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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey there, I want to try anal with a lady, but a few partners in the past have been intimidated and refused in the past because I am quite long and girthy. Any tips on how to make things go smoothly? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Read Ron Jeremy's autobiography. Or to paraphrase: lube, work up to it (fingers etc), lube, go slow and don't forget then lube.
Must be a right pain in the arse trying to talk a girl into anal when you have a big tinkie-winkle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Prove that you're a gentle and considerate bedfellow when it comes to regular sex, and your chances of a woman trusting you enough to yield her anus to you will possibly increase - of course, the idea of anal will never appeal to some women and thats their choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As the others have said, lube, lube and more lube, if you think there us plenty add more.
Take your time, tease with fingers (use lube when fingering and get it inside) and start off small, finger, bullet, small dildo and when she is totally relaxed slowly start, just head 1st and go at her speed.
Oh and did I mention, USE PLENTY OF LUBE. Anne summers booty relax is very good and anal eaze is also good too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh, and google "tucker max lube" if the story is still on his blog it's a good example of what happens when you use too much lube."
And doesn't douche first - seriously, unless the anal recipient hasn't eaten anything in around 24 hours prior, douching prior to anal should be considered mandatory. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh, and google "tucker max lube" if the story is still on his blog it's a good example of what happens when you use too much lube.
And doesn't douche first - seriously, unless the anal recipient hasn't eaten anything in around 24 hours prior, douching prior to anal should be considered mandatory."
Or maybe not use quite as much lube as in the story? I've never douched either hole and never had any problems or complaints.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Or maybe not use quite as much lube as in the story? I've never douched either hole and never had any problems or complaints. "
If the anus had been thoroughly douched first then aside from a bit of a greasy mess the excess lube wouldn't have been a problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey there, I want to try anal with a lady, but a few partners in the past have been intimidated and refused in the past because I am quite long and girthy. Any tips on how to make things go smoothly?"
Agree with everything everyone else has said, but would add one thing. I am also in the position of having above average girth. Since being shown the 'right way' (or workable way) to do anal by a GF who had done porn way back in the 80's, I always suggest to a new partner who wants to do anal with me, that I lay on the floor and they sit on it/me in reverse cow girl. That way, the lady is in control at all times (as I cannot move) and can lower herself onto my cock at HER pace. The chance of her flinching is MUCH reduced doing it this way, and it's proved successful almost every time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"get a dildo or make a casst of your cock and try it yourself with that...makes you a lot more patient "
Not as daft a suggestion as it may appear ! As a male who takes anal and has a cock slightly larger than yours , it pays to know what it feels like ,especially as your cock passes the threshold ! Give it a try , you may even like it !!' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My OH is very well endowed and I sometimes find it easier to go on top to start with, either normally or reverse cowgirl, allows me to take control and increase the pace gradually. Plus I can see us from behind in the mirror, sooooo hot! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All good advice but what is the best way to ensure cleanliness apart from sticking the shower nozzle up your ass?"
Enema or Douche kits - get them from the chemist or online. Think all the usual online shops sell them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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mm. Lookin at your tinkel , its not what i would call oversize, similar to mine, exept i havent bent it. If she's willing and relaxed, let her do the driving. Once she's "accustomed" you can fuck her. Happy skitter mixin ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's more about the mind frame. As largest ever in my rear was without lube. I just wanted it. And it was slow in till he was all the way in
But I'm always like that with anal. It's either all or nothing.
So I think getting mind in the right place is a good idea. |
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By *linyMan
over a year ago
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An interesting post as I'm in proportion being 6'5" shall I say! From my experience and having the bonus of a lot of gay friends, anal takes time especially if the receiver hasn't done it before. Don't expect to inside on the first go. Trust and training the sphincter muscles to relax take time and most of all patience! There's other things you can be doing whilst you're warming them up. But as others have said, start with a finger then maybe a slim butt plug. And ALWAYS lube! My gay friends taught (not on me I hasten to add) that to lay on their side firstly and bring the knees up. Anyone who's had a rectal exam will know this is how doctors do it. Although they're never gentle. |
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first time I had tried anal sex with my current partner i was nearly sick with pain....took a long time, trust, patience lube, play...butt plugs
still kills but once you get over the first few mins its amazing....big cock up ass is nicer than in your woo x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Prove that you're a gentle and considerate bedfellow when it comes to regular sex, and your chances of a woman trusting you enough to yield her anus to you will possibly increase - of course, the idea of anal will never appeal to some women and thats their choice."
I completely agree with this. I will very rarly let a man near my arse on a first meet, I want them to prove to me that they can be considerate first, so I know they won't just try to ram it in and go crazy 
As for big cocks, I tried a REALLY big dildo for the first time the other day, was pretty amazing, so now really wanting to try a big, thick cock anally - but I think it is something you have to build up to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I will very rarly let a man near my arse on a first meet."
I wouldn't want to perform anal sex with a woman on a first meet, to me, anal is something very affectionate and I'd like to think that if a woman did invite me to take her anally, it would be because she wants to feel it from me personally rathar than just anyone. |
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Lots of good advise
i'm VVW endowed too (long and lots of girth) and sometimes have problems with normal sex
hopefully i'll find a girl who will oblige me
BTW, Just read the tucker max lube story  like something out of family guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey there, I want to try anal with a lady, but a few partners in the past have been intimidated and refused in the past because I am quite long and girthy. Any tips on how to make things go smoothly?"
Lots and lots of lube...then bury it to the hilt before she can change her mind. |
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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago
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"Hey there, I want to try anal with a lady, but a few partners in the past have been intimidated and refused in the past because I am quite long and girthy. Any tips on how to make things go smoothly?
Lots and lots of lube...then bury it to the hilt before she can change her mind."
Raymond you truly are living up to your profile name!  |
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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago
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"Lots of good advise
i'm VVW endowed too (long and lots of girth) and sometimes have problems with normal sex
hopefully i'll find a girl who will oblige me
BTW, Just read the tucker max lube
story like something out of family guy "
Yeah I just read the Tucker Max story too ..... What an idiot! but also why the hell didn't the gal do her research too and prep herself??????
BLAAAAARGH!!!!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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' I want to try anal with a lady, but a few partners in the past have been intimidated and refused in the past because I am quite long and girthy. '
Uhhh , yeah me too. This happens a lot on here.
Any offers? I mean, advice?
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