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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey fellow fabbera im after some help and advice ... recentlu come back to fab after an 8 year gap and bpy has it changed and is supwr heavily populated...
When i first joined i had some reallt lovelt meets and met some wonderful people but since cpming back my experienxes are very barron
I dont think iv aged all thay bad innthe 8 years but as a aingle man im finding it nah on impossoble to meet and was wondwring would it be down to my images as i dont post public face images due to work like most of no theres always someone on here we recognise socially .
I always attached images tklo every message but dont gwt omw songle reply (am i thay ugly lol)
Wpuld anyone be abkw tp offer some help at all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im autistic as well ao i communicaye diff to others ... i dont no what else tp put on my profile i was being ver black and white ...
As for my inages i struggle i dont want my face public and my body isnt exaclty ripped so i figured well i hope iv a devent cock sell ur best asset 
Sorry i offended so many so quick |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I dont no what inage to have tho i work in the puvlic sector so cant have my face up
Its so difficukt as a single man to know how to please everyone to stabd out or have a chance when uv to be private |
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"I don't reply to messages with a cock avatar and I bet other women are the same"
Me neither. Op you have to realise fab isn’t the same as it was. Lower your expectations sort your pics and bio out and maybe think about a club or social |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't reply to messages with a cock avatar and I bet other women are the same
Me neither. Op you have to realise fab isn’t the same as it was. Lower your expectations sort your pics and bio out and maybe think about a club or social "
Biv edites my profile 3 times already . Text and bio wise ... iv often wanted to go to a club but due to the enormous rejection on here its made me extremlt self concious and id ve scared to go to a clun and face the same rejection to my face i no im no brad pitt but didnt think i was that ugly ...
As i say i alwsys post images of my face im ever message |
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"I don't reply to messages with a cock avatar and I bet other women are the same
Me neither. Op you have to realise fab isn’t the same as it was. Lower your expectations sort your pics and bio out and maybe think about a club or social
Biv edites my profile 3 times already . Text and bio wise ... iv often wanted to go to a club but due to the enormous rejection on here its made me extremlt self concious and id ve scared to go to a clun and face the same rejection to my face i no im no brad pitt but didnt think i was that ugly ...
As i say i alwsys post images of my face im ever message "
Clubs arnt a guarantee of sex. Lots go to socialise |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't reply to messages with a cock avatar and I bet other women are the same
Me neither. Op you have to realise fab isn’t the same as it was. Lower your expectations sort your pics and bio out and maybe think about a club or social
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Biv edites my profile 3 times already . Text and bio wise ... iv often wanted to go to a club but due to the enormous rejection on here its made me extremlt self concious and id ve scared to go to a clun and face the same rejection to my face i no im no brad pitt but didnt think i was that ugly ...
As i say i alwsys post images of my face im ever message
Clubs arnt a guarantee of sex. Lots go to socialise"
No i understsnd that and woukdnt presum to thinknid be getting sex but im not the most amazing person socially with my autism anyways and my ticks most just laugh at me ... its a difficukt situation when all u want to do is enjoy someome |
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As others have said, the cock pics are a turn off - one pic is enough, don't need lots of different angles and filters;
The vast majority of us on here don't have face pics public. Unless you're a floating penis there are many other aspects of yourself you can show  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What type of pics and bio did you have when you were successful eight years ago ?"
To be torally honest mostly the same i had a gew body shots as obv i was a little slimmer on just 1 fave pic but i wasnt working in the job i do now .... plus 8 years ago there wasnt a 1 million men to every 1 lady hahahah |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As others have said, the cock pics are a turn off - one pic is enough, don't need lots of different angles and filters;
The vast majority of us on here don't have face pics public. Unless you're a floating penis there are many other aspects of yourself you can show "
Surely people dont wanna see my fatter belly or my pimpled ass .... its easier for lady they hve boobs a bum and their lady to show off most men unless ur ripped to hell have their penis if there fave isnt doing it for anyone ur pretty much done for haha |
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"As others have said, the cock pics are a turn off - one pic is enough, don't need lots of different angles and filters;
The vast majority of us on here don't have face pics public. Unless you're a floating penis there are many other aspects of yourself you can show
Surely people dont wanna see my fatter belly or my pimpled ass .... its easier for lady they hve boobs a bum and their lady to show off most men unless ur ripped to hell have their penis if there fave isnt doing it for anyone ur pretty much done for haha"
I prefer guys that aren't athletic, and I know a number of ladies would feel the same  |
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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago
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"I don't reply to messages with a cock avatar and I bet other women are the same
Me neither. Op you have to realise fab isn’t the same as it was. Lower your expectations sort your pics and bio out and maybe think about a club or social
Biv edites my profile 3 times already . Text and bio wise ... iv often wanted to go to a club but due to the enormous rejection on here its made me extremlt self concious and id ve scared to go to a clun and face the same rejection to my face i no im no brad pitt but didnt think i was that ugly ...
As i say i alwsys post images of my face im ever message "
We think you will find most of the rejection faced on here is not the same in a club, most of the reasons we decline to interact on here don't factor in a club setting, mostly because if they are stood in front of you, 1st of all they have clearly turned up, so the issue of fakes and picture collectors is negated, other issues like grammar, spelling, lack of detail in bio, all that goes out the window too.
Secondly people generally approach differently in person, for a start you usually see the person before their appendage (usually being the operative word) this alone will shift the dynamic massively.
You have to accept that this is still a somewhat anonymous medium and people will treat it with the same caution as any other social media site if not more so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Applogies for my spelling i have dyslexcia and dispraxcia as well so i struggle to see the spelling and i type way to fast ... "
Find you're inner creative side and snap some shots at different angles and with a different context e.g. wearing clothes, wearing little clothes, etc.
I sometimes have a moment where I'm not sure what to snap, but it'll come to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As others have said, the cock pics are a turn off - one pic is enough, don't need lots of different angles and filters;
The vast majority of us on here don't have face pics public. Unless you're a floating penis there are many other aspects of yourself you can show
Surely people dont wanna see my fatter belly or my pimpled ass .... its easier for lady they hve boobs a bum and their lady to show off most men unless ur ripped to hell have their penis if there fave isnt doing it for anyone ur pretty much done for haha"
Then work on the bits you don’t like? Not every woman is confident in their boobs or bum but they wear flattering outfits and use interesting angles. I’m not fussed about ripped men BUT I think men should take pride in their appearance.
If you say “what about me would a woman want to look at”, do you not see what you’re saying? You’re saying you’re not attractive but that you don’t understand why women don’t want to meet you. Why would a woman want to meet a guy who self-describes himself as having a fat belly and pimpled ass?
Women aren’t looking just for a cock. They’re looking for the whole man. If you’re not confident in what you’re offering, what do you think women will find appealing about you? We want more than a penis. |
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"As others have said, the cock pics are a turn off - one pic is enough, don't need lots of different angles and filters;
The vast majority of us on here don't have face pics public. Unless you're a floating penis there are many other aspects of yourself you can show
Surely people dont wanna see my fatter belly or my pimpled ass .... its easier for lady they hve boobs a bum and their lady to show off most men unless ur ripped to hell have their penis if there fave isnt doing it for anyone ur pretty much done for haha
Then work on the bits you don’t like? Not every woman is confident in their boobs or bum but they wear flattering outfits and use interesting angles. I’m not fussed about ripped men BUT I think men should take pride in their appearance.
If you say “what about me would a woman want to look at”, do you not see what you’re saying? You’re saying you’re not attractive but that you don’t understand why women don’t want to meet you. Why would a woman want to meet a guy who self-describes himself as having a fat belly and pimpled ass?
Women aren’t looking just for a cock. They’re looking for the whole man. If you’re not confident in what you’re offering, what do you think women will find appealing about you? We want more than a penis. "
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"I dont no what inage to have tho i work in the puvlic sector so cant have my face up
Its so difficukt as a single man to know how to please everyone to stabd out or have a chance when uv to be private"
First thing, you'll never please everyone. Doesn't matter if you look like Alexander Skarsgard in The Northman, donate money to orphans and invent a cure for cancer. It just won't happen. Be yourself, flaunt your Dad bod and stop apologising for it. Try social meets, go to clubs and just talk to people, as if they are people. |
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Agree with everything above, profile just full of cock pics, I'd personally avoid, nothing written about yourself what your into, nothing to give anyone a nudge to message you over the 1739201 profiles of cock pics.
Maybe look at some of the more verified male profiles and get some inspiration, the last thing I want to see from a man is his cock.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Gonna try hard to re qrite my boi etc . But gos knows avout pics iv no mirror big enough and no one to take pics but might try somat
Thanks rveryone
Im a really nice guy jist hars getting to show that past a written profike |
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"Gonna try hard to re qrite my boi etc . But gos knows avout pics iv no mirror big enough and no one to take pics but might try somat
Thanks rveryone
Im a really nice guy jist hars getting to show that past a written profike "
Front facing camera on phone and timer option |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you have a friend or colleague who could take some clothed pics of you and then you could crop your head off ?"
I no ul think im being hars work but not really i dont date as i find it hard to communicate woth people i express sexually i suffer from hypersexuailty but most who meet me think im a great guy ... i will try thr front camara idea and try my spare phone xxx
Thanks everyone |
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Every point raised above still stands.
You should proof read. I'm not dyslexic, I don't know how hard it really is. But just saying you're dyslexic and type too fast indicates that you just can't be bothered to even pretend to try and fix it yourself, it can just be someone else's problem to decipher it. I find that super appealing personally. |
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"Do you have a friend or colleague who could take some clothed pics of you and then you could crop your head off ?
I no ul think im being hars work but not really i dont date as i find it hard to communicate woth people i express sexually i suffer from hypersexuailty but most who meet me think im a great guy ... i will try thr front camara idea and try my spare phone xxx
Thanks everyone "
Honestly. Your really not selling yourself |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Every point raised above still stands.
You should proof read. I'm not dyslexic, I don't know how hard it really is. But just saying you're dyslexic and type too fast indicates that you just can't be bothered to even pretend to try and fix it yourself, it can just be someone else's problem to decipher it. I find that super appealing personally. "
Thats a fair point . And i guess i have to try hard...just bit stubburn think i am me if someone cant take me for me warts and all spelling mistaks and appreciate iv some learning difficulties then do i want them . But i guess iv to try alot harder as its not fair to expect someone to know what im typing if its not readable xx
Proof red and edited there u go lolol xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you have a friend or colleague who could take some clothed pics of you and then you could crop your head off ?
I no ul think im being hars work but not really i dont date as i find it hard to communicate woth people i express sexually i suffer from hypersexuailty but most who meet me think im a great guy ... i will try thr front camara idea and try my spare phone xxx
Thanks everyone
Honestly. Your really not selling yourself "
Didnt realise u had to i thought in the #bekind world we live in people might take the same time i take to get to know someone and know judge the solely in there looks .... sadly iv jad the qorse expereiences dating . Mental pysically and sexually assaukyed and constant kick downs makes it hard to always have perfect self confidence. Xx |
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"sadly iv jad the qorse expereiences dating . Mental pysically and sexually assaukyed and constant kick downs makes it hard to always have perfect self confidence. Xx "
Do you think perhaps you should take a break from dating and swinging to recover from these traumatic experiences ? |
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"Do you have a friend or colleague who could take some clothed pics of you and then you could crop your head off ?
I no ul think im being hars work but not really i dont date as i find it hard to communicate woth people i express sexually i suffer from hypersexuailty but most who meet me think im a great guy ... i will try thr front camara idea and try my spare phone xxx
Thanks everyone
Honestly. Your really not selling yourself
Didnt realise u had to i thought in the #bekind world we live in people might take the same time i take to get to know someone and know judge the solely in there looks .... sadly iv jad the qorse expereiences dating . Mental pysically and sexually assaukyed and constant kick downs makes it hard to always have perfect self confidence. Xx "
Unfortunately on here that’s not the case. People do judge people. No body cam see your face so don’t know why you are saying people find you unattractive. I find it unattractive when people put themselves down and make excuses. What’s wrong with bringing out all the positives about yourself |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"sadly iv jad the qorse expereiences dating . Mental pysically and sexually assaukyed and constant kick downs makes it hard to always have perfect self confidence. Xx
Do you think perhaps you should take a break from dating and swinging to recover from these traumatic experiences ?"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"sadly iv jad the qorse expereiences dating . Mental pysically and sexually assaukyed and constant kick downs makes it hard to always have perfect self confidence. Xx
Do you think perhaps you should take a break from dating and swinging to recover from these traumatic experiences ?"
Been single 2 half years ... i started trying to date a few month ago and had 1 date where she got d*unk and started an argument qith a waiter hahha other then that the horrid comment on pof and tinder where worse then here so i thought try fab again lololol ... |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"sadly iv jad the qorse expereiences dating . Mental pysically and sexually assaukyed and constant kick downs makes it hard to always have perfect self confidence. Xx
Do you think perhaps you should take a break from dating and swinging to recover from these traumatic experiences ?
Been single 2 half years ... i started trying to date a few month ago and had 1 date where she got d*unk and started an argument qith a waiter hahha other then that the horrid comment on pof and tinder where worse then here so i thought try fab again lololol ... "
We’ll take the advice on board about your profile and see what happens |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you have a friend or colleague who could take some clothed pics of you and then you could crop your head off ?
I no ul think im being hars work but not really i dont date as i find it hard to communicate woth people i express sexually i suffer from hypersexuailty but most who meet me think im a great guy ... i will try thr front camara idea and try my spare phone xxx
Thanks everyone
Honestly. Your really not selling yourself
Didnt realise u had to i thought in the #bekind world we live in people might take the same time i take to get to know someone and know judge the solely in there looks .... sadly iv jad the qorse expereiences dating . Mental pysically and sexually assaukyed and constant kick downs makes it hard to always have perfect self confidence. Xx
Unfortunately on here that’s not the case. People do judge people. No body cam see your face so don’t know why you are saying people find you unattractive. I find it unattractive when people put themselves down and make excuses. What’s wrong with bringing out all the positives about yourself"
Did say in my original post that i have to hide my fave for qork reaons but anyone i message i do attached face imagae to and sadly thsts when i get negitive comments .... i try to be positive and remember who i am and whats gpod avout me but u cant always be mega positive xxx
Thanks eveeyone for the comments tho |
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"Hey fellow fabbera im after some help and advice ... recentlu come back to fab after an 8 year gap and bpy has it changed and is supwr heavily populated...
When i first joined i had some reallt lovelt meets and met some wonderful people but since cpming back my experienxes are very barron
I dont think iv aged all thay bad innthe 8 years but as a aingle man im finding it nah on impossoble to meet and was wondwring would it be down to my images as i dont post public face images due to work like most of no theres always someone on here we recognise socially .
I always attached images tklo every message but dont gwt omw songle reply (am i thay ugly lol)
Wpuld anyone be abkw tp offer some help at all "
Biggest piece of advice would be don’t be a beg and offer something don’t just look to take! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Every point raised above still stands.
You should proof read. I'm not dyslexic, I don't know how hard it really is. But just saying you're dyslexic and type too fast indicates that you just can't be bothered to even pretend to try and fix it yourself, it can just be someone else's problem to decipher it. I find that super appealing personally. "
I'm dyslexic and find it hard at times, but there are many ways around it, for instance talk to type, spell checks, predictive text, just to name a few, but none of that matters if your not going to put the effort in and proofread what you have written, so OP just slow down and check things then check again there is absolutely no rush it just makes you look lazy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well seen as i couldnt read or write till iwent back to college in 2014 and wasnt diagnosed till 2017 im sorry that im nod educationally advance as others |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well seen as i couldnt read or write till iwent back to college in 2014 and wasnt diagnosed till 2017 im sorry that im nod educationally advance as others"
Ok so I was luckier than you and was diagnosed earlier on when at primary School, I still pretty much failed all my GCSEs but then after leaving school I soon found technology to be a big help and taught myself how to use it to my advantage, but most importantly I check anything I wright over before posting it, you will like I do still miss the odd spelling but the odd one is better then nearly all of it, just try and slow down there is no rush |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well seen as i couldnt read or write till iwent back to college in 2014 and wasnt diagnosed till 2017 im sorry that im nod educationally advance as others
Ok so I was luckier than you and was diagnosed earlier on when at primary School, I still pretty much failed all my GCSEs but then after leaving school I soon found technology to be a big help and taught myself how to use it to my advantage, but most importantly I check anything I wright over before posting it, you will like I do still miss the odd spelling but the odd one is better then nearly all of it, just try and slow down there is no rush"
Sorry fella my reply wast directed to u it was directed to the teenager at school comment |
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"I don't reply to messages with a cock avatar and I bet other women are the same
Me neither. Op you have to realise fab isn’t the same as it was. Lower your expectations sort your pics and bio out and maybe think about a club or social
Biv edites my profile 3 times already . Text and bio wise ... iv often wanted to go to a club but due to the enormous rejection on here its made me extremlt self concious and id ve scared to go to a clun and face the same rejection to my face i no im no brad pitt but didnt think i was that ugly ...
As i say i alwsys post images of my face im ever message "
I found clubs to be some of the least friendly places to visit, certainly as a single guy, so take what some people say about the club scene with a pinch of salt. Most of the people who advise you to visit clubs, are looking for footfall through the door, to top up the cash register. Once you’ve paid, your presence is tolerated, rather than appreciated, so if you’re lacking in self confidence, it can be a lonely place to be…..
Every smartphone has a timer function on the camera settings, so use this to take some better pics. You need full body shots, clothed, partially clothed, and naked. Don’t worry about your physique, you will appeal to some, and it’s those you appeal to, who will show an interest. How many do you want to appeal to? Everyone? Not going to happen, sorry! If you attract just one person, and you connect, that’s all you need isn’t it?
Just one cock shot on public display is all you need, if you feel the need. Bear in mind; some ladies like to unwrap their present at the last minute 
Overall; be patient. Fab is a marathon, not a sprint |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Drop the cock pics ,you can always send them if asked to ...more body pics and sound like your out for a good time and be funny ,
All i got upto was " i want someone to take me to a club " on them sort of lines anyway
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't reply to messages with a cock avatar and I bet other women are the same
Me neither. Op you have to realise fab isn’t the same as it was. Lower your expectations sort your pics and bio out and maybe think about a club or social
Biv edites my profile 3 times already . Text and bio wise ... iv often wanted to go to a club but due to the enormous rejection on here its made me extremlt self concious and id ve scared to go to a clun and face the same rejection to my face i no im no brad pitt but didnt think i was that ugly ...
As i say i alwsys post images of my face im ever message
I found clubs to be some of the least friendly places to visit, certainly as a single guy, so take what some people say about the club scene with a pinch of salt. Most of the people who advise you to visit clubs, are looking for footfall through the door, to top up the cash register. Once you’ve paid, your presence is tolerated, rather than appreciated, so if you’re lacking in self confidence, it can be a lonely place to be…..
Every smartphone has a timer function on the camera settings, so use this to take some better pics. You need full body shots, clothed, partially clothed, and naked. Don’t worry about your physique, you will appeal to some, and it’s those you appeal to, who will show an interest. How many do you want to appeal to? Everyone? Not going to happen, sorry! If you attract just one person, and you connect, that’s all you need isn’t it?
Just one cock shot on public display is all you need, if you feel the need. Bear in mind; some ladies like to unwrap their present at the last minute
Overall; be patient. Fab is a marathon, not a sprint "
I've found the club I go to the complete opposite and one of the friendliest places to go I feel more welcome there then I would do a random village pub, yes if you're just one of the wanking dead it's not going to be all that friendly but if you put a little effort in and chat to people you soon get to know who is look for single guys and who isn't but I still get on just fine with the people that are just looking for other couples or single ladies, I've not once felt like I wasn't welcome and I've lost count the amount of times I've been there. |
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By *iinkMan
over a year ago
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I advise going to a club but don't go with any expectations of sex. I have found swinging clubs to be really friendly and safe environments so much so that I would now rather go to a swing club for a social than to go to the pub since it feels more friendly and a lot safer than my town anyway. Talk to people and make friends, I have learnt so much from other people at clubs and even got some great pointers and even started exploring the sub, dom dynamic because of things I saw and discussed. Ho with no expectations talk to people and mingle don't be pushy and you will go far. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I advise going to a club but don't go with any expectations of sex. I have found swinging clubs to be really friendly and safe environments so much so that I would now rather go to a swing club for a social than to go to the pub since it feels more friendly and a lot safer than my town anyway. Talk to people and make friends, I have learnt so much from other people at clubs and even got some great pointers and even started exploring the sub, dom dynamic because of things I saw and discussed. Ho with no expectations talk to people and mingle don't be pushy and you will go far. "
It looks like we are talking about the same club, seems to be a bit of that trend here  |
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"I don't reply to messages with a cock avatar and I bet other women are the same
Me neither. Op you have to realise fab isn’t the same as it was. Lower your expectations sort your pics and bio out and maybe think about a club or social
Biv edites my profile 3 times already . Text and bio wise ... iv often wanted to go to a club but due to the enormous rejection on here its made me extremlt self concious and id ve scared to go to a clun and face the same rejection to my face i no im no brad pitt but didnt think i was that ugly ...
As i say i alwsys post images of my face im ever message
I found clubs to be some of the least friendly places to visit, certainly as a single guy, so take what some people say about the club scene with a pinch of salt. Most of the people who advise you to visit clubs, are looking for footfall through the door, to top up the cash register. Once you’ve paid, your presence is tolerated, rather than appreciated, so if you’re lacking in self confidence, it can be a lonely place to be…..
Every smartphone has a timer function on the camera settings, so use this to take some better pics. You need full body shots, clothed, partially clothed, and naked. Don’t worry about your physique, you will appeal to some, and it’s those you appeal to, who will show an interest. How many do you want to appeal to? Everyone? Not going to happen, sorry! If you attract just one person, and you connect, that’s all you need isn’t it?
Just one cock shot on public display is all you need, if you feel the need. Bear in mind; some ladies like to unwrap their present at the last minute
Overall; be patient. Fab is a marathon, not a sprint
I've found the club I go to the complete opposite and one of the friendliest places to go I feel more welcome there then I would do a random village pub, yes if you're just one of the wanking dead it's not going to be all that friendly but if you put a little effort in and chat to people you soon get to know who is look for single guys and who isn't but I still get on just fine with the people that are just looking for other couples or single ladies, I've not once felt like I wasn't welcome and I've lost count the amount of times I've been there."
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"Op you have taken no advice on board so not sure why you posted in the first pace "
I have work and not got the actaul time to sit down and re wrote my boi and take lots of pics just yet its somat il try do over rhe qeekend . The original post was for advice and golk havr given theit advice and some even added their own little negitive comments but all advice has been taken and will be used as an when iv time and see fit !!! Thank u |
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over a year ago
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"Op you have taken no advice on board so not sure why you posted in the first pace
I have work and not got the actaul time to sit down and re wrote my boi and take lots of pics just yet its somat il try do over rhe qeekend . The original post was for advice and golk havr given theit advice and some even added their own little negitive comments but all advice has been taken and will be used as an when iv time and see fit !!! Thank u "
That’s just an excuse. Takes 2 mins to delete some photos. if you don’t want to put the effort in that’s up to you |
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"Op you have taken no advice on board so not sure why you posted in the first pace
I have work and not got the actaul time to sit down and re wrote my boi and take lots of pics just yet its somat il try do over rhe qeekend . The original post was for advice and golk havr given theit advice and some even added their own little negitive comments but all advice has been taken and will be used as an when iv time and see fit !!! Thank u
That’s just an excuse. Takes 2 mins to delete some photos. if you don’t want to put the effort in that’s up to you "
Im not deleting any inahes i like my man hood i believe its my besy physical asset aint gonna delet them at all but i will put more effort into my bio and maybe posy different pics but as i said it will be done in my time thabk u for ur advice its noted |
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"Op you have taken no advice on board so not sure why you posted in the first pace
I have work and not got the actaul time to sit down and re wrote my boi and take lots of pics just yet its somat il try do over rhe qeekend . The original post was for advice and golk havr given theit advice and some even added their own little negitive comments but all advice has been taken and will be used as an when iv time and see fit !!! Thank u
That’s just an excuse. Takes 2 mins to delete some photos. if you don’t want to put the effort in that’s up to you
Im not deleting any inahes i like my man hood i believe its my besy physical asset aint gonna delet them at all but i will put more effort into my bio and maybe posy different pics but as i said it will be done in my time thabk u for ur advice its noted "
We have given you good, honest advice. But, if you think you know better then please carry on, but at this point this thread just starts to look like attention seeking. You want people to get to know the real you? I think we already have and you come across as pig-headed and incapable of meeting people halfway. For writing a profile is one thing, asking someone for sex will get you nowhere. |
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"Op you have taken no advice on board so not sure why you posted in the first pace
I have work and not got the actaul time to sit down and re wrote my boi and take lots of pics just yet its somat il try do over rhe qeekend . The original post was for advice and golk havr given theit advice and some even added their own little negitive comments but all advice has been taken and will be used as an when iv time and see fit !!! Thank u
That’s just an excuse. Takes 2 mins to delete some photos. if you don’t want to put the effort in that’s up to you
Im not deleting any inahes i like my man hood i believe its my besy physical asset aint gonna delet them at all but i will put more effort into my bio and maybe posy different pics but as i said it will be done in my time thabk u for ur advice its noted
We have given you good, honest advice. But, if you think you know better then please carry on, but at this point this thread just starts to look like attention seeking. You want people to get to know the real you? I think we already have and you come across as pig-headed and incapable of meeting people halfway. For writing a profile is one thing, asking someone for sex will get you nowhere. "
Acyualky veen trying to qork out how yo delete the thred in the last day or twp but cant wprk it out not pig headed at all as iv said im autisic and take every comment and qord in bored but it takes me longer to process information then other bur yes thank u again for ur comment .. if anyome can direct me on how to delete the thred rhat wpuld be fine and im certsinly not attentiom seeking at all |
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Acyualky veen trying to qork out how yo delete the thred in the last day or twp but cant wprk it out not pig headed at all as iv said im autisic and take every comment and qord in bored but it takes me longer to process information then other bur yes thank u again for ur comment .. if anyome can direct me on how to delete the thred rhat wpuld be fine and im certsinly not attentiom seeking at all "
I have autistic kids, one of my couple is autistic, autistic friends and work with people that deal with autistic, dyslexic and ADHD people, also meet regularly in clubs with SEN teachers. It's not a barrier to entry, you need to stop using it as a crutch. |
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"Op you have taken no advice on board so not sure why you posted in the first pace
I have work and not got the actaul time to sit down and re wrote my boi and take lots of pics just yet its somat il try do over rhe qeekend . The original post was for advice and golk havr given theit advice and some even added their own little negitive comments but all advice has been taken and will be used as an when iv time and see fit !!! Thank u
That’s just an excuse. Takes 2 mins to delete some photos. if you don’t want to put the effort in that’s up to you
Im not deleting any inahes i like my man hood i believe its my besy physical asset aint gonna delet them at all but i will put more effort into my bio and maybe posy different pics but as i said it will be done in my time thabk u for ur advice its noted
We have given you good, honest advice. But, if you think you know better then please carry on, but at this point this thread just starts to look like attention seeking. You want people to get to know the real you? I think we already have and you come across as pig-headed and incapable of meeting people halfway. For writing a profile is one thing, asking someone for sex will get you nowhere.
Acyualky veen trying to qork out how yo delete the thred in the last day or twp but cant wprk it out not pig headed at all as iv said im autisic and take every comment and qord in bored but it takes me longer to process information then other bur yes thank u again for ur comment .. if anyome can direct me on how to delete the thred rhat wpuld be fine and im certsinly not attentiom seeking at all "
You can’t delete it. Your on fab often enough so instead of trying to find a meet put that effort into your profile like suggested |
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"As others have said, the cock pics are a turn off - one pic is enough, don't need lots of different angles and filters;
The vast majority of us on here don't have face pics public. Unless you're a floating penis there are many other aspects of yourself you can show
Surely people dont wanna see my fatter belly or my pimpled ass .... its easier for lady they hve boobs a bum and their lady to show off most men unless ur ripped to hell have their penis if there fave isnt doing it for anyone ur pretty much done for haha
Then work on the bits you don’t like? Not every woman is confident in their boobs or bum but they wear flattering outfits and use interesting angles. I’m not fussed about ripped men BUT I think men should take pride in their appearance.
If you say “what about me would a woman want to look at”, do you not see what you’re saying? You’re saying you’re not attractive but that you don’t understand why women don’t want to meet you. Why would a woman want to meet a guy who self-describes himself as having a fat belly and pimpled ass?
Women aren’t looking just for a cock. They’re looking for the whole man. If you’re not confident in what you’re offering, what do you think women will find appealing about you? We want more than a penis. "
I think the OP feels wary about showing body pics if he feels body sensitive, that's understandable.
I openly admit on my profile I have a dad bod and I'm happy to admit it, but I suppose not everyone is at ease with their lumps and bumps. You see a lot of male steroid filled gym bods on here, and maybe the OP is a little conscious. |
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"Agree with everything above, profile just full of cock pics, I'd personally avoid, nothing written about yourself what your into, nothing to give anyone a nudge to message you over the 1739201 profiles of cock pics.
Maybe look at some of the more verified male profiles and get some inspiration, the last thing I want to see from a man is his cock.
Mrs "
To be fair, I've seen a lot of male profiles on here with loads of verifications, yet have naff all in their bio. |
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"As others have said, the cock pics are a turn off - one pic is enough, don't need lots of different angles and filters;
The vast majority of us on here don't have face pics public. Unless you're a floating penis there are many other aspects of yourself you can show
Surely people dont wanna see my fatter belly or my pimpled ass .... its easier for lady they hve boobs a bum and their lady to show off most men unless ur ripped to hell have their penis if there fave isnt doing it for anyone ur pretty much done for haha
Then work on the bits you don’t like? Not every woman is confident in their boobs or bum but they wear flattering outfits and use interesting angles. I’m not fussed about ripped men BUT I think men should take pride in their appearance.
If you say “what about me would a woman want to look at”, do you not see what you’re saying? You’re saying you’re not attractive but that you don’t understand why women don’t want to meet you. Why would a woman want to meet a guy who self-describes himself as having a fat belly and pimpled ass?
Women aren’t looking just for a cock. They’re looking for the whole man. If you’re not confident in what you’re offering, what do you think women will find appealing about you? We want more than a penis.
I think the OP feels wary about showing body pics if he feels body sensitive, that's understandable.
I openly admit on my profile I have a dad bod and I'm happy to admit it, but I suppose not everyone is at ease with their lumps and bumps. You see a lot of male steroid filled gym bods on here, and maybe the OP is a little conscious. "
Thank u so so so much buddy as a man u can be body sensitive or body shamed .. nut yes i agree from what iv seen most guys ate gym body rwady with a milluim veris or strangely the polar opposite bigger hairy guys with tons of veris but so called normal plain dad bod guys get no where regaurdless of there bio content |
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"As others have said, the cock pics are a turn off - one pic is enough, don't need lots of different angles and filters;
The vast majority of us on here don't have face pics public. Unless you're a floating penis there are many other aspects of yourself you can show
Surely people dont wanna see my fatter belly or my pimpled ass .... its easier for lady they hve boobs a bum and their lady to show off most men unless ur ripped to hell have their penis if there fave isnt doing it for anyone ur pretty much done for haha
Then work on the bits you don’t like? Not every woman is confident in their boobs or bum but they wear flattering outfits and use interesting angles. I’m not fussed about ripped men BUT I think men should take pride in their appearance.
If you say “what about me would a woman want to look at”, do you not see what you’re saying? You’re saying you’re not attractive but that you don’t understand why women don’t want to meet you. Why would a woman want to meet a guy who self-describes himself as having a fat belly and pimpled ass?
Women aren’t looking just for a cock. They’re looking for the whole man. If you’re not confident in what you’re offering, what do you think women will find appealing about you? We want more than a penis.
I think the OP feels wary about showing body pics if he feels body sensitive, that's understandable.
I openly admit on my profile I have a dad bod and I'm happy to admit it, but I suppose not everyone is at ease with their lumps and bumps. You see a lot of male steroid filled gym bods on here, and maybe the OP is a little conscious.
Thank u so so so much buddy as a man u can be body sensitive or body shamed .. nut yes i agree from what iv seen most guys ate gym body rwady with a milluim veris or strangely the polar opposite bigger hairy guys with tons of veris but so called normal plain dad bod guys get no where regaurdless of there bio content "
You are 100% right mate. A steroid filled gym body will always win out against a natural dad bod. Just remember mate , gym bods arnt natural, where as dad bods are. I'm proud of my natural bod, curves and all, and would rather embrace what I have than fill my body with steroids in an attempt to look like the Mitchilin man.
Never be ashamed of your body mate. |
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I think the OP feels wary about showing body pics if he feels body sensitive, that's understandable.
I openly admit on my profile I have a dad bod and I'm happy to admit it, but I suppose not everyone is at ease with their lumps and bumps. You see a lot of male steroid filled gym bods on here, and maybe the OP is a little conscious. "
Yes I understand that. But you absolutely cannot come on here and say, to paraphrase the OP:
- women have boobs and bums (not acknowledging that women can have body issues too)
- his own body is apparently not worth looking at (his own admission)
- complaining that women won’t meet him (disregarding that women might want to actually see and be attracted to a man!)
- saying that #bekind means women should want to get to know him without being physically attracted to him
The steroid filled gym bodies are irrelevant here. What’s offputting is this attitude of “men aren’t worth looking at so women should be prepared to put their wants/needs/desires aside so I can get laid, if you won’t do that then you’re not ‘being kind’”.
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"As others have said, the cock pics are a turn off - one pic is enough, don't need lots of different angles and filters;
The vast majority of us on here don't have face pics public. Unless you're a floating penis there are many other aspects of yourself you can show
Surely people dont wanna see my fatter belly or my pimpled ass .... its easier for lady they hve boobs a bum and their lady to show off most men unless ur ripped to hell have their penis if there fave isnt doing it for anyone ur pretty much done for haha
Then work on the bits you don’t like? Not every woman is confident in their boobs or bum but they wear flattering outfits and use interesting angles. I’m not fussed about ripped men BUT I think men should take pride in their appearance.
If you say “what about me would a woman want to look at”, do you not see what you’re saying? You’re saying you’re not attractive but that you don’t understand why women don’t want to meet you. Why would a woman want to meet a guy who self-describes himself as having a fat belly and pimpled ass?
Women aren’t looking just for a cock. They’re looking for the whole man. If you’re not confident in what you’re offering, what do you think women will find appealing about you? We want more than a penis.
I think the OP feels wary about showing body pics if he feels body sensitive, that's understandable.
I openly admit on my profile I have a dad bod and I'm happy to admit it, but I suppose not everyone is at ease with their lumps and bumps. You see a lot of male steroid filled gym bods on here, and maybe the OP is a little conscious.
Thank u so so so much buddy as a man u can be body sensitive or body shamed .. nut yes i agree from what iv seen most guys ate gym body rwady with a milluim veris or strangely the polar opposite bigger hairy guys with tons of veris but so called normal plain dad bod guys get no where regaurdless of there bio content
You are 100% right mate. A steroid filled gym body will always win out against a natural dad bod. Just remember mate , gym bods arnt natural, where as dad bods are. I'm proud of my natural bod, curves and all, and would rather embrace what I have than fill my body with steroids in an attempt to look like the Mitchilin man.
Never be ashamed of your body mate. "
I don't think there's a proliferation of steroid filled bodies here, nor that they do very well. Fitness is a core interest for many men now, without steroids. But personality is key. Those who pick men look for the right package overall and fab is just tough for single men here. |
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I'm rubbish at spelling and let my auto correct help me. For me, your profile gives mixed messages. Your bio is fine then all your pics is about your dick which to me is a red flag like you're too self-centred and use fab as a wank bank. |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
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So. Ignoring the rest of the thread.
Delete most of your cock pics and get your arse to a friendly, welcoming swingers club. We’ve got a few autistic chaps at my local who just get on with it and have found the people they click with. You don’t need a woman to go with.
Right now, you’ve got no confidence and it comes across. You don’t want to club solo, don’t want to post face pics, etc…it makes me think you’ll not turn up to a meet. You need to push yourself out of your comfort zone a bit and a solo trip to the right club is the best way I can think of to do that. |
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"Hey fellow fabbera im after some help and advice ... recentlu come back to fab after an 8 year gap and bpy has it changed and is supwr heavily populated...
When i first joined i had some reallt lovelt meets and met some wonderful people but since cpming back my experienxes are very barron
I dont think iv aged all thay bad innthe 8 years but as a aingle man im finding it nah on impossoble to meet and was wondwring would it be down to my images as i dont post public face images due to work like most of no theres always someone on here we recognise socially .
I always attached images tklo every message but dont gwt omw songle reply (am i thay ugly lol)
Wpuld anyone be abkw tp offer some help at all "
The problem isn't that you are not getting any meets.
The real problem is expecting that you are. Especially after only being back for 4 weeks.
If you think that just having a profile on here is the key to meet after meet then you are very mistaken.
You can re-do your profile and change your pics from now until doomsday. It won't make any difference.
The world has turned a few times in 8 years and these days you have to put more effort into the lifestyle (clubs socials Etc)
The law of averages says that just relying on your profile will get you the odd meet from time to time but they will be very few and far between. |
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"Well seen as i couldnt read or write till iwent back to college in 2014 and wasnt diagnosed till 2017 im sorry that im nod educationally advance as others"
Maybe try using a spell checker.
I don't know what device or browser you are using, but I use a laptop with Google Chrome.
I make the odd spelling mistake but the spell checker puts a big red line under it so I can correct it.
Simple really.
Oh! Another tip would be to think about Paragraphs. |
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over a year ago
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Currently 100% of your pictures are of your cock and that is clearly the feature that you believe sums you up the best.
Good luck with the “incognito for work” approach as no one else on Fab has that problem of course.
Make sure you start every message with “Hi- wanna fuck?”
You know, keep it simple and to the point.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are looking for "bsa sex" ?
Comes like a gun.
(Birmingham Small Arms. The BSA motorcycle was advertised as 'built like a gun)"
BSA was a gun manufacturer who ventured into motorcycles |
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