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Just off the back of a post in another thread which has me pondering.
What is swinging ? Like what does it mean to you ?
Does one have to do something specific to obtain true swinger status, or is it a spectrum of different tastes coming together in a pot(or bowl) of swingers ? |
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To me, swinging is a lot more about couple based and group dynamics.
Not to say singles meeting singles are doing it wrong or anything, but that's what tinder and the like are for to me. People can do whatever they like between consenting adults and call it whatever without it causing any issue to me.
Group parties, clubs, seeing your partner get off, that's more like my perception of swinging. |
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I describe it as being a buffet of sexual activity.
On the table are casual 1-1 meets, threesomes, foursomes, groups, orgies, dogging, clubs, cuckold, BDSM, etc etc….
You pick the bits you enjoy. Just because you do one, doesn’t mean you should try another. It’s all consensual and non-judgemental.
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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To me, it means consensual sexual freedom. I think that most people would define it as group fun & as I haven't been involved in many situations involving more than me & one other, I haven't had much 'swinging' experience but would still consider myself a swinger. |
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For us it's a total lifestyle...being relaxed, a feeling of freedom, hedonism and just living life in the pursuit of pleasure and this just happens to involve lots of consensual, non monogamous sex. |
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Personally I think the true use of the word is fairly specific to couples.
It's the act of bringing in others to your bedroom as a couple.
But that's just my definition, and doesn't mean that single people don't obviously have a huge place in the lifestyle |
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over a year ago
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Swinging for me is everyone Being open and honest with others regarding what they want in the sexual relationships and also enjoy making good friends as well as just a fuck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like the more modern title of "ethical non-monogamy"...
For me, sex with only one person never really sat right and although I was never unfaithful I didn't really understand why I felt like that. Then I met Mr, we randomly had a conversation about gang bangs one night and it opened up a whole can of worms that this swinging thing was something we both wanted to do, we just hadn't met the right person to share the experience with.
So I feel its sharing sexual experiences with like minded people for mutual pleasure. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk 
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[Agree with this xx]
To me, swinging is a lot more about couple based and group dynamics.
Not to say singles meeting singles are doing it wrong or anything, but that's what tinder and the like are for to me. People can do whatever they like between consenting adults and call it whatever without it causing any issue to me.
Group parties, clubs, seeing your partner get off, that's more like my perception of swinging.
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"We purely play as mmf so wife insists we’re not swingers. "
Really? Your profile says you’re only looking for couples - not single guys… 
In any event - I’d say arranging MMF meets was still a type of swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We purely play as mmf so wife insists we’re not swingers.
Really? Your profile says you’re only looking for couples - not single guys…
In any event - I’d say arranging MMF meets was still a type of swinging. "
We have a regular local guy for the MMF side, if we were to meet couples it would only be for same room no swapping fun.
But I agree, I think that MMF is still swinging! |
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"We purely play as mmf so wife insists we’re not swingers.
Really? Your profile says you’re only looking for couples - not single guys…
In any event - I’d say arranging MMF meets was still a type of swinging.
We have a regular local guy for the MMF side, if we were to meet couples it would only be for same room no swapping fun.
But I agree, I think that MMF is still swinging!"
Ah - OK. That makes sense!
And lucky him….!  |
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"Just off the back of a post in another thread which has me pondering.
What is swinging ? Like what does it mean to you ?
Does one have to do something specific to obtain true swinger status, or is it a spectrum of different tastes coming together in a pot(or bowl) of swingers ? "
OP, do you mean the crystal fruit bowl (with bunches of keys in)? or is that too passe
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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago
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The honest answer is that the scene has changed over the past 20 years mainly due to the Internet. There was a time when it was predominantly couples based with a few singles whereas now the singles, mainly men, out number couples by a massive amount. As far as ethos goes to us it's about having a liberated come hedonistic attitude towards sex and other activities. That being said choice comes first and foremost. |
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To us it's being part of a community of like minded people, socialising is very much first on our list, making new friends that we may or may not end up playing with. Without the social aspect to us it's random promiscuity, but appreciate it's other things to other people. |
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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago
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"To us it's being part of a community of like minded people, socialising is very much first on our list, making new friends that we may or may not end up playing with. Without the social aspect to us it's random promiscuity, but appreciate it's other things to other people. "
Completely agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ethical or consented non-monogamy essentially but interesting that there is little mention and a shift away from the conventional social side of the scene
It's not all about getting one's leg over all the time there is a community of us swingers that all have a common interest sometimes it's just as nice to network and also have friends you can talk openly to  |
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