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Quick servay for all you lovely couples.
What would be your general advice for any new inexperienced couples looking to take there first steps into the lifestyle.
If the couple was open to any option without a preference would you recommend the couple-
1. Go to a club,
2. Meat with another couple.
3. Meat with a single man
4. Meat with a single woman
Or any other options.
Reasons also appreciated!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Quick servay for all you lovely couples.
What would be your general advice for any new inexperienced couples looking to take there first steps into the lifestyle.
If the couple was open to any option without a preference would you recommend the couple-
1. Go to a club,
2. Meat with another couple.
3. Meat with a single man
4. Meat with a single woman
Or any other options.
Reasons also appreciated!
Meeting for a social has always worked for us. Chat with them and see if you have anything in common and see how you all get along prior to meeting.
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"Quick servay for all you lovely couples.
What would be your general advice for any new inexperienced couples looking to take there first steps into the lifestyle.
If the couple was open to any option without a preference would you recommend the couple-
1. Go to a club,
2. Meat with another couple.
3. Meat with a single man
4. Meat with a single woman
Or any other options.
Reasons also appreciated!
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1. Going to a club is a great option, there are no expectations, you can simply attend to get a feel for things and chat to like minded couples. If you find things uncomfortable you can simply leave without any awkwardness.
2. Meeting with another couple is a good option, as long as you stipulate what you're after before hand. I.e purely for a social meeting, or may consider taking things a little further if we all get along.
The negative is that if the other couple gets the wrong idea you may find yourselves having to explain you're not interested or vice versa.
3. This i'd suggest is a bit more advance and like option 2 can lead to issues if you're not very clear about boundaries and expectations
4. Same as 3 but a lot harder to find a single female willing to meet a couple on her own.
5. Private parties, a bit like clubs but you get an idea of who's attending beforehand. Great for meeting a higher percentage of people you're likely to play with but more awkward if you want to leave early and it's not for you as it's usually at a private venue / home.
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Definitely go to a club. They'll show you around, explain the club and individual room rules. They can also answer any general questions you might have and help introduce you to some regulars.
For your first visit, we'd recommend just going for a look see. No pressure on yourselves to do anything. Have a drink and a look around. Maybe chat with some people. If the mood takes you, find a private, lockable room for yourselves to have some fun.
Then, once you're home, talk over what you've seen and figure out how it made you feel and go from there  |
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Hi,
We are quite new and liked the security of a meet in our own home.
We met a single guy for drinks and the next night he came to ours for some fun.
Felt very comfortable having already met him. Xx |
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We made our first visit to a club on Saturday night as total newbies to the scene and we would definitely recommend it from our own experience. It wasn’t anything like how we imagined it(in a really good way). We got talking to some really friendly and interesting people in the bar over a few drinks helping ease the nerves, some couples we’d briefly exchanged some messages with on here here as well who kindly said they’d look out for us so we didn’t feel like we could be sat alone.
We then bit the bullet after some chilled drinks and chat by getting into the spirit of things even more and ditching our clothes before having a wander round and just taking it all in. Got talking again to more people as we wandered about and things just flowed from there. The girls put on a show for most of the club before we carried on the fun in one of the other rooms upstairs before a few more drinks in the bar. We then had another wander and put some of the other rooms to good use by ourselves, again attracting a bit of an audience.
Best thing we would say is to just go with absolutely no expectations, just agree your boundaries, socialise as much as you can and before you know it you’ll feel much more relaxed and just go with the flow x |
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Enjoying following this thread. We hopefully hit xstatia for our first time a week on Saturday for their neon night if all goes to plan. We are pretty social but nervous and excited and will be keen to see where the night takes us!! |
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Club 100%. Way less pressure. Everyone is super nervous first time but try and have a chat with folks and have a nose about. Check out the club reviews and look at their websites and choose a night that looks suitable. |
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Club, just for a look though, see if it's what you thought it might be? Ten go away and think about it. A little caution if you're new is a good thing, we know a couple that jumped in too quickly in excitement and regretted it after...
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
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An organised social ,
It's easier to chat and clearly no undercurrent of expectations of play.
You can more easily get past the first two hurdles ..1) finding a couple you both find physically and 2) and a couple you click with socially ...
And it's easier to work the room as it were , talking to people ...
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following as going as a couple for first time also to a club as we decided that that may be the best way to see what happens no pressure.
just deciding on Chams or xtasure, for newbies as close to west mids .
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A club social. Don't go with a plan to play, just to take in the environment. Talk to each other honestly afterwards to see if it's really what both parties were hoping. If it is, Then from there try the club again with the intention of playing if the opportunity presents itself. At the end of the day keep an open mind and Never put pressure on your partner to play.
That's how we did it and have not looked back.  |
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Sorry to jump onboard but I’m really interested in this thread. Does anyone struggle finding a couple that you both find attractive? Myself and my fella have been to several clubs now but so far we haven’t agreed on the same people, are we being fussy, should one of us compromise or is it worth taking time to find our first time swing? |
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"Sorry to jump onboard but I’m really interested in this thread. Does anyone struggle finding a couple that you both find attractive? Myself and my fella have been to several clubs now but so far we haven’t agreed on the same people, are we being fussy, should one of us compromise or is it worth taking time to find our first time swing? "
I don't think anyone should 'take one for the team' so to speak. Finding 4 people who all fancy each other is always going to be a struggle.
One thing we've found is that personality counts for a Lot. We've soft played with people who, at first glance, we probably wouldn't have approached. But having been in a group chat in a club with them, we've found the attraction |
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"Quick servay for all you lovely couples.
What would be your general advice for any new inexperienced couples looking to take there first steps into the lifestyle.
If the couple was open to any option without a preference would you recommend the couple-
1. Go to a club,
2. Meat with another couple.
3. Meat with a single man
4. Meat with a single woman
Or any other options.
Reasons also appreciated!
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Meet another couple for a social, have a chat and find out what the good/bad/ugly sides of the lifestyle are. |
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