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" We used to think like this but now we have come to the conclusion that red flags on a low effort profile are very important for a reason - so we can dodge that bullet. There's enough respectful single guys who are genuinely into the swinging scene and culture, who know instinctively how to behave, show respect to both of us, are charming and make great company. We'd rather pick those who get it rather than those Fancy a Fuck types who can now mask what they are about because they managed to implement some hints and types via these types of guides. Just our take though as you say everyone is different. KJ" | |||
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It's always worked for me so lads read the OP advice and follow it  | |||
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"But sometimes in can’t accomadate sometimes is not because he or she is attached it could also mean they don’t want strangers in there house simple" . It could well be but by ignoring the ones that can't accommodate you are ignore a vast majority of the attached but cheating. Job done. | |||
"Many single guys post in this section asking for feedback about their profile, so I thought I'd give some info about what WE look for when we visit the profile of a single guy. This post may offer some guidance for writing your profile. Though be mindful others will have a different view to us. So use your own judgment about how much of this advice you should follow. From top down. *** Your username. We don't pay too much attention to this, but if it suggests you are something which you probably aren't, then you're already off to a bad start. *** Your location. There's being discreet, then there's being downright vague. We don't want to meet someone on our doorstep. Likewise we don't want a 2 hour drive to meet you. Locations such as "UK", "Can Travel", "Near you" are not helpful. Oh and "Ask" is a strange one. Firstly, if you're willing to tell people in a message, why not be a little more precise in your profile? Secondly, it's unlikely we will ask. We'll just move on to another profile instead. *** Pictures. Advice on these is always being given in the forums. As a minimum, we would prefer you to have, one dressed smart, one dressed casual, plus one in boxers. To publish a dick pic or not is a difficult one. People seem very split on this. For us, if you're going to have them, make the number of them proportionate to your other pictures, and make them classy. In relation to class, any of the following in your pics results in us skipping your profile - toilet (whether used or not), unclean underwear, used condoms, cigarettes, ashtrays, beer, clutter, piles of unfolded clothes, piles of washing up, and in most cases, pets. We're sure you get the idea, but a picture of you sitting in your armchair having just glooped over yourself, and your pet mongrel in the background, staring at you in bewilderment, is not attractive. In addition, you should be careful your pictures don't accidentally contain your children (this is usually a photo in the background rather than the child themselves). *** Verifications. If you choose to show your verifications, we'll probably read any you have from couples. This is for us to gauge whether we're actually what YOU are looking for. Otherwise we'll judge it from your profile. However, your verification summary is important to us, if this isn't showing, we'll wonder what you're hiding. *** Looking for. If you don't have couples listed, then we'll wonder why you're messaging us. A sudden urge caused by evening horn? *** Meeting. If you cannot accommodate, in most cases we'll assume you're attached. *** Bio Details (age, body size, etc). Be truthful! If you're age is incorrect, we'll wonder what else you're being untruthful about. If you've listed yourself as 'Athletic', but don't have the pictures to prove it, we'll pass you by. *** Interests. We pay very little attention to these. They're too ambiguous. What does an interest in 'Oral', 'Spanking' or 'Rimming' mean? You like giving it, receiving it or both? To who, from who? *** Profile Text. Nobody knows what to write in this section, you don't need to write that in your profile text though. Also, it's unlikely we'll message you if you're profile suggests we ask for more details. Here's where you could expand on the interests section. If you have an interest ticked, explain a little more about it. Finally, the Sydney University and other warnings often found at the end of a profile, are usually complete tosh! *** As written above, this is what WE look for. Others on here are likely to be very different. I'm sure some may even comment on this post, detailing where they are different.. This forum post is a simple guide, to help some single guys uprate their profile. It' is not a catch-all which needs to be adhered to, because it's highlighted several times, others will have different views. Though, hopefully, some of you may find it useful. One final note. Consider this. If I (Sean) was to invite another guy to join us, I will be giving you access to one of the most precious aspects of my life (Sally, in case you didn't realise). Therefore I need to feel I can trust you, without any issues further along the line. Your profile needs to reflect that. Good luck! " like this | |||
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"Great Post. I would also add regarding photos. ..having them reasonably recent, not dated 6 years ago is preferable. Regarding the cannot accommodate...this could be that they house share, have children, nosey neighbours or a number of reasons, in addition to the possibility of being attached. But it is something I tend to ask about. Some gents explain the reason in their profile which can be helpful." The “nosey neighbours” point does remind me of a couple I met once, at their home, and when I got there they asked if we could go out in my car to play as the walls are paper thin and the neighbours hear everything….. | |||
"Cracking posy OP I did one for clubs for single guys "I've just read your post. It's useful guide. | |||
"Many single guys post in this section asking for feedback about their profile, so I thought I'd give some info about what WE look for when we visit the profile of a single guy. This post may offer some guidance for writing your profile. Though be mindful others will have a different view to us. So use your own judgment about how much of this advice you should follow. From top down. *** Your username. We don't pay too much attention to this, but if it suggests you are something which you probably aren't, then you're already off to a bad start. *** Your location. There's being discreet, then there's being downright vague. We don't want to meet someone on our doorstep. Likewise we don't want a 2 hour drive to meet you. Locations such as "UK", "Can Travel", "Near you" are not helpful. Oh and "Ask" is a strange one. Firstly, if you're willing to tell people in a message, why not be a little more precise in your profile? Secondly, it's unlikely we will ask. We'll just move on to another profile instead. *** Pictures. Advice on these is always being given in the forums. As a minimum, we would prefer you to have, one dressed smart, one dressed casual, plus one in boxers. To publish a dick pic or not is a difficult one. People seem very split on this. For us, if you're going to have them, make the number of them proportionate to your other pictures, and make them classy. In relation to class, any of the following in your pics results in us skipping your profile - toilet (whether used or not), unclean underwear, used condoms, cigarettes, ashtrays, beer, clutter, piles of unfolded clothes, piles of washing up, and in most cases, pets. We're sure you get the idea, but a picture of you sitting in your armchair having just glooped over yourself, and your pet mongrel in the background, staring at you in bewilderment, is not attractive. In addition, you should be careful your pictures don't accidentally contain your children (this is usually a photo in the background rather than the child themselves). *** Verifications. If you choose to show your verifications, we'll probably read any you have from couples. This is for us to gauge whether we're actually what YOU are looking for. Otherwise we'll judge it from your profile. However, your verification summary is important to us, if this isn't showing, we'll wonder what you're hiding. *** Looking for. If you don't have couples listed, then we'll wonder why you're messaging us. A sudden urge caused by evening horn? *** Meeting. If you cannot accommodate, in most cases we'll assume you're attached. *** Bio Details (age, body size, etc). Be truthful! If you're age is incorrect, we'll wonder what else you're being untruthful about. If you've listed yourself as 'Athletic', but don't have the pictures to prove it, we'll pass you by. *** Interests. We pay very little attention to these. They're too ambiguous. What does an interest in 'Oral', 'Spanking' or 'Rimming' mean? You like giving it, receiving it or both? To who, from who? *** Profile Text. Nobody knows what to write in this section, you don't need to write that in your profile text though. Also, it's unlikely we'll message you if you're profile suggests we ask for more details. Here's where you could expand on the interests section. If you have an interest ticked, explain a little more about it. Finally, the Sydney University and other warnings often found at the end of a profile, are usually complete tosh! *** As written above, this is what WE look for. Others on here are likely to be very different. I'm sure some may even comment on this post, detailing where they are different.. This forum post is a simple guide, to help some single guys uprate their profile. It' is not a catch-all which needs to be adhered to, because it's highlighted several times, others will have different views. Though, hopefully, some of you may find it useful. One final note. Consider this. If I (Sean) was to invite another guy to join us, I will be giving you access to one of the most precious aspects of my life (Sally, in case you didn't realise). Therefore I need to feel I can trust you, without any issues further along the line. Your profile needs to reflect that. Good luck! "Great advice especially ref the photos and I still think guys will struggle not to post them next to a can of lynx Africa or violating a cucumber ! Thanks again as a detailed post that certainly took a lot of your time up Have fun | |||
"Many single guys post in this section asking for feedback about their profile, so I thought I'd give some info about what WE look for when we visit the profile of a single guy. This post may offer some guidance for writing your profile. Though be mindful others will have a different view to us. So use your own judgment about how much of this advice you should follow. From top down. *** Your username. We don't pay too much attention to this, but if it suggests you are something which you probably aren't, then you're already off to a bad start. *** Your location. There's being discreet, then there's being downright vague. We don't want to meet someone on our doorstep. Likewise we don't want a 2 hour drive to meet you. Locations such as "UK", "Can Travel", "Near you" are not helpful. Oh and "Ask" is a strange one. Firstly, if you're willing to tell people in a message, why not be a little more precise in your profile? Secondly, it's unlikely we will ask. We'll just move on to another profile instead. *** Pictures. Advice on these is always being given in the forums. As a minimum, we would prefer you to have, one dressed smart, one dressed casual, plus one in boxers. To publish a dick pic or not is a difficult one. People seem very split on this. For us, if you're going to have them, make the number of them proportionate to your other pictures, and make them classy. In relation to class, any of the following in your pics results in us skipping your profile - toilet (whether used or not), unclean underwear, used condoms, cigarettes, ashtrays, beer, clutter, piles of unfolded clothes, piles of washing up, and in most cases, pets. We're sure you get the idea, but a picture of you sitting in your armchair having just glooped over yourself, and your pet mongrel in the background, staring at you in bewilderment, is not attractive. In addition, you should be careful your pictures don't accidentally contain your children (this is usually a photo in the background rather than the child themselves). *** Verifications. If you choose to show your verifications, we'll probably read any you have from couples. This is for us to gauge whether we're actually what YOU are looking for. Otherwise we'll judge it from your profile. However, your verification summary is important to us, if this isn't showing, we'll wonder what you're hiding. *** Looking for. If you don't have couples listed, then we'll wonder why you're messaging us. A sudden urge caused by evening horn? *** Meeting. If you cannot accommodate, in most cases we'll assume you're attached. *** Bio Details (age, body size, etc). Be truthful! If you're age is incorrect, we'll wonder what else you're being untruthful about. If you've listed yourself as 'Athletic', but don't have the pictures to prove it, we'll pass you by. *** Interests. We pay very little attention to these. They're too ambiguous. What does an interest in 'Oral', 'Spanking' or 'Rimming' mean? You like giving it, receiving it or both? To who, from who? *** Profile Text. Nobody knows what to write in this section, you don't need to write that in your profile text though. Also, it's unlikely we'll message you if you're profile suggests we ask for more details. Here's where you could expand on the interests section. If you have an interest ticked, explain a little more about it. Finally, the Sydney University and other warnings often found at the end of a profile, are usually complete tosh! *** As written above, this is what WE look for. Others on here are likely to be very different. I'm sure some may even comment on this post, detailing where they are different.. This forum post is a simple guide, to help some single guys uprate their profile. It' is not a catch-all which needs to be adhered to, because it's highlighted several times, others will have different views. Though, hopefully, some of you may find it useful. One final note. Consider this. If I (Sean) was to invite another guy to join us, I will be giving you access to one of the most precious aspects of my life (Sally, in case you didn't realise). Therefore I need to feel I can trust you, without any issues further along the line. Your profile needs to reflect that. Good luck! "Excellent advice. Would someone mind taking a look at my profile please,it would very much appreciated For any advice you can give. Thank you. | |||
"Would someone mind taking a look at my profile please,it would very much appreciated " Much better to start your own thread. But no profile pic and no public pics means you'd be an instant delete from us. (Bry) | |||
"Would someone mind taking a look at my profile please,it would very much appreciated Much better to start your own thread. But no profile pic and no public pics means you'd be an instant delete from us. (Bry)" | |||
"Would someone mind taking a look at my profile please,it would very much appreciated Much better to start your own thread. But no profile pic and no public pics means you'd be an instant delete from us. (Bry)" The only reason I don't have a photo on display is simply because of my job. I'm a civil servant I have stated that I would be willing to show after chatting for a little while David | |||
"The only reason I don't have a photo on display is simply because of my job. I'm a civil servant I have stated that I would be willing to show after chatting for a little while " There's so many ways to take a photo that can't identify you, but can at least show your build/style. Brutally honest, we don't have the time to chat to people that we don't know we're physically attracted to in the first place. (Bry) | |||
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"Yup.. Agree with most of what most of the couples here say...Though there are times when standards are lowered due to impromptu late night horniness.. But hey...fickle is as fickle does.." Yup! Agreed, again that's your choice and those entitled bemoaning post's "can't get meets", "advice on my profile (for attention we feel mostly)" and "everyone should run their profile as I decree" are just amusing now!! | |||
" The only reason I don't have a photo on display is simply because of my job. I'm a civil servant I have stated that I would be willing to show after chatting for a little while David " | |||
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"Would someone mind taking a look at my profile please,it would very much appreciated Much better to start your own thread. But no profile pic and no public pics means you'd be an instant delete from us. (Bry) The only reason I don't have a photo on display is simply because of my job. I'm a civil servant I have stated that I would be willing to show after chatting for a little while David " Yeah, we all have jobs. Most of us still manage to take some photos though  | |||
I've done a sort of profile I know it's not great but if I get messages I'm happy to answer and show my normal yes normal face pics, I'm afraid my sunbathing pic is as brave as I get on them type of pics ha, but seriously great post op for us single guys cheers | |||
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"Would someone mind taking a look at my profile please,it would very much appreciated Much better to start your own thread. But no profile pic and no public pics means you'd be an instant delete from us. (Bry) The only reason I don't have a photo on display is simply because of my job. I'm a civil servant I have stated that I would be willing to show after chatting for a little while David " I'd probably lose my job if my profile was identified, you're not the only one. There are plenty of ways you can post pics without identifying yourself. Nobody is going to spend time chatting to someone they haven't seen a picture of. | |||
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"Would someone mind taking a look at my profile please,it would very much appreciated Much better to start your own thread. But no profile pic and no public pics means you'd be an instant delete from us. (Bry)" Same for me too. You can add pics that are not identifying ,ie a clothed body with head cut off or bum/torso Not many would recognise you from that . | |||
"Would someone mind taking a look at my profile please,it would very much appreciated Much better to start your own thread. But no profile pic and no public pics means you'd be an instant delete from us. (Bry) The only reason I don't have a photo on display is simply because of my job. I'm a civil servant I have stated that I would be willing to show after chatting for a little while David I'd probably lose my job if my profile was identified, you're not the only one. There are plenty of ways you can post pics without identifying yourself. Nobody is going to spend time chatting to someone they haven't seen a picture of. " Exactly only to find theres then no attraction when you do finally get a pic . | |||
"Would someone mind taking a look at my profile please,it would very much appreciated Much better to start your own thread. But no profile pic and no public pics means you'd be an instant delete from us. (Bry) The only reason I don't have a photo on display is simply because of my job. I'm a civil servant I have stated that I would be willing to show after chatting for a little while David I'd probably lose my job if my profile was identified, you're not the only one. There are plenty of ways you can post pics without identifying yourself. Nobody is going to spend time chatting to someone they haven't seen a picture of. Exactly only to find theres then no attraction when you do finally get a pic ." Better to get the disappointment out of the way  | |||
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"nope leave them be as for me its a great filter. not only that but why only guys loads of awful womens and couples profiles too" because they are entitled and think they should be telling others how to use the site. who made them king and queen of the site? why should anyone listen to them, your not a child, your an adult and you can do what you like within site rule. this is just another male hate thread from the 'male bashing brigade' | |||
"Would someone mind taking a look at my profile please,it would very much appreciated Much better to start your own thread. But no profile pic and no public pics means you'd be an instant delete from us. (Bry) The only reason I don't have a photo on display is simply because of my job. I'm a civil servant I have stated that I would be willing to show after chatting for a little while David " Pardon me but my bs meter went off there. Absolutely no reason not to show body pics without face. If looking at profiles to choose someone and no pics, no matter how well written the blurb is, the old song comes to mind 'walk on by' | |||
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"Advice for men from a man Don't worry about it. Nothing here is that important. It's just sex" With that attitude, I find a massive turn off. | |||
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"Thank you for this advice is great to read what people want to see in a profile x"  | |||
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"Good advice I've made some changes to mine but any other advice would be greatly appreciated " Your latest update 'accommodate for drinks and fucking'. That tag line alone wouldn't appeal to us. Better pics that don't look as if you're practising for 'riverdance". Re pics, from what I've read from other posts on here, a smart suit, fresh haircut, better poses etc go a long way to making an impression, which let's face it, is your shop window. Think of Harrods window display and Ronnie barkers 'Arkwrights' display. It's a bit of tongue in cheek comment but you get my drift. | |||
"Many single guys post in this section asking for feedback about their profile, so I thought I'd give some info about what WE look for when we visit the profile of a single guy. This post may offer some guidance for writing your profile. Though be mindful others will have a different view to us. So use your own judgment about how much of this advice you should follow. From top down. *** Your username. We don't pay too much attention to this, but if it suggests you are something which you probably aren't, then you're already off to a bad start. *** Your location. There's being discreet, then there's being downright vague. We don't want to meet someone on our doorstep. Likewise we don't want a 2 hour drive to meet you. Locations such as "UK", "Can Travel", "Near you" are not helpful. Oh and "Ask" is a strange one. Firstly, if you're willing to tell people in a message, why not be a little more precise in your profile? Secondly, it's unlikely we will ask. We'll just move on to another profile instead. *** Pictures. Advice on these is always being given in the forums. As a minimum, we would prefer you to have, one dressed smart, one dressed casual, plus one in boxers. To publish a dick pic or not is a difficult one. People seem very split on this. For us, if you're going to have them, make the number of them proportionate to your other pictures, and make them classy. In relation to class, any of the following in your pics results in us skipping your profile - toilet (whether used or not), unclean underwear, used condoms, cigarettes, ashtrays, beer, clutter, piles of unfolded clothes, piles of washing up, and in most cases, pets. We're sure you get the idea, but a picture of you sitting in your armchair having just glooped over yourself, and your pet mongrel in the background, staring at you in bewilderment, is not attractive. In addition, you should be careful your pictures don't accidentally contain your children (this is usually a photo in the background rather than the child themselves). *** Verifications. If you choose to show your verifications, we'll probably read any you have from couples. This is for us to gauge whether we're actually what YOU are looking for. Otherwise we'll judge it from your profile. However, your verification summary is important to us, if this isn't showing, we'll wonder what you're hiding. *** Looking for. If you don't have couples listed, then we'll wonder why you're messaging us. A sudden urge caused by evening horn? *** Meeting. If you cannot accommodate, in most cases we'll assume you're attached. *** Bio Details (age, body size, etc). Be truthful! If you're age is incorrect, we'll wonder what else you're being untruthful about. If you've listed yourself as 'Athletic', but don't have the pictures to prove it, we'll pass you by. *** Interests. We pay very little attention to these. They're too ambiguous. What does an interest in 'Oral', 'Spanking' or 'Rimming' mean? You like giving it, receiving it or both? To who, from who? *** Profile Text. Nobody knows what to write in this section, you don't need to write that in your profile text though. Also, it's unlikely we'll message you if you're profile suggests we ask for more details. Here's where you could expand on the interests section. If you have an interest ticked, explain a little more about it. Finally, the Sydney University and other warnings often found at the end of a profile, are usually complete tosh! *** As written above, this is what WE look for. Others on here are likely to be very different. I'm sure some may even comment on this post, detailing where they are different.. This forum post is a simple guide, to help some single guys uprate their profile. It' is not a catch-all which needs to be adhered to, because it's highlighted several times, others will have different views. Though, hopefully, some of you may find it useful. One final note. Consider this. If I (Sean) was to invite another guy to join us, I will be giving you access to one of the most precious aspects of my life (Sally, in case you didn't realise). Therefore I need to feel I can trust you, without any issues further along the line. Your profile needs to reflect that. Good luck! "All the above completely irrelevent !! Most guys who have a lack of success think. A. not trying hard enough B. need to change profile Realty Most people here are n t all that Fab or Swingers, A.Just a lot of Exihbitionists with BS profiles exposing their private bits looking for an ego boost , B.guys posting pics of their wives ... C.fake profiles . D. most single women don t come here looking for a shag. why do guys think all it takes for a selfie of their most intimate part of their anatomy .. E. There is a hierarchy when it comes to swinging where couples are at the top single women next, then guys at the bottom .... Pointless for men to message at all , Best advice though is .. go to your local swingers club or social event , or better still go on a datng App... more chance of actually talkng to a woman .. No Offence people ... have a great week. | |||
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"I’m completely new to this , I have a lot of views on my profile but don’t get a lot of messages , is there a reason for this and what other things can I put o my profile . Thank you in advance " With 4 verifications over 5 weeks, it seems you're doing fine buddy. Maybe just consider Fab as a way of maintaining contact with those you've met at clubs. | |||
