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By *redy81Man
over a year ago
London |
Honestly, however, the best is to approach someone naturally, saying hello, just as you would do in a pub, the situation is still different a bit, as they will know that you probably have a "plan" with them, way more than pure socializing... So, it's different from a pub.
Ideally, everyone would feel the right and polite way how to express quickly that they are not interested in anything further than chatting, so none of you "waste their time", but sometimes it's not the case.
Actually, if following your polite approach, they give you some sort of bad look, or rude rejection then they are the ones who are socially awkward not you.
Sometimes I visit clubs with a female friend and as we are looking for couples only, poor single dudes who approach us have zero chances even tho they talk to us in a perfect manner. As (be honest!) none of us are there to spend that 4-5 hours talking about sports or simply socializing, usually I find a polite way to let them know what is the score. Rather make a joke out of myself, so they don't need to feel embarrassed. For example, if a single dude asks if he can join our table for a chat, I will tell him "certainly, you can, but I need to warn you that I'm a selfish twat, so unless you have a beautiful girlfriend who is about to join us once she is back from the bar, we are up for a chat only, as for anything else we are looking for couples"
I don't want him to feel "ashamed", so I make clear that the rejection is not for personal reasons just because we are not into single guys. But I also can't see any point in having a long chat with someone at a swinger's party if we have zero interest to move forward. That's wasted time for everybody. |
