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By *oodegg OP Man
over a year ago
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I know it's not a normal place to ask for relationship advice but I also know there's lots of females who read these so why not.
Was seeing an amazing woman for 18 months she was quite full on early on but worked really well did so much nice stuff for me was amazing.
In 18 months not a cross word.
We have one disagreement about not seeing each other enough.
She's very busy i was frustrated.
I'd go 50/50 on fault. Both lots on and stressed
Next thing I know she ends it on valentines.
I left didn't call or text ran into her yesterday had a 2 min polite chat.
I text her that night said it was nice to see her.
She was saying she was looking bad wasn't expecting to see me I left it with you looked amazing.
She said thanks.
Left it there what do I do now if I want her back?
Thanks
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"Basically most relationship advice can be summed up in two words.
'talk'
Or
'leave'
Hopefully option one prevents options two occuring"
I agree with this, either test her back and explain how you feel or leave it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mate you are 37, surely you know enough about relationships that you don’t need to ask for advice on a swinging site? "
^^This!! Jesus wept. It’s not rocket science is it?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I disagree. If she had changed her mind and wanted to get back together she has your no she would have called you at some point in last month.
Lick your wounds and move on"
This.  |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"Send her a message saying you're sorry it ended and you'd like to talk about getting back together. If she says no accept that.
Good luck
This "
I would be honest and straightforward about your intentions and accept it if she has emotionally moved on.
You may never know exactly why, but you need to accept that you might not both want the same things for each other now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tell her how you feel and ask if she’s open to it
If she’s not then use that information to help you move on for good. It hurts much more to hold on that it does to let go, I promise |
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Lokk dude. She doesn't want you back... Ever.
Get over her and don't waste your time.
Break up on valentines? Shows you just how much thought she put in to fucking you over.
Don't be a noodle, stop whining and get back out there.
She couldn't stand the test of time, you were lucky. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Blimey, some of you haven’t been troubled much by the notions of empathy or understanding in your lives, eh? 
Some great answers also. I hope you get the answer you need and can move forward, OP. |
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"I disagree. If she had changed her mind and wanted to get back together she has your no she would have called you at some point in last month.
Lick your wounds and move on"
Not necessarily
If both parties are the type to overthink an outcome no one messages
Better for the OP to bite the bullet
Send a message ask maybe about a coffee or drink
That at least gives her an opportunity to express yes no friends
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry, so you had an argument, she ends it and then you just went radio silent?
If that’s the case, I’d apologise, explain your reasons and see if you can work through it.
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This is the true meaning of some people just jave no idea how to communicate face to face with each other, I blame technology for some of that, its very easy to sit and type something that can come across the completely wrong. The only way you will be able to make yourself clear is to talk to her face to face, this also gives her the chance to be honest and open with you. Your adults so use what you were given and taught, the art of conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Blimey, some of you haven’t been troubled much by the notions of empathy or understanding in your lives, eh?
Some great answers also. I hope you get the answer you need and can move forward, OP."
Yup, brutal here. Better to ask & risk regretting it than walk away but always wonder. Find out where you stand. |
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If it was such an amazing relationship for 18 months, as you said, it wouldn’t end up after one disagreement. Sometimes we ignore red flags for our own convenience. She has moved on, leave her alone or just try to talk but don’t be pushy. You have nothing to lose anyway. |
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Just call her or ask for a coffee and take it from there.
Don't think that this is over, she may feel the same as you but would be thinking that you have moved on.
You don't want to bump into each other ten years later and then find out that you both wanted the same thing ten years ago.
Life is simple, don't complicate it. |
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"I disagree. If she had changed her mind and wanted to get back together she has your no she would have called you at some point in last month.
Lick your wounds and move on"
This…. Also she’s more likely to miss you if you’re not hitting up her phone. So either way , it’s better you make the decision to move on. If there is something there for her, she will let you know. |
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