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By *ros2000 OP Man
over a year ago
London |
I'm not really having any luck on this site tbh no matter how much I articulate or simplify my meassges
Last time i sought advice i borrowed somthing that was alot better written then i could of put and got attacked for it
Am i doing something wrong with my profile? I know it's meant too be a thousand times harder for straight guys on this platform but i can't even so much as get a proper conversation going or friend requests  Puts a downer on my self esteem considering what this platform is and all the happy willies you're seeing with gorgeous lasses in peoples photos... Christ it feels easier talking too people on Tinder (that's why i stopped bothering on this)
But i guess with a new year comes new motivation too fulfil ones need for happiness and desires
Please don't be rude in the comments and brutally honest feedback of my profile are welcome via DMs
Cheers
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"I'm not really having any luck on this site tbh no matter how much I articulate or simplify my meassges
Last time i sought advice i borrowed somthing that was alot better written then i could of put and got attacked for it
Am i doing something wrong with my profile? I know it's meant too be a thousand times harder for straight guys on this platform but i can't even so much as get a proper conversation going or friend requests Puts a downer on my self esteem considering what this platform is and all the happy willies you're seeing with gorgeous lasses in peoples photos... Christ it feels easier talking too people on Tinder (that's why i stopped bothering on this)
But i guess with a new year comes new motivation too fulfil ones need for happiness and desires
Please don't be rude in the comments and brutally honest feedback of my profile are welcome via DMs
Cheers
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Sometimes it’s not the bio they may not be there type. Unf this site is over run by men so ladies can have the pick. Have you thought of a club where you can chat and socialise get to know people |
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You're incredibly handsome, but my perception on your photos is that they're a little immature. Of course, others might see them as fun, so it's all subjective.
Yet for us, the 3rd pic in particular - especially as it comes after the 2nd - would put us off.
The rest of your profile is fine. |
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By *ros2000 OP Man
over a year ago
London |
Thanks too everyone that meassged me directly or replied in this post (minus one rude couple) but people will be people so i suppose that can't be avoided
I appreciate all the feedback, i made some adjustments too my profile and pics (haven't got any spicy ones at the moment though) so i welcome any more additional feed back and advice |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
The last line of your profile, indicates one major flaw. You will meet and have sex if YOU are into the person you are chatting to.
This site is not focused on what you want. It should be things happen if it works for both of you.
There are 100 guys to every lady, so you need to consider why they would want to get to know you. What do you offer, not just what you want. |
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We are new to this site but the amount of messages we receive is obscene and we don’t even have public photos on however the majority of messages we delete and block as they are copy and pasted cringey crap the ones we reply to are messages that you can see are written to us as a couple by someone who has taken time to read our profile some times it’s not about your profile but how you approach people on your first message that first impression is important….be original |
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"Get to a club is my advise.  "
This is the answer. That or a social, there are a few in London and surrounding areas. Go to a club or somewhere and dont come across like a pushy pervert and you will likely be fine. If nothing else it will help you get verified and that will help people know your the real deal.
Profile looks fine to us btw... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're incredibly handsome, but my perception on your photos is that they're a little immature. Of course, others might see them as fun, so it's all subjective.
Yet for us, the 3rd pic in particular - especially as it comes after the 2nd - would put us off.
The rest of your profile is fine. "
I’d love this detailed analysis on my profile |
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"You're incredibly handsome, but my perception on your photos is that they're a little immature. Of course, others might see them as fun, so it's all subjective.
Yet for us, the 3rd pic in particular - especially as it comes after the 2nd - would put us off.
The rest of your profile is fine.
I’d love this detailed analysis on my profile "
Create a thread then... its not fair to hijack his!  |
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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
first thing all men do is think they are doing something wrong.
a. not trying hard enough
b. something wrong with my profile.
swinging is a niche activity, most people here are not swingers or all that fab..
the answer is find you local club and make friends there. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"first thing all men do is think they are doing something wrong.
a. not trying hard enough
b. something wrong with my profile.
swinging is a niche activity, most people here are not swingers or all that fab..
the answer is find you local club and make friends there."
I agree that going to an organised social or a club is a great way to meet several people in one evening, but improving their chances by making their profile individual and the best it can be and learning tips that might improve their chances is worth doing. Not everyone goes to clubs. |
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"I'm not really having any luck on this site tbh no matter how much I articulate or simplify my meassges
Last time i sought advice i borrowed somthing that was alot better written then i could of put and got attacked for it
Am i doing something wrong with my profile? I know it's meant too be a thousand times harder for straight guys on this platform but i can't even so much as get a proper conversation going or friend requests Puts a downer on my self esteem considering what this platform is and all the happy willies you're seeing with gorgeous lasses in peoples photos... Christ it feels easier talking too people on Tinder (that's why i stopped bothering on this)
But i guess with a new year comes new motivation too fulfil ones need for happiness and desires
Please don't be rude in the comments and brutally honest feedback of my profile are welcome via DMs
Cheers
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Perhaps you don't pay as much attention to a biog as you should, or offer something that's not wanted.
Who really knows, could be anything.
LA |
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"Honestly, the sheer ratio would mean women/couples working round the clock to satisfy all the cock 
Ohhh lawd  "
Yeah it's truly a numbers game! If you look at "new men" on the search option, there's dozens and dozens every hour |
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"Get to a club is my advise. "
This is the best advice !
I've been on here as a couple and we had lots of interestm unfortunately we ended it. Now im a single guy no interest at all.
I'm off to a club this weekend hopefully I can get some variations and maybe that might get some conversations going on this site.
Dont give up, get to a club. |
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The best advice I can give you is not to take any council from the forums. If you listened to everyone in here your profile would look like a mix of Next catalog and Match profile. Decide exactly what it is you want from fab and set your profile up accordingly. It’s not a magic formula because it still takes energy and time to devote to it but eventually you get there. My tip! Start looking at the successful guys on here and figure out why they might be. Hope that helps. |
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"I'm not really having any luck on this site tbh no matter how much I articulate or simplify my meassges
Last time i sought advice i borrowed somthing that was alot better written then i could of put and got attacked for it
Am i doing something wrong with my profile? I know it's meant too be a thousand times harder for straight guys on this platform but i can't even so much as get a proper conversation going or friend requests Puts a downer on my self esteem considering what this platform is and all the happy willies you're seeing with gorgeous lasses in peoples photos... Christ it feels easier talking too people on Tinder (that's why i stopped bothering on this)
But i guess with a new year comes new motivation too fulfil ones need for happiness and desires
Please don't be rude in the comments and brutally honest feedback of my profile are welcome via DMs
Cheers
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Have you followed any of the advice given 26 weeks ago?
Winston |
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By *ros2000 OP Man
over a year ago
London |
"What do you mean 'no pics no replies'? Are you setting parameters for the conditions under which you'll reply to women? "
In this regards yes
Definitely getting alot of mix feedback about my profile some dig it and some not so much (which makes sense I'm naturally not going to be everyones cup of tea) i think I'm fine with we're it's currently at
As for pictures, I'll eventually take some naughty ones on my next play date
I think all in all going too club is definitely the best consistent advice coming out of here (i think especially for that important intital verification) and too dip my my toes or balls if you prefer into the scene I'm not as social as i use too be hence using this online platform... But i think I'll definitely have too give it a go
Thanks again too everyone taking the time too reply too this thread or meassging me directly |
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"What do you mean 'no pics no replies'? Are you setting parameters for the conditions under which you'll reply to women?
In this regards yes
Definitely getting alot of mix feedback about my profile some dig it and some not so much (which makes sense I'm naturally not going to be everyones cup of tea) i think I'm fine with we're it's currently at
As for pictures, I'll eventually take some naughty ones on my next play date
I think all in all going too club is definitely the best consistent advice coming out of here (i think especially for that important intital verification) and too dip my my toes or balls if you prefer into the scene I'm not as social as i use too be hence using this online platform... But i think I'll definitely have too give it a go
Thanks again too everyone taking the time too reply too this thread or meassging me directly "
Tip - most people don't want to see anyone else in pictures, for single male profiles. They need to evaluate you, to know if they may possibly find you attractive. If you don't clinch that perusal, they move on to the next single man and potentially block you, preventing any further contact. |
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By *ros2000 OP Man
over a year ago
London |
"How many woe is me threads are there on this site?"
Was this comment necessary?
Their is alot of woe in society in general bud, especially these days for men
God forbid any of them express themselves and pluck the courage too seek out advice
Next time just keep scrolling this snarkiness certainly doesn't help |
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"What do you mean 'no pics no replies'? Are you setting parameters for the conditions under which you'll reply to women?
In this regards yes
Definitely getting alot of mix feedback about my profile some dig it and some not so much (which makes sense I'm naturally not going to be everyones cup of tea) i think I'm fine with we're it's currently at
As for pictures, I'll eventually take some naughty ones on my next play date
I think all in all going too club is definitely the best consistent advice coming out of here (i think especially for that important intital verification) and too dip my my toes or balls if you prefer into the scene I'm not as social as i use too be hence using this online platform... But i think I'll definitely have too give it a go
Thanks again too everyone taking the time too reply too this thread or meassging me directly "
That comment comes across as arrogant, and would put me off replying. Don't set conditions for women if you want to get anywhere. Accept that on fab, unlike the rest of the world, women have the upper hand. Either play that game or don't bother trying IMO. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many woe is me threads are there on this site?
Was this comment necessary?
Their is alot of woe in society in general bud, especially these days for men
God forbid any of them express themselves and pluck the courage too seek out advice
Next time just keep scrolling this snarkiness certainly doesn't help "
I clearly thought it necessary.
To be honest bud you are a member of a recreational sex site where single men out number other members by thousands to one.
Crack on and ask for advice from the minority participants and you will get the usual patronising and inane comments.
There are many look at me threads active or in the recent past have a look at them. In my opinion you and the other woe is me merchants are becoming tedious. As I said it’s a recreational sex site........treat it as such |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you mean 'no pics no replies'? Are you setting parameters for the conditions under which you'll reply to women?
In this regards yes
Definitely getting alot of mix feedback about my profile some dig it and some not so much (which makes sense I'm naturally not going to be everyones cup of tea) i think I'm fine with we're it's currently at
As for pictures, I'll eventually take some naughty ones on my next play date
I think all in all going too club is definitely the best consistent advice coming out of here (i think especially for that important intital verification) and too dip my my toes or balls if you prefer into the scene I'm not as social as i use too be hence using this online platform... But i think I'll definitely have too give it a go
Thanks again too everyone taking the time too reply too this thread or meassging me directly
That comment comes across as arrogant, and would put me off replying. Don't set conditions for women if you want to get anywhere. Accept that on fab, unlike the rest of the world, women have the upper hand. Either play that game or don't bother trying IMO."
Very eloquently put if I may say! |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
Sandwich |
"I'm not really having any luck on this site tbh no matter how much I articulate or simplify my meassges
Last time i sought advice i borrowed somthing that was alot better written then i could of put and got attacked for it
Am i doing something wrong with my profile? I know it's meant too be a thousand times harder for straight guys on this platform but i can't even so much as get a proper conversation going or friend requests Puts a downer on my self esteem considering what this platform is and all the happy willies you're seeing with gorgeous lasses in peoples photos... Christ it feels easier talking too people on Tinder (that's why i stopped bothering on this)
But i guess with a new year comes new motivation too fulfil ones need for happiness and desires
Please don't be rude in the comments and brutally honest feedback of my profile are welcome via DMs
Cheers
Have you followed any of the advice given 26 weeks ago?
Winston"
Ah yes, should have checked the green arrow! |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
The number of men on here doesn't have much of a impact of anyone connecting with a female considering that you are trying to connect with those whom have something in common with having an articulate message some like some don't and being polite it's just the norm and only gets you bonus points for being so not the gate way to anything else promised try connecting with someone who may fit around your criteria. Arrange a social attend social events with no expectations
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By *ros2000 OP Man
over a year ago
London |
"The number of men on here doesn't have much of a impact of anyone connecting with a female considering that you are trying to connect with those whom have something in common with having an articulate message some like some don't and being polite it's just the norm and only gets you bonus points for being so not the gate way to anything else promised try connecting with someone who may fit around your criteria. Arrange a social attend social events with no expectations
Good luck "
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By *ros2000 OP Man
over a year ago
London |
"How many woe is me threads are there on this site?
Was this comment necessary?
Their is alot of woe in society in general bud, especially these days for men
God forbid any of them express themselves and pluck the courage too seek out advice
Next time just keep scrolling this snarkiness certainly doesn't help
I clearly thought it necessary.
To be honest bud you are a member of a recreational sex site where single men out number other members by thousands to one.
Crack on and ask for advice from the minority participants and you will get the usual patronising and inane comments.
There are many look at me threads active or in the recent past have a look at them. In my opinion you and the other woe is me merchants are becoming tedious. As I said it’s a recreational sex site........treat it as such"
No I'll tell you now it wasn't necessary. what's tedious is having on the most part positive interactions with mostly everyone here then you come along with your asinine statements... It ain't appreciated
This platform is for everyone is it not? Just because you feel like thier is a disproportionate amount of singles males on this platform doesn't warrant such crass comments
Again just keep on scrolling... |
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By *ros2000 OP Man
over a year ago
London |
"What do you mean 'no pics no replies'? Are you setting parameters for the conditions under which you'll reply to women?
In this regards yes
Definitely getting alot of mix feedback about my profile some dig it and some not so much (which makes sense I'm naturally not going to be everyones cup of tea) i think I'm fine with we're it's currently at
As for pictures, I'll eventually take some naughty ones on my next play date
I think all in all going too club is definitely the best consistent advice coming out of here (i think especially for that important intital verification) and too dip my my toes or balls if you prefer into the scene I'm not as social as i use too be hence using this online platform... But i think I'll definitely have too give it a go
Thanks again too everyone taking the time too reply too this thread or meassging me directly
That comment comes across as arrogant, and would put me off replying. Don't set conditions for women if you want to get anywhere. Accept that on fab, unlike the rest of the world, women have the upper hand. Either play that game or don't bother trying IMO."
Arrogant because i have the right too choose who i sleep with? Because I'm entitled too have a preference?
Obviously if it doesn't work out for me on this platform it isn't the end of my fun I'll just seek out adventures elsewhere
But too call that arrogant simply because i wouldn't be comfortable communicating in an intimate way with someone that doesn't so much as have a picture just a blank avater... I'm sorry but if the genders were the other way round that would be such a weird thing too say |
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"Best face it unless you got wicked abs over 6ft and 7+ inch dick best assume you will barely get any interaction with anyone "
That viewpoint makes me laugh.
Not me, none of those attributes.
120+ meet verifications on my old single male profile.
Winston |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Best face it unless you got wicked abs over 6ft and 7+ inch dick best assume you will barely get any interaction with anyone
That viewpoint makes me laugh.
Not me, none of those attributes.
120+ meet verifications on my old single male profile.
Winston"
I was lost at the beginning  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry too everyone that's been so positive and helpful especially in the DMs i really do appreciate you guys, but as you can see I've started too get a bit annoyed here  "
You were annoyed last year when asking the same question |
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"Best face it unless you got wicked abs over 6ft and 7+ inch dick best assume you will barely get any interaction with anyone
That viewpoint makes me laugh.
Not me, none of those attributes.
120+ meet verifications on my old single male profile.
Winston
I was lost at the beginning "
I've got wicked abs.
They're just well protected by layers of fat. 
I've been calling it my winter weight for 8 years now.
Winston |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Best face it unless you got wicked abs over 6ft and 7+ inch dick best assume you will barely get any interaction with anyone
That viewpoint makes me laugh.
Not me, none of those attributes.
120+ meet verifications on my old single male profile.
Winston
I was lost at the beginning
I've got wicked abs.
They're just well protected by layers of fat.
I've been calling it my winter weight for 8 years now.
Winston "
I'm sure you do and a wonderful personality to match |
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By *ros2000 OP Man
over a year ago
London |
"Best face it unless you got wicked abs over 6ft and 7+ inch dick best assume you will barely get any interaction with anyone
Wow
Folk can charm their way to the front ya know  "
Haha ain't that the truth |
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"...Accept that on fab, unlike the rest of the world, women have the upper hand. Either play that game or don't bother trying IMO.y"
Could not disagree more.
We would much rather someone was on here being honest about what they want. Of course, some element about what they offer too would improve their chances. Yet, we tend to avoid men's profiles which are all about 'only want to meet your needs' etc., because they're lying.
No guy has joined fab because he is concerned that someone out there is not getting enough sex! And to imply that men cannot have preferences - where women and couples most certainly do - just seems a bit ridiculous to me. |
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"...Accept that on fab, unlike the rest of the world, women have the upper hand. Either play that game or don't bother trying IMO.y
Could not disagree more.
We would much rather someone was on here being honest about what they want. Of course, some element about what they offer too would improve their chances. Yet, we tend to avoid men's profiles which are all about 'only want to meet your needs' etc., because they're lying.
No guy has joined fab because he is concerned that someone out there is not getting enough sex! And to imply that men cannot have preferences - where women and couples most certainly do - just seems a bit ridiculous to me."
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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That comment comes across as arrogant, and would put me off replying. Don't set conditions for women if you want to get anywhere. Accept that on fab, unlike the rest of the world, women have the upper hand. Either play that game or don't bother trying IMO."
I don't think men should jump through hoops because a person has a vagina. Meets should be a mutual respect thing. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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That comment comes across as arrogant, and would put me off replying. Don't set conditions for women if you want to get anywhere. Accept that on fab, unlike the rest of the world, women have the upper hand. Either play that game or don't bother trying IMO.
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I don't think men should jump through hoops because a person has a vagina. Meets should be a mutual respect thing. I can only imagine the length of the thread if this was a man saying this about women. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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The man asked for advice , we all need that sometimes. He didn't whinge or moan and politley accepted the advice even if he doesn't want to use all of it.
Asking a question on the forum is allowed. Asking it again 6 months later is also allowed. We shouldn't really try and humilate people for starting threads. |
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That comment comes across as arrogant, and would put me off replying. Don't set conditions for women if you want to get anywhere. Accept that on fab, unlike the rest of the world, women have the upper hand. Either play that game or don't bother trying IMO.
I don't think men should jump through hoops because a person has a vagina. Meets should be a mutual respect thing. I can only imagine the length of the thread if this was a man saying this about women. "
That's literally my point though. The sexes AREN'T equal on fab. If men want to get access to vagina they need to do whatever the woman wants them to do - or not bother trying as they will get nowhere. A man saying that about a woman would be highly deluded!! |
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