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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey all so myself and my newish partner
have been discussing sexual desires/fantasies etc, I said about always wanting to experience a club with my partner, I was expecting her to tell
Me to do one etc, how ever she didn’t, said there’s nothing wrong with the things I want to experience. I asked if she’d be up
For giving a club a try, but having never been to one before neither of us know what to expect, how it works etc. we’re looking to attend the club in st Neots at the end of month as they have a newbie weekend, any advice would be much appreciated |
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Hi, I'd say do your research and discuss what sort of thing you're both looking for, so more couples, single men etc and pick a night that fits. A newbie night is a good start as there should be others in the same boat as you. Read the club reviews, see what type of club they are in terms of dress down etc and find what makes you comfortable. Speak to the staff as they sometimes do things like tours/ can maybe introduce you to a few people. Otherwise treat it as a night out. Go along, have a drink (but don't overdo it), try and chat to some people but don't put pressure on yourselves to do anything more than that. We've been to Xtasia a couple of times now and go with the view that we can have a good night dancing (great dj there) and we can walk around and see some sexy things happening, then if we find people we like and want to play with them great. If not we have the guarantee of going home and having fun with each other. |
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Completely agree with previous posts! Be completely open with each other about what you want and why you want to go.
Best advice I can give is go with no expectations of play at all!
Not been to many clubs but the ones we have are all a fairly similar overall.
Treat the night as any normal night club. There will be a bar, dance floor, communal areas for chats etc...
The only difference is what people wear. You will see lots of women AND men walking around in underwear/naked and maybe see people involved in more.
Don't be afraid to say hello have a chat etc... And IF you find a connection with someone you may take things further. If it doesn't go further then it doesn't but you can still make friends with people.
Afterall that's why we're all here! It's not just sex sex sex, that's just the occasional perk to swinging in my (Mr) humble opinion.
Whatever you do go at the only pace that counts YOURS!
Enjoy your your night and feel free to let us know how it goes.
Mr & Ms xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op, we suggest you go to the newbies night with the view of it being nothing more than a social at the pub. If it's Jaydees, you will meet lots of new friends and will not be pressured to do anything. We are regulars there and know the club well. You made a good choice if that's your first club. Once you've got your first time under your belt, we suggest you then try a few more to see which one fits what you're both looking for. You have the Annex at Kings Lynn and VA to the south of Jaydees, which are the closest to you. All different in members and what they offer. |
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