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Is this a swingers site or a dating site?

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

Because most women seem to be looking for Mr. Ideal and to be romantically woo'd rather than just here to have fun.

It seems more about women teasing and dicking guys about than it is about just, well, swinging!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple over a year ago

Bolton

Where did you get your 'facts' from? Z

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"Where did you get your 'facts' from? Z"

Sorry, was that an answer, comment or troll?

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple over a year ago

Bolton

Question - the ? at the end is a clue! Z

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Where did you get your 'facts' from? Z

Sorry, was that an answer, comment or troll?"
get out of bed the wrong side this morning did we

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple over a year ago

Bolton

"Where did you get your 'facts' from? Z

Sorry, was that an answer, comment or troll?get out of bed the wrong side this morning did we"

lol! Z

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By *reelove1969Couple over a year ago

bristol

swinging site .. and a damn gud one !

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By *am123Man over a year ago

essex chelmsford

obviously been getting dicked about by the women on here id say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well guys you take out what you put in and sometimes your asked to leave a deposit even if its in a safty pack

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"well guys you take out what you put in and sometimes your asked to leave a deposit even if its in a safty pack"

LOL! Very true.

Although with some here it seems more like a game of Mastermind.. guy - 5 white pegs - woman - none right, guess again.

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"Where did you get your 'facts' from? Z

Sorry, was that an answer, comment or troll?get out of bed the wrong side this morning did we"

Nope, the damp patch had dried out :S

Plenty here through brickbats at they guys, and we have a bitch of a time trying to strike up conversations - but there does seem to be a large number of women here who mistake the site for Match.com :O

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By *eeriseWoman over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Where did you get your 'facts' from? Z

Sorry, was that an answer, comment or troll?get out of bed the wrong side this morning did we

Nope, the damp patch had dried out :S

What!!! Where are you getting your statistics from? Your a man yet your speaking for a large number of women on here!!!Match.com!!!

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Where did you get your 'facts' from? Z

Sorry, was that an answer, comment or troll?get out of bed the wrong side this morning did we

Nope, the damp patch had dried out :S

but again that is it.. and zoes question is a fair one as it seem you are just throwing stuff out there and seeing what sticks...

maybe the answer is, it is what it is to different people, and as far as i was last aware there was no "right" or "wrong" way to go about swinging...

some people for example go to clubs and lie on a bed and welcome all and sundry, others like to go down the social route and like to get to know people well before playing.......

i don't it is fair to have a go at people for going about swinging in a different manner to you.....

maybe the moral of the story is there are enough people doing it the same way without having to attack people.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Could say same about male profiles, lots of males on here with words"looking for that special one" etc, when you mention playing as 3sum, they just want 1 on 1. To me swinging is sharing

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By *iggamanMan over a year ago

London

Lmao so basically another single guy moaning about not getting enough meets it's treads like this which cloud peoples veiws of us single guys

and for the record it's the best swinging site about but you get what you put in so make the effort instead of making things harder for yourself

SIMPLES!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's called 'fab Swingers' so at a guess I'd imagine that primarily it's a swingers site, but if someone is looking for true love and they find it on here then best of luck to them - that's what I say

Personally though, we use it as a swingers site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is a sex site but things can develope.im having a issue at moment about not telling my f/b about private meet.theres a fine line between the two...sex or date..i just dont know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've seen a few profiles that look as If theyve been written for happyeverafter dot com, but only a few

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Because most women seem to be looking for Mr. Ideal and to be romantically woo'd rather than just here to have fun.

It seems more about women teasing and dicking guys about than it is about just, well, swinging!

As I type there are currently 17,510 members online. Now, I have no idea what the ratio of men to women are but let's imagine it is 4:1 - that would mean there are approximately 4377 women on line - potentially. How many have you engaged in conversation to make the assertion you do?

I can only speak for myself when I say - I am here for fun. The very idea of getting into a relationship brings me out in a rash!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm one of the non swinger members. Its very difficult to find highly sexed open minded people on the main stream sites. Theres no sites for multiple partner highly sexed perverts, well theres the kink site FL but there is much less traffic, so we have a toe in a few pools! As long as people are straight up about who they are I don't think people should get frustrated.

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"Could say same about male profiles, lots of males on here with words"looking for that special one" etc, when you mention playing as 3sum, they just want 1 on 1. To me swinging is sharing"

Very true. To me, "single woman looking for single guy" - take it to AFF or Match because that isn't swinging and never will be.

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"I'm one of the non swinger members. Its very difficult to find highly sexed open minded people on the main stream sites. Theres no sites for multiple partner highly sexed perverts, well theres the kink site FL but there is much less traffic, so we have a toe in a few pools! As long as people are straight up about who they are I don't think people should get frustrated. "

Isn't that exactly what AFF is?

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Could say same about male profiles, lots of males on here with words"looking for that special one" etc, when you mention playing as 3sum, they just want 1 on 1. To me swinging is sharing

Very true. To me, "single woman looking for single guy" - take it to AFF or Match because that isn't swinging and never will be."

I do single guys only - as a single woman. That is not swinging in the traditional sense.

So, do I have your permission to stay because I have been on AFF and it is crap?

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"Lmao so basically another single guy moaning about not getting enough meets it's treads like this which cloud peoples veiws of us single guys

and for the record it's the best swinging site about but you get what you put in so make the effort instead of making things harder for yourself

SIMPLES!

Not complaining at all about not getting enough meets - stunning reading between the lines there chap :S

Just commenting on the behaviour of some of the women on the site - likely those who also like to dish it out to the single males.

Guys get slagged off for being rude, posting cock shots etc. Sadly many princesses behave just as badly.

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Lmao so basically another single guy moaning about not getting enough meets it's treads like this which cloud peoples veiws of us single guys

and for the record it's the best swinging site about but you get what you put in so make the effort instead of making things harder for yourself

SIMPLES!

Not complaining at all about not getting enough meets - stunning reading between the lines there chap :S

Just commenting on the behaviour of some of the women on the site - likely those who also like to dish it out to the single males.

Guys get slagged off for being rude, posting cock shots etc. Sadly many princesses behave just as badly."

Erm, hang on a mo there mate! Your original post said MOST women on here. Now it is only SOME? Seems to me you are moving the boundaries to suit your argument. And the 'princesses' comment comes across as rather bitter - though I may be wrong about that, being a bit of a badly behave princess myself.

Oh, no. Hang on - I'm a Queen - my profile name says I am.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your probably right there. I did used to have a subscription. I think you had to pay to use most of the site from what I remember. I have considered hiding this profile again and sticking to FL but I have met some awesome sexy people here so it may be worth sifting though the messages.

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"I do single guys only - as a single woman. That is not swinging in the traditional sense."

and that's simply my point. You exclude attached guys - youre choice and I have no issue with that.

Everyone makes their choices on who floats their boat but perhaps Fabs would make things "less frustrating" if they allowed folks to indicate their preferences properly in searches and the like.

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"Lmao so basically another single guy moaning about not getting enough meets it's treads like this which cloud peoples veiws of us single guys

and for the record it's the best swinging site about but you get what you put in so make the effort instead of making things harder for yourself

SIMPLES!

Not complaining at all about not getting enough meets - stunning reading between the lines there chap :S

Just commenting on the behaviour of some of the women on the site - likely those who also like to dish it out to the single males.

Guys get slagged off for being rude, posting cock shots etc. Sadly many princesses behave just as badly.

Oh, no. Hang on - I'm a Queen - my profile name says I am.

Oh good lord... i apologise for using a generalisation.

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I do single guys only - as a single woman. That is not swinging in the traditional sense.

and that's simply my point. You exclude attached guys - youre choice and I have no issue with that.

Everyone makes their choices on who floats their boat but perhaps Fabs would make things "less frustrating" if they allowed folks to indicate their preferences properly in searches and the like."

Well if MOST single guys didn't ignore my profile then they would know exactly what my preferences were!

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By *amschwingerzCouple over a year ago

West

Surely the site should be whatever the individual wants out of it?

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By *iggamanMan over a year ago

London

"Lmao so basically another single guy moaning about not getting enough meets it's treads like this which cloud peoples veiws of us single guys

and for the record it's the best swinging site about but you get what you put in so make the effort instead of making things harder for yourself

SIMPLES!

Not complaining at all about not getting enough meets - stunning reading between the lines there chap :S

Just commenting on the behaviour of some of the women on the site - likely those who also like to dish it out to the single males.

Guys get slagged off for being rude, posting cock shots etc. Sadly many princesses behave just as badly."

well it sounded much more like complaint then a comment chap!

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Well, I am one of the females you are speaking about! I am only looking for 1 on 1, and yes I like to know someone and be attracted to them before I want to have sex with them, doesn't mean I am looking for love, just friendship and respect, because if you can't stimulate my mind, you sure as hell not going to be able to stimulate my body! Doesn't make me right or wrong, just that I have my own way of doing things

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Snip...

"The very idea of getting into a relationship brings me out in a rash!"

Do you want some of my antihistamines? I get a nervous tic as well just thinking about the "R" word

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"Surely the site should be whatever the individual wants out of it?"

Are you suggesting that we should be happy to support the pic collectors, time-wasters, fakes & frauds etc.

After all that is thier choice for getting something out of the site?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely the site should be whatever the individual wants out of it?

Are you suggesting that we should be happy to support the pic collectors, time-wasters, fakes & frauds etc.

After all that is thier choice for getting something out of the site?"

How do you mean support the pic collectors ect ?

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By *xodussxMan over a year ago

sheffield

"Surely the site should be whatever the individual wants out of it?

Are you suggesting that we should be happy to support the pic collectors, time-wasters, fakes & frauds etc.

After all that is thier choice for getting something out of the site?"
At least we got this forum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women like men have choices some want commitment some don’t

(some just want committed)

Some women like some men prefer to live on there own and don’t want to settle down but still have needs and want to full fill those needs with some one they are attracted to on all levels

And I for one don’t see anything wrong with that

and thats from me the male half oops must have banged my head this morning

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"Well, I am one of the females you are speaking about! I am only looking for 1 on 1, and yes I like to know someone and be attracted to them before"

1 on 1 - nothing wrong with that at all.

original question was why "some" women (a number between 1 and infinity) exclude married men and do so quite rudely in "some" cases (a number between 1 and infinity).

Swinging was never about marital status - it's "extra" fun.

I personally don't agree with people "playing away" without their partner's knowledge - that isn't swinging either and should be taken to Affair.com

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Snip...

The very idea of getting into a relationship brings me out in a rash!

Do you want some of my antihistamines? I get a nervous tic as well just thinking about the "R" word

I blame my age! It's an aversion which has come from past over-exposure!

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"After all that is thier choice for getting something out of the site?

How do you mean support the pic collectors ect ? "

Because if someone's individual choice is to create a fake profile and collect pics maybe even use them on other sites - isn't that just as legitimate if we're all about individual choice in how people choose to use the site?

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By *amschwingerzCouple over a year ago

West

"Surely the site should be whatever the individual wants out of it?

Are you suggesting that we should be happy to support the pic collectors, time-wasters, fakes & frauds etc.

After all that is thier choice for getting something out of the site?"

Noooooooooo...I was only referring to the genuine people here...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm presuming your cheesed off because you dont understand why you have to treat women/couples with respect on here?

No it's not a dating site, it's a swingers site but I for one still expect to be shown some courtesy

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"After all that is thier choice for getting something out of the site?

How do you mean support the pic collectors ect ?

That is only a suspicion though - not actual proof of anything. Just like the 'most women on here are looking for a relationship' comment.

If they have a fake profile on ANY site then it is not a legitimate use of that site. Ever. All sites have terms and conditions - I don't recall any that I have been on (and that is a fair few) who say 'we welcome fake profiles'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"After all that is thier choice for getting something out of the site?

How do you mean support the pic collectors ect ?

Right got you, not often I'm stumped for words but I am now as I totally see where you are coming from and having always said people should be allowed to use site how they want I never even thought about they way you put it.

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"I'm presuming your cheesed off because you dont understand why you have to treat women/couples with respect on here?

Not at all and please don't presume. I like many other single guys treat everyone on this site(s) with the utmost respect.

Even those who jump on threads

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe a starting point is to read the profiles carefully - then you can exclude those who don't fit your requirements?

A second option is to send more than a one sentence message and have some detail on your profile so that others know what you want.

I am single and don't meet married men its my choice.

I can't see how that's a problem for you?

I also have a number of couples with whom I cam off the site but found via the site..... and we have a ball...

We get out what we like and put in what we please, isn't that the point - if it does not serve you well why not start your own perfect site - free - and see how much interest it gets?

I think grow up and read the small print is the underlying message, this is for fun not moaning.....

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"I don't recall any that I have been on (and that is a fair few) who say 'we welcome fake profiles'."

Was commenting on the "individuals choice" thing for using the site. And Fabs being free is a little more prone to abuse.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman over a year ago

Glenrothes

"Well, I am one of the females you are speaking about! I am only looking for 1 on 1, and yes I like to know someone and be attracted to them before I want to have sex with them, doesn't mean I am looking for love, just friendship and respect, because if you can't stimulate my mind, you sure as hell not going to be able to stimulate my body! Doesn't make me right or wrong, just that I have my own way of doing things

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By *eeriseWoman over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

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By *eeriseWoman over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

I take it the women you have contacted have rejected you hence you creating this thread.

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I don't recall any that I have been on (and that is a fair few) who say 'we welcome fake profiles'.

Was commenting on the "individuals choice" thing for using the site. And Fabs being free is a little more prone to abuse.

But individuals only have choice within the set parameters of the sites terms and conditions. So the argument you propose is specious at best.

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"I am single and don't meet married men its my choice.

I can't see how that's a problem for you?"

It isn't.

It's a problem for the guys who do take the time to read profiles, do take the time to write a literate message, do take the time to attach pics, don't simply send a wink/invite or cock shot and don't ignore preferences.

To then get a "don't do married men" is frustrating and bizarre on a swinging site.

If you state it on your profile than it saves a whole heap of time and effort.

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By *eeriseWoman over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"I don't recall any that I have been on (and that is a fair few) who say 'we welcome fake profiles'.

Was commenting on the "individuals choice" thing for using the site. And Fabs being free is a little more prone to abuse.

But individuals only have choice within the set parameters of the sites terms and conditions. So the argument you propose is specious at best."

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"I take it the women you have contacted have rejected you hence you creating this thread.

Insightful comment.. ladies and gentlemen, please don't feed the troll.

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By *eeriseWoman over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"I take it the women you have contacted have rejected you hence you creating this thread.

Insightful comment.. ladies and gentlemen, please don't feed the troll.

Actually your the troll speaking for men and woman which simple is not your business

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Where does it say in the rules of use of the site that it can only be used for certain purposes? There is an option to put 1 on 1 meets.. So that's acceptable! There is no rule that says u can't look for love :/

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By *eeriseWoman over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Where does it say in the rules of use of the site that it can only be used for certain purposes? There is an option to put 1 on 1 meets.. So that's acceptable! There is no rule that says u can't look for love :/

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To then get a "don't do married men" is frustrating and bizarre on a swinging site

Sorry but as a married couple who only meet SINGLE guys we find that statement bizarre

If a single guy starts chatting to us and we find out he is married we will not meet him as we are swingers not cheaters

And just because it states on your profile that you have your wife’s permission to play doesn’t exactly mean you do have it does it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if people dont want to meet nothing you can do about it.

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"To then get a "don't do married men" is frustrating and bizarre on a swinging site

Sorry but as a married couple who only meet SINGLE guys we find that statement bizarre

If a single guy starts chatting to us and we find out he is married we will not meet him as we are swingers not cheaters

And just because it states on your profile that you have your wife’s permission to play doesn’t exactly mean you do have it does it

I don't do married men because they constantly let you down. Their morals are their concern.

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By *ixenSubminxiveWoman over a year ago

Leeds

My _iew is similar to this. It is much harder to find kinky people on the regular dating sites. So for now I play with men and couples, but ideally I would like a long term partner rather than a fb.

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

"To then get a "don't do married men" is frustrating and bizarre on a swinging site

Sorry but as a married couple who only meet SINGLE guys we find that statement bizarre

If a single guy starts chatting to us and we find out he is married we will not meet him as we are swingers not cheaters

And just because it states on your profile that you have your wife’s permission to play doesn’t exactly mean you do have it does it

What makes you assume that married guys are cheating? I actually find your statement very offensive and am sure my wife will too.

Maybe you should drop her a line and see what she thinks?

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By *iggamanMan over a year ago

London

"I take it the women you have contacted have rejected you hence you creating this thread.

Insightful comment.. ladies and gentlemen, please don't feed the troll.

Actually your the troll speaking for men and woman which simple is not your business"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *ervySmurf OP Man over a year ago

Deutchland

I don't do married men because they constantly let you down. Their morals are their concern."