when receiving anal and not rushing,
butt plug will help start small and work up the sizes. use plenty of lube and clean before play.
i currently use lubido anal lube, water based but nice gel consistancy and really slippery (as with all water based lube it will get sticky, but this one seems to last a good amount of time before it does) and it is cheap on amazon 6.99 for 250 ml.
I used to use pjur back door anal lube, silicone based but too liquid imo and goes everywhere never dry out though but everything gets slippery and a nightmare to clean off."
thanks for this. I like Lubido, but find it can go a bit tacky/sticky on toys.. although from what you’ve said, maybe the best of the bunch.
I’ve never trained someone before, so I think a variety of plugs may be first on the list.  |
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over a year ago
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I’ve found the Lubido anal lube the best. I have different sized plugs as well. Make sure they have a sturdy base though as some of the flimsy silicone bases can bend up.
Makes pegging a whole lot easier |
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We have been using slikquid anal lube, it's amazing last a long time and doesn't go tacky. Try to avoid numbing lubes. Start with some small plugs/ dildos and work up around 1/4 inch diameter at a time anymore can be abit much. Anything else happy to help. |
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"We have been using slikquid anal lube, it's amazing last a long time and doesn't go tacky. Try to avoid numbing lubes. Start with some small plugs/ dildos and work up around 1/4 inch diameter at a time anymore can be abit much. Anything else happy to help. "
Can I just ask, why do you recommend NOT, using numbing lube? |
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I just found butt plugs of different sizes helped but mostly just practice lol
We use liquid silk for anal sex but not sure if it goes sticky on toys really |
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"We have been using slikquid anal lube, it's amazing last a long time and doesn't go tacky. Try to avoid numbing lubes. Start with some small plugs/ dildos and work up around 1/4 inch diameter at a time anymore can be abit much. Anything else happy to help.
Can I just ask, why do you recommend NOT, using numbing lube?"
I’ve also been recommended this, I believe it’s to not cause damage to the partner receiving. Especially when new to anal. |
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"We have been using slikquid anal lube, it's amazing last a long time and doesn't go tacky. Try to avoid numbing lubes. Start with some small plugs/ dildos and work up around 1/4 inch diameter at a time anymore can be abit much. Anything else happy to help. "
thanks for this! Going to look for this lube and have a good look at plugs. I personally prefer metal ones, not sure if rubber are better for “new” participants?
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"Do people clean out before hand? I've had a few accidents beforehand haha its not pretty  . What's the best thing to use? "
I always deep clean before we play with strapon or with guys as makes it's more pleasurable with no mess but can take few hours to achieve with regular visits to shower before we start fun |
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"Do people clean out before hand? I've had a few accidents beforehand haha its not pretty . What's the best thing to use?
I always deep clean before we play with strapon or with guys as makes it's more pleasurable with no mess but can take few hours to achieve with regular visits to shower before we start fun"
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I started off with plenty of lube and a set of anal beads and worked myself up over a period of time on my own to accepting the largest bead, the went on to something closer to my own size.
I guess it also depends upon whether your going to use a smooth or textured attachment to the strap on as well. |
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"Hi all, after some advice.. what’s the best technique to anally train someone? And when using a strap on, what’s the best lube? Many thanks x "
Numbing lube is a great starter and be gentle and no big dinners prior to fun! |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Never really anally trained anyone but being a bit larger you have to spend as much, if not more time warming someone up anally than vaginal. Maybe think what you like and apply it if pegging?
For me with women at least, having them relaxed makes anal easier so clit/vag orgasm/stimulation helps before moving around, (so if you're thinking about pegging OP, the same might apply). After that, maybe the first obvious is rimming, with good amounts of lube and increasing number of fingers. Nothing needs to be too rough or too deep. Toys need to be slim, and not too long as you can work your way up. Same applies with your vigour.
As a thought, go softer gel toys with a wider girth as you get more confident, as harder ones don't mould anally. I'd think too there is little point doing it once a week or once a month - maybe aim for once every 2nd or 3rd day where you explore but don't necessarily focus crazily on it (fingers one day, plugs the next, then fingers, then dildos, then plugs, then dildos - repeat - you don't throw the kitchen sink in first off). People have mentioned plugs but be a little careful as keeping them in for a fair amount of time without being moved makes them harder to pull out as you may know. (Just my thoughts)
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"Hi all, after some advice.. what’s the best technique to anally train someone? And when using a strap on, what’s the best lube? Many thanks x "
Here's my recommended technique to get used to penetration with min pain.Get a variety of different size butt plugs or dildos or phalic objects (carotts a nd courgettes can be trimmed to shapr and size. Use plenty of anal lube on yourself and the object (I think numbing agent is OK) .. Lie on your side and draw your legs up to your chest. Start with very small object. Very slowly start to insert it and Stop as soon as it starts to hurt. Probably in a fraction of a second. Keep it in place and wait until the pain has all gone then push a little bit more.. Again stop as soon as it startd hurting. Take your time and carry on doing this until you have successfully penetrated yourself. No rush.. If it takes an half hour or an hour thats fine. Slowly move it. If you want to try it again immediately do so But Do NOt rush. Over a few days keep doing this until you feel ready to try the next size.. Then again repeat the exercise and do it slowly. Gradually overtime you will be able to take bigger and wider objects and it won't be too painful. You will have gotten used to the odd feeling of being "full". If you use carrotts. Courgette. Cucumbers etc put condoms on them so you can remove them if they snap inside you. A word of warning. If you stop this training and don't get fucked regularly in the arse you will need to start again as you arse hole will contract back and need to be loosened again. Get a douche to use on yourself as well. Good luck and enjoy it. |
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"Never really anally trained anyone but being a bit larger you have to spend as much, if not more time warming someone up anally than vaginal. Maybe think what you like and apply it if pegging?
For me with women at least, having them relaxed makes anal easier so clit/vag orgasm/stimulation helps before moving around, (so if you're thinking about pegging OP, the same might apply). After that, maybe the first obvious is rimming, with good amounts of lube and increasing number of fingers. Nothing needs to be too rough or too deep. Toys need to be slim, and not too long as you can work your way up. Same applies with your vigour.
As a thought, go softer gel toys with a wider girth as you get more confident, as harder ones don't mould anally. I'd think too there is little point doing it once a week or once a month - maybe aim for once every 2nd or 3rd day where you explore but don't necessarily focus crazily on it (fingers one day, plugs the next, then fingers, then dildos, then plugs, then dildos - repeat - you don't throw the kitchen sink in first off). People have mentioned plugs but be a little careful as keeping them in for a fair amount of time without being moved makes them harder to pull out as you may know. (Just my thoughts)
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thank you for this. really helpful in a number of ways! |
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"Do people clean out before hand? I've had a few accidents beforehand haha its not pretty . What's the best thing to use? This is the male asking  "
yes, rubber bulb type douche and use it with slightly warm water, repeat until clean water comes out. Do not use shower based ones as they fill your inners with water and flush food down too. |
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By *andy KTV/TS
over a year ago
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As being anal slut myself start off slowly never rush things ..preparation is key I like to douche 3-4hours before anal just to be sure I minimise any accidents..
U can get training butt plugs start of small with plenty of good lube go easy if it hurts stop never push things . Relax and enjoy
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It's just a shame your so far away, I'm in need of training...
But seriously plenty of lube like the others suggested, various sized plugs to build up tolerance.
I believe most adult shops & Lovehoney have starter kits.
Not that I've looked or anything  |
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yes, rubber bulb type douche and use it with slightly warm water, repeat until clean water comes out. Do not use shower based ones as they fill your inners with water and flush food down too. "
 you can't flush food from down there even with a shower douche, no idea where you got that from but food doesn't make that far down your body.
I clean with the shower hose as I play for a long time so need a deeper clean than the bulb douche can provide ( those are good for a couple of hours play after you do it) if you want fun for longer shower attachment are good. Plenty of instruction on Google for it |
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By *hla92Man
over a year ago
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Hi, no one has seemed to mention yet, but before moving onto steadily growing plugs, how about a good old fashioned finger
Easy to control depth and easy to add width with extra ones if your person gets more and more into it
Sensual as hell and pretty good for maintaining physical closeness |
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FistIt lhbe is by far the best we've found
Specifically this https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/lubes-essentials/lubricants/anal-lubes/p/fist-it-extra-thick-water-based-anal-fisting-lubricant-500ml/58029.html |
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"Hi, no one has seemed to mention yet, but before moving onto steadily growing plugs, how about a good old fashioned finger
Easy to control depth and easy to add width with extra ones if your person gets more and more into it
Sensual as hell and pretty good for maintaining physical closeness"
I’d hope that by the time anal training is even considered, fingering has and is already a regular occurrence.. I might be wrong though.  |
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By *bwstarzWoman
over a year ago
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I use a shower douche, I relax more knowing it’s all clean and I could never get on with the bulb ones.
Lube I use the regular super silk one and do not use the numbing lubes, if it’s numb you won’t feel if it hurts and you have to learn what your body will and will not take at that moment in time.
Relax and have some fun with various toys of different sizes and lengths |
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"Hi all, after some advice.. what’s the best technique to anally train someone? And when using a strap on, what’s the best lube? Many thanks x
Here's my recommended technique to get used to penetration with min pain.Get a variety of different size butt plugs or dildos or phalic objects (carotts a nd courgettes can be trimmed to shapr and size. Use plenty of anal lube on yourself and the object (I think numbing agent is OK) .. Lie on your side and draw your legs up to your chest. Start with very small object. Very slowly start to insert it and Stop as soon as it starts to hurt. Probably in a fraction of a second. Keep it in place and wait until the pain has all gone then push a little bit more.. Again stop as soon as it startd hurting. Take your time and carry on doing this until you have successfully penetrated yourself. No rush.. If it takes an half hour or an hour thats fine. Slowly move it. If you want to try it again immediately do so But Do NOt rush. Over a few days keep doing this until you feel ready to try the next size.. Then again repeat the exercise and do it slowly. Gradually overtime you will be able to take bigger and wider objects and it won't be too painful. You will have gotten used to the odd feeling of being "full". If you use carrotts. Courgette. Cucumbers etc put condoms on them so you can remove them if they snap inside you. A word of warning. If you stop this training and don't get fucked regularly in the arse you will need to start again as you arse hole will contract back and need to be loosened again. Get a douche to use on yourself as well. Good luck and enjoy it. "
Anyone fancy helping with my own anal training...? |
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By *hla92Man
over a year ago
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Yes I'd expect someone to have already enjoyed a finger up there to decide they want to go further
Just giving some options, lots have jumped straight into loads of butt plugs etc. I'm thinking of this as the first part of training
The suggestion is to go one finger, two finger, scissor them open to go wider, you can usually feel what's working and get some sensitive physical feedback through your fingers, go three fingers etc. I found using a latex glove for some both kept it cleaner and gave it a certain kink too
That's what worked for me when being trained and training and certainly with bi guys I've played with, they seem to enjoy fingers more than plastic to begin with. Plus there's a reason some take it all the way into fisting rather than big toys
I like the suggestion of carrots someone else has made. That's what I use a lot at the moment. Easily cut to size and easily thrown away afterwards, when you're ready to go deeper and it becomes as much about penetration as it does about going wider.
Hope this is useful |
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Get a douche and a set of training plugs although you have to be careful on what you buy. I bought a set which had a tiny plug which was no use at all then a medium one which I could just about for and then a huge one which I never managed alone |
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Use a douche first unless you like it messy. Use plenty of lube, differences of opinion there. Some say having an anal lube that numbs is preferable but others stick with normal lube as any pain can indicate you're going too fast. Speaking of going too fast, take it SLOOOOOOW! Also, start with smaller (i.e. thinner) dildos and plugs and slowly work your way up in size x |
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I also take 2x immodium instants the morning of the day I’m going to be fucked that way with a good clean out there’s nothing unexpected coming my way just lube excreting my love hole xx
Makes me feel more confident too if I’m going with several guys/girls at a venue |
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"Hi, no one has seemed to mention yet, but before moving onto steadily growing plugs, how about a good old fashioned finger
Easy to control depth and easy to add width with extra ones if your person gets more and more into it
Sensual as hell and pretty good for maintaining physical closeness I’d hope that by the time anal training is even considered, fingering has and is already a regular occurrence.. I might be wrong though. "
Definitely try a well-lubed finger first! Also, anal beads. I forgot to mention them earlier. Actually, done right sex with anal beads in can be fantastic. Slowly pull them out as you reach climax feels amazing |
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Start small. Fingers work, espically if you have a partner willing to stick in a finger while you have sex or oral.
Butt plugs are your friends. I bought a set of three rubber ones which increase in size, and trained with them for a few days. Start small. Lots of lube, practice holding them in for a while.
I'd your worried about mess you can buy suppositories over the counter in a chemist. I can't remember the name of the ones I use but they work for that cleaner feel.
Good luck
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"I also take 2x immodium instants the morning of the day I’m going to be fucked that way with a good clean out there’s nothing unexpected coming my way just lube excreting my love hole xx
Makes me feel more confident too if I’m going with several guys/girls at a venue"
This is exactly what we do prior to any anal play on both sides, i thought it was just us ha |
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"Hi, no one has seemed to mention yet, but before moving onto steadily growing plugs, how about a good old fashioned finger
Easy to control depth and easy to add width with extra ones if your person gets more and more into it
Sensual as hell and pretty good for maintaining physical closeness"
Definitely prefer fingers to open me up the ability to bend the fingers once in helps find the good sensations also if needed one finger from each hand then you can expand the girth easily
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I always start of a good luck which lub it at same time while I lick it I'm slowly pushing one of.my.fingers. In after a while Im trying second and the same after while trying third one. If three goes in she is ready  |
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"I use a shower douche, I relax more knowing it’s all clean and I could never get on with the bulb ones.
Lube I use the regular super silk one and do not use the numbing lubes, if it’s numb you won’t feel if it hurts and you have to learn what your body will and will not take at that moment in time.
Relax and have some fun with various toys of different sizes and lengths "
Absolutely this |
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