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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We are looking for advice from the experienced community.
Have any couples gone down the path where one person wants to explore solo play, and the other half of the couple doesnt?
How did you process it if so? What discussions were had? Was there a compromised reached or did the "no" half the couple need the final call on the issue? |
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Some positive input.... My husband and I started out doing everything together, then as I grew in confidence I decided I'd quite like to try some solo adventures. My husband wasn't interested, but fully supported and encouraged me.
We're not in need of counselling, we don't have any relationship issues. In fact, we've been together 21 years and have never been happier  . |
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The No always gets the final say in anything in our relationship. I can't see how you can have a good relationship if one person is going along with things to keep the other happy. If we aren't both 100% we don't do it. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"We are looking for advice from the experienced community.
Have any couples gone down the path where one person wants to explore solo play, and the other half of the couple doesnt?
How did you process it if so? What discussions were had? Was there a compromised reached or did the "no" half the couple need the final call on the issue?"
Of course that is common here....... Namely in all most every incidence the guy wants to carry on the woman does not if she ever did!! So the guy tries to run a couples profile with no success or has to go to a singles profile saying he has a wife who gives permission with no success again or starts a singles profile not mentioning the wife and has no success again. Its a tough world on fab  |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
I don’t see how there’s a compromise here, tbh? If one person has a boundary that they’re only ok with same room swap or soft swing or whatever, this is not something you can negotiate or compromise on. You either accept it or end your relationship.
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For us same sex meets are fine for solo play as it’s something the other cannot offer when in the mood for it, if it’s the opposite sex or couples then a conversation goes - are you ok if I meet x,y,z? Then the answer to that conversation is final.
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"For us same sex meets are fine for solo play as it’s something the other cannot offer when in the mood for it, if it’s the opposite sex or couples then a conversation goes - are you ok if I meet x,y,z? Then the answer to that conversation is final.
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Can't speak for anyone else, but if offered the chance I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off both of you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some positive input.... My husband and I started out doing everything together, then as I grew in confidence I decided I'd quite like to try some solo adventures. My husband wasn't interested, but fully supported and encouraged me.
We're not in need of counselling, we don't have any relationship issues. In fact, we've been together 21 years and have never been happier ."
This very evening this actually came up in convo. I'd like us to have some time sharing experiences together only and over time as our confidence grows I'd love it ifnwe we're able to have fun on our own but still share the experiences with each other through pics and vids 
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"It's not something either of us wants to do but we have agreed that when it comes to swinging the no vote always carries it. "
Love the simplicity of this answer, the simple common sense and the pineapple golden rule... no is no!!, |
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