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Hi all,
Not sure whether this is the right category to be posting under but I'm looking for some general opinions/advice.
Recently, I've been considering getting a vasectomy. I have looked into the procedure and read lots of feedback on various websites and it seems that the procedure is straightforward with little complications.
However, I'm a single guy who is only 30. I have no children but have and am as certain as I can be that I won't want any in the future! I'd never want to have them just to satisfy a partner and so it seems sensible to eliminate risk from sex. I'd still wear a condom during sex (obviously, for safety reasons) but would have less risk of any mistakes etc.
Do you think this is a bad idea? Am I too young? Should I not get it done so early on even if I am satisfied that I don't want children of my own? If so yes or no then why?
As a precaution, I'm considering having some sperm frozen. The annual cost isn't too bad and I'd keep them until about the age of 40. As a backup just in case as there is then the option of IVF if I really did think I'd made a mistake.
Thanks in advance and I'd appreciate only sensible/helpful replies.
G |
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"Hi all,
Not sure whether this is the right category to be posting under but I'm looking for some general opinions/advice.
Recently, I've been considering getting a vasectomy. I have looked into the procedure and read lots of feedback on various websites and it seems that the procedure is straightforward with little complications.
However, I'm a single guy who is only 30. I have no children but have and am as certain as I can be that I won't want any in the future! I'd never want to have them just to satisfy a partner and so it seems sensible to eliminate risk from sex. I'd still wear a condom during sex (obviously, for safety reasons) but would have less risk of any mistakes etc.
Do you think this is a bad idea? Am I too young? Should I not get it done so early on even if I am satisfied that I don't want children of my own? If so yes or no then why?
As a precaution, I'm considering having some sperm frozen. The annual cost isn't too bad and I'd keep them until about the age of 40. As a backup just in case as there is then the option of IVF if I really did think I'd made a mistake.
Thanks in advance and I'd appreciate only sensible/helpful replies.
G"
I had it done at 36 having had a son, though at 42 I’ve met ‘the one’ and regret it. You just don’t know what’s round the corner |
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However, I'm a single guy who is only 30. I have no children but have and am as certain as I can be that I won't want any in the future!
Do you think this is a bad idea? Am I too young? Should I not get it done so early on even if I am satisfied that I don't want children of my own? If so yes or no then why?
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You've thought this through and seem pretty adamant it is what you want, go for it.
I had the snip at 29, no children and no plans to have any. I was expecting to "argue" with the doctor but I didn't have to, they accepted my decision and I had it done and healed within 6 months.
Freezing some of your chaps is a good idea if you feel you may change your mind. Personally, I didn't do that as if we were to ever change our minds we'd adopt or foster.
Good luck with it! |
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"Whats the main drive behind your decision ?"
Sorry, I forgot to quote your message to make obvious what I was replying to!
A lack of want to have children, how easy and relatively risk free the procedure is and the benefits which would come with having had it done i.e. extremely minimal risk of an unwanted mistake. |
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You've thought this through and seem pretty adamant it is what you want, go for it.
I had the snip at 29, no children and no plans to have any. I was expecting to "argue" with the doctor but I didn't have to, they accepted my decision and I had it done and healed within 6 months.
Freezing some of your chaps is a good idea if you feel you may change your mind. Personally, I didn't do that as if we were to ever change our minds we'd adopt or foster.
Good luck with it!"
This is a really helpful answer. Thank you. Interesting to hear from someone who did the same at a similar age and presumably doesn't regret.
Can I ask please, what were your reasons for doing it at the time at 29?
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Don’t do it! There’s no health reason to do it, you just don’t ‘want’ kids. But that’s now, you may change your mind, it’s unlikely you will but why get the snip, plenty methods of contraception for both casual sex and in a relationship. |
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You've thought this through and seem pretty adamant it is what you want, go for it.
I had the snip at 29, no children and no plans to have any. I was expecting to "argue" with the doctor but I didn't have to, they accepted my decision and I had it done and healed within 6 months.
Freezing some of your chaps is a good idea if you feel you may change your mind. Personally, I didn't do that as if we were to ever change our minds we'd adopt or foster.
Good luck with it!
This is a really helpful answer. Thank you. Interesting to hear from someone who did the same at a similar age and presumably doesn't regret.
Can I ask please, what were your reasons for doing it at the time at 29?
Cheers"
Definitely do not regret it.
There are many, some a little controversial, but the top few are:
Both of us do not want children - as said, would adopt or foster.
Other half (and most woman) are always the ones on birth control and I've found it's a bit unfair as they tend to take the "responsibility".
We have plenty of nieces and nephews between us. |
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"Hi all,
Not sure whether this is the right category to be posting under but I'm looking for some general opinions/advice.
Recently, I've been considering getting a vasectomy. I have looked into the procedure and read lots of feedback on various websites and it seems that the procedure is straightforward with little complications.
However, I'm a single guy who is only 30. I have no children but have and am as certain as I can be that I won't want any in the future! I'd never want to have them just to satisfy a partner and so it seems sensible to eliminate risk from sex. I'd still wear a condom during sex (obviously, for safety reasons) but would have less risk of any mistakes etc.
Do you think this is a bad idea? Am I too young? Should I not get it done so early on even if I am satisfied that I don't want children of my own? If so yes or no then why?
As a precaution, I'm considering having some sperm frozen. The annual cost isn't too bad and I'd keep them until about the age of 40. As a backup just in case as there is then the option of IVF if I really did think I'd made a mistake.
Thanks in advance and I'd appreciate only sensible/helpful replies.
G"
I had mine at 40 3 kids and Dr still didn't want to without repeated confirmation even up to lying on the table ready for the op.
I definitely didn't want anymore at 40, but now a 60 I would like to start anew.
So you never know.
Freezing could be a good option, but if you're already using condoms for health and there is a high probability that your partner's will be on the pill then why do it?
Even if you have an accident there is always the morning after pill.
As with any procedure there are risks.
If you where in a relationship and both agreed that you don't want kids or there may be a health reason not to have kids then definitely would do.
But as your single and very young Personally I would say leave it. |
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I had my tubes tied in my 20s (no kids). Mid 40s now and no regrets.
The fact you want to freeze your sperm gives me pause - you have to be sure and maybe you’re not entirely?
That said, being free of contraception and worry is great. I’ve never wanted kids or even wavered. If I met a guy who wanted kids with me he wouldn’t be “my person” if you see what I mean. |
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Had mine snipped at 40 after 4 kids ....
The two Main reasons.... Really didn't want anymore as it would of meant bigger house car etc and finances wouldn't support it, also it negates the requirement of your partner needing to take long term contraception which has to be a good thing ....
Definitly no regrets |
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Thank you all so far for your comments.
Just to address the freezing point. To me, that is nothing more than like buying house insurance. You are almost certain that your house won't burn down but you get insurance just in case. That's all. If it's quite easy to do, not so expensive that I can't afford it then it seems sensible. |
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I had one done in my early 30s but I'd had two kids with my then wife. I decided to for a number of reasons, but mostly because I know that under no circumstances at all did I want 3 children.
I then got divorced, and was very pleased I had, given my certainty of not wanting more children, it made dating and discussing such things with new partners a non-issue, since it simply wasn't a possibility.
Personally, unless you've been married and had a long term relationship and decided you don't want kids, when life is perfect, I don't think you can know how you'll feel if you meet the right person.
I'd hold off for another 5+ years. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"Hi all,
Not sure whether this is the right category to be posting under but I'm looking for some general opinions/advice.
Recently, I've been considering getting a vasectomy. I have looked into the procedure and read lots of feedback on various websites and it seems that the procedure is straightforward with little complications.
However, I'm a single guy who is only 30. I have no children but have and am as certain as I can be that I won't want any in the future! I'd never want to have them just to satisfy a partner and so it seems sensible to eliminate risk from sex. I'd still wear a condom during sex (obviously, for safety reasons) but would have less risk of any mistakes etc.
Do you think this is a bad idea? Am I too young? Should I not get it done so early on even if I am satisfied that I don't want children of my own? If so yes or no then why?
As a precaution, I'm considering having some sperm frozen. The annual cost isn't too bad and I'd keep them until about the age of 40. As a backup just in case as there is then the option of IVF if I really did think I'd made a mistake.
Thanks in advance and I'd appreciate only sensible/helpful replies.
G"
After three incidents where a woman who I asked was taking contraception lied to me. And 5 year ago happend again. So at 55 I had it done and I really wish I had done.it in my 30s and saved myself a lot of a anxiety.
I have a view that with 8b people their are enough in the world as it is and I have no intention of infesting the planet with more. |
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"Hi all,
Not sure whether this is the right category to be posting under but I'm looking for some general opinions/advice.
Recently, I've been considering getting a vasectomy. I have looked into the procedure and read lots of feedback on various websites and it seems that the procedure is straightforward with little complications.
However, I'm a single guy who is only 30. I have no children but have and am as certain as I can be that I won't want any in the future! I'd never want to have them just to satisfy a partner and so it seems sensible to eliminate risk from sex. I'd still wear a condom during sex (obviously, for safety reasons) but would have less risk of any mistakes etc.
Do you think this is a bad idea? Am I too young? Should I not get it done so early on even if I am satisfied that I don't want children of my own? If so yes or no then why?
As a precaution, I'm considering having some sperm frozen. The annual cost isn't too bad and I'd keep them until about the age of 40. As a backup just in case as there is then the option of IVF if I really did think I'd made a mistake.
Thanks in advance and I'd appreciate only sensible/helpful replies.
G
After three incidents where a woman who I asked was taking contraception lied to me. And 5 year ago happend again. So at 55 I had it done and I really wish I had done.it in my 30s and saved myself a lot of a anxiety.
I have a view that with 8b people their are enough in the world as it is and I have no intention of infesting the planet with more."
Tale as old as time, such a scummy thing to do  |
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Just had one last year and was informed that it is generally reversible but gets harder to reverse as time goes on. The sperm production doesn't actually stop either, so if you go the IVF route, they can normally extract sperm directly from the testes with a needle, but it would be private and expensive. Call a private vasectomy provider in the guise of being a customer and they will be able to answer questions more accurately.
The snip has given me much more peace of mind with our meets and club play. That first ejaculation afterwards is very psychologically strange though! |
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Had mine done when i was 40 after having 2 kids and being in a new relationship, didn't want anymore .... virtually painless and great peace of mind, can't tell the difference and never regretted it one bit ... |
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I've just recently had the snip, I've 2 kids (never wanted the second one) thought I'd go for the procedure due to not wanting the wife to have another change of mind.
While the procedure Was very painless the recovery wasn't, I had a very painful hematoma, balls the size of a large orange and was off work for a while. Even now my balls are tender and sometimes very painful. |
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By *ap-scarCouple
over a year ago
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My partner is currently 28 and he had his about 2 years ago. We have a child together and we both agreed we didn't want anymore. We spoke about the future and if anything should happen between us and he decides he wanted more children but he was adamant. Our gp was very supportive. Just made us look at the pros and cons etc. Go speak to your gp xx |
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By *ap-scarCouple
over a year ago
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"My partner is currently 28 and he had his about 2 years ago. We have a child together and we both agreed we didn't want anymore. We spoke about the future and if anything should happen between us and he decides he wanted more children but he was adamant. Our gp was very supportive. Just made us look at the pros and cons etc. Go speak to your gp xx"
P.s not everyones recovery will be the same. |
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i would wait 5 years life could and can be very different the fact you want to
freeze sperm says that you arent 100% may only be minor surgery but can still go wrong you would have to go private and need counselling before it gets done |
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"i would wait 5 years life could and can be very different the fact you want to
freeze sperm says that you arent 100% may only be minor surgery but can still go wrong you would have to go private and need counselling before it gets done "
Mine was Mary stopes referred by NHS. It doesn't have to be private. |
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Many local nhs places do them, you just need to ask your GP for a referral. The actual op is then done by a private practice on behalf of the nhs in Herts and many other counties.
Had mine last year in Aug after 3 kids. We don't want anymore and I'm 49 . Mrs suggested it as it helps eliminate mistakes when playing with others.. in addition to the usual protections.
Expect at least 2 wks with little to no action.. i went gung-ho thinking the Doc was wrong and ended up paying for it after for another week or so. Buy a bag of frozen peas or chopped veg and get a couple of towels to wrap them to prevent freezer burn in your legs... it's bliss in the first 48hrs after. Maybe arrange to wfh or take a week off at least if you can't.
Freezing sounds a good sensible option, and to follow up on another poster, it is possible to get sperm from the testes after an op, they're only cutting the delivery route, it's not a chemical castration where you are removing the source material 
You then have two backups just in case. Have a chat with your GP first of all, they should set you straight on what's available and how.
It's your decision, but talk with an expert. Best of luck whatever you choose |
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Mr had it done after marriage and two kids
At that age and being single I would really recommend waiting seeing as you say you'd wear protection anyway it seems excessive
Wait and see, if you still feel like it in 5 years time you can be surer than you are today
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"I had one done in my early 30s but I'd had two kids with my then wife. I decided to for a number of reasons, but mostly because I know that under no circumstances at all did I want 3 children.
I then got divorced, and was very pleased I had, given my certainty of not wanting more children, it made dating and discussing such things with new partners a non-issue, since it simply wasn't a possibility.
Personally, unless you've been married and had a long term relationship and decided you don't want kids, when life is perfect, I don't think you can know how you'll feel if you meet the right person.
I'd hold off for another 5+ years."
Exactly the same here. No regrets and makes a good clear conversation starter when needed. |
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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago
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I was going to have it done around the age of 30, after chatting with my (now) wife it was decided to not get it done at that time.
Instead I got it done at 39 and haven't regretted it once. A very simple procedure with no issues afterward. |
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"Hi all,
Not sure whether this is the right category to be posting under but I'm looking for some general opinions/advice.
Recently, I've been considering getting a vasectomy. I have looked into the procedure and read lots of feedback on various websites and it seems that the procedure is straightforward with little complications.
However, I'm a single guy who is only 30. I have no children but have and am as certain as I can be that I won't want any in the future! I'd never want to have them just to satisfy a partner and so it seems sensible to eliminate risk from sex. I'd still wear a condom during sex (obviously, for safety reasons) but would have less risk of any mistakes etc.
Do you think this is a bad idea? Am I too young? Should I not get it done so early on even if I am satisfied that I don't want children of my own? If so yes or no then why?
As a precaution, I'm considering having some sperm frozen. The annual cost isn't too bad and I'd keep them until about the age of 40. As a backup just in case as there is then the option of IVF if I really did think I'd made a mistake.
Thanks in advance and I'd appreciate only sensible/helpful replies.
G"
The consultation will take you through all those questions. Had mine done in 1989. |
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Only advice I can offer is if you don’t want any kids, make sure you are still using condoms after your procedure. My cousin got snipped after having 3 kids then almost 18 years later his wife got pregnant again. His first thought was that she was sleeping around, they are not swingers, but he got tested and it had gotten back together. They did some DNA tests and it was his. So even after the procedure it can hook up again. Just search the internet and you can read all sorts of stories about it |
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If you are certain you don't and never will want kids then only you can know. 30 is very young to make that decision however. Consider how different you might now feel about other major decisions than you would have at 20.
But I wouldn't attempt to dissuade you if you are sure; I had mine last year at 36. No kids of my own but two step children, a happy family with Lucy and a recognition in myself that I'm a passable stepfather but would make a lousy father; and the difference in parenting styles between myself and Lucy would come to a head in probably a divorce level dispute if I had the biological investment in the children I would if we had our own.
Plus it allowed us to develop our preferred playmate program rules
So it was the right decision for me; just not for everyone. |
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By *andSCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi all,
Not sure whether this is the right category to be posting under but I'm looking for some general opinions/advice.
Recently, I've been considering getting a vasectomy. I have looked into the procedure and read lots of feedback on various websites and it seems that the procedure is straightforward with little complications.
However, I'm a single guy who is only 30. I have no children but have and am as certain as I can be that I won't want any in the future! I'd never want to have them just to satisfy a partner and so it seems sensible to eliminate risk from sex. I'd still wear a condom during sex (obviously, for safety reasons) but would have less risk of any mistakes etc.
Do you think this is a bad idea? Am I too young? Should I not get it done so early on even if I am satisfied that I don't want children of my own? If so yes or no then why?
As a precaution, I'm considering having some sperm frozen. The annual cost isn't too bad and I'd keep them until about the age of 40. As a backup just in case as there is then the option of IVF if I really did think I'd made a mistake.
Thanks in advance and I'd appreciate only sensible/helpful replies.
G"
One thing to understand is that there is a consequence of having "the snip", your orgasms will change and if you're a heavy cummer now that will significantly decrease.
How do I know? Been there, done that and got the t-shirt.
Still worked out to be a good decision for me though.
Hope this helps. |
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"Hi all,
Not sure whether this is the right category to be posting under but I'm looking for some general opinions/advice.
Recently, I've been considering getting a vasectomy. I have looked into the procedure and read lots of feedback on various websites and it seems that the procedure is straightforward with little complications.
However, I'm a single guy who is only 30. I have no children but have and am as certain as I can be that I won't want any in the future! I'd never want to have them just to satisfy a partner and so it seems sensible to eliminate risk from sex. I'd still wear a condom during sex (obviously, for safety reasons) but would have less risk of any mistakes etc.
Do you think this is a bad idea? Am I too young? Should I not get it done so early on even if I am satisfied that I don't want children of my own? If so yes or no then why?
As a precaution, I'm considering having some sperm frozen. The annual cost isn't too bad and I'd keep them until about the age of 40. As a backup just in case as there is then the option of IVF if I really did think I'd made a mistake.
Thanks in advance and I'd appreciate only sensible/helpful replies.
G"
you are too young,, what happens if you meet a lovely lady you would love to marry and she really wants a family,,  it could the end of a lovely romance and break her heart,,  |
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By *ap-scarCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi all,
Not sure whether this is the right category to be posting under but I'm looking for some general opinions/advice.
Recently, I've been considering getting a vasectomy. I have looked into the procedure and read lots of feedback on various websites and it seems that the procedure is straightforward with little complications.
However, I'm a single guy who is only 30. I have no children but have and am as certain as I can be that I won't want any in the future! I'd never want to have them just to satisfy a partner and so it seems sensible to eliminate risk from sex. I'd still wear a condom during sex (obviously, for safety reasons) but would have less risk of any mistakes etc.
Do you think this is a bad idea? Am I too young? Should I not get it done so early on even if I am satisfied that I don't want children of my own? If so yes or no then why?
As a precaution, I'm considering having some sperm frozen. The annual cost isn't too bad and I'd keep them until about the age of 40. As a backup just in case as there is then the option of IVF if I really did think I'd made a mistake.
Thanks in advance and I'd appreciate only sensible/helpful replies.
G
One thing to understand is that there is a consequence of having "the snip", your orgasms will change and if you're a heavy cummer now that will significantly decrease.
How do I know? Been there, done that and got the t-shirt.
Still worked out to be a good decision for me though.
Hope this helps. "
My partners orgasm or amount of cum hasn't changed. |
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"Hi all,
Not sure whether this is the right category to be posting under but I'm looking for some general opinions/advice.
Recently, I've been considering getting a vasectomy. I have looked into the procedure and read lots of feedback on various websites and it seems that the procedure is straightforward with little complications.
However, I'm a single guy who is only 30. I have no children but have and am as certain as I can be that I won't want any in the future! I'd never want to have them just to satisfy a partner and so it seems sensible to eliminate risk from sex. I'd still wear a condom during sex (obviously, for safety reasons) but would have less risk of any mistakes etc.
Do you think this is a bad idea? Am I too young? Should I not get it done so early on even if I am satisfied that I don't want children of my own? If so yes or no then why?
As a precaution, I'm considering having some sperm frozen. The annual cost isn't too bad and I'd keep them until about the age of 40. As a backup just in case as there is then the option of IVF if I really did think I'd made a mistake.
Thanks in advance and I'd appreciate only sensible/helpful replies.
G"
So G, you want to join the massed ranks
Of those of us who are firing blanks
Such a heady decision at a tender age
What if in time you want to turn life’s page
And knock out a couple of offspring
That pipe reconnection lark is no easy thing
Why not take sometime out to think
About the consequences of that missing link
As fellow Fab followers have advised above
You could in future find that special love
Who wants to add to the family tree
One or two pan lids or maybe three
My advice is keep those testis intact
At the hallelujah moment just retract
Save those tiddlers for another day
Believe me with this topic I am au fait
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"i would wait 5 years life could and can be very different the fact you want to
freeze sperm says that you arent 100% may only be minor surgery but can still go wrong you would have to go private and need counselling before it gets done
Mine was Mary stopes referred by NHS. It doesn't have to be private. "
it depends on your situation and if have no kids nhs would see this as a grey area i know my ex was done at a nhs hospital as he had a lump that needed to be removed and had kids already |
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If you are 100% sure you want it now, go for it. If you have any doubt, wait or simply don't get it done.
What if you meet the woman of your dreams in a few months after it who wants to have a child with you, but hates the idea of frozen/defrosted sperm insemination? Just a thought.
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"If you are 100% sure you want it now, go for it. If you have any doubt, wait or simply don't get it done.
What if you meet the woman of your dreams in a few months after it who wants to have a child with you, but hates the idea of frozen/defrosted sperm insemination? Just a thought.
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Frozen defrosted sperm ........that’s dogging on a very cold night? |
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