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By *iseone OP Man
over a year ago
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Hi all, hoping for a bit of advice, here goes...
So, when I'm with a new woman, I get pretty turned on, and unfortunately really struggle not to cum after about 2 seconds.
It's generally not a problem in a long term relationship as I can usually hold on for as long as needed (although if I'm feeling very horny it has to be quite slow or I'll shoot my load), but when I'm with someone new it's impossible. (I've tried slowing down, squeezing mt pelvic floor, thinking of the queen or dead cats etc etc but nothing works). I generally make up for it with lots of oral and making the girl cum first. I often have women wanting to meet me again after sex, and have even been told a couple of times that I'm the only guy that's ever made them cum, but I've also had meets where I can see the disappointment if I cum so quick.
Any advice from anyone who has the same problem would be much appreciated.
I've heard mention (on forums/other sites etc.) of 'the blue pill'. I'm assuming this is Viagra? And not the herbal 'blue pill' for men's endurance that you see for sale in the condom machine in the gents loos. My second question is: Would this work for this sort of problem? And if so, where do you get it from?
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"Hi all, hoping for a bit of advice, here goes...
So, when I'm with a new woman, I get pretty turned on, and unfortunately really struggle not to cum after about 2 seconds.
It's generally not a problem in a long term relationship as I can usually hold on for as long as needed (although if I'm feeling very horny it has to be quite slow or I'll shoot my load), but when I'm with someone new it's impossible. (I've tried slowing down, squeezing mt pelvic floor, thinking of the queen or dead cats etc etc but nothing works). I generally make up for it with lots of oral and making the girl cum first. I often have women wanting to meet me again after sex, and have even been told a couple of times that I'm the only guy that's ever made them cum, but I've also had meets where I can see the disappointment if I cum so quick.
Any advice from anyone who has the same problem would be much appreciated.
I've heard mention (on forums/other sites etc.) of 'the blue pill'. I'm assuming this is Viagra? And not the herbal 'blue pill' for men's endurance that you see for sale in the condom machine in the gents loos. My second question is: Would this work for this sort of problem? And if so, where do you get it from?
Thanks in advance for any replies."
Viagra works to help achieve and maintain erections, it’s unlikely to help your PE problem but it will help you be ready to go again much quicker. |
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over a year ago
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Not sure how to help you other than suggesting you try and be a 2 round guy? Learn to control emotion and don't excite yourself as much as you do. Feel like it's more mental than the act itself that makes you not last.
I personally have no issues going for a long time. Occasionally so long that it's hard to finish which in itself can be an issue.
Tried different viagras and I actually wasn't able to perform at all no matter the stimulation. Gave me a limp dick and a side effect of cyanopsia. Famously known as the blue tinge effect.
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"Hi all, hoping for a bit of advice, here goes...
So, when I'm with a new woman, I get pretty turned on, and unfortunately really struggle not to cum after about 2 seconds.
It's generally not a problem in a long term relationship as I can usually hold on for as long as needed (although if I'm feeling very horny it has to be quite slow or I'll shoot my load), but when I'm with someone new it's impossible. (I've tried slowing down, squeezing mt pelvic floor, thinking of the queen or dead cats etc etc but nothing works). I generally make up for it with lots of oral and making the girl cum first. I often have women wanting to meet me again after sex, and have even been told a couple of times that I'm the only guy that's ever made them cum, but I've also had meets where I can see the disappointment if I cum so quick.
Any advice from anyone who has the same problem would be much appreciated.
I've heard mention (on forums/other sites etc.) of 'the blue pill'. I'm assuming this is Viagra? And not the herbal 'blue pill' for men's endurance that you see for sale in the condom machine in the gents loos. My second question is: Would this work for this sort of problem? And if so, where do you get it from?
Thanks in advance for any replies."
Getting hard tablets won't help your pe problem. A reputable online pharmacy will have some delay tablets. Just be careful self administering, your pharmacist will tell you which medications can't be mixed in case you're in any other meds. |
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Have a wank and hour or two before hand and see if that helps.. I'm sire the oral satisfies more than enough but also see your frustration.
Wouldn't try the blue pill, so many different side effects and effects people in different ways. I think sometimes it's mind over matter.
Could also look at seeing someone about it? Hyp..no etc..
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When having sex, close your eyes and imagine the woman you are with looks like Les Dawson. Doing this I've managed to double my lasting time to about three minutes (but when I cum I shout "blankety blaaaaaank!" which can raise eyebrows). |
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Edge yourself for a few hours before the meet, take yourself 99% there and stop, about 10-15 times. Not saying it will make you last longer, but when you do cum she better have a snorkel and a shit load of wet wipes. By the time she gets out of the shower, cleaning all the cum out of her hair, you should be ready for round 2 and a reasonable time before you cum again. |
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"Edge yourself for a few hours before the meet, take yourself 99% there and stop, about 10-15 times. Not saying it will make you last longer, but when you do cum she better have a snorkel and a shit load of wet wipes. By the time she gets out of the shower, cleaning all the cum out of her hair, you should be ready for round 2 and a reasonable time before you cum again. "
Good advice, and if you drink lots of water, combined with this exercise, you'll ejaculate much bigger volume of cum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's actually not a big deal if you can recover fast for round two. Nobody said sex has to be cum once and be done! Don't sweat it too much.
If you feel that you need the psychological safety net of Viagra then go for it. But don't get too reliant on it as it builds up dependency. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cock rings! Everyday of the week, cock rings! They help keep you hard without drugs. Viagra makes me feel ill. Cock rings are the way forward and no more awkward than putting on a jonny. You can get ones with vibrators and stuff but don't bother. Keep it basic, hard cock etc, and the results speak for themselves! Good luck! M |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d avoid medications if you can and try other methods. It seems a psychological problem so I’d try reading about CBT first and see if you can overcome it by changing your thinking.
Most women won’t be bothered, and as has been said, be a 2 round guy, it doesn’t matter
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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As long as you can go again even if it's a little bit later, it really wouldn't bother me at all, in fact I would probably find it really exciting.
I would probably tease the first orgasm out of you knowing there would be more later as long as you could. |
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"As long as you can go again even if it's a little bit later, it really wouldn't bother me at all, in fact I would probably find it really exciting.
I would probably tease the first orgasm out of you knowing there would be more later as long as you could."
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I have a relatively long standing fantasy that kind of fits with this, where a girl rides me until I cum inside, then moves up to riding my face, I take as much time as needed whilst they cum on my tongue and I get hard again then then ride the cock until I cum again. The blue pill could seriously improve recovery time and make round 2 last much longer, she can ride away like a rodeo bull and get the absolute most out of it. |
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"I have a relatively long standing fantasy that kind of fits with this, where a girl rides me until I cum inside, then moves up to riding my face, I take as much time as needed whilst they cum on my tongue and I get hard again then then ride the cock until I cum again. The blue pill could seriously improve recovery time and make round 2 last much longer, she can ride away like a rodeo bull and get the absolute most out of it."
Sounds tiring |
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"I have a relatively long standing fantasy that kind of fits with this, where a girl rides me until I cum inside, then moves up to riding my face, I take as much time as needed whilst they cum on my tongue and I get hard again then then ride the cock until I cum again. The blue pill could seriously improve recovery time and make round 2 last much longer, she can ride away like a rodeo bull and get the absolute most out of it.
Sounds tiring"
It probably is, but nobody said the fantasy was practical. In reality there would probably be a lot of position switching, but I'm afraid I must have the facesitting part, so my own cum oozes out on me as I'm licking. |
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Tried viagra, gave me really bad congestion. Did however keep me hard after cumming.
Tried cock rings, ok for say 30 mins tops then really uncomfortable.
Tried Cialis and that’s worked best for me, no congestion, get hard very quickly over and over |
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I get you on this I have been like you new girl cum within minutes with taking the blue pill it takes me longer I get to enjoy the intercourse for longer and when I do cum What go again and again and it keeps hard with me for fucking ages about four hours then when I wake in the morning it’s rock hard again. |
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over a year ago
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All depends on how your meets (vanilla or via here/clubs) usually go…
Are you a repeater… are you ready to go again pretty soon after you have cum? If so then continue play until you can penetrate again.
If not then how about a bit of self love earlier in the day/evening but with plenty of time that you will be able to perform once you are with your partner. This should help you delay.
Failing those methods, Priligy will delay you, this is a prescription medication available to treat Prem ejaculation.
Viagra/Sildenafil and related PHE5 inhibitors will help you get an erection when aroused but won’t necessarily delay you cumming - if it does then it is likely a psychological issue rather than physical.
As for those dispenser ‘man endurance’ ‘raging bull’ and others… no idea what to say about them other than I believe they are a blended mix of herbs with no active medication involved. Whether they are effective or just give a placebo effect is something you would need to discover through trial and error.
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"I have a relatively long standing fantasy that kind of fits with this, where a girl rides me until I cum inside, then moves up to riding my face, I take as much time as needed whilst they cum on my tongue and I get hard again then then ride the cock until I cum again. The blue pill could seriously improve recovery time and make round 2 last much longer, she can ride away like a rodeo bull and get the absolute most out of it.
Sounds tiring
It probably is, but nobody said the fantasy was practical. In reality there would probably be a lot of position switching, but I'm afraid I must have the facesitting part, so my own cum oozes out on me as I'm licking."
How do I make and appointment.   |
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"Ok I wouldn’t meet anyone for the first time who took a blue pill"
Since I'm older, I've been with guys over age 45 and I'm always amazed at their sexual techniques of making me cum without sticking their dick in me. So blue pill or not I like pleasant surprises. |
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"I have a relatively long standing fantasy that kind of fits with this, where a girl rides me until I cum inside, then moves up to riding my face, I take as much time as needed whilst they cum on my tongue and I get hard again then then ride the cock until I cum again. The blue pill could seriously improve recovery time and make round 2 last much longer, she can ride away like a rodeo bull and get the absolute most out of it.
Sounds tiring
It probably is, but nobody said the fantasy was practical. In reality there would probably be a lot of position switching, but I'm afraid I must have the facesitting part, so my own cum oozes out on me as I'm licking.
How do I make and appointment. "
Just eat? |
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"I have a relatively long standing fantasy that kind of fits with this, where a girl rides me until I cum inside, then moves up to riding my face, I take as much time as needed whilst they cum on my tongue and I get hard again then then ride the cock until I cum again. The blue pill could seriously improve recovery time and make round 2 last much longer, she can ride away like a rodeo bull and get the absolute most out of it.
Sounds tiring
It probably is, but nobody said the fantasy was practical. In reality there would probably be a lot of position switching, but I'm afraid I must have the facesitting part, so my own cum oozes out on me as I'm licking.
How do I make and appointment. "
Yeah for that one you will need an appointment, but feel free to inbox me.
Then I can "inbox" you  |
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"When having sex, close your eyes and imagine the woman you are with looks like Les Dawson. Doing this I've managed to double my lasting time to about three minutes (but when I cum I shout "blankety blaaaaaank!" which can raise eyebrows). "
Haha brilliant. Got that jingle in my head now lol |
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I’m the same as you. Try the delay climax condoms. They work a treat. There’s a cream in them that numbs your cock and stops you from cumming. I always use them when I’m with someone new. Highly effective |
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"I have a relatively long standing fantasy that kind of fits with this, where a girl rides me until I cum inside, then moves up to riding my face, I take as much time as needed whilst they cum on my tongue and I get hard again then then ride the cock until I cum again. The blue pill could seriously improve recovery time and make round 2 last much longer, she can ride away like a rodeo bull and get the absolute most out of it.
Sounds tiring
It probably is, but nobody said the fantasy was practical. In reality there would probably be a lot of position switching, but I'm afraid I must have the facesitting part, so my own cum oozes out on me as I'm licking.
How do I make and appointment.
Just eat? "
Lol! |
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"I have a relatively long standing fantasy that kind of fits with this, where a girl rides me until I cum inside, then moves up to riding my face, I take as much time as needed whilst they cum on my tongue and I get hard again then then ride the cock until I cum again. The blue pill could seriously improve recovery time and make round 2 last much longer, she can ride away like a rodeo bull and get the absolute most out of it.
Sounds tiring
It probably is, but nobody said the fantasy was practical. In reality there would probably be a lot of position switching, but I'm afraid I must have the facesitting part, so my own cum oozes out on me as I'm licking.
How do I make and appointment.
Yeah for that one you will need an appointment, but feel free to inbox me.
Then I can "inbox" you "
Lol! Derby is a long way from London. I hardly every travel outside of the M25 these days. |
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By *iseone OP Man
over a year ago
Eastleigh |
Hi all,
Thanks for all the messages and advice. Just to respond to a few of them
-For those that have suggested a wank beforehand -I've tried that and it is generally the worst thing to do. Firstly with the 'post-nut clarity' that comes after the wank I generally lose the enthusiasm for meeting. (I have a strong suspicion that this is the reason why so many guys on here make arrangements to meet up and then don't show up or ghost the lady). Less enthusiasm means less fun, and if I do still meet up, then i've either recharged fully and have the same problem (ie over-excited) or (if it's too soon) struggle to cum, which is no fun for anybody. Also this rules out 'round-2' as I generally struggle to cum for a 3rd time unless there is a decent recharge period (or anal play is involved
-For those of you who mentioned it as psychological issue, I'm not disagreeing with you, I'm always fairly sensitive/responsive and never have a problem getting hard, but I agree the issue is at least partly psychological due to the excitement with someone new. However the excitement of someone new is why I'm on here in the first place, so I'm not sure I'd want to get rid of that necessarily. As I've said, I have no problem with someone regular, and for those who enjoy oral and lots of foreplay, if we both cum, it's generally very enjoyable for both of us. I would however like to have the option of penetrative sex with someone new (or relatively new) that lasts a reasonable amount of time, particularly if that's what she wants as well (I have been with 1 or 2 women who didn't like recieving oral which kind of limits options!). So I thought I'd see what guys do on here? I find it hard to imagine that many guys on here wouldn't cum after 2mins if involved in a FFM threesome for example.
-Cock rings did work a little but didn't make a massive difference, and tends to raise an eyebrow/ruin the mood a lot more than a condom if you start putting one on for someone you've just met.
-Condoms with local anaesthetic -either didn't work, or made my cock numb, which wasn't any fun. (And don't put it on inside out -she won't thank you)
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"Hi all,
Thanks for all the messages and advice. Just to respond to a few of them
-For those that have suggested a wank beforehand -I've tried that and it is generally the worst thing to do. Firstly with the 'post-nut clarity' that comes after the wank I generally lose the enthusiasm for meeting. (I have a strong suspicion that this is the reason why so many guys on here make arrangements to meet up and then don't show up or ghost the lady). Less enthusiasm means less fun, and if I do still meet up, then i've either recharged fully and have the same problem (ie over-excited) or (if it's too soon) struggle to cum, which is no fun for anybody. Also this rules out 'round-2' as I generally struggle to cum for a 3rd time unless there is a decent recharge period (or anal play is involved
-For those of you who mentioned it as psychological issue, I'm not disagreeing with you, I'm always fairly sensitive/responsive and never have a problem getting hard, but I agree the issue is at least partly psychological due to the excitement with someone new. However the excitement of someone new is why I'm on here in the first place, so I'm not sure I'd want to get rid of that necessarily. As I've said, I have no problem with someone regular, and for those who enjoy oral and lots of foreplay, if we both cum, it's generally very enjoyable for both of us. I would however like to have the option of penetrative sex with someone new (or relatively new) that lasts a reasonable amount of time, particularly if that's what she wants as well (I have been with 1 or 2 women who didn't like recieving oral which kind of limits options!). So I thought I'd see what guys do on here? I find it hard to imagine that many guys on here wouldn't cum after 2mins if involved in a FFM threesome for example.
-Cock rings did work a little but didn't make a massive difference, and tends to raise an eyebrow/ruin the mood a lot more than a condom if you start putting one on for someone you've just met.
-Condoms with local anaesthetic -either didn't work, or made my cock numb, which wasn't any fun. (And don't put it on inside out -she won't thank you)
xx"
Very interesting read.
I'm not sure if the focus on the excitement instead of the pleasure might be causing the issue. Not sure CBT can help with that. My advice would be to explore tantra to be able to focus your mind more on the pleasure and tantra is known for slowing the men down and speeding the women up. It's also supposed to relax everyone.
It's hard to know with a new partner also. Sometimes you and the new partner just click but in my experience there need to be some work especially when it come to foreplay.
The other thing that piqued my interest was you saying that the women don't like oral and don't like cock rings. I may be completely wrong but that makes me think they are inexperienced.
I mean when I go to swingers clubs, oral and cock rings are a common thing.
Also try changing the way you have sex so instead of thrusting in and out deeply, a la porn hub , try grinding and pelvic swing and doing figure eights and the coital alignment technique.
Of course if the woman you are with expects the porn hub pounding then it's probably going to be an ongoing problem. |
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"Siddidefel is better than viagra any day and will delay you but only available at online chemist as prescribed only
If you mean Sildenafil, Viagra is Sildenafil..."
Siddidyfil being the Irish equivalent |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Two things as you are about to cum get your partner to pinch your foreskin hard for a couple of minutes and go again and keep doing it and I use a cum stopper which acts as a block |
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Have you tried jacking off more? 
Not kidding, it's very helpful if you're quick to cum. Do it regularly enough and stop yourself from cumming, just edge for a while basically and you'll become a lot more desentised and can last longer. The other thing is to get fit especially cardiovascular health, if you're fitter it's much easier to go multiple rounds and I find that I have better erection quality. It's overall a win win. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Bareback I use 25mg of Sildenafil when my wife wants an ffm that can stop me cumming for an hour or 2.
But safe sex try condoms with numbing cream in them. It numbs the tip and stops you cumming so fast. |
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But for me that's a passion killer so i can't wank anymore just incase I get a meet
