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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

hi fellow fabs

So I have a situation.

It turns out my ex is on here with photos of my naked body . I did not give him permission to post these photos in fact I asked him when we split not to share any photos of me on fab if he goes back on.

What rights do I have please?

And what will happen if I report him to admin.

I don't care he is on here, it's free for all, but he has no right to share my pics without my permission.

Answers on a postcard to pissed off ex ??

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

You should report the photos and admin should have them removed.

You can also consider getting the police involved as it could be considered revenge porn.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thankyou for.your advice.

Btw I really love your pictures of creative play. Amazing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Disgusting behaviour, definitely report him , grab screenshots incase you would like to report him to the police. sorry this happened to you

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Thankyou for.your advice.

Btw I really love your pictures of creative play. Amazing "

Thank you

I hope you get the issue sorted. A friend of mine had an ex posting photos and videos of her on here, and after reporting to admin they were removed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I can't believe it he's just posted another photo of my ass after with a very hard spanking on his profile pic how dare he. I'm so livid..I've reported him.

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By *aturedWithAgeMan over a year ago

Ashton

Speak to him, then speak to the police.

I’ve reported someone using my pics on here to admin and no-one even replied.

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By *ootprints1629Couple over a year ago

somewhere in moray

It's just not right at all, we just had to deal with someone on fab stealing a video of ours and posting it on twitter...we were very close to getting the police involved but twitter dealt with it very quickly. Why do these people think they have the god given right to do shit like this to folk. I hope you get this sorted..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Admin have taken him off they acted within minutes of the report.

I have spoken to the police too as I'm concerned he has more photos and videos of me!!

How dare he think he still owns my body and the rights to pictures of me. That right was taken away from him as soon as I left..

I'm still furious. And disappointed!!!!

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border

"Speak to him, then speak to the police.

I’ve reported someone using my pics on here to admin and no-one even replied. "

The first three words of this advice are key. Have you contacted him? There are many considerations about why he has done this.

How long has it been since you separated? Has the passage of time made him forget your request to not post pictures?

Did he misunderstand to what degree you meant, with regards to not posting pictures of you? Has he posted cropped pictures of himself, with part of you in the picture also - under the belief you wouldn't mind about that?

Why report him to the police, when a simple message to him first may resolve the issue. What do you think will be the first question the police will ask you? "Have you asked him to remove the pictures?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I left him on jan 20th. And I asked him then please do not share pictures of me online. Last year we split for couple months but carried on as Dom and sub. When I told him about fab. I went on fab and found his profile was of us both standing there naked no faces .I messaged him angry asking him to remove at the time he had 3 photos for friends only. He came off fab and we actually got back together living our vanilla life along with our bedroom dynamic. He lives 50miles away so we only saw eachother about every 10dqys.

Forward to now. I go on fab, see he's on there his profile pic is him fine.but he has 3 friends only pics. A fab friend of mine befriends him. He has 3 pics of me two doing sexual acts my face is blurred out but my breast are in it. Zoom into the next pic part of pussy is in pic. These pics were uploaded from the first time he went on!!! When we got back I told him how he can't post pics of me online. The last pic he posted on his profile yesterday was of my ass after a spanking from when we met up three weeks ago for one last session. It has my tattoo on it.

Yes I am furious. But I do understand what your saying I feel uncomfortable discussing with the police or taking it further but me talking to him wouldn't guarantee him deleting all our pics/vids

It's a tough one. And he is a good guy. I think he's just got caught up in the excitement without thinking of the affect on me. He's very new to this world I get it. What do I do?

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If it was me ,I'd report him.

The police should take this v seriously now ,look at that Bear bloke who has just been found guilty of sharing intimate pics of his ex girlfriend on only fans .

It's not right or nice to have other peoples intimate or pics up for all to see ,when they've asked you to delete them op.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Speak to him, then speak to the police.

I’ve reported someone using my pics on here to admin and no-one even replied.

The first three words of this advice are key. Have you contacted him? There are many considerations about why he has done this.

How long has it been since you separated? Has the passage of time made him forget your request to not post pictures?

none of this justifys him using her pics without her permission. Apart from being in the fab rules, no one has rights to pics of another's body unless given complete consent. She asked him not to use them and has said they aren't together so he shouldn't be using them.

Pxx

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I left him on jan 20th. And I asked him then please do not share pictures of me online. Last year we split for couple months but carried on as Dom and sub. When I told him about fab. I went on fab and found his profile was of us both standing there naked no faces .I messaged him angry asking him to remove at the time he had 3 photos for friends only. He came off fab and we actually got back together living our vanilla life along with our bedroom dynamic. He lives 50miles away so we only saw eachother about every 10dqys.

Yes I am furious. But I do understand what your saying I feel uncomfortable discussing with the police or taking it further but me talking to him wouldn't guarantee him deleting all our pics/vids

It's a tough one. And he is a good guy. I think he's just got caught up in the excitement without thinking of the affect on me. He's very new to this world I get it. What do I do?"

You asked him not to post pictures of you. That is quite clear and unambiguous. There is no room for misunderstanding.

Ask him once to remove them, put in writing that you do *not* give him permission to post images of *any part* of your body. Explain to him that this is not negotiable, there are no loopholes and that no matter how many times you meet for whatever reason this still stands

. I feel like you're making excuses for him and he might be a good guy and excited about swinging but these aren't reasons for him to deliberately disregard your express wishes

Report his profile if he doesn't remove the images.

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border

"Speak to him, then speak to the police.

I’ve reported someone using my pics on here to admin and no-one even replied.

The first three words of this advice are key. Have you contacted him? There are many considerations about why he has done this.

How long has it been since you separated? Has the passage of time made him forget your request to not post pictures?

Pxx"

At no point in my comment did I give any justification. It is very clear that I believe, rather than immediately involving the police (as others on here have commented), the OP should communicate with her ex first. Once she's establish why he feels it's okay to post pictures of her, she can THEN act accordingly.

Consider this. The OP sends him a message asking why. He responds with something similar to "Sorry, I thought you meant pictures which could identify you. I will remove them now" the problem has been resolved with two messages.

Alternatively, she reports him to the police. They create a report and need to visit him.. Maybe arrest him. Then proceed with an investigation which would take months.

Which of the two scenarios above, do you think best suits the OP?

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By *otdot88Woman over a year ago

Leeds

You should report him to the police as it is a revenge porn and it is illegal

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just to clarify

I have to phoned the police and am now going in to write a statement they will discuss with me options and procedures. Doing my own research The law regarding revenge porn is contained within Section 33 of the Criminal Justice and Courts Act 2015.

If found guilt maximum sentence is 12mts-2 years. I never realised this thing was taken so seriously.

Now I'm am not about to prosecute him I will not take it that far.

I did have alot if love for him once.

But what I may do is get the police to go round tell him how servear it is to share naked pictures without consent. And they will get him to take all the photos and videos he has of me off his phone and laptop.

My only worry is that he will continue to share my pictures on other sites if he still has them.

I just want peace of mind and to close the door on this.

Thankyou for your comments and support. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have also experienced similar in the past. It's a complete violation of your privacy if you've not explicitly consented to share. I hope the reporting solves the issue. Hugs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Phone the police, it is revenge porn. They'll contact him to take it down.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This

"Phone the police, it is revenge porn. They'll contact him to take it down. "

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By *ohn KanakaMan over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"Just to clarify

If found guilt maximum sentence is 12mts-2 years. I never realised this thing was taken so seriously.

Now I'm am not about to prosecute him I will not take it that far.

I did have alot if love for him once.

My only worry is that he will continue to share my pictures on other sites if he still has them.

I just want peace of mind and to close the door on this.

Thankyou for your comments and support. X "

I think you are doing the right thing. If he gets a knock on the door from the police then he'd be crazy to then share them elsewhere amd would deserve all he gets

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By *ensman100Man over a year ago

Hounslow

"Just to clarify

If found guilt maximum sentence is 12mts-2 years. I never realised this thing was taken so seriously.

Now I'm am not about to prosecute him I will not take it that far.

I did have alot if love for him once.

My only worry is that he will continue to share my pictures on other sites if he still has them.

I just want peace of mind and to close the door on this.

Thankyou for your comments and support. X "

You are doing the right thing and I really hope you get the support you deserve. Good luck.

No one deserves to be treated in the way you have been. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You should report the photos and admin should have them removed.

You can also consider getting the police involved as it could be considered revenge porn. "

This. Exactly this.

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By *omDateMan over a year ago

Newton Abbot

Post pics without consent is a breach of trust that no Dom should stoop to. With all of my former subs I have asked if i can keep them, if they say no they are deleted, if they say yes, i ask if i can use them.

as a matter of course I blank out the face and identifying marks, although a few have said I can use as is.

OP, getting the police in was the right call, dont feel back if he gets charged, he brought it on himself.

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By *ootprints1629Couple over a year ago

somewhere in moray

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By *ootprints1629Couple over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"Post pics without consent is a breach of trust that no Dom should stoop to. With all of my former subs I have asked if i can keep them, if they say no they are deleted, if they say yes, i ask if i can use them.

as a matter of course I blank out the face and identifying marks, although a few have said I can use as is.

OP, getting the police in was the right call, dont feel back if he gets charged, he brought it on himself."

Dom or sub, or just any type of relationship weather one nighters, previous relationships any type is wrong..

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By *unWetNawtyCplCouple over a year ago

South Gloucestershire

I have just had a similar meet yesterday. I challenged the guy and asked if he was taking pics and videos, he said no. But today they've been added to his profile with me and another guy without consent. I've just reported to admin. But did save some images for proof.

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By *nowknightMan over a year ago

BRADFORD

"Just to clarify

If found guilt maximum sentence is 12mts-2 years. I never realised this thing was taken so seriously.

Now I'm am not about to prosecute him I will not take it that far.

I did have alot if love for him once.

My only worry is that he will continue to share my pictures on other sites if he still has them.

I just want peace of mind and to close the door on this.

Thankyou for your comments and support. X "

Do not wish to pour oil into the flames, but ever thought he might have stored pictures on the Cloud ?

These will not be visible on devices and if he has a password protected Cloud account under a different email address he can fhide these.

My deceased partner/wife had issues with her ex husband in the same manner, just not the pictures we made ( fetishism and her bi ). A nice man to man chat sorted 90% out and a crushed phone the remaining 10% I am politically incorrect and grew up in a very violent country.

The police will help you to a point just be aware some men ( and women) tend to be very controlling even after years of separation.

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By *empusMan over a year ago

Poole

"Speak to him, then speak to the police.

I’ve reported someone using my pics on here to admin and no-one even replied. "

That’s concerning. I would have expected admin to a least try to help

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hi fellow fabs

So I have a situation.

What rights do I have please?

And what will happen if I report him to admin.

I don't care he is on here, it's free for all, but he has no right to share my pics without my permission.

Answers on a postcard to pissed off ex ??"

Get the police involved, it'll end up in court, and you'll be exposed as a swinger...bit of a dilemma there for you I'd imagine

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Only just seen this sorry

Normally you won't hear back from a report but for reports of pics being used by another, you will get a mail saying Admin are looking into it , then another when resolved

Reports do take up to 48 hours

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