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What Are You Looking For?
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By *aughtydante OP Man
over a year ago
Midlands Based But Travel |
What is your actually looking for on Fab? Yes i know sex is part of it lol.
Are you looking for quick meets with strangers?
Find new friends interested in the lifestyle?
Fulfil a certain fantasy ?
Have you found what your looking for? Or still looking? |
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By *aughtydante OP Man
over a year ago
Midlands Based But Travel |
"I always hate the question, what are looking for ? Drives me mad, to ask that just demonstrates to me a lack of not understanding swinging. "
From my personal experience you cant categories "swinging" as one thing. Its like saying 'porn' is "porn".. many different search terms or fantasies available.
Now i maybe wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always hate the question, what are looking for ? Drives me mad, to ask that just demonstrates to me a lack of not understanding swinging.
From my personal experience you cant categories "swinging" as one thing. Its like saying 'porn' is "porn".. many different search terms or fantasies available.
Now i maybe wrong. "
Think you’re right, we ask people what they’re looking for and if we don’t fit the bill or not our thing we move on, everyone’s different |
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By *nribanMan
over a year ago
Sligo |
I'm separated, soon to be divorced. I have a lot of fantasies that I hope to satisfy in the coming years.
One though, is being watched by a woman, or women, while I pleasure myself.
Just the thought of strangers watching me is so erotic for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have my profile hidden at the moment as I’m not actively looking, but when I’m looking I’m after MM couples (actual couples, not two straight mates). I also come on the forums looking for club recommendations etc.
The poster above saying if you need to ask you dint “understand swinging” is incorrect. Not everyone is after the same thing! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely nothing ! I am never looking. I use fab to see what events are on then I keep in touch with people I've met from there. That's it.
The thing I find weird is people are actually annoyed at this haha
"Why are you on here then? "
I also find the forums good fun |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I'm definitely not after quick meets with strangers ,
Im mainly here for the forums ,to keep in touch with those I know & go to a social or 2.
I'd never rule out meeting ,but there would have to be a good connection and real attraction .
I have all this in my profile just in case anyone does read lol. |
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I was looking to fulfil some fantasies and I’ve done that and now I’m open to whatever life throws my way but that won’t involve monogamous relationships.
I’m single and it would take someone incredibly special to change that.
I want sex with multiple men at the same time regularly x |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
Realistically,I am looking for nothing, because at 66 I am statistically too much of an outlier to be successful, the median age on this website probably being at least 20-25 years younger than my current chronological age.
It is now principally a means of keeping me in touch with the attitudes of younger people who may share my predelictions, in the contemporary sexual milieu. |
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By *ilva69Man
over a year ago
stockport |
"Realistically,I am looking for nothing, because at 66 I am statistically too much of an outlier to be successful, the median age on this website probably being at least 20-25 years younger than my current chronological age.
It is now principally a means of keeping me in touch with the attitudes of younger people who may share my predelictions, in the contemporary sexual milieu."
I turn 60 in a few months, I still have an incredible appetite for sex. I realise and accept at my age it’s not going to be as regular as I would like on here. There are couples interested in older gents and I’ve been fortunate to have played with a few. So to sum it up as far as myself I’ll stay on fab as long as I crave sex if only once in a while physically. Forums and chat I can live with in the mean time.
Good luck and keep fabbing x |
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I find it easier to find what I'm looking for on here,as I'm so busy with work.
I've filled some of my fantasy from being on here.
I no what I like and don't,I like the meeting at clubs.
So for me it works. |
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"I always hate the question, what are looking for ? Drives me mad, to ask that just demonstrates to me a lack of not understanding swinging. "
I agree (female of the couple here) I tend to not want to talk to them if they ask this  |
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"I always hate the question, what are looking for ? Drives me mad, to ask that just demonstrates to me a lack of not understanding swinging.
I agree (female of the couple here) I tend to not want to talk to them if they ask this "
If it is the opening line then I agree but it is often a question I will ask once the convo has started flowing because I will always need to know whether hubby just wants to join in or watch, etc. It all depends on when it is asked. |
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Are you looking for quick meets with strangers?
In theory this is hot, in reality I gave up on it after only a couple of months. I didn't enjoy the sex that much, too many men just wanted a living fleshlight / free sex worker rather than a mutual partner, and also the risk to my personal safety was simply too high.
Find new friends interested in the lifestyle?
DEFINITELY THIS
Fulfil a certain fantasy ?
Nah, most of my fantasies require a certain level of trust, so I only do those with my partners or people I've known a while.
Have you found what your looking for? Or still looking?
Definitely still looking. I want excitement, mutual enjoyment, mental stimulation, playful exploration, with people who don't think penetration is the be all and end all of sexual fun.
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I think it can be compared to shopping…
Sometimes people go shopping for something specific. Sometimes it’s more general shopping to see what there is. Then there’s the window shoppers who are only browsing and maybe getting ideas. Impulse buys can also be fun!
Swinging has a place for all and sometimes when someone has something specific there after they can find it odd to hear that someone else doesn’t. |
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Firstly friendly people with similar interests to me, mainly based around sex. Then to find a couple nearby who I can call friends, have a social time with and finish with a bit of adult fun. Ultimately I'd like my wife to feel comfortable enough to join us socially and in my dreams join us in the bedroom. |
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Find a friend or FWB, one who likes everything In life without being judgemental, dance, cook, travel together to see places, make videos, vanilla and sex both, most important someone who carries less baggage.
Swinging is an expensive affair, considering the childcare, travel and club(s) membership and fee on the door etc. it takes too much of your life for a very little return, better to have FWB. |
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Interesting question and the wide variety of answers shows how diverse the swinging community can be!
Personally I use Fab to speak to some friends that I’ve made, keep up with events and keep in touch with people I’ve met at socials or clubs. Occasionally I will reach out to new people on here to chat with a view to meeting socially to see if we click, or to see about arranging a club meet. |
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Someone/Anyone we can have a good natter/laugh with aswell as some sexy fun and sometimes just meet up and chill out together as sometimes that's just nice as everyone seems in such a rush to get our knickers off or into our knickers ?? and just very nice to take a breathe,relax and see what happens ?? ....shooting for the stars we know ( as even the ones who agree 90% when meeting them it more than obvious they were lying to get a meet ) xxx  |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
"What is your actually looking for on Fab? Yes i know sex is part of it lol.
Find new friends interested in the lifestyle?
Fulfil a certain fantasy ?
Have you found what your looking for? Or still looking?"
All above on the way to the goal. the goal is to find single lady for regular mischief with potential for more who fancy bi guy and openminded to join me on the journey. Like to read happy ending stories on the site where two naughty minds got together
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have stopped looking. I have lost the patience for the long winded messaging before the inevitable ghosting. When anything happens it is spontaneous and down to being in the right place at the right time. |
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"Ideally a small group of friends that we can connect with socially and sexually on a regularly basis.
After a loooong time we’re still looking  "
It’s the same for us. Likeminded Friends first everything else is a bonus. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our reasons-
M recently came out to F as bi and F wants to explore this together as a couple in a mmf with Bi men.
What we are looking for is Experienced confident bi guys to play with guy while she watches and then both play with girl when joins in. |
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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I am looking for someone to get naughty with, both inside and outside of the bedroom 
What naughty things outside the bedroom?...
Knock on people's houses & run away?...  "
No, but there are few naughty things one can do, outside like, to name few, walk around kissing, sitting on a bench getting to know eachother better |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've stopped taking this site seriously. I'd love to meet a mid 30s early 40s woman and see how we get on.. being open to a range of arrangements or relationships FB / fwb / whatever works for us both. I'm very attracted to sexually adventurous women and hoped I'd find that here, but it's not worth the agro actually chasing on here, so I just browse mostly. |
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I am looking for people who:
- I find attractive
- are is into sex as I am, and
- are willing to have some of it with me.
Pretty much everything around that is negotiable. I'm pretty flexible. Makes me useful for helping other people fulfil their desires! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are pretty clear on our profile what we are looking for.
Getting to know people on a similar wavelength for friendship, maybe fun if we click. We'd love to have friends in the lifestyle to spend time with, even without the sex bit.
So far we've got to know some lovely people...
But - sometimes we just want a fuck, and will post about that if we fancy it 
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Would love to get to know new people.
If getting on then a social and take it from there I guess.
Not too many expectations. I will take it slowly (was a long term on/off lurker but now want to get involved more). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi just joined and this has been useful, thanks everyone.
So what am I looking for? Still not sure. I know I need something other than the vanilla and at the moment I don't want the pressure of being a couple. So connecting to like minded people/friends. People I can chat about the scene so I can learn more and meet more people. I am sick of false dating/kink sites that drag out messages and try to grab more money from me with absolutely nothing back. So hopefully this is a real site, seems so. Hopefully I can make that connection with one or two lovely people.
My only concern is age as at 57 I seem either to old or too young??. So I think I will need to explore events and clubs and put my big boy pants on and pluck up the courage to go on my own and start to talk to strangers. Any advice as the best way to meet people here will be gratefully received. Thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi just joined and this has been useful, thanks everyone.
So what am I looking for? Still not sure. I know I need something other than the vanilla and at the moment I don't want the pressure of being a couple. So connecting to like minded people/friends. People I can chat about the scene so I can learn more and meet more people. I am sick of false dating/kink sites that drag out messages and try to grab more money from me with absolutely nothing back. So hopefully this is a real site, seems so. Hopefully I can make that connection with one or two lovely people.
My only concern is age as at 57 I seem either to old or too young??. So I think I will need to explore events and clubs and put my big boy pants on and pluck up the courage to go on my own and start to talk to strangers. Any advice as the best way to meet people here will be gratefully received. Thanks x"
Try local socials or join in in the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is your actually looking for on Fab? Yes i know sex is part of it lol.
Are you looking for quick meets with strangers?
Find new friends interested in the lifestyle?
Fulfil a certain fantasy ?
Have you found what your looking for? Or still looking?"
In our case we want to explore my bi (fem) side, share with my husband, fulfill a few dirty fantasies, explore and develop our bdsm kink, meet people likeminded, enjoy the lifestyle and perhaps finding some girl/couple we could connect with properly…
I suppose what many of us are looking for in here. |
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haha
haha.
Or is that asking too much? 
