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Profiles do people really read them?
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By *usky1 OP Woman
over a year ago
Greater London |
I have clearly stated on my profile the age range,etc (personal preference) so why do I still get people contacting me who don't meet these standards.
Also when a profile asks people not to friend request without talking or meeting why do people still do it??? |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
Yeah, I have pulled quite a few men up on this, and they assured me, they had read my profile, but 'if you don't ask you don't get', and that pisses me off even more....Now I just choose to ignore them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always read them and even if I'm really interested, if you set preferences I don't introduce myself.
Guess some people play the figures game as opposed to looking at profiles to see if they have chemistry. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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Unfortunately, there is always going to be that element of people of here (and elsewhere) who don't read profiles and probably never will.
They only see a pic that appeals to their basic instincts and POW! they are writing you regardless of your requests etc in your Profile text.
Aggravating as it is, just move on and forget them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I ask for a specialist phase in the subject part of an initial message to help see who has actually read my profile so I can ignore the ones that clearly haven't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They go straight to the pics with out reading profiles  common on fab,we just delete the message or wink if there profile doesnt look what we are looking for. |
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In the first paragraph you say that unless they are exceptional then dont contact you. Therefore all those that do contact you will have ignored the rest of the profile as they think themselves 'exceptional'.
When the definition of 'exceptional' is agreed then we will all be clear !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the first paragraph you say that unless they are exceptional then dont contact you. Therefore all those that do contact you will have ignored the rest of the profile as they think themselves 'exceptional'.
When the definition of 'exceptional' is agreed then we will all be clear !
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 its a confident individual who deems themselves exceptional |
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"In the first paragraph you say that unless they are exceptional then dont contact you. Therefore all those that do contact you will have ignored the rest of the profile as they think themselves 'exceptional'.
When the definition of 'exceptional' is agreed then we will all be clear !
its a confident individual who deems themselves exceptional "
If that is correct then 99% of guys on here see themselves as just that.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always read all the profile if some one has taken the time to write it then its only polite to read it and pay attention to the want likes and who they are! Then go to the photos and perv lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not everyone reads profiles no.
It's very clear in most cases, or they do not understand, or they do not care what we have put.
It makes it far easier to appreciate those that do, and we block those that don't.
If people don't read a profile they are clearly not what we look for.. in effect they filter themselves out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did but now I mostly skim them... Personally I think it's nice to have it there, but you run close to not needing to actually just have a conversation with someone!!
Plus I got bored of reading profiles and sending a message tailored to what they said and being blanked anyway.
Viscous cycle! |
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"Always read them and even if I'm really interested, if you set preferences I don't introduce myself.
Guess some people play the figures game as opposed to looking at profiles to see if they have chemistry. "
Same here. When we read profiles, if we're outside teir preferences, then we don't contact. As much as we may like them  |
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By *usky1 OP Woman
over a year ago
Greater London |
"In the first paragraph you say that unless they are exceptional then dont contact you. Therefore all those that do contact you will have ignored the rest of the profile as they think themselves 'exceptional'.
When the definition of 'exceptional' is agreed then we will all be clear !
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Thanks for this comment have now removed that sentence from the 1st paragraph. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely bother putting anything in my profile as most people don't read them.
I don't show up on searches so if they stumble on my profile some other way they see there's nothing there and leave me alone.
I go looking for people that interest me. Can't see the point in waiting around for unsuitable people to mail.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have clearly stated on my profile the age range,etc (personal preference) so why do I still get people contacting me who don't meet these standards.
Also when a profile asks people not to friend request without talking or meeting why do people still do it???"
Filters! 
And as for those pesky requests - wait til they've logged off, accept, browse their pics - then delete off friends list and decide whether to ignore, block or say hi! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We always read them. We think you can tell a lot about someone by how the profile is written. "
Totally agree. Not necessarily to judge them, but to look for compatibility. I dislike people ranting on their profiles or bad grammar (cringes that he may have made mistakes).
You wouldn't order a meal at a restaurant without knowing what it was, so why make contact with another without knowing if they are compatible in any way.
Ps I like your profile but I respect your desires |
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"I have clearly stated on my profile the age range,etc (personal preference) so why do I still get people contacting me who don't meet these standards.
Also when a profile asks people not to friend request without talking or meeting why do people still do it???"
alot don't but then you get the ones that do and ignore the bits that dont fit..lol.. had one completely against what we want in our profile.. he said "yes i know but you gotta try your luck aint ya"... Well no you don't.. quickest way to block list.. lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the first paragraph you say that unless they are exceptional then dont contact you. Therefore all those that do contact you will have ignored the rest of the profile as they think themselves 'exceptional'.
When the definition of 'exceptional' is agreed then we will all be clear !
its a confident individual who deems themselves exceptional
If that is correct then 99% of guys on here see themselves as just that. "
And of course there is the exceptionally bad  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We read them back to front before we message anyone to make sure we know what someone wants. Reckon most others do, but just a small percentage that don't read it, look at the pictures, drool and hit the friend-add button
Merry Christmas
Wolfie 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have clearly stated on my profile the age range,etc (personal preference) so why do I still get people contacting me who don't meet these standards.
Also when a profile asks people not to friend request without talking or meeting why do people still do it???"
Dusky, unfortunately it's going to happen. You can only do so much to reduce it (have you got all your filters set correctly?) and use the other tools on the site to control things - the most obvious one being the Block button. See in your profile that you are getting some who won't take no for an answer - that's when you need to block I'm afraid.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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sometimes i find it hard not to send sarcasm to the ones who send a message saying "ive read ur profile and love the sound of it" when they clearly dont fit what im looking for.. ie they are male and im not looking for males on here..
also people send messages to a profile they dont fit, dont get a reply, then come in here moaning no one replies.. sheesh  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
If I get no clear face pic the message is deleted - as I warn in my profile. If it is in text I do likewise.
Unsolicited friend requests are ignored and deleted.
Filters are all set.
No problem. |
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