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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
I have met a few couples and enjoyed MMF in the past. I've always considered myself straight but understand that's just an unnecessary label.
I've found myself watching more and more bi threesome porn and I think I want to gently try some bi stuff in a mmf scenario. Break me in gently so to speak!
Any advice on the best way to find this without being dismissed as "inexperienced" or straight! ?? |
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over a year ago
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Just go at your own pace, once your in the moment you will know if you want to keep exploring or your happy with where you have got too, took me a while to explore more and now iv had loads of fun. You will find some bi couples want people with experience and that’s completely understandable so don’t feel dismissed, and forget about labels, just get out there and have fun  |
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Changing your orientation on your profile might be a good start, I know not everyone likes to have it stated in their profile due to the stigma surrounding it for men but you may be dismissed as just trying your luck and saying what you can to join couples by stating differently in their inbox
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Changing your orientation on your profile might be a good start, I know not everyone likes to have it stated in their profile due to the stigma surrounding it for men but you may be dismissed as just trying your luck and saying what you can to join couples by stating differently in their inbox
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Thanks. I've thought about changing the bio to bi but worried that may put off a lot of women who I also like to meet solo. Also just get messages mostly from men.
These tags cause more problems than they are worth sometimes!! |
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Totally understand that, sadly it's not so freely accepted for men as it is women!
I absolutely love bi playful/het exible men  "
Hetroglexible! I like that!
I'm all about the flexible!! |
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By *ucks_cplCouple
over a year ago
Milton Keynes |
"Changing your orientation on your profile might be a good start, I know not everyone likes to have it stated in their profile due to the stigma surrounding it for men but you may be dismissed as just trying your luck and saying what you can to join couples by stating differently in their inbox
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Well said, we won't meet any guy that states they are straight in their profile and claim to be bi it their messages. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Changing your orientation on your profile might be a good start, I know not everyone likes to have it stated in their profile due to the stigma surrounding it for men but you may be dismissed as just trying your luck and saying what you can to join couples by stating differently in their inbox
Thanks. I've thought about changing the bio to bi but worried that may put off a lot of women who I also like to meet solo. Also just get messages mostly from men.
These tags cause more problems than they are worth sometimes!!"
What's more important to you? Trying something new as you've stated in your opening post, or not ruining your chances with people you may never even be viewed by, let alone meet?
If you want to be taken seriously be open about it. Contacting people looking for bi experiences when you have straight as your status is likely to be recieved exactly the same as having straight on your profile yet posting a forum thread about looking to try bi - not well at all.
You have a choice. Miss out on potential meets with bi couples because you're listed as straight, or miss on on those single women put off by bi males but boost your chances with bi couples. Bear in mind, as many single women don't actually care as those that do.
At least lose the ridiculous line about knowing you're totally straight. You've just proved that to be a fib with this forum thread. 
A |
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Changing your orientation on your profile might be a good start, I know not everyone likes to have it stated in their profile due to the stigma surrounding it for men but you may be dismissed as just trying your luck and saying what you can to join couples by stating differently in their inbox
Thanks. I've thought about changing the bio to bi but worried that may put off a lot of women who I also like to meet solo. Also just get messages mostly from men.
These tags cause more problems than they are worth sometimes!!
What's more important to you? Trying something new as you've stated in your opening post, or not ruining your chances with people you may never even be viewed by, let alone meet?
If you want to be taken seriously be open about it. Contacting people looking for bi experiences when you have straight as your status is likely to be recieved exactly the same as having straight on your profile yet posting a forum thread about looking to try bi - not well at all.
You have a choice. Miss out on potential meets with bi couples because you're listed as straight, or miss on on those single women put off by bi males but boost your chances with bi couples. Bear in mind, as many single women don't actually care as those that do.
At least lose the ridiculous line about knowing you're totally straight. You've just proved that to be a fib with this forum thread.
A"
Good points. I've posted this to understand more about what I really want and how to best approach it so thanks for your time.
Fair comment regarding the totally straight comment! I feel I am changing and so will my profile in time. |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"Changing your orientation on your profile might be a good start, I know not everyone likes to have it stated in their profile due to the stigma surrounding it for men but you may be dismissed as just trying your luck and saying what you can to join couples by stating differently in their inbox
Thanks. I've thought about changing the bio to bi but worried that may put off a lot of women who I also like to meet solo. Also just get messages mostly from men.
These tags cause more problems than they are worth sometimes!!
What's more important to you? Trying something new as you've stated in your opening post, or not ruining your chances with people you may never even be viewed by, let alone meet?
If you want to be taken seriously be open about it. Contacting people looking for bi experiences when you have straight as your status is likely to be recieved exactly the same as having straight on your profile yet posting a forum thread about looking to try bi - not well at all.
You have a choice. Miss out on potential meets with bi couples because you're listed as straight, or miss on on those single women put off by bi males but boost your chances with bi couples. Bear in mind, as many single women don't actually care as those that do.
At least lose the ridiculous line about knowing you're totally straight. You've just proved that to be a fib with this forum thread.
A"
Mrs here, we'd agree with that and recently changed D's orientation as it's something he's very open to try and I'm absolutely dying to witness/experience within the right dynamic for us..
However he has no attraction towards guys, it's a kink and desire to explore for both of us.
Honestly though since we have done so we're being passed up by many we'd be very much up for playing with..
So the double standard and stigma seems very much alive to us.. |
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Changing your orientation on your profile might be a good start, I know not everyone likes to have it stated in their profile due to the stigma surrounding it for men but you may be dismissed as just trying your luck and saying what you can to join couples by stating differently in their inbox
Thanks. I've thought about changing the bio to bi but worried that may put off a lot of women who I also like to meet solo. Also just get messages mostly from men.
These tags cause more problems than they are worth sometimes!!
What's more important to you? Trying something new as you've stated in your opening post, or not ruining your chances with people you may never even be viewed by, let alone meet?
If you want to be taken seriously be open about it. Contacting people looking for bi experiences when you have straight as your status is likely to be recieved exactly the same as having straight on your profile yet posting a forum thread about looking to try bi - not well at all.
You have a choice. Miss out on potential meets with bi couples because you're listed as straight, or miss on on those single women put off by bi males but boost your chances with bi couples. Bear in mind, as many single women don't actually care as those that do.
At least lose the ridiculous line about knowing you're totally straight. You've just proved that to be a fib with this forum thread.
A
Mrs here, we'd agree with that and recently changed D's orientation as it's something he's very open to try and I'm absolutely dying to witness/experience within the right dynamic for us..
However he has no attraction towards guys, it's a kink and desire to explore for both of us.
Honestly though since we have done so we're being passed up by many we'd be very much up for playing with..
So the double standard and stigma seems very much alive to us.."
So changing the status can be an issue. I'm having a good hard think about it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Changing from straight to bi orientation certainly opens options, I think people just take you more seriously (speaking from previously having it on straight) , you may find straight couples will no longer be interested as they can’t look beyond the label, but there’s plenty of fish in the sea a lot of couple have guys messaging claiming to be bi but they just want action with the wife, I think it’s a bit of a minefield for couples sadly |
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Changing from straight to bi orientation certainly opens options, I think people just take you more seriously (speaking from previously having it on straight) , you may find straight couples will no longer be interested as they can’t look beyond the label, but there’s plenty of fish in the sea a lot of couple have guys messaging claiming to be bi but they just want action with the wife, I think it’s a bit of a minefield for couples sadly"
Why does it have to be all about what the couple expects?
I'm out there saying I'm interested in exploring a bi side nothing more |
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You can always add your looking to try or your Hetero flexible within the right dynamic in your profile!
Gizmo has no attraction to men at all on the daily but during play he is happy to get involved with another man alongside me orally
Ask yourself this do you even want to play with people that can't see beyond a label that doesn't affect your play with them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Changing from straight to bi orientation certainly opens options, I think people just take you more seriously (speaking from previously having it on straight) , you may find straight couples will no longer be interested as they can’t look beyond the label, but there’s plenty of fish in the sea a lot of couple have guys messaging claiming to be bi but they just want action with the wife, I think it’s a bit of a minefield for couples sadly
Why does it have to be all about what the couple expects?
I'm out there saying I'm interested in exploring a bi side nothing more"
Sadly that just seems how it is on here, I can’t say iv ever found a male ‘attractive’ so to speak, I just like exploring in a sexual setting, but it just seems most couples want it visible and stated, not all may I add but iv had a few that way. It’s a shame people can’t just explore has to be put into a box |
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"You can always add your looking to try or your Hetero flexible within the right dynamic in your profile!
Gizmo has no attraction to men at all on the daily but during play he is happy to get involved with another man alongside me orally
Ask yourself this do you even want to play with people that can't see beyond a label that doesn't affect your play with them? "
Exactly. Im interested in oral and touching to start with. My profile is overdue an update! |
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Changing from straight to bi orientation certainly opens options, I think people just take you more seriously (speaking from previously having it on straight) , you may find straight couples will no longer be interested as they can’t look beyond the label, but there’s plenty of fish in the sea a lot of couple have guys messaging claiming to be bi but they just want action with the wife, I think it’s a bit of a minefield for couples sadly
Why does it have to be all about what the couple expects?
I'm out there saying I'm interested in exploring a bi side nothing more
Sadly that just seems how it is on here, I can’t say iv ever found a male ‘attractive’ so to speak, I just like exploring in a sexual setting, but it just seems most couples want it visible and stated, not all may I add but iv had a few that way. It’s a shame people can’t just explore has to be put into a box"
Exactly. I don't want a boyfriend but I'm open to exploring the sexual side of things in a group play. That's just what I'm getting horny about right now. |
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Whatever you do, make sure to go at your own pace and with what's comfortable to you! 
Bi club nights are great for a first look even of its just to witness such goings on in person, you'll also be aware that at the very least people in attendance are accepting of Bi play |
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Whatever you do, make sure to go at your own pace and with what's comfortable to you!
Bi club nights are great for a first look even of its just to witness such goings on in person, you'll also be aware that at the very least people in attendance are accepting of Bi play "
Sounds like a good plan. I've been daydreaming all day again!
Would love to see a couple sharing my cock |
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Thanks for the advice peeps.
I'm eying up a club visit this weekend. See how it goes.
Will update my profile this week too
would love to hear how you get on  "
I will do. Maybe you can invite dome friends along! |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
The easiest way would be to find a girl to form a couple ( or good fwb) and look for a guy to start with. This will allow you to go with your pace as most suggested here.
Second easier - go to a club bi night ( I made this second ad clubs aren’t for all, and some singles struggle there in general)
Most bi couples from the site are looking for experienced bi. Newbies are seeing as straight guys who wants to get to pussy no matter what ( and that’s is actually true in 99% of the cases).
The last option, go with the guy 1x1 till you confidently can call yourself experienced bi. There are a lot of guys around for as little as wank in the same room to as much as full flip flop fuck so again you’ll set the pace. Put y to his last as I understand for most this will be least preferable |
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By *hekMan
over a year ago
N/E London |
"Change your status to bi, give it a try, if it's not for you, change back to straight.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. "
What they said. All these identifiers and categorisations are riddled with interpretation if you want them to be. Give it a go, set no expectations on yourself apart from being more open to new things, and things should play out nicely with way.
Best wishes with it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Updated my profile to bi curious even though I think I prefer the term bit flexible I reckon.
Might try a club at new year as this month is crazy.
Watch this space! "
Your profile is still showing straight buddy.
KJ |
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Updated my profile to bi curious even though I think I prefer the term bit flexible I reckon.
Might try a club at new year as this month is crazy.
Watch this space!
Your profile is still showing straight buddy.
KJ"
Yes - I think I am keeping it that way for now. I updated the bio info and mentioned I'm keen to try new things |
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"I have met a few couples and enjoyed MMF in the past. I've always considered myself straight but understand that's just an unnecessary label.
I've found myself watching more and more bi threesome porn and I think I want to gently try some bi stuff in a mmf scenario. Break me in gently so to speak!
Any advice on the best way to find this without being dismissed as "inexperienced" or straight! ??"
Very similar experiences as you, changing of what i feel like trying. I need to update my profile a little. Good luck on your search. |
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"I have met a few couples and enjoyed MMF in the past. I've always considered myself straight but understand that's just an unnecessary label.
I've found myself watching more and more bi threesome porn and I think I want to gently try some bi stuff in a mmf scenario. Break me in gently so to speak!
Any advice on the best way to find this without being dismissed as "inexperienced" or straight! ??
Very similar experiences as you, changing of what i feel like trying. I need to update my profile a little. Good luck on your search. "
Thanks. It would be good to meet more guys that have felt like this and talk it out. Probably at a bi night at a club like has been suggested |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"Read ours? , 
I have read yours and liked the hetexible comment! I very much enjoyed your profile! Especially the videos x
It's a shame I'm not a couple too!!
The couple bit isn't so important to us.. The distance is a pity mind! Filters set only because of the majority seemingly are unable to read..
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Read ours? ,
I have read yours and liked the hetexible comment! I very much enjoyed your profile! Especially the videos x
It's a shame I'm not a couple too!!
The couple bit isn't so important to us.. The distance is a pity mind! Filters set only because of the majority seemingly are unable to read..
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Well drop me a message as I can't send you one. I don't mind speeding across the A50 for the right meet! X |
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As others have said changing your profile to bi-curious would open up options for those searching. Keep your “looking for” to F/ FF/ FM if you’re not looking for single guys, your bio is good is clear on what you want too.
As a couple with a straight Mrs and bi Mr it’s hard for us too. We get so many messages and winks from “straight” guys who don’t clarify their interests. Don’t be shy! Those who have a problem with your interest in dabbling with tail probably aren’t for you anyway |
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"As others have said changing your profile to bi-curious would open up options for those searching. Keep your “looking for” to F/ FF/ FM if you’re not looking for single guys, your bio is good is clear on what you want too.
As a couple with a straight Mrs and bi Mr it’s hard for us too. We get so many messages and winks from “straight” guys who don’t clarify their interests. Don’t be shy! Those who have a problem with your interest in dabbling with tail probably aren’t for you anyway "
Thanks for your input. I like your profile too |
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By *izredCouple
over a year ago
mid cornwall |
"I have met a few couples and enjoyed MMF in the past. I've always considered myself straight but understand that's just an unnecessary label.
I've found myself watching more and more bi threesome porn and I think I want to gently try some bi stuff in a mmf scenario. Break me in gently so to speak!
Any advice on the best way to find this without being dismissed as "inexperienced" or straight! ??"
We recently had our first Mmf bi experience.
I think part of the reason it worked for us was that we were all coming at it from the same place. We were lucky enough to find a playmate that has very similar outlook on life as us. This meant that there was no feelings of two battling alpha males trying to impress the Female, it felt more like three different shaped bodies all enjoying each other. (Not sure if that makes sense?!)
Also, we had met the guy previously, so we were already relaxed around each other and had spent a while beforehand messaging in a group chat about what we may like to try. We all experienced firsts and have now got a lot more ideas in mind for our next play.
As with all of this, communication and openess is the key to a successful experience in my opinion.
Hope you find what you are after.
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By *94mee OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"I have met a few couples and enjoyed MMF in the past. I've always considered myself straight but understand that's just an unnecessary label.
I've found myself watching more and more bi threesome porn and I think I want to gently try some bi stuff in a mmf scenario. Break me in gently so to speak!
Any advice on the best way to find this without being dismissed as "inexperienced" or straight! ??
We recently had our first Mmf bi experience.
I think part of the reason it worked for us was that we were all coming at it from the same place. We were lucky enough to find a playmate that has very similar outlook on life as us. This meant that there was no feelings of two battling alpha males trying to impress the Female, it felt more like three different shaped bodies all enjoying each other. (Not sure if that makes sense?!)
Also, we had met the guy previously, so we were already relaxed around each other and had spent a while beforehand messaging in a group chat about what we may like to try. We all experienced firsts and have now got a lot more ideas in mind for our next play.
As with all of this, communication and openess is the key to a successful experience in my opinion.
Hope you find what you are after.
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Sounds great. I have a couple in group chat and I like being open as you say so hopefully our next meet will be what I hope!
I'll be sure to report back here!
Thanks everyone |
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