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I’m not saying it’s the only reason, well aware I’m not everyone’s cup of tea lol but I’ve had a good few rejections (and suspect it’s a reason I’ve been ignored a lot) because I’ve not got any meet verifications on my profile. Not sure what the solution to this one is haha, I can’t get meets cause I’ve not already had meets but then can’t get meet verification cause nobody will meet due to my lack of them… or something?
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over a year ago
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You are located in club Central and an area that has lots of organised Fab socials, get yourself to either of them and you will get plenty of verifications. |
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You’ve been verified on cam and I think when you talk about meets you really mean verification’s? So that’s not really the reason is it? Because you’ve been verified. What else do you think it could be that means you’re not being taken notice of? |
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"Yeah I’m on about meet verifications. Well I’m not sure to be honest do you have any suggestions ? "
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Suggestions why you might be bringing ignored or not getting meets? What approach are you using currently?
For example, if you messaged me (I know, you can’t, but hypothetically), before I even looked at your message to me I’d look at your profile and in my opinion there’s nothing much there to inspire me to message you.
We can’t give advice on changing profiles unless you specifically ask
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"Yeah I’m on about meet verifications. Well I’m not sure to be honest do you have any suggestions ?
If you use the “reply + quote” button we will know which response you are replying to
Suggestions why you might be bringing ignored or not getting meets? What approach are you using currently?
For example, if you messaged me (I know, you can’t, but hypothetically), before I even looked at your message to me I’d look at your profile and in my opinion there’s nothing much there to inspire me to message you.
We can’t give advice on changing profiles unless you specifically ask
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My bad been a while since I was on the forums lol
Well that’s fair enough but what else could I put on it that’s people would actually give a shit about ? I can’t really think of anything else relevant to being on this sit that would need to be on it ? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I’m not saying it’s the only reason, well aware I’m not everyone’s cup of tea lol but I’ve had a good few rejections (and suspect it’s a reason I’ve been ignored a lot) because I’ve not got any meet verifications on my profile. Not sure what the solution to this one is haha, I can’t get meets cause I’ve not already had meets but then can’t get meet verification cause nobody will meet due to my lack of them… or something?
What do you lot recon "
I reckon every single verified site member started off with no meets.
So it can't be that that's the issue.
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"Yeah I’m on about meet verifications. Well I’m not sure to be honest do you have any suggestions ?
If you use the “reply + quote” button we will know which response you are replying to
Suggestions why you might be bringing ignored or not getting meets? What approach are you using currently?
For example, if you messaged me (I know, you can’t, but hypothetically), before I even looked at your message to me I’d look at your profile and in my opinion there’s nothing much there to inspire me to message you.
We can’t give advice on changing profiles unless you specifically ask
My bad been a while since I was on the forums lol
Well that’s fair enough but what else could I put on it that’s people would actually give a shit about ? I can’t really think of anything else relevant to being on this sit that would need to be on it ? "
Are you asking for advice and feedback on your profile? |
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"Yeah I’m on about meet verifications. Well I’m not sure to be honest do you have any suggestions ?
If you use the “reply + quote” button we will know which response you are replying to
Suggestions why you might be bringing ignored or not getting meets? What approach are you using currently?
For example, if you messaged me (I know, you can’t, but hypothetically), before I even looked at your message to me I’d look at your profile and in my opinion there’s nothing much there to inspire me to message you.
We can’t give advice on changing profiles unless you specifically ask
My bad been a while since I was on the forums lol
Well that’s fair enough but what else could I put on it that’s people would actually give a shit about ? I can’t really think of anything else relevant to being on this sit that would need to be on it ?
Are you asking for advice and feedback on your profile? "
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"I’m not saying it’s the only reason, well aware I’m not everyone’s cup of tea lol but I’ve had a good few rejections (and suspect it’s a reason I’ve been ignored a lot) because I’ve not got any meet verifications on my profile. Not sure what the solution to this one is haha, I can’t get meets cause I’ve not already had meets but then can’t get meet verification cause nobody will meet due to my lack of them… or something?
What do you lot recon
I reckon every single verified site member started off with no meets.
So it can't be that that's the issue.
A"
I get that but is it not different cause I’ve been on the site for a while but never had a meet veri, wasn’t on here for over a year cause was in a relationship and then went back to it ha |
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And even if you’re not asking for specific feedback.
Your profile is an advert for you. Your chance to sell yourself. You put on there what you think are the best pictures of you that represent how you would look when you make it to one of those legendary meets.
And then when you do speak to someone by message, be yourself but be the best you that you can be and maybe don’t think of the profile as being full of shit. |
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Are you asking for advice and feedback on your profile?
Yes please "
Your photos are terrible. You’re in dirty work clothes with your face blanked out. Are you gonna turn up to a meet in dirty work clothes?
Put your dick pic away and only show it when asked or pop it into your friends only area. That sentence always makes me giggle.
Put some pics up of how you’d turn up to a meet. Presumably clean and shower fresh? They don’t have to show your face but if they aren’t going to then make them interesting in some other way.
Change the “can’t accommodate” as you clearly can accommodate but in hotels. Can’t accommodate looks well dodgy.
Change the header that says “young looking for women” I dunno what to but something less desperate and predatory.
Now stop reading and start changes and take better pics!
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Alright thank you I’ll take the rest of it into account but a few other questions, you said about putting my cock away but is that not one of the biggest things people are looking for on this site? Correct me if I’m wrong but would you not want to know what a man’s cock is like before you meet him to decide wether you want to or not?
And about my work clothes that’s one of the things people seem to love? I’ve been told many times I look hot in work clothes or they like the tradie look |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I’m not saying it’s the only reason, well aware I’m not everyone’s cup of tea lol but I’ve had a good few rejections (and suspect it’s a reason I’ve been ignored a lot) because I’ve not got any meet verifications on my profile. Not sure what the solution to this one is haha, I can’t get meets cause I’ve not already had meets but then can’t get meet verification cause nobody will meet due to my lack of them… or something?
What do you lot recon
I reckon every single verified site member started off with no meets.
So it can't be that that's the issue.
A
I get that but is it not different cause I’ve been on the site for a while but never had a meet veri, wasn’t on here for over a year cause was in a relationship and then went back to it ha "
Do you think it would be different if your profile wasn't as old as it is?
If so - delete it and start again.
I'd also suggest stopping typing 'ha' or 'hehe' at the end of posts as it comes across a bit 'teenager' tbh.
Not being meet verified is how everyone starts out. Yet most manage to overcome the hurdle eventually. Stop thinking of the lack of a meet veri as an obstacle and concentrate on making your profile and messages interesting and attractive to your target audience.
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"Alright thank you I’ll take the rest of it into account but a few other questions, you said about putting my cock away but is that not one of the biggest things people are looking for on this site? Correct me if I’m wrong but would you not want to know what a man’s cock is like before you meet him to decide wether you want to or not?
And about my work clothes that’s one of the things people seem to love? I’ve been told many times I look hot in work clothes or they like the tradie look"
Cock pics is very big topic of convo. If they want to see, they’ll ask in my opinion. By putting it in your open profile you’ve taken the choice away.
Trade look yes, in general great, but you have nothing else pic wise and you’ve not dressed up for it in a role play way, you’ve just taken pics of yourself at work. Maybe clean clothes? On a clean hotel bed?
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By (user no longer on site)
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Catch 22.
Getting established is not easy.
Even when you do fab is still not easy as single men are supply and demand.
Some think as soon you get verified you will be knee deep but it doesn't work like that.
Not trying to destroy dreams either.
But yeah go to a club or social, ask them to verify you.
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"Never been to one tho and I pussy out last minuet hahah "
And a meet veri proves the opposite. If you haven't got the cojones to go for a drink on a pub why would people waste time arranging a meet with you? |
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"Alright thank you I’ll take the rest of it into account but a few other questions, you said about putting my cock away but is that not one of the biggest things people are looking for on this site? Correct me if I’m wrong but would you not want to know what a man’s cock is like before you meet him to decide wether you want to or not?
And about my work clothes that’s one of the things people seem to love? I’ve been told many times I look hot in work clothes or they like the tradie look"
Just to add emphasis to this, I'd never agree to meet someone who only had dirty work clothes on their profile. That, coupled with the "cannot accommodate" indicates that they aren't "free" to take nicer photos at home.
As for dick pics - most women don't wanna see them. A tasteful nude shot - yes! Close up of cock? Nope.
Good luck x
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"Never been to one tho and I pussy out last minuet hahah
And a meet veri proves the opposite. If you haven't got the cojones to go for a drink on a pub why would people waste time arranging a meet with you?"
Agree agree agree I’d forgotten all that! |
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It's highly unlikely that your lack of meet verifications is the one thing holding you back - but, it is of course very easy to see this as an excuse.
Not everyone on fab insists on you being verified.
There are a number of factors involved in finding someone who would be willing to meet you - it doesn't always come down to that little green tick. If someone fancies you and likes you enough to want to meet you, then I doubt it's going to make a huge difference.
Think about who you're contacting.
Obviously, it's pointless messaging anyone who insists on you being meet verified, but this is just one of their personal filters to keep their inbox at a manageable level.
Others have different criteria.
Pretty much everyone you message is going to check out your profile before even thinking about reading your message - and most of them will be viewing in  mode, so you won't even know they've done so.
It's going to come down to your profile in the end and what information they can gather from it.
And perhaps the most important thing of all - do they find you attractive or not.
We all have to accept that not everyone we find attractive is going to feel the same way about us. It's just a fact of life.
Those who do take the trouble to reply to you but with a 'no thanks' might use your lack of a meet veri as an excuse, but it's more often the case that it's a convenient excuse in order to 'let you down gently'
Don't get too hung up on verifications.
They more you worry about it, the more you'll focus on it and if you start giving off the vibe that you're desperate to get one, you'll put people off because they'll get the feeling that you're more interested in that than you are in them |
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"Never been to one tho and I pussy out last minuet hahah "
Nothing to be afraid of by going to a social. Be yourself, the ones we have been to we chat about nearly everything to people except sex. X. |
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"I’m not saying it’s the only reason, well aware I’m not everyone’s cup of tea lol but I’ve had a good few rejections (and suspect it’s a reason I’ve been ignored a lot) because I’ve not got any meet verifications on my profile. Not sure what the solution to this one is haha, I can’t get meets cause I’ve not already had meets but then can’t get meet verification cause nobody will meet due to my lack of them… or something?
What do you lot recon "
Go to a Social event. |
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"Correct me if I’m wrong but would you not want to know what a man’s cock is like before you meet him to decide wether you want to or not?
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I'm looking to spend time and share pleasure with people. That involves genitals, yes, but I don't need to know what it looks like first. |
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"Alright thank you I’ll take the rest of it into account but a few other questions, you said about putting my cock away but is that not one of the biggest things people are looking for on this site? Correct me if I’m wrong but would you not want to know what a man’s cock is like before you meet him to decide wether you want to or not?"
Believe me, once you've seen a few dozen cocks, you don't need to see close up photos. Unless it's something very special, all you're doing is showing that it's a bit "meh" compared with some of the others I've seen. And if it's huge, I'm just going to be "I don't want that bloody thing anywhere near me". And if it's particularly weird shaped, I'm just going to be "I don't want that bloody thing anywhere near me".
So really, there's plenty of downsides to showing close up pics of your cock, and basically no upsides. The women on here really really really do not need to see a picture to know what an ordinary cock looks like... |
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"Alright thank you I’ll take the rest of it into account but a few other questions, you said about putting my cock away but is that not one of the biggest things people are looking for on this site? Correct me if I’m wrong but would you not want to know what a man’s cock is like before you meet him to decide wether you want to or not?
Believe me, once you've seen a few dozen cocks, you don't need to see close up photos. Unless it's something very special, all you're doing is showing that it's a bit "meh" compared with some of the others I've seen. And if it's huge, I'm just going to be "I don't want that bloody thing anywhere near me". And if it's particularly weird shaped, I'm just going to be "I don't want that bloody thing anywhere near me".
So really, there's plenty of downsides to showing close up pics of your cock, and basically no upsides. The women on here really really really do not need to see a picture to know what an ordinary cock looks like..."
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"Alright thank you I’ll take the rest of it into account but a few other questions, you said about putting my cock away but is that not one of the biggest things people are looking for on this site? Correct me if I’m wrong but would you not want to know what a man’s cock is like before you meet him to decide wether you want to or not?
Believe me, once you've seen a few dozen cocks, you don't need to see close up photos. Unless it's something very special, all you're doing is showing that it's a bit "meh" compared with some of the others I've seen. And if it's huge, I'm just going to be "I don't want that bloody thing anywhere near me". And if it's particularly weird shaped, I'm just going to be "I don't want that bloody thing anywhere near me".
So really, there's plenty of downsides to showing close up pics of your cock, and basically no upsides. The women on here really really really do not need to see a picture to know what an ordinary cock looks like..."
yeah, unless it's sculpted by the Gods like mine, put it away. |
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Honestly your profile is pretty decent. I've certainly seen worse. The 'naughty tradie' fantasy is a popular one, going by some of the posts I've read on here. You could lean into that a bit harder with some jobsite pics (as opposed to just you in your scruffs). Same with the massues one. Let people visualise you in that fantasy role.
As you travel for work, set your location to that area and post a few statuses ahead of time so the locals can see you.
As for meet veris - club visits and socials is the way, as nerve wracking as that may feel. It's honestly not that scary once you're inside.
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You don’t have any recent pics - that’s tells us you aren’t keeping on top of updating your profile.
Your pics are just book of face type pics, with the face covered and dirty clothes.
50% of guys on here are experts at massage…I feel sorry for the genuine guys who actually are 
Your profile, pics and messages have to be on point as a single guy otherwise there’s no point being here.
Getting to a social would be best - but you’ve still got to make an effort and socialise too.
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50% of guys on here are experts at massage…I feel sorry for the genuine guys who actually are
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If a guy isn't a masseuse on here, he's a handyman, plumber, electrician, drug dealer, car salesman, Photographer, chef and all willing to be paid in kind.
What happened to to just the old fashioned Cocksmiths? |
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50% of guys on here are experts at massage…I feel sorry for the genuine guys who actually are
If a guy isn't a masseuse on here, he's a handyman, plumber, electrician, drug dealer, car salesman, Photographer, chef and all willing to be paid in kind.
What happened to to just the old fashioned Cocksmiths?"
I was once offered a cure for what ails me, by over a dozen men here. That cure was cock, of course.
Surgery did the trick, but ta |
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50% of guys on here are experts at massage…I feel sorry for the genuine guys who actually are
If a guy isn't a masseuse on here, he's a handyman, plumber, electrician, drug dealer, car salesman, Photographer, chef and all willing to be paid in kind.
What happened to to just the old fashioned Cocksmiths?
I was once offered a cure for what ails me, by over a dozen men here. That cure was cock, of course.
Surgery did the trick, but ta "
Probably was a surgeon on here who would of done some discount if you'd of looked a bit harder too. |
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50% of guys on here are experts at massage…I feel sorry for the genuine guys who actually are
If a guy isn't a masseuse on here, he's a handyman, plumber, electrician, drug dealer, car salesman, Photographer, chef and all willing to be paid in kind.
What happened to to just the old fashioned Cocksmiths?
I was once offered a cure for what ails me, by over a dozen men here. That cure was cock, of course.
Surgery did the trick, but ta Probably was a surgeon on here who would of done some discount if you'd of looked a bit harder too. "
It was already hinky enough having it without GA, let alone paying in kind |
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It is so easy to get verified if you really want to, your Manchester there's tons of arranged social events there, pop along to one.
Go to a club.
Go on cam.
I never understand why people moan they can't get verified, you can if you put the effort in.
Having verifications doesn't mean you'll get meets the two don't go hand in hand, it may just make people less wary.
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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago
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"I’m not saying it’s the only reason, well aware I’m not everyone’s cup of tea lol but I’ve had a good few rejections (and suspect it’s a reason I’ve been ignored a lot) because I’ve not got any meet verifications on my profile. Not sure what the solution to this one is haha, I can’t get meets cause I’ve not already had meets but then can’t get meet verification cause nobody will meet due to my lack of them… or something?
What do you lot recon "
Clubs or cam maybe |
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