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By *9erlover OP Man
over a year ago
Sleepy Dorset |
I am a little nervous asking for advice as I’m well aware I’m laying myself open for ridicule.
I don’t get sex that often and often find I cum within 2-3 mins through penetration. I would love to last longer…at least 10 mins would be great. Edging is fine but always feel it is a disappointment to the female that I withdraw just as she’s getting going.
I love lots of foreplay and tend to make sure my female partner gets a lot of attention before penetration and always try and make sure she cums first but this doesn’t always happen if she hasn’t cum before penetration.
Luckily I can repeat and it does last a little longer second time round.
Any sensible advice from anyone? |
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Do you have to withdraw? Could you slow down? Change positions?
Whilst changing positions you can indulge in more play so it's not like you are stopping the fun.
I've heard some people say that cock rings make them last longer.
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
It's a bit of an impossible mission trying to make a woman cum, so I wouldn't focus too much about it and just enjoy it (as a woman riding your face is a pretty good thing).
There's a thread now talking about farting during sex and that's exactly what it is - dirty, noisy, messy and the rest, it's not one sided
I am not saying foreplay isn't a good thing but the idea of going down for hours, fingerbashing, even slow play can often be more boring than a turn on. So just go with the flow .. if you want to fuck, fuck, if you want to stop, stop - lick, rub but what is usually a tease is rhythm and pace.
As far as lasting longer just keep at it. In my experience you can last hours one day and minutes the next, it happens. But over time it happens less as you gain control over thoughts, your balls, motion, contact, positions, will power.
Those are my ramblings anyway.
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"I am a little nervous asking for advice as I’m well aware I’m laying myself open for ridicule.
I don’t get sex that often and often find I cum within 2-3 mins through penetration. I would love to last longer…at least 10 mins would be great. Edging is fine but always feel it is a disappointment to the female that I withdraw just as she’s getting going.
I love lots of foreplay and tend to make sure my female partner gets a lot of attention before penetration and always try and make sure she cums first but this doesn’t always happen if she hasn’t cum before penetration.
Luckily I can repeat and it does last a little longer second time round.
Any sensible advice from anyone?"
I think its quite sad that you had to worry about being ridiculed for something so sensitive, so I'm glad you didn't have to go through that and there were some decent helpful advice.
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"Many thanks for the advice….changing positions and a cock ring might be worth a go"
Be carefully with metal cock rings as they can be rather uncomfortable to some women,our friends metal cock ring has actually bruised Cazz as well as a few other women that's why I use a rubber or silicone one. |
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By *onMashMan
over a year ago
Lichfield |
Plenty of foreplay arousal for your partner, use withdrawal and change positions regular. I find the longest position I can last is where she sits on your cock facing away, then leans forward and her legs slide up to your face. That position enables you to play with or finger her ass and if you squeeze her legs inward it's a lot tighter and pleasurable for your parter to orgasm as it presses on the g spot.. Then when she's cum, she sits on your legs facing you and wanks you off, definitely one of the best excluding deep throat lol... |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
maidenhead |
For me it’s all in the head. Learn what makes you cum quick like going at it fast and deep. Then learn to slow it down and don’t quite go full depth.
I learnt what does it for me also many years ago I pulled my forskin back and learnt to deal with it back in normal everyday life.
What that did for me was de sensitise my cock which makes me last longer.
On a good day I can go for away 20mins before I cum from for penatration or I can almost cum on command using the knowledge I learnt over the years.
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"I am a little nervous asking for advice as I’m well aware I’m laying myself open for ridicule.
I don’t get sex that often and often find I cum within 2-3 mins through penetration. I would love to last longer…at least 10 mins would be great. Edging is fine but always feel it is a disappointment to the female that I withdraw just as she’s getting going.
I love lots of foreplay and tend to make sure my female partner gets a lot of attention before penetration and always try and make sure she cums first but this doesn’t always happen if she hasn’t cum before penetration.
Luckily I can repeat and it does last a little longer second time round.
Any sensible advice from anyone?"
Get prescribed a ssri drug like sertraline. Not ashamed to say that I've taken it for years for mild depression due to a chemical imbalance in my brain. Side effect is often very prolonged ejaculation. Annoyingly, sometimes I struggle to cum at all.  |
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There is the pinch technique too.
If you feel the tadpoles are about to leave the aquarium before you want them to, squeeze the base of your cock very firmly between finger and thumb until they settle down.
Free and effective and repeatable. It does work, as long as you dont get there too late. |
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Try getting into positions where you control the rate of movement / energy rather than your partner.
Break off from penetration and switch to giving her oral, when you feel the sap rising too much.
Try different thrusting techniques - you may feel that a 'whole body thrust', rather than a 'hip thrust' (or vice versa) works better for you. |
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By *ip2Man
over a year ago
Near Maidenhead |
1. Reduce your sexual anxiety. Talking to your partner may help.
2. Do some exercises to strengthen your PC muscle. The PC muscle is the one you use to stop peeing.
3. Practice on your own, without porn, naked in a quiet place where you won't be disturbed. Only cum after 10 minutes, no less than that. How:
Start masturbating and work yourself up to a 7 on your arousal scale, where 0 is not aroused and 10 is the point of no return where ejaculating becomes inevitable.
Stop and let yourself cool down to a 5.
Work up to an 8, and then stop again and let yourself slide down to a 6.
Up to 9, down to 7.
Up to 9.5, down to 7
again. A 9.5 is just before the point of no return.
Repeat the 9.5 to 7 cycle until you get past 10 minutes... Then you can go ahead and cum.
With practice you'll probably get better at it.
Introduce a partner and tell her what you're doing.
I recommend Nat Eliason's article "How to last 20 minutes or longer in bed" which is easy to find online with that title. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Pelvic floor muscles exercises and control your breathing. Don't think about sex as much try leaving the mind blank and when the time comes don't get all excited where your mind just wonders of thinking naughty thoughts be calm and hold back them thoughts |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"I am a little nervous asking for advice as I’m well aware I’m laying myself open for ridicule.
I don’t get sex that often and often find I cum within 2-3 mins through penetration. I would love to last longer…at least 10 mins would be great. Edging is fine but always feel it is a disappointment to the female that I withdraw just as she’s getting going.
I love lots of foreplay and tend to make sure my female partner gets a lot of attention before penetration and always try and make sure she cums first but this doesn’t always happen if she hasn’t cum before penetration.
Luckily I can repeat and it does last a little longer second time round.
Any sensible advice from anyone?
Get prescribed a ssri drug like sertraline. Not ashamed to say that I've taken it for years for mild depression due to a chemical imbalance in my brain. Side effect is often very prolonged ejaculation. Annoyingly, sometimes I struggle to cum at all. "
I can vouch for that, this needs careful consideration with your GP. It does carry the risk of being permanently affected and ending up with a penis that can't detect temperature.
Research this one very carefully. |
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Stop masturbating and watching porn, if you do and start to do a lot of physical activities like working out. Also cut down on sugar and drink a lot of water.
That’s just to name a few.
For further advice feel free to reach out in messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to have a similar problem of cumming way to fast in one position namely doggy andbits my fav ... or if i was extremly turned on by the women ...
U need to not be so worried about if u do cum the more ur qith a women the more relaxed uk feel andbget to know her and her u and u can easily stop as u feel urself climaxing ..
Look into tantric body work and breathin exercises aslo viagra actually can help as it can in modt peiple prolong the time it takes to ejactulate . .
Agree less masturbating helps and thicker condoms if u use them also delay sprays are good ...
But ultimatel find peace in thd fact if u cum u cum and just make sure shes climaxed before u with use of forplay and oral and finger and toy play if needs be
God luck |
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