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Wife doesn’t really want to swing at the moment, but says I’m free to
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I really like the swinging world and love watching the pleasure that Regina gets whilst doing so.
Her confidence has gone. I tried arranging a meet with a regular that we know in a hotel today, but her confidence is too low and she told me to cancel all plans.
She said last night that I’m free to meet up with others but not sure how I feel about it. I was ok with the idea of her being a hot wife, but not sure about going it alone. By biggest kick is watching her get the pleasure.
Are there any other guys that have done this with their wife’s blessing.
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"I really like the swinging world and love watching the pleasure that Regina gets whilst doing so.
Her confidence has gone. I tried arranging a meet with a regular that we know in a hotel today, but her confidence is too low and she told me to cancel all plans.
She said last night that I’m free to meet up with others but not sure how I feel about it. I was ok with the idea of her being a hot wife, but not sure about going it alone. By biggest kick is watching her get the pleasure.
Are there any other guys that have done this with their wife’s blessing.
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We have done this, usually with other couples we know, as unknown couples just think he’s trying to pull a fast one. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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As you say your wife said that it's ok, saying is one thing but did she say it just to keep you happy. Remember she's lacking confidence as you say so would it be ok as well. You thinking about you and not her as well |
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More often than not … in my humble experience, this is nothing more than an excuse for a single man to engage with others and hide the fact they are single … I’m no Sherlock Holmes, but it is easy to work it out! … and I’ve reported a few.
However … I can very much see from your profile and veris’ that this is not the case here at all, and can see you are a genuine couple, and it is such a shame. As others have said, it might be good to understand why her confidence has gone… and this may be psychological or physical issue - perhaps have that discussion. From the pictures I can see, Regina looks a stunning lady .. and that is speaking as another ‘lady’!! 
Love Rachel xx |
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over a year ago
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yep , thats what hapend to us ,
sue stoped swinging for 2 years due to covid and her menopause , , has now started to play again
but fabs wont return our profile back to a couple , so looks like we will have to start a new one,
but you are right , most people think i am trying to pull a fast one and dont belive my profile,
but if they read our veri,s they would see we are a couple . xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"yep , thats what hapend to us ,
sue stoped swinging for 2 years due to covid and her menopause , , has now started to play again
but fabs wont return our profile back to a couple , so looks like we will have to start a new one,
but you are right , most people think i am trying to pull a fast one and dont belive my profile,
but if they read our veri,s they would see we are a couple . xx"
If Sue has started being active again just start a new couples profile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes spot on , we would lose all of our veries.
we have messeged admin twice and they never replied. now sue has lost her mum , funeral mid jan ,
so at the end of january , yes , we will be starting a new couple profile . xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If Sue has started being active again just start a new couples profile
But then they would lose all their verifications"
I thought he'd lost his couples account already, it won't be reinstated he said |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"yes spot on , we would lose all of our veries.
we have messeged admin twice and they never replied. now sue has lost her mum , funeral mid jan ,
so at the end of january , yes , we will be starting a new couple profile . xx"
So sorry to hear of Sues mother, wishing her strength and love |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes you are correct it wont be reinstated
so we will have to delete this one completly and start a new one ,
as we have got our joint pics and pics of sue on here but admin have blocked them so we cant show them ,
we do find it strange that admin have the power to delete or block pics , but for some reason wont re instate them
anyway , thats my moan for today , and we will start a new profile after sue,s mums funeral . x |
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"What do you think has caused her to lose confidence ?"
Think it’s a bit of both physical and psychological reasons. Her confidence has always been a little low, and the last time we were really active swingers we were attending the gym a lot more.
I think she might just be saying yes for me to meet others as our sex drives don’t match. Her sex drive is a lot lower than mine and she is quite happy with just 2-3 times a week.
To answer some other questions I would either prefer we did this together or not at all the more I think about it. I don’t like the idea of doing this without her at the moment.
I think she’s a knockout, but as we’ve been together so long my compliments don’t come across as strong as from others.
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"What do you think has caused her to lose confidence ?
Think it’s a bit of both physical and psychological reasons. Her confidence has always been a little low, and the last time we were really active swingers we were attending the gym a lot more.
I think she might just be saying yes for me to meet others as our sex drives don’t match. Her sex drive is a lot lower than mine and she is quite happy with just 2-3 times a week.
To answer some other questions I would either prefer we did this together or not at all the more I think about it. I don’t like the idea of doing this without her at the moment.
I think she’s a knockout, but as we’ve been together so long my compliments don’t come across as strong as from others.
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Do you do date nights, ask her to dress up, meal out, hopefully you're still making the effort to feel sexy for herself |
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"I really like the swinging world and love watching the pleasure that Regina gets whilst doing so.
Her confidence has gone. I tried arranging a meet with a regular that we know in a hotel today, but her confidence is too low and she told me to cancel all plans.
She said last night that I’m free to meet up with others but not sure how I feel about it. I was ok with the idea of her being a hot wife, but not sure about going it alone. By biggest kick is watching her get the pleasure.
Are there any other guys that have done this with their wife’s blessing.
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You have her blessings. If your secure that she is a 100% routing for you to go have a good time then sure all you need to ask is do you want to? Just because you can doesn't mean you want to? Sounds you not even sure if want to or are comfortable doing it. No one is going to make you get out there and get laid. And of course there are people on the scene who just move to the social side of things and retire their sex boots while still being part of the scene and hanging with freinds.
I get it's sad when you love sharing something with your other half and they stop. But that is out of your control. What is in your control is how you take things forward. So you need to look to your self and ask can the scene fulfill other desires I have? And you don't need to do this tomorrow, take time to work out what you actually want. |
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Liz is OK with me meeting on my own. However on my own I'm just another man in a sea of men, and pretty average. There are lots and lots of male halves of couples trying to met. You're a small fish in a big pond. Good luck. |
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"yes spot on , we would lose all of our veries.
we have messeged admin twice and they never replied. now sue has lost her mum , funeral mid jan ,
so at the end of january , yes , we will be starting a new couple profile . xx"
Bloody hell! At least let her mum go cold before you start using your wife as sex bait again!!!  |
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It's the relationship that's central to your world, not swinging. Keep your focus on that and everything else can be laid to rest, until you may want to pursue things, even if with a different approach. |
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If she has lost confidence then I doubt you going to meets on your own will improve hers. She may be worried you'll get bored or leave if she doesn't give you her blessing. Focus on the relationship, swinging should only ever be a cherry on the cake and is not worth losing real love over. |
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