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Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen? | |||
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"I just don't understand people like that. I love foreplay, and for me, the horniest thing ever is seeing a woman enjoying and getting pleasure from what I'm doing. I love fingering, licking, stroking. At least as mush as fucking if not more!" Agreed! Plus it helps the evening last longer. | |||
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"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future " We do go with the flow. Surely you need to be warmed up enough to take what was a huge penis. It’s 2023 and surely guys should know about foreplay especially if you’re vwe. Have had bigger penises but the guys were much more skilled at getting the lady prepared. | |||
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"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future We do go with the flow. Surely you need to be warmed up enough to take what was a huge penis. It’s 2023 and surely guys should know about foreplay especially if you’re vwe. Have had bigger penises but the guys were much more skilled at getting the lady prepared. " If she got straight to sucking his cock he perhaps thought it was all about him | |||
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"I'm not surprised at all." Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to. | |||
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"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future We do go with the flow. Surely you need to be warmed up enough to take what was a huge penis. It’s 2023 and surely guys should know about foreplay especially if you’re vwe. Have had bigger penises but the guys were much more skilled at getting the lady prepared. " 100% this. In my experience if a lady has good sex then I have good sex. Luckily I love oral and making sure she is in the mood is always the right way to start. | |||
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"I'm not surprised at all. Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to." Really? That's your take on it? | |||
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"I'm not surprised at all. Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to." Wow | |||
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"I'm not surprised at all. Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to." ??? I think you got a totally wrong end of the stick here. I wonder how you'd feel if someone tried shoving even just a small knob up your arse without warming you up first??? I know pussy is different to arse, more moist and stretchy, but we still need foreplay. I'd chuck that idiot out, too, if he tried to enter me when I wasn't ready. | |||
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"I'm not surprised at all. Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to." We sensed a bit of sarcasm perhaps there. There are two questions here 1. Should a man ensure that a woman is warmed up before inserting his penis ? 2. If a man hasn’t warmed up a woman and seems intent on just inserting his penis then does the woman have the right to stop things ? Is a woman ‘entitled’ to have at least an ‘adaquate’ encounter or should she just grin and bear it whilst the guy, who has been warmed up, has his way with her ? Seems different people will have different opinions which is fine. | |||
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"This a bit mean seeing as he’s on here and could see it " Pretty sure he is not a forum regular. We didn’t name him and also he was there so it probably felt meaner in person. Suppose the forums are for sharing experiences so maybe some other guy will read this and up his game and some won’t. He was a nice guy and very apologetic but women need to be more assertive when it’s just not working out. Or maybe we’re just bad people . | |||
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"How confident and self assured of her! Honestly some men really do think we are just on this planet to service them. Zero effort required on their part. " I don't think throwing someone out sounds confident or self assured | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"has this been discussed before that foreplay would be wanted.. as its not a given. As I don't want any I make it quite clear what I'm after. | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"Did he want oral sex from her or did she just assume he did? Did she ask him for oral in return or just throw him out with no communication? | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?
Did he want oral sex from her or did she just assume he did?
Did she ask him for oral in return or just throw him out with no communication?
"this is actually a good point. Did the wife kiss and do foreplay before giving the bj.... as perhaps if not it was assumed that it was a straight to it. The op could have said to the guy to slow down..... made it clear without throwing him out that it was not time to go for full sex | |||
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"Sounds like from the last few messages we should arrange who gives what and when. We’ve never had to give these instructions before. The first thing to touch pussy was his cock as he tried to penetrate. It was sore and his solution was just to keep adding lube. It was too sore to continue like that so we ended the session and asked him to leave. Do you really have to ask someone to warm you up before penetrating? Maybe you do. Next time we meet we’ll be sure to have a written contract outlining exactly what happens and when with the responsibilities on each party. We’ve never had to do that before but seems that we need to spell things out. Our mistake "You definitely shouldn't have to discuss foreplay, I'd have kicked them out too! Mrs | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"Wow! I admire and respect you for that! Well done! | |||
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"Sounds like from the last few messages we should arrange who gives what and when. We’ve never had to give these instructions before. The first thing to touch pussy was his cock as he tried to penetrate. It was sore and his solution was just to keep adding lube. It was too sore to continue like that so we ended the session and asked him to leave. Do you really have to ask someone to warm you up before penetrating? Maybe you do. Next time we meet we’ll be sure to have a written contract outlining exactly what happens and when with the responsibilities on each party. We’ve never had to do that before but seems that we need to spell things out. Our mistake "a little defensive but we are all here for different things. I personally if I didn't want fucking at that point would have taken control and told him to work for it. It's not about having it all laid out but foreplay is never a given. And I have seen many couples just want a guy to get straight to it. To be honest if a guy wanted to keep adding lube I'd not have fucked him either but then I would have already been in the mood sucking his cock but that's just me. | |||
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"If a meet isn't working out, you have every right to end it, regardless of the reasons "I did exactly this, with a couple I met a few years ago. All the wife wanted was for me to just stick my cock in her pussy, fuck her, then leave. There was no foreplay at all, she doesn’t kiss others, and doesn’t suck cock. It just wasn’t working for me, so I thanked them for their time, and left. It was a lesson for me, so now I ask before meets, about limits and expectations etc 
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"Sounds like from the last few messages we should arrange who gives what and when. We’ve never had to give these instructions before. The first thing to touch pussy was his cock as he tried to penetrate. It was sore and his solution was just to keep adding lube. It was too sore to continue like that so we ended the session and asked him to leave. Do you really have to ask someone to warm you up before penetrating? Maybe you do. Next time we meet we’ll be sure to have a written contract outlining exactly what happens and when with the responsibilities on each party. We’ve never had to do that before but seems that we need to spell things out. Our mistake a little defensive but we are all here for different things. I personally if I didn't want fucking at that point would have taken control and told him to work for it.
It's not about having it all laid out but foreplay is never a given. And I have seen many couples just want a guy to get straight to it.
To be honest if a guy wanted to keep adding lube I'd not have fucked him either but then I would have already been in the mood sucking his cock but that's just me. "We probably just got frustrated. He had not even touched down there to check any level of arousal. When penetration started we expected he should have noticed and paused to perform some sort of warm up. Seemed oblivious to this though so was thinking how much worse this would get. At that point you need to decide if it’s worth going on. It would be easier just to continue but didn’t seem worth it as the mood had gone. Probably a lesson learned for all involved. | |||
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"If a meet isn't working out, you have every right to end it, regardless of the reasons
I did exactly this, with a couple I met a few years ago. All the wife wanted was for me to just stick my cock in her pussy, fuck her, then leave. There was no foreplay at all, she doesn’t kiss others, and doesn’t suck cock. It just wasn’t working for me, so I thanked them for their time, and left.
It was a lesson for me, so now I ask before meets, about limits and expectations etc
"Yes guys should be able to end a meet too. We’ve never had to ask before as it seems quite clinical. We prefer to explore and try what works and what people like rather than saying “Kiss for 5 mins, I’ll stroke your penis for 2 mins, you’ll take off my clothes , etc” . The good thing about the forums is you learn something new every day . | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"You ended a meet that wasn’t for you. Nothing wrong with that on any part and good she has the confidence to do so. No big deal, just not compatible . The chance you take meeting online. | |||
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"Anal is foreplay right? "Ella and I would say it can be..... G | |||
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"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future " I would say foreplay for both parties is essential and expected. Surely a guy shouldn't just expect to receive oral then sex with no effort on his part. | |||
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"I'm not surprised at all. Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to. We sensed a bit of sarcasm perhaps there. There are two questions here 1. Should a man ensure that a woman is warmed up before inserting his penis ? 2. If a man hasn’t warmed up a woman and seems intent on just inserting his penis then does the woman have the right to stop things ? Is a woman ‘entitled’ to have at least an ‘adaquate’ encounter or should she just grin and bear it whilst the guy, who has been warmed up, has his way with her ? Seems different people will have different opinions which is fine. " 2. Anyone has the right to stop anything without any justification whatsoever. And it’s certainly not about being entitled to anything - what’s important is everyone involved is happy and comfortable, and if any participant isn’t, then they have the right to pull out. Pardon the pun…  | |||
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"Sounds like from the last few messages we should arrange who gives what and when. We’ve never had to give these instructions before. The first thing to touch pussy was his cock as he tried to penetrate. It was sore and his solution was just to keep adding lube. It was too sore to continue like that so we ended the session and asked him to leave. Do you really have to ask someone to warm you up before penetrating? Maybe you do. Next time we meet we’ll be sure to have a written contract outlining exactly what happens and when with the responsibilities on each party. We’ve never had to do that before but seems that we need to spell things out. Our mistake
a little defensive but we are all here for different things. I personally if I didn't want fucking at that point would have taken control and told him to work for it.
It's not about having it all laid out but foreplay is never a given. And I have seen many couples just want a guy to get straight to it.
To be honest if a guy wanted to keep adding lube I'd not have fucked him either but then I would have already been in the mood sucking his cock but that's just me.
We probably just got frustrated. He had not even touched down there to check any level of arousal. When penetration started we expected he should have noticed and paused to perform some sort of warm up. Seemed oblivious to this though so was thinking how much worse this would get. At that point you need to decide if it’s worth going on. It would be easier just to continue but didn’t seem worth it as the mood had gone.
Probably a lesson learned for all involved. "Did you communicate with him at all? You sound quite childish if your response is to have a written contract before you start. Sex is for adults. Why should he 'notice' anything? Is the woman unable to speak? Some women would be turned on after 15 minutes of sucking cock and just want to be fucked. Hopefully he doesn't let this experience put him off meeting couples. Some couples communicate and don't treat men like just a cock. | |||
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"Sounds like from the last few messages we should arrange who gives what and when. We’ve never had to give these instructions before. The first thing to touch pussy was his cock as he tried to penetrate. It was sore and his solution was just to keep adding lube. It was too sore to continue like that so we ended the session and asked him to leave. Do you really have to ask someone to warm you up before penetrating? Maybe you do. Next time we meet we’ll be sure to have a written contract outlining exactly what happens and when with the responsibilities on each party. We’ve never had to do that before but seems that we need to spell things out. Our mistake
a little defensive but we are all here for different things. I personally if I didn't want fucking at that point would have taken control and told him to work for it.
It's not about having it all laid out but foreplay is never a given. And I have seen many couples just want a guy to get straight to it.
To be honest if a guy wanted to keep adding lube I'd not have fucked him either but then I would have already been in the mood sucking his cock but that's just me.
We probably just got frustrated. He had not even touched down there to check any level of arousal. When penetration started we expected he should have noticed and paused to perform some sort of warm up. Seemed oblivious to this though so was thinking how much worse this would get. At that point you need to decide if it’s worth going on. It would be easier just to continue but didn’t seem worth it as the mood had gone.
Probably a lesson learned for all involved.
Did you communicate with him at all? You sound quite childish if your response is to have a written contract before you start. Sex is for adults.
Why should he 'notice' anything? Is the woman unable to speak?
Some women would be turned on after 15 minutes of sucking cock and just want to be fucked.
Hopefully he doesn't let this experience put him off meeting couples. Some couples communicate and don't treat men like just a cock. "Our response about a contract was a joke. We won’t really be getting anyone to sign a contract
We did have a social before and communicated what we’d doing on the night. However this did not go down to the ‘please give some foreplay’ discussion. We didn’t think we needed to and have never needed to in the past ten years of meets. We live and learn.
The guy will be fine. He’s a good looking, nice, confident guy with a special asset and lots of meets under his belt. This is just a blip for him and maybe it was an off night for him.
Obviously we’ve divided opinion like often happens in Fab but don’t think anyone should have to ask for foreplay. You might stop foreplay and say ‘fuck me now’ but our default position would be kissing, foreplay both ways then penetration unless someone tells us otherwise. Even if it’s a hot quickie you want to check the woman is warmed up. Maybe we’re old fashioned though | |||
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"What's the fuss all about a woman is there to be shagged end of." I know you are just on a wind up | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?
Did he want oral sex from her or did she just assume he did?
Did she ask him for oral in return or just throw him out with no communication?
this is actually a good point. Did the wife kiss and do foreplay before giving the bj.... as perhaps if not it was assumed that it was a straight to it.
The op could have said to the guy to slow down..... made it clear without throwing him out that it was not time to go for full sex ". It doesn't take a rocket scientist to work out if a woman is ready for penetration or not. If anything I would say it should be the other way round, if the woman wants you to slam it in dry they should communicate that beforehand. | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?
Did he want oral sex from her or did she just assume he did?
Did she ask him for oral in return or just throw him out with no communication?
this is actually a good point. Did the wife kiss and do foreplay before giving the bj.... as perhaps if not it was assumed that it was a straight to it.
The op could have said to the guy to slow down..... made it clear without throwing him out that it was not time to go for full sex . It doesn't take a rocket scientist to work out if a woman is ready for penetration or not.
If anything I would say it should be the other way round, if the woman wants you to slam it in dry they should communicate that beforehand."Unfortunately, there are some very selfish guys (and gals) out there. For some of us, mutual foreplay and pleasure are the whole point...leading up to whatever progresses naturally 
Equally as unfortunate is the fact that we never know what someone on a meet is going to be like until it comes to "the crunch".
They'll give it all the usual BS on here, but then prove their true nature once in the bedroom.
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"I'm not surprised at all. Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to. ??? I think you got a totally wrong end of the stick here. I wonder how you'd feel if someone tried shoving even just a small knob up your arse without warming you up first??? I know pussy is different to arse, more moist and stretchy, but we still need foreplay. I'd chuck that idiot out, too, if he tried to enter me when I wasn't ready. " How is that ever going to happen, I'm not gay | |||
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"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future We do go with the flow. Surely you need to be warmed up enough to take what was a huge penis. It’s 2023 and surely guys should know about foreplay especially if you’re vwe. Have had bigger penises but the guys were much more skilled at getting the lady prepared. " 100% this, Jess would have done exactly the same thing | |||
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"Yep. I think a lot of Men think we get wet just from giving them head and don't bother trying to warm us up. "Those guys are merely selfish or ignorant of other people's feelings or needs | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"A single guy? That will be why | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"How did he react to that? KJ | |||
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"Unless stated beforehand in messages that the lady only wants to suck then bend over for cock, then it should be assumed that pleasure is mutual and the man should engage in foreplay. If the lady got straight to her knees when he first arrived, he may have thought all she wants is my cock but what he should have said when the sucking stopped is, do you want this deep inside you now? The lady could have replied, not yet I want your tongue first. Perhaps the lack of communication from both sides was what was wrong. Would need to hear his side of the story to get the full picture. here " | |||
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"A single guy? That will be why "Hey, don't tar us all with that brush. | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"Yes we've had the same, almost identical situation as you guys, obviously idiots like him are just meeting couples or single females as a matter of course, almost routine and regimental, no thought for the lady at all as was the case with you guys, it's just something to kill a couple of hours for him one evening if he's got nothing to do? The hotel room door has been opened by us to kick dickheads like him out too, you did the right thing, and hopefully your next meet will be much more successful? And they wonder why single guys get slated all the time, when idiots like him ruin it for the decent ones? | |||
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"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future We do go with the flow. Surely you need to be warmed up enough to take what was a huge penis. It’s 2023 and surely guys should know about foreplay especially if you’re vwe. Have had bigger penises but the guys were much more skilled at getting the lady prepared. Have you ever thought of using some lube. " | |||
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"The key is communication. Assumptions don't make for good sex in my experience. Assuming all women need "warming up" is another assumption. Everyone is different it's a compatibility issue. Guys not a mind reader I hate foreplay , seriously it bores me not everyone is the same. If you are meeting for sex talking about foreplay is a good idea " You’re right it does get tedious after a while | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?
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KJ"He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person. Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”. We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening . | |||
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"I'm not surprised at all. Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to. We sensed a bit of sarcasm perhaps there. There are two questions here 1. Should a man ensure that a woman is warmed up before inserting his penis ? 2. If a man hasn’t warmed up a woman and seems intent on just inserting his penis then does the woman have the right to stop things ? Is a woman ‘entitled’ to have at least an ‘adaquate’ encounter or should she just grin and bear it whilst the guy, who has been warmed up, has his way with her ? Seems different people will have different opinions which is fine. " Only made worse when they don't talk or ask permission | |||
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"I can never get enough foreplay, can't beat going down on a nice soft pushy and hearing the lady enjoy it, till she's had enough and is ready for the full sex. " I'd rather neither side was pushy | |||
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"call me old fashioned, but its never been about sticking it straight in for me. i am a little uncomfortable when a lady just dives straight in for the bj, i like touching and caressing before getting to the other bits. i totally respect the no kissing rule some people have although i find that a big part of foreplay. for me it works both ways, neither party is there to be "used" " Maybe we have been giving the wrong impression. There was a bit of kissing, but not a lot, and touching, but he didn’t touch. Then he laid back in a ‘check out this big boy’ fashion and prompting oral sex. It just came across as all about him. The most effort he put in was putting on the condom. Just felt strange and lazy or at least inexperienced by him but he did have a few veris from meets so should have some experience. A first for us. In Fab you’re always learning though | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?
How did he react to that?
KJ
He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person.
Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”.
We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening .
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"He had no idea at all. Forplay and sensuality is absolutely the best part. Selfish springs to mind. | |||
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"I can never get enough foreplay, can't beat going down on a nice soft pushy and hearing the lady enjoy it, till she's had enough and is ready for the full sex. I'd rather neither side was pushy "Lol, predictive text again. Non pushy pussy is best! | |||
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"If a meet isn't working out, you have every right to end it, regardless of the reasons "Bang on . I have upped and left meets before over dumb behaviour / treatment | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?
How did he react to that?
KJ
He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person.
Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”.
We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening .
One bad experience with this guy has put you off all single men in the future?
What happens when you get a bad experience from a couple?
"It’s not our first bad experience with a single guy One guy could hardly stand as he was so d*unk Another, who we trusted, attempted to force the taking of popp$rs during a solo meet. Add this one meet and we decided maybe couples are more our thing. Or at least we’ll give up single guys for a while. | |||
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"call me old fashioned, but its never been about sticking it straight in for me. i am a little uncomfortable when a lady just dives straight in for the bj, i like touching and caressing before getting to the other bits. i totally respect the no kissing rule some people have although i find that a big part of foreplay. for me it works both ways, neither party is there to be "used" Maybe we have been giving the wrong impression. There was a bit of kissing, but not a lot, and touching, but he didn’t touch. Then he laid back in a ‘check out this big boy’ fashion and prompting oral sex. It just came across as all about him. The most effort he put in was putting on the condom. Just felt strange and lazy or at least inexperienced by him but he did have a few veris from meets so should have some experience. A first for us. In Fab you’re always learning though "Ah Yeah. Single guys often have forgotten how to have good sex. So far I've never had to give an instructional to a man in a couple. I got to clubs enough to know that Single guys are like some sort of wild animal that has to be tamed and reined in and it doesn't matter how old they are. I'm telling guys in their 40s and 50s to slow down even rubbing my clit. I don't know if they are just used to jerking off frantically and feverishly that they do the same thing to women's body parts. Good thing I'm assertive when it comes to my genitals. Mate my clitoris does not need to be rubbed out like an eraser. lol!  | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?
How did he react to that?
KJ
He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person.
Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”.
We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening .
One bad experience with this guy has put you off all single men in the future?
What happens when you get a bad experience from a couple?
It’s not our first bad experience with a single guy
One guy could hardly stand as he was so d*unk
Another, who we trusted, attempted to force the taking of popp$rs during a solo meet.
Add this one meet and we decided maybe couples are more our thing. Or at least we’ll give up single guys for a while.
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?
How did he react to that?
KJ
He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person.
Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”.
We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening .
One bad experience with this guy has put you off all single men in the future?
What happens when you get a bad experience from a couple?
It’s not our first bad experience with a single guy
One guy could hardly stand as he was so d*unk
Another, who we trusted, attempted to force the taking of popp$rs during a solo meet.
Add this one meet and we decided maybe couples are more our thing. Or at least we’ll give up single guys for a while.
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?
How did he react to that?
KJ
He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person.
Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”.
We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening .
One bad experience with this guy has put you off all single men in the future?
What happens when you get a bad experience from a couple?
It’s not our first bad experience with a single guy
One guy could hardly stand as he was so d*unk
Another, who we trusted, attempted to force the taking of popp$rs during a solo meet.
Add this one meet and we decided maybe couples are more our thing. Or at least we’ll give up single guys for a while.
What makes you confident in being able to avoid all this with a guy from a couple?"We’re definitely not sure we would but we’ve had much less issues with couples. | |||
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"I can never get enough foreplay, can't beat going down on a nice soft pushy and hearing the lady enjoy it, till she's had enough and is ready for the full sex. I'd rather neither side was pushy
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?
How did he react to that?
KJ
He said it was a first for him in terms of being stopped. He did take it ok though. He was not a bad person.
Reflecting on it from a few days out it was perhaps that the guy just came across as selfish and unwilling or too lazy to do anything which did not involve his pleasure. Think that provoked a response of “if you can’t be bothered giving pleasure then it’s going to be a bad night so let’s end it”.
We’ve never met a guy who has never given foreplay in response to receiving it. Lesson learned for both sides though. We’ll probably not meet single guys again because we doubt that would happen with the male from a couple, you’d hope, so we’ll stick to couples in future to avoid these sort of situations happening .
One bad experience with this guy has put you off all single men in the future?
What happens when you get a bad experience from a couple?
It’s not our first bad experience with a single guy
One guy could hardly stand as he was so d*unk
Another, who we trusted, attempted to force the taking of popp$rs during a solo meet.
Add this one meet and we decided maybe couples are more our thing. Or at least we’ll give up single guys for a while.
"Most of us on here will have a few bad experiences and yes at the same time you say never again but if communication is good and parameters are set from the off these should separate the wheat from the chaff. Always be the odd one. Great meets are not guaranteed. Get back on the horse at first opportunity. Don't hang up your saddle. | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"We’ve found a percentage of guys with big C##ks tend to have big egos as well | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"This whole thing sounds vague ?? Did anyone ever speak to each other? | |||
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"I like it if a bloke fucks me before foreplay, I am already excited and wet from getting ready in my stockings... If you are calling a single guy to come and give you what you want OP, then tell him beforehand what your requirements are. Don't come on the forum and start a thread about him that he could see. You sucked his cock, got him excited, then threw him out when he didn't perform the way you expected him to. Try more communication before you meet up with men in the future ..Fab single men are not here to provide a service to you and they are not mind readers either. " This
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" There are two questions here 1. Should a man ensure that a woman is warmed up before inserting his penis ? " It depends on the situation, however.. I find that blowing on the coals makes the fire far hotter and, pleasure given is usually received back with interest. " 2. If a man hasn’t warmed up a woman and seems intent on just inserting his penis then does the woman have the right to stop things ? " Again, depends on the situation. There are times where a raw, 'grab her and fuck her' is more than enough to open the floodgates.. in this case though it seems like the bloke with the big dick turned out to be.. a big dick. That doesn't alter the root question though. 'should the woman have the right to stop it if she is not happy'... answer there is the same as 'does the bloke have the right to stop it if he isn't happy' which is a yes on both counts.. a happy and consenting partner is the sexiest and biggest turn on going. | |||
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" Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. I'm impressed he managed not to cum after 15 minutes of awesome oral" lol yep ones impression of awesome isnt everyones  | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit "sorry to say but that comment says more about you than it does the guy you "used" | |||
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"I like it if a bloke fucks me before foreplay, I am already excited and wet from getting ready in my stockings... If you are calling a single guy to come and give you what you want OP, then tell him beforehand what your requirements are. Don't come on the forum and start a thread about him that he could see. You sucked his cock, got him excited, then threw him out when he didn't perform the way you expected him to. Try more communication before you meet up with men in the future ..Fab single men are not here to provide a service to you and they are not mind readers either. " | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"Happened to us a few times. Some just watch too much porn and think its a real reflection of sexual prowess. Sad really. | |||
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"I like it if a bloke fucks me before foreplay, I am already excited and wet from getting ready in my stockings... If you are calling a single guy to come and give you what you want OP, then tell him beforehand what your requirements are. Don't come on the forum and start a thread about him that he could see. You sucked his cock, got him excited, then threw him out when he didn't perform the way you expected him to. Try more communication before you meet up with men in the future ..Fab single men are not here to provide a service to you and they are not mind readers either. " True. a lot of women get fully aroused already without the man touching them. However, communication is key. If I want/need more foreplay, I tend to tell them thatI want more foreplay and that doesn't cause problems for me. I have to do this with anal a lot because a lot of guys ( on and off FAb) think "hey it's just going to slip in if it's lubed up." My tight ass (pun intended. I'm an uptight tense person) needs fingers and toys before any anal. I blame porn. The majority of the videos are the woman sucks cock and then is so aroused she wants cock in her pussy or ass straight away.....no lube/no foreplay shown. Lol! This is what the majority of men ( who watch porn) are watching so unfortunately this is how their brain thinks it goes even if their logic knows it's not. The subconscious overrides it. Not saying porn is bad but I'm fairly strict with what I let into my subconcious. I tend to watch amateur, BDSM and mature couples who use a variety of play techniques and toys and their videos' focuses are not always a big dick going in a hole. | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"Yep, happened last Monday to us, the session wasstopped too, very very poor | |||
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"I like it if a bloke fucks me before foreplay, I am already excited and wet from getting ready in my stockings... If you are calling a single guy to come and give you what you want OP, then tell him beforehand what your requirements are. Don't come on the forum and start a thread about him that he could see. You sucked his cock, got him excited, then threw him out when he didn't perform the way you expected him to. Try more communication before you meet up with men in the future ..Fab single men are not here to provide a service to you and they are not mind readers either. This
There are always two sides to the story. Some women don’t like to give oral, Does that mean we men are entitled to get one on every meet or go public that we didn’t get one?
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"Massive respect to your wife for stopping the session. | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"I had this recently with a lady. I have to admit, I really like to give oral and I was hoping to give this lady plenty. Unfortunately, that wasn't to be. It was condom on with some lube and off she went. I have to admit, I was disappointed with no foreplay and when it was over, she just left. Needless to say, I can guarantee I won't want a repeat. | |||
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"This a bit mean seeing as he’s on here and could see it Pretty sure he is not a forum regular. We didn’t name him and also he was there so it probably felt meaner in person. Suppose the forums are for sharing experiences so maybe some other guy will read this and up his game and some won’t. He was a nice guy and very apologetic but women need to be more assertive when it’s just not working out. Or maybe we’re just bad people . " I completely agree woth your first post OP. I would of done the same. Seriously though that's just not fair. A similar time for me atackub and I was sucking 2 guys and when I said come on guys my turn for some oral they both shrugged theor shoulders. That was the tine I said fook that and stopped all play | |||
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"A similar time for me atackub and I was sucking 2 guys and when I said come on guys my turn for some oral they both shrugged theor shoulders. That was the tine I said fook that and stopped all play " So what if this was reversed? If a guy had been licking you, but you were dead against giving oral? Are you wrong for having a boundaries and limits? Should you just ignore your own limits because its "selfish"? If you aren't willing to do what you're doing without expecting something in return, unless you've previously specifically agreed it, then you're just being entitled. | |||
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"A similar time for me atackub and I was sucking 2 guys and when I said come on guys my turn for some oral they both shrugged theor shoulders. That was the tine I said fook that and stopped all play So what if this was reversed? If a guy had been licking you, but you were dead against giving oral? Are you wrong for having a boundaries and limits? Should you just ignore your own limits because its "selfish"? If you aren't willing to do what you're doing without expecting something in return, unless you've previously specifically agreed it, then you're just being entitled." Not saying its right or wrong. | |||
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"A similar time for me atackub and I was sucking 2 guys and when I said come on guys my turn for some oral they both shrugged theor shoulders. That was the tine I said fook that and stopped all play So what if this was reversed? If a guy had been licking you, but you were dead against giving oral? Are you wrong for having a boundaries and limits? Should you just ignore your own limits because its "selfish"? If you aren't willing to do what you're doing without expecting something in return, unless you've previously specifically agreed it, then you're just being entitled. Not saying its right or wrong. " Probably deflated | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"Didn't you know that a big penis guarantees mind blowing sex? They need not bother with foreplay of any description because they know their large member removes the necessity for such trivialities. You will still worship them. Of course that's all rubbish. But that's the mindset of some males on here. Good on her for showing him the door. He deserved nothing less. | |||
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"It sounds like you had a predefined order of play Maybe be a bit more go with the flow to stop it happening in the future " I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion! | |||
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"I'm not surprised at all. Me neither, how dare he not give this "lovely" couple what they're entitled to." Although it was a pretty shit thing to do to her but nobody is entitled on here. | |||
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"How confident and self assured of her! Honestly some men really do think we are just on this planet to service them. Zero effort required on their part. I don't think throwing someone out sounds confident or self assured " It is, she knows what she wants and she wasn't given it, in response to that she threw him out..thats pretty confident to me, allt of people would just accept it to save face! | |||
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"OP I read the post again and it just confused me, you got to a hotel, clothes off and he got a great BJ first. . I'm so confused, it wouldn't even occur to me not to be licking and fingering your pussy while my pants were still on. Wouldn't even crack my belt open until you had cum at least once. If you don't cum, I don't either. Respect the lady." What if she's not into CMNF? What if she doesn't want to cum on a meet? Sounds disrespectful and quite arrogant. | |||
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"A lot of people seem to be missing the point that communication is key in anything involving another person or people. It's easy enough to tell someone what you want or how you want it. And before hand is probably better too. Both OP and the guy obviously has different expectations and little or no communication. Neither deserve abuse! Let's just learn from the experience. " | |||
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"OP I read the post again and it just confused me, you got to a hotel, clothes off and he got a great BJ first. . I'm so confused, it wouldn't even occur to me not to be licking and fingering your pussy while my pants were still on. Wouldn't even crack my belt open until you had cum at least once. If you don't cum, I don't either. Respect the lady. What if she's not into CMNF? What if she doesn't want to cum on a meet? Sounds disrespectful and quite arrogant. " She already stated her position on the matter. Fairly certain if I was in that position if they wanted my clothes off it would come up in conversation, talking first is key. | |||
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"This seems one of those threads that you can't win. Any other day you would get reactions of selfish , should have made sure the woman was turned on / we women need to be savoured etc etc type of comments but now it seems to be you did wrong for expecting a bit of foreplay. To the question, yes if a meet isn't working out anyone should be able to say so at any point. To the play, when we used to meet we had men who said the right things of what we were all looking for before the meet that didn't happen on it but I don't think we ever said you have to get me wet before you stick it in, we would have assumed the man would know that already. If I wanted it dry I would have probably mentioned that though I am not sure I would have thrown him out, maybe just mentioned I wasn't ready as a hint then see what happens after that, then thrown him out if it happened again. It must be nerve racking for men to join a couple in their sex life, maybe he was nervous? Maybe this is how he likes sex ? Maybe he pretended not to be selfish but was? Who knows which but either way you didn't match up. It happens. For me, there is no right and wrong way, you just didn't match each other. It happens." What you said 100pc | |||
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"OP I read the post again and it just confused me, you got to a hotel, clothes off and he got a great BJ first. . I'm so confused, it wouldn't even occur to me not to be licking and fingering your pussy while my pants were still on. Wouldn't even crack my belt open until you had cum at least once. If you don't cum, I don't either. Respect the lady. What if she's not into CMNF? What if she doesn't want to cum on a meet? Sounds disrespectful and quite arrogant. She already stated her position on the matter. Fairly certain if I was in that position if they wanted my clothes off it would come up in conversation, talking first is key. " | |||
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"You guys let him walk out with balls full of spunk, poor guy " No one is a professional at pounding a pussy aka hammer drill or pussy licking as all us biological ladies like different strokes. And as for leaving a guy balls full. That's a lot of bollcks This lady likes to ensure he comes . Bit unfortunately a majority of guys take it home | |||
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"You guys let him walk out with balls full of spunk, poor guy No one is a professional at pounding a pussy aka hammer drill or pussy licking as all us biological ladies like different strokes. And as for leaving a guy balls full. That's a lot of bollocks This lady likes to ensure he comes . But unfortunately a majority of guys take it home " Glad I'm not the only one this has happened to | |||
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"I’ve had it with a (younger) woman before - didn’t seem to want foreplay at all, it was as if she wasn’t expecting it." Them younger woman are independent and strong, so they say | |||
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"For me it is all about ensuring the lady enjoys the attention. After all it is her body, which needs to be teased, lucked, sucked and worshipped before being fucked " Can't think of anything worse. All women are different | |||
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"I’ve had it with a (younger) woman before - didn’t seem to want foreplay at all, it was as if she wasn’t expecting it. Them younger woman are independent and strong, so they say "I hate foreplay and I'm old | |||
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"I’ve had it with a (younger) woman before - didn’t seem to want foreplay at all, it was as if she wasn’t expecting it. Them younger woman are independent and strong, so they say
I hate foreplay and I'm old "All about communication, my default position is to give lots of foreplay and oral, but if you said "don't bother with that nonsense, stick your cock in me and fuck me hard" Message received, what the lady wants the lady gets | |||
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"For me it is all about ensuring the lady enjoys the attention. After all it is her body, which needs to be teased, lucked, sucked and worshipped before being fucked Can't think of anything worse. All women are different " Quite. I'm not a fan of lots of oral on a first meet, or until I know someone well. | |||
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"You ended a meet that wasn't working for you. That is obviously anyone's prerogative. However, why are you here solely blaming the guy, it takes 2 or more to tango. " Exactly
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"Absolutely not on. If someone’s wife is good enough to give you some pretty awesome oral then the very least you can do is return the favour and make sure she is well lubricated to take your love rocket…you both did the exact right thing. Goodbye end of night | |||
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"We had a meet with a single guy just night. Good verifications and very well endowed guy. Session started with wife giving the guy 15 minutes of pretty awesome oral sex. When it comes time to move on the guy just put on a condom and start penetration. He did nothing to warm her up. No oral, no fingers, very little kissing. Wife was not anywhere near ready for penetration and he had a big penis. So ….. she stopped the session, threw him out the hotel room saying bringing a big penis was not enough! She doesn’t take any shit
Was a first for us. Anyone else had this happen?"Yes several times, mostly men having no consideration for the lady at all, or simply very selfish... | |||
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