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Patient guy, ive been here a while. But im not getting any follow ups. Admittedly im not flooding out messages, i will only send out a very few messages to women that i find attractive or sexy.
Ive been abused for being here a year and not having verifications, but cant get verified if i cant get a meet- its a vicious circle situation.
What on my profile is the issue?
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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Being verified is not the be-all and end-all and makes no difference to some of us.
If you want to get verified either go along to a club or a social or ask someone in the chat rooms if they could verify you.
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"Patient guy, ive been here a while. But im not getting any follow ups. Admittedly im not flooding out messages, i will only send out a very few messages to women that i find attractive or sexy.
Ive been abused for being here a year and not having verifications, but cant get verified if i cant get a meet- its a vicious circle situation.
What on my profile is the issue?
Thank you "
Get rid of the cock photos maybe make friends only and delete the blurry one. The reason mainly is there are too many men on here. I would try going to a club or social event x |
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Get rid of the cock photos maybe make friends only and delete the blurry one. The reason mainly is there are too many men on here. I would try going to a club or social event x"
Cool, thanks for you critique and advice  |
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"Ahh the old vicious circle/catch 22 chestnut.
Guys it is really easy to get a veri. Of course if you don't have one it's a really easy peg to hang your lack of success hat on.
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Im not fussed about veri TBH - its others. In my opinion someone with 26 veri doesn't give off a better opinion than someone having none. |
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Verifications mean a lot to us as Mrs K gets very nervous before a meet and feels being able to read some verifications from others gives her a better feel on what to expect.
You can gain veris at clubs or socials and build from there.
Not everyone wants veris but we do having now had two bad experiences.
Profile looks ok and not too many cock pics which is good in our books. Perhaps work on your messages more x |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Ive been abused for being here a year and not having verifications, but cant get verified if i cant get a meet- its a vicious circle situation."
It's really not - a club or an organised social will get you a veri or two.
We rarely take much notice of what verifications actually say, but it does give a little more confidence that the guy will show up if he's made the effort to get out to a club or social and that he's not just getting off on setting up meets and never leaving the house.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Patient guy, ive been here a while. But im not getting any follow ups. Admittedly im not flooding out messages, i will only send out a very few messages to women that i find attractive or sexy.
Ive been abused for being here a year and not having verifications, but cant get verified if i cant get a meet- its a vicious circle situation.
This right here is great advice!
What on my profile is the issue?
Thank you
Get rid of the cock photos maybe make friends only and delete the blurry one. The reason mainly is there are too many men on here. I would try going to a club or social event x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ahh the old vicious circle/catch 22 chestnut.
Guys it is really easy to get a veri. Of course if you don't have one it's a really easy peg to hang your lack of success hat on.
Im not fussed about veri TBH - its others. In my opinion someone with 26 veri doesn't give off a better opinion than someone having none. "
But they do show that the person actually make an effort to go out and meet... |
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Being perfectly honest that first picture of your penis looks like it’s got a sore on it. It might just be the light or something, but it’s the first thing I noticed.
The blurry pics aren’t ideal either.
Best advice is to get out to an event/club and meet people. Relying solely on Fab will unlikely bear much fruit when you’re new. |
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"Patient guy, ive been here a while. But im not getting any follow ups. Admittedly im not flooding out messages, i will only send out a very few messages to women that i find attractive or sexy.
Ive been abused for being here a year and not having verifications, but cant get verified if i cant get a meet- its a vicious circle situation.
What on my profile is the issue?
Thank you "
I actually really like your profile, it's well written, insightful and interesting and your photos are pretty good. No idea why you're not getting any luck. Maybe message a few more ladies who fit your criteria. |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
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"Being perfectly honest that first picture of your penis looks like it’s got a sore on it. It might just be the light or something, but it’s the first thing I noticed.
The blurry pics aren’t ideal either.
Best advice is to get out to an event/club and meet people. Relying solely on Fab will unlikely bear much fruit when you’re new. "
,, sore on his penis not good,, |
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There is no problem except men come on here with the expectation it is going to be a shag fest and then quickly find out it's the complete opposite. You need to understand that there are probably 100 men for every woman on here looking or open to meeting men and as such they have a wider choice from which to choose a potential liaison.
On top of that it would appear from reading the forums that the biggest complaint from women on this site is that women get a lot of nasty and angry messages from men when they get no response to a message, a turn down to their approach or men send messages being just angry and rude. No wonder women don't want to meet the men on here.
The best advice is don't take it too seriously and don't take it personally. Probably nothing wrong with you or your profile. Women have 100s of messages to reply to and possibly just delete a lot to clear the inbox.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A few comments on your first picture and how it would concern them …. Yet it’s still there
Think that answers your question "
It's the 1st thing I notice when I looked at the profile before reading this thread.
Really hope the OP takes on board the comments in the right way and gets it check out out the clinic.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So many messages we receive are exactly the same , absolutely no structure and nothing that catches us
Then the ones that do can start off well and become demanding,
The ones that we build a rapport with are told at the beginning and it’s in our profile it’s bi fem or couples with bi fem we are looking for
These types with the rapport are friendly and engaging, we absolutely have no problems messaging with them because they know the deal
A face pic from a verified account is a preference but we have had great chats with some without
Also we would say a very high percentage are like us in preference
And a man on here has to have way more then a huge cock , for the Mrs is more then happy with Mr 8”
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Agree, get rid of the cock pics, we can assume you have one and to most women size /shape is not important regardless of what men believe.
When we are looking we look for nice face pics, nice smile and someone that looks like a nice guy. Anyone showing cock pics, gym pics or photos fucking others or wanking/cumming simply shout conceited and quite possibly overbearing. We scroll on by and would never meet.
We also echo the comments around clubs, on a busy night you can be in front of 100+ couples all looking for fun. On here you are competing with so many others. Only last night did we post a status inviting someone to our house and had around 70 responses in an hour….not great odds. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Agree, get rid of the cock pics, we can assume you have one and to most women size /shape is not important regardless of what men believe.
When we are looking we look for nice face pics, nice smile and someone that looks like a nice guy. Anyone showing cock pics, gym pics or photos fucking others or wanking/cumming simply shout conceited and quite possibly overbearing. We scroll on by and would never meet.
We also echo the comments around clubs, on a busy night you can be in front of 100+ couples all looking for fun. On here you are competing with so many others. Only last night did we post a status inviting someone to our house and had around 70 responses in an hour….not great odds."
I’m the Mrs…. I suscribe every single word of what you said, if the message/profile looks respectful and catchy has more chances to get our attention, otherwise it’s just like “oh, ANOTHER ONE…” and scroll/delete/ block, depending on the level of harassment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say that the problem is your expectations.
By posting this thread you are demonstrating something of an entitled attitude as you seem to be of the impression that simply by being on fab you should be getting some action.
As has been pointed out in this thread and the dozens of others on the subject, single men massively outnumber women and couples.
You could have the best profile on the planet, have the most comprehensive range of photos and still not get anywhere becuase it all comes down to whether those who appeal to you find you attractive or not.
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"The Dick picks there zone need put them in friends only.
Have you tried looking at the meets close to you and messaging them?
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We like to see the odd* dick pic on a profile. In fact we are unlikely to meet without seeing one and we don't ask. If there isn't one pubicc or with the message we'll just move on.
Odd as is one or so, not odd as in strange  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"4 votes for dick pica consecutively, I hope you single guys are taking notice. "
Make that 5, 1 or 2 is fine we think. It's the profiles with 100's of dick pictures from different angles that put us off. |
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Maybe your messages are poor and impersonal rather than the problem being your profile. If no one that you're interested in gets as far as your profile then it's useless.
I have a 'preferred' age range of up to 50, but allow people to contact me who are older because it's not a limit, it's something I want people to be aware of.
Likewise I ask that people who contact me have read my profile.
Inevitably 95% of messages haven't read my profile, or are over 50, so they get ignored because...
...Well we have already established disrespect, distrust and time wasting, even though 50% of those profiles probably claim to have those attributes.
So from that remaining 5%, have they written something appealing to me?
Maybe contact some women whose profiles interest you beyond how super nngghh hot their photos are.
Also. You have 3 out of focus close up photos. What is the point of those?
I do appreciate the face pictures, although it's not a personal requirement for me to see them on a public profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile isn’t great, but it isn’t terrible either. A few elements are a bit ‘scatter approach.’ We are generally put off by ‘want to try new things/broaden horizons/ask me anything’ comments - we’re not on here to be people’s science experiments. We would recommend keeping your pictures up to date.
We would reply, assuming your message was polite and engaging, but the first thing we’d do is ask for an up to date pic |
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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago
shropshire |
"Patient guy, ive been here a while. But im not getting any follow ups. Admittedly im not flooding out messages, i will only send out a very few messages to women that i find attractive or sexy.
Ive been abused for being here a year and not having verifications, but cant get verified if i cant get a meet- its a vicious circle situation.
What on my profile is the issue?
Thank you "
Try a club |
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"Glad I'm not the only one having similar issues. I know I must be doing something wrong just cannot work out what it is."
I think guys expectations are way above reality. Just because couples are active on the site doesn’t mean they play all day everyday. We might only play with others once a month which means the odds are never in your favour.
We get random messages at 6am with just a few words like “ the Mrs playing now ? Suck my cock before work?”……… what planet are these people on ? Do they think couples on here don’t have normal day to day lives ? Jesus I don’t even get a BJ before work most days so as to a stranger that strings together such lovely offers, I have to say it’s never going to happen.
I think guys need to accept reality, you are one of many , many others all working to meet the same couples that probably aren’t looking for fun all the time. Best advice without a doubt is get to a club. You will meet couples looking for fun at the exact time you are there! You can go from there, build up a network of friends. The occasional times we play at home we invite people we have met before. |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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Your profile comes over as being all about you and what you want. What can you offer?
Also you’re looking for a mature submissive. Most mature subs will be looking for an experienced Dom.
I strongly recommend that you get a cam verification and go to a local social.
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